Doubts

Dear Aquarians, it's my turn now to have some doubts about my SO. As most of you know already, he is an Aqua Sun Pisces Moon, I am a double Libra (Sun and Moon). Our relationship is based on friendship and is going well as far as it concern me, but he doesn't commit for some reasons. Therefore, what I am going to describe has already an answer and I won't blame anyone, not him, not me. But it puzzles me.

It goes like this - we are very close as friends, visits every day as soon as he leaves work, until midnight. We are neighbours, so it's normal for him to sleep in his house, not mine, but he occasionally sleeps over too. We eat and cook together, he fills my fridge up, he is my trustworthy companion. He has been depressed for years since his last relationship and he hasn't gotten over it yet. So, I cannot claim him. BUT...

He talks a lot about relationships. About us. About a marriage he is afraid of. About losing the mother of his child. About fears of being broken again. So, he breaks me, piece by piece. It's toxic, I know. But when I pull away, he comes back in tears. He wants it as it is. Me next to him. Anyway...

I did a terrible but needed mistake. I searched his phone because he continues to engage females on social media. I was curious to see how he treats them. And... surprise! I found out where all his romantic thoughts were and where all lovey-dovey talk is... while on the other hand never engaging women into webcam or closer talks or dating them... but... why me? What does he need from me though, if his affection needs are satisfied online? Ego boost?

For the time being, he is MIA for the whole day and probably the whole upcoming weekend too. But he has not blocked me on social media and has not come to take his stuff. I believe he will.

Another Aqua myth is busted. Any opinions are highly appreciated.

Go MIA indefinitely.

I'm no Aqua but I'm gonna give you my opinion. You should have a talk with him if you guys have been doing this for a long time. Tell him your expectations and ask him if he's willing to work with you.

I dealt with an Aqua a long time ago that did this with other women.

I don't know if it's most Aquas but, they tend to love shallow relationships. Its easier to deal with then fully committing and confessing feelings. The one I knew used to tell all kinds of women he missed them and how pretty they were. It's like they practice cause they don't mean it anyways lol. Women he just met, but he could not utter a single word to me. He never told me these types of things and I know he loved me.

Same placements as saweetz ex.

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Go MIA indefinitely.

I will as soon as we have a proper closure. I always like to have a "clean cut". For my own sanity. I will then probably move away to a different country.

Posted by bittercupcake
Either way ... I think you need to cut him out and set boundaries ... I think you lived in limbo for too long and this is not a good thing.

A person who tells you of their fears means that he has commitment/attachment issues, is probably still not hurt over their ex and/or just using you to get over someone.

Astrologically speaking:

Pisces mooners can be fickle... dreamy almost and romantic. I've read somewhere that Pisces men are prone to cheat, don't know how much of that is true, but the fact he hasn't committed officially to you means that you guys weren't even together. That means it's all fair play... sorry but we are dealing with Aquarian technicalities.

I think in this case you need to give an ultimatum and walk away. That's if you still want something more from him...

Tell him in person, that you want something more. That you want commitment, marriage, kids, etc (whatever it is you want from him) and that you are going to give him space to think about it. That he has 2 weeks (for example) to think it over and let you know where he stands... otherwise you will move on and end things with him indefinetely. In the meantime though, you will not contact him nor call him and you will let him know this. Even if you are neighbors - do NOT - let him come over or allow him to come back into your life until he has a firm decision. Tell him that at the end of those two weeks, give him a date, that you will come and ask... and tell him not to come to you until he's 100% sure of what he wants - because you will not go back and forth with this, nor will you tolerate his fickle behavior.

If he does decide to commit to you, then call him out on his behavior with other women, and let him know you will not put up with it. Demand respect and walk away if he doesn't agree or if he breaks those terms. Don't be afraid to stand up to him... Aquarius NEEDS someone who isn't afraid to put them in their place nor that they will be walked all over.

Thank you! It seems the proper way to deal with it. I will let things cool down for a while, to refrain myself from being unnecessarily impulsive. As a matter of fact, I want honesty, not double standards.

