Aquarius and needy behaviour

Hello

A general question - Are Aquas needy and attention seeking. I ask this question because my ex when we were together was a strong woman, independent and made her own decisions.

Recently she has become very needy and attention seeking, telling people in the office that she is tired, she has a headache, she is moody etc?

What gives? I thought Aquas in general were stronger than that.

Any help is appreciated

This is not needy or attention seeking. It's the Aqua honesty. I do it too, if I am low and not well. I am not hiding it. She is not telling those things to gain sympathy. I don't care about sympathy either, I just want my space and feelings to be respected. Maybe the other people in the office are bugging her.

Hmm possibly. She was never like this before and kept things to herself, so its quite a big behavioural change, hence me posting here

Ignore it. If your ex isn't approaching you directly, it's not really your concern.

She is directly telling me things to a certain degree but then backs off.

Posted by MrR78
She is directly telling me things to a certain degree but then backs off.

She might be gauging your genuine concern for her. For me, I hold everything back from someone if I know for a fact that they dont genuinely care. If she offers up honest feelings, etc then she wants to know that you really care about anything she is feeling. If she backs off its because you didn't reciprocate concern. People think because Aquas are for the most part strong, that we aren't human in a sense that we feel just like everyone else. We have bad days too. Im positive all the time but if Im not up to conversation or Im feeling low, I wont lie about that. If you keep pushing that is....if not, Ill keep it to myself.

Posted by Happy_Aqua
Maybe she was strong and independant around you because the dynamic between you two asked for it.

Also, if she felt you would not be really interested in her problems, she would have kept them to herself probably. Now that she is your ex and no longer with you, she feels like she can be honest again.

Do you consider her weak now that she is talking about her true feelings to others?

If the answer is "yes" , well that just proves my point.

This

Never mind my other question, I had you confused, just skimmed your post history and read your email exchange. You are being very pushy with her considering she is an ex. Ex's don't have the same privileges to information they once would have had, especially when it comes to Aquas. We (at least for me) will not share things with ex's, no point in that is there?

Also someone saying they don't feel well, has a headache etc is far from needy. Wtf. Especially if

It was something you overheard that was said

To another.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by MrR78
She is directly telling me things to a certain degree but then backs off.

Just keep it at offering her the same attentiveness as you would any stranger or friend but nothing more than that. She'll soon stop having "bad days" around you.

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Get out ?

Posted by tiziani

Posted by justagirl

Posted by tiziani

Posted by MrR78
She is directly telling me things to a certain degree but then backs off.

Just keep it at offering her the same attentiveness as you would any stranger or friend but nothing more than that. She'll soon stop having "bad days" around you.

Get out ?

Lol you said it yourself, she's his ex.

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lol I just like bossing you around... or try to anyway.

Posted by Happy_Aqua
Maybe she was strong and independant around you because the dynamic between you two asked for it.

Also, if she felt you would not be really interested in her problems, she would have kept them to herself probably. Now that she is your ex and no longer with you, she feels like she can be honest again.

Do you consider her weak now that she is talking about her true feelings to others?

If the answer is "yes" , well that just proves my point.

Quite possibly she was strong and independent around me because naturally I am a strong and independent person.

I don't consider her weak at all. When we got together I hardly knew her as a person, then got to know her in a relationship dynamic. Her behaviour seems different now and I am just trying to understand why.

We all have our good and bad days.

I also take on board the comments about being pushy... that's the Leo in me and I will tame that. Thanks guys

I should have used a better choice of words to be fair. I can see why you would come the conclusion you did.