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Aqua+Scorp Question- new comer
How does that help?
From what you've shared, nothing jumped out at me as being a "red flag."
You guys are just merely experiencing the challenge of what it's like to date someone who ticks differently than you do. Sometimes those differences can come b/w a relationship, other times each person just has to learn how to pick their battles & just accept that everyone's pace & way of going about things in matters of love, is different
Both Aqua & Scorp are alike in alot of ways (we're both guarded, stubborn, & take awhile to open up). The only difference though is that Scorp might release their passion quicker than an Aqua might. Sure, we might be down for the passionate love making all night, but 99% of the time, we weren't the ones who initiated it.
However, Aqua & Scorp are different in alot of ways. The challenge of Aqua/Scorp relationships is in each person's ability to not freak out just b/c the other person ticks completely the opposite. For all you know, he might mistake your lack of passionate affection as you not being into him. Oh he'd be so wrong if he were to assume that! So remember that there's probably alot of things he might do that really aren't worth doubting. It might just be you freaking out b/c you're experiencing something so "different" that yet feels so damn good!
Remember that alot of people accuse Aquas of pulling away or pulling the hot/cold stunt when we finally start falling in love. It takes us such a long time to thorougly emotionally attach to someone, & in the process, our emotions & logic go back & forth, thus it's no wonder our actions do the same. BUT, the wishy-washiness is only temporary, depending on each person's ability to finally accept their feelings for someone else. Not every Aqua is ok with being vulnerable, thus that's why some Aquas may pull the hot/cold act for a longer period of time vs. other Aquas who only do so for 2 weeks & then all of the sudden go full swing into things as if they were never afraid at all!
He probably is falling in love with you. He's giving you just enough & pulling back so that he can see how you respond to what he's given you so far. Scorps are just as sensitive to rejection/vulnerability like we Aquas are. He pulls back b/c he wants to make sure that your level of passion for him matches his level of passion for you. He may aggressively do the chasing for the 1st half of the week but during the 2nd half, he'll step back just to make sure that you're just as down with doing the work too
You guys are just merely experiencing the challenge of what it's like to date someone who ticks differently than you do. Sometimes those differences can come b/w a relationship, other times each person just has to learn how to pick their battles & just accept that everyone's pace & way of going about things in matters of love, is different
Both Aqua & Scorp are alike in alot of ways (we're both guarded, stubborn, & take awhile to open up). The only difference though is that Scorp might release their passion quicker than an Aqua might. Sure, we might be down for the passionate love making all night, but 99% of the time, we weren't the ones who initiated it.
However, Aqua & Scorp are different in alot of ways. The challenge of Aqua/Scorp relationships is in each person's ability to not freak out just b/c the other person ticks completely the opposite. For all you know, he might mistake your lack of passionate affection as you not being into him. Oh he'd be so wrong if he were to assume that! So remember that there's probably alot of things he might do that really aren't worth doubting. It might just be you freaking out b/c you're experiencing something so "different" that yet feels so damn good!
Remember that alot of people accuse Aquas of pulling away or pulling the hot/cold stunt when we finally start falling in love. It takes us such a long time to thorougly emotionally attach to someone, & in the process, our emotions & logic go back & forth, thus it's no wonder our actions do the same. BUT, the wishy-washiness is only temporary, depending on each person's ability to finally accept their feelings for someone else. Not every Aqua is ok with being vulnerable, thus that's why some Aquas may pull the hot/cold act for a longer period of time vs. other Aquas who only do so for 2 weeks & then all of the sudden go full swing into things as if they were never afraid at all!
He probably is falling in love with you. He's giving you just enough & pulling back so that he can see how you respond to what he's given you so far. Scorps are just as sensitive to rejection/vulnerability like we Aquas are. He pulls back b/c he wants to make sure that your level of passion for him matches his level of passion for you. He may aggressively do the chasing for the 1st half of the week but during the 2nd half, he'll step back just to make sure that you're just as down with doing the work too
They do this b/c doing so allows them to take a step back & determine whether or not the love is mutual. They like to sit back & watch you add the passion to the mix every blue moon.
They step back b/c they know they're very passionate and that sometimes this about them might turn others off. In other words, Scorps know how to slow & turn themselves down a notch, even if the other person has given them no reason to believe they should. They do this to protect themselves.
Kind of like the girl who purposely stops initating the dates for once, all just so she can see if the guy will take up the slack & chase her for a little while. It's a Scorp's way of getting validation/clarity/assurance that the person they're falling for is falling for them too.
They'd hate to be at a level 10 with someone, yet only to find out that the other person is only feeling them on a level 5 scale. It'd crush them deeply if they knew that they liked/loved someone wayyyy more than the other person did them. It'd kill them if they gave wayyyy more to the relationship than the other person did.
So yes, sometimes they take a step back just to make sure that you're not being turned off by their high level of passion. They instinctively think and/or automatically assume that the other person might be intimidated or feel smothered by their high level of passion about everything, so when they pull back, they're really doing so b/c it's their way of considering YOUR feelings & making sure that you haven't checked out of the relationship while yet they're still going full swing into things. Scorps know that the fastest way to lose someone's interest is to go either too slow OR too fast, so they try to keep it under control & slow themselves down every blue moon just for their protection
They step back b/c they know they're very passionate and that sometimes this about them might turn others off. In other words, Scorps know how to slow & turn themselves down a notch, even if the other person has given them no reason to believe they should. They do this to protect themselves.