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Go MIA indefinitely.

I will as soon as we have a proper closure. I always like to have a "clean cut". For my own sanity. I will then probably move away to a different country.

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My ex husband was a Capricorn but he has a Pisces moon. he is very sentimental and emotional, he still hasn't let go of me but interestingly when we were together for many years he never stopped talking to his ex (we had broken up. he was with her then he left her to be with me) I found thibgs so I kept breaking up with him but never to the point of leaving the house. we would eventually make up.

until years later I got tired of that and broke up completely with him, I wanted to separate.

Then I met a Libra guy who changed my life so much at that moment and honestly helped me through the separation. but I was already done with my ex. I felt like he was always being emotional but manipulating the relationship to their benefit, they might not even see it that way.

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Same placements as saweetz ex.

Oh god and he is a pain to deal with as what I heard lol

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He's also have Pisces venus, same with the guy you're talking to. Beware lol

Aquarius and Libra is a nightmare. Stop wasting your time.

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Posted by bittercupcake
Wait, I thought you and he were together? ... as in officially? .... so this means you were FWB?

Same thought!

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Not FWB. No benefits except a great companionship and a very good mental bond. But all his actions made me think that he was seeing me more than a friend. Maybe I was his pillar of strength for a while. But always keeping options for himself. It hurts me because I had different expectations. And it's my fault here. Oh well...

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Aquarius and Libra is a nightmare. Stop wasting your time.

I will not consider it a waste of time. He is the only one with a similar mindset. I thought I was unique 🙂)

But I am to blame for falling for him.

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Aquarius and Libra is a nightmare. Stop wasting your time.

I will not consider it a waste of time. He is the only one with a similar mindset. I thought I was unique 🙂)

But I am to blame for falling for him.

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I like your positivity but still not a good match imo.

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Aquarius and Libra is a nightmare. Stop wasting your time.

I will not consider it a waste of time. He is the only one with a similar mindset. I thought I was unique 🙂)

But I am to blame for falling for him.

I like your positivity but still not a good match imo.

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I can tell the reasons for which it may not be a good match, as well as the reasons for which it was the smoothest friendship I have ever had with someone. That's why I said I already know most of the answers, but still it's always good to know side opinions.

Mentally, it's perfect. He is stubborn, but his Pisces moon makes him a pleaser too. I am a pleaser by definition, but the leader. We never clashed in matters of dominance. The major conflict is about the commitment and is because of me, because I could not contain myself in not falling for him. I am a Scorpio dominant, so probably this is the reason.

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Aquarius and Libra is a nightmare. Stop wasting your time.

I will not consider it a waste of time. He is the only one with a similar mindset. I thought I was unique 🙂)

But I am to blame for falling for him.

I like your positivity but still not a good match imo.

I can tell the reasons for which it may not be a good match, as well as the reasons for which it was the smoothest friendship I have ever had with someone. That's why I said I already know most of the answers, but still it's always good to know side opinions.

Mentally, it's perfect. He is stubborn, but his Pisces moon makes him a pleaser too. I am a pleaser by definition, but the leader. We never clashed in matters of dominance. The major conflict is about the commitment and is because of me, because I could not contain myself in not falling for him. I am a Scorpio dominant, so probably this is the reason.

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Commitment.

First you have to pin down to make someone commit. I think Libras are not that great in that department, particularly against Aquas.

Your being taken advantage of. Some dudes use women for attention or sex. This ones using you for his emotional well being.

And while you might feel a sense of closeness or connection with him, it's empty.

How many more years are you gonna waste on him?

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Posted by bittercupcake
Wait, I thought you and he were together? ... as in officially? .... so this means you were FWB?

Same thought!

Not FWB. No benefits except a great companionship and a very good mental bond. But all his actions made me think that he was seeing me more than a friend. Maybe I was his pillar of strength for a while. But always keeping options for himself. It hurts me because I had different expectations. And it's my fault here. Oh well...

