Aqua Woman Question

Howdy y'all,

So, I mentioned the gal I met that was full of Aqua in her charts. We met up last week and had a nice little chat. I think we established some mental rapport, though I must admit that I didn't feel the physical chemistry "immediately".

In any case, we did get along well enough where I thought we should see each other again so see how things roll.

I tried to get her to do a couple of things the last couple of days, but she has politely turned me down. She is a very BUSY woman with a ton of things to do. I think I'm pretty energetic but she has me beat.

I'm just wondering how I should approach this particular Aqua lady? I am not overly desperate and have proceeded cautiously. I haven't called everyday. I just leave messages when she doesn't pick up the phone. She typically takes a couple of days to get back to me. Instead of responding immediately, I usually wait a day or two.

Essentially, I'm just going on with my life while waiting and seeing what the Aqua lady does.

However, I do wonder if Aqua lady is interested or not.....so, if anyone has any insight into the minds of the women, let me know. 🙂

Here's the thing about Aqua's & Aqua women in particular. During the begininning stages of dating (or getting to know) an Aqua woman, we might come off as very standoffish, very "busy" & not the desperate type that's begging for the first kiss or more than that. But it's all a mind thing. Normally, you'll know when an Aqua lady is feeling you because she'll open up to you & even actually attempt to try to get you to open up. Trying to establish physical chemistry with an Aqua in the beginning is almost impossible because Aquas don't even want to go there until later on. What's of importance to us in the beginning is knowing where the other person's head us. We ask ourselves, do we see eye-to-eye on things?I s he what I consider intelligent? Does he spark something in me that most other guys can't? And if we say yes to all of these questions, then you're in the door but at first it won't seem that way because of the little games we play like not returning your call until 2 days later even though we know GOOD & WELL that it killed us to ignore the call in the first place. Aqua women are going to send so many mixed-signals in the beginning so if I were you, I wouldn't even focus too hard on always wanting to know what "this" or "that" means with an Aqua. Trust me, if she's even returning your phone calls at all, that means you've done something right. And trust me, she knows she's at work or at home ignoring your calls but she's doing it because she testing your persistence. She's testing you to see how much you really want her & she's testing your vulnerability right now. She wants to make sure that you don't become desperate or don't start showing signs of weakness & until she feels that she can proceed on to step 2 with you, she'll keep playing the "too busy for life" game. Because, trust me, when Aquas are interested they are NEVER too busy. We want love just like everybody else, we're just a little more cautious in how we go about obtaining it (feeling like we have nothing to lose by being safe rather than sorry). The best thing to do is just to wait it out. As long as she knows you are interested in her (in terms of MORe than a friendship) then the fact that she's still returning your calls are good because that means it's somewhat important to her to keep up the communication with you.

Well folks - thanks for the input.....but the Aqua lady (by email no less) said she didn't feel the chemistry with me and that she didn't think we could go forward.

She took her time analyzing this (for the last couple of weeks). As soon as I saw the email (it was late but I read the email 5 minutes after she sent it), I called her and we talked a bit.

Some of you folks did point out that Aquas are to the point and I guess it was true in this case. Am I disappointed? Hmmmm, as I didn't invest much time in this, I'm not crushed. It would be nice to see if we could go further but I guess it has to be a mutual thing.

yea you did say about the chemistry not being there anyway...
oh well...

Aquas are definetely very direct, especially when we are not satisfied or are not feeling the person like we thought we would. We're more likely to be more shy & passive-aggressive when we actually start to like someone because we step outside of our box & just observe, careful to not do or say the wrong thing. If she told you that she didn't feel the chemistry between the 2 of you it's probably because there wasn't enough intellectual conversation or connection going on. It also could be that you maybe came on too strong or tried to hard to convince her that you liked her (in which we kind of shy away from people like that because WE aren't that way). But on the other hand, it could also be that you were as consistent enough with her. SHE likes to be the one that plays it off like she's busy but that doesn't mean that she wants you to be the same way. She wants to appear to be the independent one who will make time for you when she CAN but if you play the same game with her, it won't feel like a challenge to her anymore & she won't find you interesting. We kind of like to be chased, not too much, not too little, but just in the middle. And the hardest part about figuring us Aqua women out is figuring out what the "middle" is.

krysrenee7,

You know, I can't pinpoint anything. Any or all of your points could be valid. I thought we have good conversation BUT you are right, it may not have been stimulating enough. However, it was a bit of a two way street though. I admit that while we had a decent conversation, I don't think we connected at more than a superficial level.

That is why I took it easy with the gal. I thought maybe she would be interested in exploring further if we had a chance. After all, it's rare in recent months that I could meet someone and talk reasonably well with them.

In some ways, despite our "sign" differences, I thought we might be too much alike. We're both active and independent sorts. Despite my Aries sun sign, I like discussions (just ask my friends).

Oh well.....try again next time. I think there's another Aqua girl on my scope that I just met online.

I thought we might be too much alike.

I told you about that earlier - it's similar to my experience with Aqua males. Makes for a good brother and sister relationship 😛
They really hate that I don't believe their hype 😕 😢

Plus if I remember correctly, your chart placing were not that different