Kind of like the girl who purposely stops initating the dates for once, all just so she can see if the guy will take up the slack & chase her for a little while. It's a Scorp's way of getting validation/clarity/assurance that the person they're falling for is falling for them too.
They'd hate to be at a level 10 with someone, yet only to find out that the other person is only feeling them on a level 5 scale. It'd crush them deeply if they knew that they liked/loved someone wayyyy more than the other person did them. It'd kill them if they gave wayyyy more to the relationship than the other person did.
So yes, sometimes they take a step back just to make sure that you're not being turned off by their high level of passion. They instinctively think and/or automatically assume that the other person might be intimidated or feel smothered by their high level of passion about everything, so when they pull back, they're really doing so b/c it's their way of considering YOUR feelings & making sure that you haven't checked out of the relationship while yet they're still going full swing into things. Scorps know that the fastest way to lose someone's interest is to go either too slow OR too fast, so they try to keep it under control & slow themselves down every blue moon just for their protection
Krysrenee7- Thank you so much for your response. Looking at it like that makes calm down a bit lol. I understand what your saying and it seems to be what he's doing. I like your example of them being at a 10 and worried if were not there with them as well. I can see how pulling back a bit would see how the other person felt. It is true that being an aqua , Im down for romance and passion but im never the one to initiate it. Thats where its hard for me to be with someone like him. Because it's not that I don't have feelings for him like that, its just I show them differently and def. later on. Just being an aqua I tend to get freaked out when I can't read someone and their motives. I almost ALWAYS know how a dude is feeling about me.. but when it comes to him theres a big question mark over my head. I guess I'll keep riding things out with him and see where it goes because I am falling for him no matter how confused I get a long the way lol.
I very much appreciate your advice and answer back. Helped out tons!
I very much appreciate your advice and answer back. Helped out tons!
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Sorry...I've got a bad taste in my mouth over my own experience...I obviously hope yours works out much better than mine.
Let me read your post again...I'll try to help if I can from our (Aquas) perspective at least.
Let me read your post again...I'll try to help if I can from our (Aquas) perspective at least.
I liked what krysrenee7 said about ticking differently. I think thats the key right there. I think we judge someones actions by what we ourselves would do. So when someone does work so differently from us we question what the hell it is that they're feeling.
In my situation, it was similar. Coming on strong, backing off TONS. The only difference between our situations is that my Scorp completely drops off the face of the planet for weeks at a time. Then comes back with the 'I love you's and whatnot.
Mine too was very emotionally intense sexually. Enjoy every minute of that because I think its absolutely real.
I say go with the flow. Enjoy it. Realize that he doesn't work like you do. But it doesn't sound to me like he's really given you any reason to worry. I think you don't know how to read him simply because you don't understand him. That doesn't necessarily mean that what he's doing doen't make any sense. You know what I mean?
Pay attention to what he does so you can begin to understand him. It will get easier down the line if you do that. Good luck!
In my situation, it was similar. Coming on strong, backing off TONS. The only difference between our situations is that my Scorp completely drops off the face of the planet for weeks at a time. Then comes back with the 'I love you's and whatnot.
Mine too was very emotionally intense sexually. Enjoy every minute of that because I think its absolutely real.
I say go with the flow. Enjoy it. Realize that he doesn't work like you do. But it doesn't sound to me like he's really given you any reason to worry. I think you don't know how to read him simply because you don't understand him. That doesn't necessarily mean that what he's doing doen't make any sense. You know what I mean?
Pay attention to what he does so you can begin to understand him. It will get easier down the line if you do that. Good luck!
Best sex comes from Scorpio !!! ... Definitely very passionate & they are extremely involved
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Than the next week he'll pull back a little bit. No sweet names any more. Or pulling me close as much. We don't see each other as much and he's somewhat moody until we have sex. Than it's back to the full passion of love making. My friends say he's falling in love with me.. but when I read about scorpios it always say YOU'LL KNOW when a scorp loves you or not. It's the pulling away that confuses me... because than the next week he'll be sweet again. We never fight or argue.. when were together he's always making me laugh. He's very guarded and it's taken me awhile to get him to open up just a little bit (We kinda had a rocky past b/c of his trust issues).
We're moody! My dad is a Scorpio as well and he likes to have his space every now and then between him and his gf. We don't want to seem totally dependent on you (though we really are to an extent) Judge us by how we treat you in bed because that's when our true feelings show! He seems to like you a lot, congrats. 🙂
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Than the next week he'll pull back a little bit. No sweet names any more. Or pulling me close as much. We don't see each other as much and he's somewhat moody until we have sex. Than it's back to the full passion of love making. My friends say he's falling in love with me.. but when I read about scorpios it always say YOU'LL KNOW when a scorp loves you or not. It's the pulling away that confuses me... because than the next week he'll be sweet again. We never fight or argue.. when were together he's always making me laugh. He's very guarded and it's taken me awhile to get him to open up just a little bit (We kinda had a rocky past b/c of his trust issues).
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