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So why do you refer to him as your SO then? What actions are you talking about??

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Posted by bittercupcake
Wait, I thought you and he were together? ... as in officially? .... so this means you were FWB?

Same thought!

Not FWB. No benefits except a great companionship and a very good mental bond. But all his actions made me think that he was seeing me more than a friend. Maybe I was his pillar of strength for a while. But always keeping options for himself. It hurts me because I had different expectations. And it's my fault here. Oh well...

So why do you refer to him as your SO then? What actions are you talking about??

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As I said, I am fully aware of the situation I was in. With your approval, I will keep details private. He was/is the best friend I have ever had. But now... back to my solitary life...

Posted by LadyNeptune
Your being taken advantage of. Some dudes use women for attention or sex. This ones using you for his emotional well being.

And while you might feel a sense of closeness or connection with him, it's empty.

How many more years are you gonna waste on him?

This

He probably has sex with other women whilst using you as an agony aunt/someone to lean on

Move on if you want more

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Posted by bittercupcake
Wait, I thought you and he were together? ... as in officially? .... so this means you were FWB?

Same thought!

Not FWB. No benefits except a great companionship and a very good mental bond. But all his actions made me think that he was seeing me more than a friend. Maybe I was his pillar of strength for a while. But always keeping options for himself. It hurts me because I had different expectations. And it's my fault here. Oh well...

So why do you refer to him as your SO then? What actions are you talking about??

As I said, I am fully aware of the situation I was in. With your approval, I will keep details private. He was/is the best friend I have ever had. But now... back to my solitary life...

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But how can it be solitary? He's your neighbor right. Proximity grows affection so you were doomed from the start.

This is a nightmare senerio.

Your one chance is just to sac up and declare yourself. And if that doesn't work you'll just move. It'll be fine.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Your being taken advantage of. Some dudes use women for attention or sex. This ones using you for his emotional well being.

And while you might feel a sense of closeness or connection with him, it's empty.

How many more years are you gonna waste on him?

This

He probably has sex with other women whilst using you as an agony aunt/someone to lean on

Move on if you want more

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He is not having sex with anyone. But yes, he is not able to provide all the emotional package needed for a relationship, as I said before, he is not over his ex even though it's been around 6 years by now. And it's not me saying this, it's his best friend. All I can see is observe. I know he is not able to have a proper relationship and as I said, it's my fault to have fallen before synchronizing. Whatever feelings he might have for me are not enough.

Time to move on. Not to another guy, but to clear my mind of any residual feelings.

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Posted by bittercupcake
Wait, I thought you and he were together? ... as in officially? .... so this means you were FWB?

Same thought!

Not FWB. No benefits except a great companionship and a very good mental bond. But all his actions made me think that he was seeing me more than a friend. Maybe I was his pillar of strength for a while. But always keeping options for himself. It hurts me because I had different expectations. And it's my fault here. Oh well...

So why do you refer to him as your SO then? What actions are you talking about??

As I said, I am fully aware of the situation I was in. With your approval, I will keep details private. He was/is the best friend I have ever had. But now... back to my solitary life...

But how can it be solitary? He's your neighbor right. Proximity grows affection so you were doomed from the start.

This is a nightmare senerio.

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He actually moved next to me in a voluntary action, for the purpose of being close to me. He might leave though in October, when his rental contract expires. It's not difficult to avoid each other. I am not a stalker type.

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Wait, I thought you and he were together? ... as in officially? .... so this means you were FWB?

Same thought!

Not FWB. No benefits except a great companionship and a very good mental bond. But all his actions made me think that he was seeing me more than a friend. Maybe I was his pillar of strength for a while. But always keeping options for himself. It hurts me because I had different expectations. And it's my fault here. Oh well...

So why do you refer to him as your SO then? What actions are you talking about??

As I said, I am fully aware of the situation I was in. With your approval, I will keep details private. He was/is the best friend I have ever had. But now... back to my solitary life...

