Aqua man dating help!

I've recently been out with this great Aqua guy. We met on a dating website and spoke constantly, daily, for a month before meeting up. He invited me out to a concert with some friends, but throughout the date seemed a bit nervous to flirt with me and was a bit socially awkward around me, although he was very confident around his friends. It was a really great evening, we laughed and danced, had a lot of fun, and i thought, maybe we'd just end up being friends after his behaviour, but he made an effort to separate me from his friends at the end of the evening so he could give me a very long kiss goodbye. The next day he messaged me and told me about how fantastic he thought the evening was.

After that, the texting became far more regular, but to the point where, we speak so much, the conversations just become about nothing. I don't mind that though, but i do worry what he thinks, because he seems to be quite intellectual and i don't want our conversations to be boring.
He makes it clear to me that he likes me by telling me constantly that he thinks i'm pretty, cute, sexy, he asks about my day, is concerned about any problems i might have, he normally responds immediately, or whenever he can to things i have to say to him, a lot of the time he will start a conversation first.

But anyway, here's the problem: it's been well over a month since we first met up. i asked him a couple of times if he wanted to go for a drink, he then ignored the messages until the next day and said he was busy. So i thought, ok, i won't ask that again, must make him feel uncomfortable or something. Then, last week he was talking (and fantasizing) about how he wanted to kiss me again, and i went a long with it for a while but then afterwards i said, i have a weird feeling that we probably won't get to hang out again and he said, "if you're patient, i'll ask you out on a proper date soon. definitely".

So i am being patient but it's difficult. I'm sitting here like, do i have to wait forever for this guy? Are we only going to date every two months? Is there something i should do to speed it up or make him think "uh oh! i better ask her on a date before she goes out with someone else"?
Also, the next problem, 3-4 days ago, he said he was going to meet a female friend he hadn't seen for a long time, he said he'd text me when he got home, he didn't text me at all, and then a day or so later, i asked what happened, he said he went to bed early. Then didn't say anything after th

We suck what can I say

I've been out with an Aqua man before and he did exactly the same... Really into me, says we'll go on dates, then disappears... Are Aqua men all like this? I'm so sure that they can't be and it must be that i'm doing something wrong... I just don't know what it is..

Few possible thing (Take note I'm relating it to what I would do):

1. If I'm interested of course I would initiate. I'll admit when a conversation goes stale I would rather end it then continue it for the sake of it.

2. When you get to that point it's more or less the amount of contact. Hate to say it but I do sorta keep a mental log of how many times I have to initiate. In my retarded brain it equates to how interested you are me.

3. When neither of them match up I give you the benefit of the doubt. Then I would probably address it there after.

So I guess my question is, how often did you initiate contact. Also geographically how close are you guys. Because it honestly sounds like you found the douches who don't even have the balls to follow up on a date after promising it.

*than

Our conversation never went stale in the sense that i barely spoke to him, i think i did most of the talking, but it was just about pointless things, nothing extremely interesting.

I think i would normally wait for him to initiate conversation, but only to give him space, as i usually did most of the talking during the conversations and didn't want to bombard him all the time. i have initiated a few times though.

the last time we spoke i initiated but he said a couple of lines to me and then didn't reply to me, so rather than continuing to say something again, i just left it. i figure its best to meet silence with silence, no?

we're about 30 mins from each other geographically. and the last aqua guy i dated, i lived 5 mins from and i always tried to make excuses to see him, he never would, even though i knew he was crazy about me, (we'd been on two dates and he phoned up his mother to tell her how much he liked me)

i've read a lot that if an aqua guy likes someone they'll act the opposite way, so ignoring, being detatched, making excuses for not going on dates...

i know this guy likes me, i have no doubts in my mind really because of the way he's acted toward me, things he's said, we've kissed, he's promised dates... i just don't know why aqua men get so detatched when they like someone, i don't know how to overcome it!

I think maybe you're trying too hard to pin him down to a date. Kind of pushy. You did this with the other one too. See, if you're pushing it now after only one date, you're going to be worse later down the road, or that's how it reads to a man anyway.

Aqua men like to chase. Yes, they need to know they won't be rejected, but there's a fine line between the difference. It's okay to contact him first occasionally, but if you come on too strong, they rebel against being pushed and they will quickly pull away.

Takes a lot of confidence, security, strength and patience and independence to be with an aqua man. Those are qualities they find attractive.

So, live your life, do your thing, don't ask him out, hang with your friends, do interesting things and even go out with someone else if you want (one date isn't a comittment ya know). Be happy when you hear from him, let it be known that you enjoy the conversation. Don't nag him about wanting to see him. He will be much more attracted to you if you are independent and secure in yourself.