But how can it be solitary? He's your neighbor right. Proximity grows affection so you were doomed from the start.

This is a nightmare senerio.

He actually moved next to me in a voluntary action, for the purpose of being close to me. He might leave though in October, when his rental contract expires. It's not difficult to avoid each other. I am not a stalker type.

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He's using you, remember. I wouldn't plan on him leaving voluntarily. Your the one stuck, not him.

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Posted by bittercupcake
Wait, I thought you and he were together? ... as in officially? .... so this means you were FWB?

Same thought!

Not FWB. No benefits except a great companionship and a very good mental bond. But all his actions made me think that he was seeing me more than a friend. Maybe I was his pillar of strength for a while. But always keeping options for himself. It hurts me because I had different expectations. And it's my fault here. Oh well...

So why do you refer to him as your SO then? What actions are you talking about??

As I said, I am fully aware of the situation I was in. With your approval, I will keep details private. He was/is the best friend I have ever had. But now... back to my solitary life...

But how can it be solitary? He's your neighbor right. Proximity grows affection so you were doomed from the start.

This is a nightmare senerio.

He actually moved next to me in a voluntary action, for the purpose of being close to me. He might leave though in October, when his rental contract expires. It's not difficult to avoid each other. I am not a stalker type.

He's using you, remember. I wouldn't plan on him leaving voluntarily. Your the one stuck, not him.

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I am aware of that.

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Your being taken advantage of. Some dudes use women for attention or sex. This ones using you for his emotional well being.

And while you might feel a sense of closeness or connection with him, it's empty.

How many more years are you gonna waste on him?

This

He probably has sex with other women whilst using you as an agony aunt/someone to lean on

Move on if you want more

He is not having sex with anyone. But yes, he is not able to provide all the emotional package needed for a relationship, as I said before, he is not over his ex even though it's been around 6 years by now. And it's not me saying this, it's his best friend. All I can see is observe. I know he is not able to have a proper relationship and as I said, it's my fault to have fallen before synchronizing. Whatever feelings he might have for me are not enough.

Time to move on. Not to another guy, but to clear my mind of any residual feelings.

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So, he is celibate because of his ex? Wow, he must have it bad for her

I hope you find happiness in the future.....be kind to yourself compy

x

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Aquarius and Libra is a nightmare. Stop wasting your time.

Explain lol

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Posted by bittercupcake
Wait, I thought you and he were together? ... as in officially? .... so this means you were FWB?

Same thought!

Not FWB. No benefits except a great companionship and a very good mental bond. But all his actions made me think that he was seeing me more than a friend. Maybe I was his pillar of strength for a while. But always keeping options for himself. It hurts me because I had different expectations. And it's my fault here. Oh well...

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Sending you s big hug I had a Capricorn waste my time like that for a whole year.and a half. His progressive placements were mostly Aqua too.

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Your being taken advantage of. Some dudes use women for attention or sex. This ones using you for his emotional well being.

And while you might feel a sense of closeness or connection with him, it's empty.

How many more years are you gonna waste on him?

This

He probably has sex with other women whilst using you as an agony aunt/someone to lean on

Move on if you want more

He is not having sex with anyone. But yes, he is not able to provide all the emotional package needed for a relationship, as I said before, he is not over his ex even though it's been around 6 years by now. And it's not me saying this, it's his best friend. All I can see is observe. I know he is not able to have a proper relationship and as I said, it's my fault to have fallen before synchronizing. Whatever feelings he might have for me are not enough.

Time to move on. Not to another guy, but to clear my mind of any residual feelings.

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Ugghhhh ? your romanticizing him in your mind as this angsty/loyal to his first love type, instead of acknowledging the fact that whatever lingering feelings he might have for that relationship didn't stop him from dating OTHER women.

And you really can't claim to know he isn't having sex with other women. Your getting your information through his friend and by snooping through his phone. It's obviously your not wholly in the loop.

I was with an Aqua with Pisces moon for a short time.....short being the operative word

He was still hooked into an ex (Scorpio...he had a fixation with Scorpio women) and smoked so much weed he didn't know what he felt

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Your being taken advantage of. Some dudes use women for attention or sex. This ones using you for his emotional well being.

And while you might feel a sense of closeness or connection with him, it's empty.

How many more years are you gonna waste on him?

This

He probably has sex with other women whilst using you as an agony aunt/someone to lean on

Move on if you want more

He is not having sex with anyone. But yes, he is not able to provide all the emotional package needed for a relationship, as I said before, he is not over his ex even though it's been around 6 years by now. And it's not me saying this, it's his best friend. All I can see is observe. I know he is not able to have a proper relationship and as I said, it's my fault to have fallen before synchronizing. Whatever feelings he might have for me are not enough.

Time to move on. Not to another guy, but to clear my mind of any residual feelings.

Ugghhhh ? your romanticizing him in your mind as this angsty/loyal to his first love type, instead of acknowledging the fact that whatever lingering feelings he might have for that relationship didn't stop him from dating OTHER women.

And you really can't claim to know he isn't having sex with other women. Your getting your information through his friend and by snooping through his phone. It's obviously your not wholly in the loop.

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I know better. I can even tell you when he got laid the last time. Or when he is going to do it the next time. But... as I said, I am fully aware of who he is and who are the persons around him. It's a very small world here and my main problem is that I can be very controlling so yes, I basically know every minute what he's up to. I am jealous and that's MY problem, not his.

One of the quickest ways to destroy yourself is to hold out hope for someone who doesn't have the same intentions or feelings as you do

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I did a terrible but needed mistake. I searched his phone because he continues to engage females on social media. I

Prying into other people's personal stuff seems to be very common among Libra suns and moons...

*shudders*

I don't know if you both agreed to be exclusive, but you can't make someone be who you want them to be. You either accept things as they are or make a clean break.

Also, all that "he comes back in tears" is bullshit and you know it.

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Absolutely true. Thank you!

Posted by MyStarsShine
One of the quickest ways to destroy yourself is to hold out hope for someone who doesn't have the same intentions or feelings as you do

This is why I made it public around here. Because it has to be acknowledged by others too.

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One of the quickest ways to destroy yourself is to hold out hope for someone who doesn't have the same intentions or feelings as you do

This is why I made it public around here. Because it has to be acknowledged by others too.

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Absolutely

And also to speak it out, makes it more real

It is great you have come to a place in yourself where you are honest with yourself..that is always good

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Posted by bittercupcake
Wait, I thought you and he were together? ... as in officially? .... so this means you were FWB?

Same thought!

Not FWB. No benefits except a great companionship and a very good mental bond. But all his actions made me think that he was seeing me more than a friend. Maybe I was his pillar of strength for a while. But always keeping options for himself. It hurts me because I had different expectations. And it's my fault here. Oh well...

So why do you refer to him as your SO then? What actions are you talking about??

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Because there has never been a more powerful mental connection and I will probably won't repeat this experience again.

For now, time is needed. Contact is off (his phone is dead). No decision has been made. Time to reevaluate priorities. Thank you all for listening and stating your opinions. It really helps.

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What's the sign of his ex?

Gemini.

Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm call him out on his bs. honestly, you can't blame him for doing what he's doing. He isn't your SO. Mental connection doesn't claim an SO title. Aqua can have many causal girlfriends but they don't mean a thing. I'm sure he has deep feelings for you but it's only as friendship. I'm sorry but I don't think he's attracted to you sexually... he knows that... so he has never crossed the friends boundary.... Pisces moons r nice people.. they r very dreamy and he was kind n nice to you to reciprocate your actions. Doesn't mean he wants more than friendship... I analyse and ask the Aqua all the questions and his stories with all the friends females r funny. He even show me his chats and his words to them etc..... I do not believe he's not getting his sex fixed elsewhere. He's a man!!!! They can't survive without sex... you have to face the reality and say it as it is. They appreciate honesty and you telling them your boundaries... even you getting upset with their bs. They seem to love that hahaha.. obviously, be vulnerable and express how it makes you feel...!! What you need and want.... write them a letters Pisces mooners r romantic n that will touch their heart more.... say, if he can't commit to u or make it more than what it is, you are moving on.... don't b afraid to do things or say things that show u it's ok if u lose him... because it is ok... it's his lost. Make him see it ... good luck... you deserve a lot more. Also, chances r, he won't say yes to commitment because of his issues. Tell him to get help. Give him a book to read. Advise him. Expresss your concern.. and let him be. He can't and won't commit o u now untill he sorts his stuff out on his own... what I think is, he will let u go, you move across the country then it might hit him later... if you want him then is your decision. Good luck

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I once was this way with a Gemini.

Im an aqua sun, Pisces moon.

Id stay the night at his place, cook, cuddle have sex, weren't together but I was still talking to dudes on a dating website.

The dudes on the dating website where just verbal outlets to me, I can talk to them about life and then forget about it. Kinda the same concept as wanting to be understood and then left alone, why would I do that to people I see in real life.

But I stuck around.

They are just thought dumping places and he probably doesn't want to do that to you.

Id keep doing what you do and give him space because when I get depressed, when any Pisces moon gets depressed we need comfort not expectations...comfort meaning be my best friend and don't shove your needs down my throat because I can barely handle my own.

Totally agree..!! Thoughts dumping places .. haha love it... did you have feelings for the guy u were sleeping with? and why were u not together ?

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I once was this way with a Gemini.

Im an aqua sun, Pisces moon.

Id stay the night at his place, cook, cuddle have sex, weren't together but I was still talking to dudes on a dating website.

The dudes on the dating website where just verbal outlets to me, I can talk to them about life and then forget about it. Kinda the same concept as wanting to be understood and then left alone, why would I do that to people I see in real life.

But I stuck around.

They are just thought dumping places and he probably doesn't want to do that to you.

Id keep doing what you do and give him space because when I get depressed, when any Pisces moon gets depressed we need comfort not expectations...comfort meaning be my best friend and don't shove your needs down my throat because I can barely handle my own.

Totally agree..!! Thoughts dumping places .. haha love it... did you have feelings for the guy u were sleeping with? and why were u not together ?

I had feelings for him.

Neither of us talked about it, he had a Pisces moon too, don't think it was a priority. Just enjoyed each other.

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Yeah I get u. Why did it end?

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I once was this way with a Gemini.

Im an aqua sun, Pisces moon.

Id stay the night at his place, cook, cuddle have sex, weren't together but I was still talking to dudes on a dating website.

The dudes on the dating website where just verbal outlets to me, I can talk to them about life and then forget about it. Kinda the same concept as wanting to be understood and then left alone, why would I do that to people I see in real life.

But I stuck around.

They are just thought dumping places and he probably doesn't want to do that to you.

Id keep doing what you do and give him space because when I get depressed, when any Pisces moon gets depressed we need comfort not expectations...comfort meaning be my best friend and don't shove your needs down my throat because I can barely handle my own.

Totally agree..!! Thoughts dumping places .. haha love it... did you have feelings for the guy u were sleeping with? and why were u not together ?

I had feelings for him.

Neither of us talked about it, he had a Pisces moon too, don't think it was a priority. Just enjoyed each other.

Ahhhhh Geminis. According to the internet we are the best fwb because we are very detached. Aquas stick with that kind of situation with us or they fall for us. Happy days.

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IMAo.

Posted by saggurl88
I'm no Aqua but I'm gonna give you my opinion. You should have a talk with him if you guys have been doing this for a long time. Tell him your expectations and ask him if he's willing to work with you.

I dealt with an Aqua a long time ago that did this with other women.

I don't know if it's most Aquas but, they tend to love shallow relationships. Its easier to deal with then fully committing and confessing feelings. The one I knew used to tell all kinds of women he missed them and how pretty they were. It's like they practice cause they don't mean it anyways lol. Women he just met, but he could not utter a single word to me. He never told me these types of things and I know he loved me.

I've had the same experiences with Aqua men. It's almost like they are the least flirty with the ones they actually like. The Aqua giving you noogies as opposed to PDA probably loves you. Lol. Strange creatures.

This is why I think going MIA for a few days might get him to start a conversation. All the Aqua men I know say they hate games but secretly they like the woman who is giving the hot cold bs. And they fall in love with the one playing cat and mouse. Probably has something to do with not doing what's expected. Or something.

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I'm no Aqua but I'm gonna give you my opinion. You should have a talk with him if you guys have been doing this for a long time. Tell him your expectations and ask him if he's willing to work with you.

I dealt with an Aqua a long time ago that did this with other women.

I don't know if it's most Aquas but, they tend to love shallow relationships. Its easier to deal with then fully committing and confessing feelings. The one I knew used to tell all kinds of women he missed them and how pretty they were. It's like they practice cause they don't mean it anyways lol. Women he just met, but he could not utter a single word to me. He never told me these types of things and I know he loved me.

I've had the same experiences with Aqua men. It's almost like they are the least flirty with the ones they actually like. The Aqua giving you noogies as opposed to PDA probably loves you. Lol. Strange creatures.

This is why I think going MIA for a few days might get him to start a conversation. All the Aqua men I know say they hate games but secretly they like the woman who is giving the hot cold bs. And they fall in love with the one playing cat and mouse. Probably has something to do with not doing what's expected. Or something.

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this hold true esp with my most recent event with the Aqua... he flirts with others but when he's all by my side dancing crazily like funny dances and body rolls and body shakes only with me. Hahahaa... we r crazily comfortable with each other that someone had to take a photo for us.... he gave me a neck squeeze in the photo like the noogies thing u r saying lol.... super tide... u will know coz they r the silliest person like a child when they have more feelings than u than just a flirty casual flings. You can also see it in their eyes too... 😉 also, he's almost hating the flirting game via texts and less bullcrap talk with me. I'm sure with others it can go on for hours and not really mean a thing hahahaa... that was in the beginning of the courtship. When there r more feelings they r more reserved . A little more cold... but at the same time calm and comfortable... wired creatures... I relate though coz I have Aqua moon. No one can ever predict my feelings for someone in public ... 😉 ever.... hahaha

Posted by Capmercury87
I once was this way with a Gemini.

Im an aqua sun, Pisces moon.

Id stay the night at his place, cook, cuddle have sex, weren't together but I was still talking to dudes on a dating website.

The dudes on the dating website where just verbal outlets to me, I can talk to them about life and then forget about it. Kinda the same concept as wanting to be understood and then left alone, why would I do that to people I see in real life.

But I stuck around.

They are just thought dumping places and he probably doesn't want to do that to you.

Id keep doing what you do and give him space because when I get depressed, when any Pisces moon gets depressed we need comfort not expectations...comfort meaning be my best friend and don't shove your needs down my throat because I can barely handle my own.

Oh well, I was most probably stuck in this kind of situation myself. For sure he likes the attention he gets from his online admirers, it feeds his curiosity to "meet" new people, but he always kept saying to me that people are not what they seem and eventually they show their true face. And always criticizing women for being too light and naive. And he was telling me to trust him because facts matter, and not words.

On the other hand he seemed to want a normal couple/family life and more stability as he was saying he was transforming next to me and started to question the time that seemed to slip through his fingers.

Time will tell. Moving away from this small country is a very big challenge for me but I will seriously think about it.

It doesn't sound like he's into u in the romantic sense.. it sounds like a really nice close friendship which is great , can u handle just that ?

Hey Compy

Sorry to hear about what you are going through. We have spoken over messages before and although I am not an Aqua and cant give you any Aqua based thoughts I can hopefully pass on one valuable lesson which I sincerely hope helps you.

As you know I have recently been on a spiritual holiday and had the chance the meditate in the Himalayas. I went up with lots of prayers and whilst I was meditating, one thing came to mind which has now transformed my life. I am still in the process of working things out and hopefully it works for you too.

If you are happy and healthy as a person in yourself, then the universe will automatically bring your more happiness. We as people seem to get affected by actions of others, whom we have some form of emotional connection with.

As people we need to learn to accept ourselves, look at our own flaws, fix them, and look at our strengths and make them stronger.

I wont tell you what I think you need to do, you already know that for yourself and the answers you are seeking will come to you in time, if you open your mind and take it all in.

Once you are happy and healthy within yourself, you may find that you don't want the Aqua back in your life, or you may find that you do, the fact is that as you will be stronger and more centred person, you will attract what you truly deserve.

Good luck and if you need to talk you know how to get a hold of me.

Posted by MrR78
Hey Compy

Sorry to hear about what you are going through. We have spoken over messages before and although I am not an Aqua and cant give you any Aqua based thoughts I can hopefully pass on one valuable lesson which I sincerely hope helps you.

As you know I have recently been on a spiritual holiday and had the chance the meditate in the Himalayas. I went up with lots of prayers and whilst I was meditating, one thing came to mind which has now transformed my life. I am still in the process of working things out and hopefully it works for you too.

If you are happy and healthy as a person in yourself, then the universe will automatically bring your more happiness. We as people seem to get affected by actions of others, whom we have some form of emotional connection with.

As people we need to learn to accept ourselves, look at our own flaws, fix them, and look at our strengths and make them stronger.

I wont tell you what I think you need to do, you already know that for yourself and the answers you are seeking will come to you in time, if you open your mind and take it all in.

Once you are happy and healthy within yourself, you may find that you don't want the Aqua back in your life, or you may find that you do, the fact is that as you will be stronger and more centred person, you will attract what you truly deserve.

Good luck and if you need to talk you know how to get a hold of me.

Hi, indeed I honestly feel out of balance right now and need to refocus on myself. There is quite an amount of low self esteem right now that no longer makes me being in love with myself. This man did nothing wrong. We all have our own issues. The purpose of people being together should be to enhance each other, not to drag them down. Actually nobody has this power unless we allow them to. When we become vulnerable due to feelings wrongly focused. People don't bring happiness. They amplify it. If there is none, is because we ourselves cannot produce it due to our own inner issues.

Being ourselves the best version we can helps the world around us go on further. He is a life lesson to me. If and how we shall continue to be involved in each other's life, time will tell. But not now.

Astrology aside, I remember you saying that this guy has an avoidant attachment style . It is incredibly difficult (almost impossible) to help someone through their attachment issues if they are avoidant. They need to seek counseling more then anything else. That's not something you can force him to do.

As you mentioned you've had a relationship with this man that was based on friendship, which is how he sees you. It may have felt deeper to you, but look at his actions overall. Depression or not, if he truly cared about you, he wouldn't actively flirt with other women. All of that emotional/romantic sentiment would be aimed at you, not them.

At this point you need to stand up for what you want. Honestly if you felt a romantic connection for this long, you've only been doing yourself a disservice by accepting friendship. The reason you're hurt is because you expected this guy to reciprocate your feelings. Did you ever tell him how you felt? If not, you can't be upset with him. If you did tell him and he rebuffed your advances, then you already have your answer.

When it comes to relationship, everyone will always have "doubts" on us aquas whether it caused by our nature or steteotypes.

It ain't easy to be an aquarius.

Posted by AerialView
When it comes to relationship, everyone will always have "doubts" on us aquas whether it caused by our nature or steteotypes.

That's the big problem 🙂

The other one cannot guess correctly what is going on in your mind unless you take some clear action. Words still can be confusing. Or carrying truth no matter what. Being both friendly and secretly in love. A complete mystery. We shall see.

Anyway, I have not defined his "flirting" with the other women. It was nothing of sexual nature.