Aquarius guy - did I mess up?

I'm a sag girl and first of l let me tell you that I completely understand and have experienced the sag/aqua connection. All the greatest people in my life are aquarius : best friend, first love etc.

I met this aqua guy, he was a friend of a friends last year. We spoke briefly and he came into town for a night out. We ended up hooking up and since then we've slightly kept in contact. Nothing more than a short but quirky conversations. A few months ago he informed me that he was moving to my town. We've been speaking more in the run up to him moving down and he mentions on several occasions that he wants to see me again.
We came over last week and we caught up, snuggled, kissed etc but we didn't have sex. We talked briefly afterwards too. I'm starting to fall for the guy. I haven't told him this but I think he's picked up on it. I want to be his friend first. I want to explore this new town with him before I even think about committing to anything.
But now I've been hit with the silent treatment (which I now aquas like to do) but I can't understand why. I haven't been clingy , given him all the space in the world (I'm very busy all the time)

Have I ruined all chances of becoming good friends / someone in his life? What have I done wrong? What can I do ?

At which point? After I last saw him? A week and a bit maybe? I'm not overly worried as I know he's still settling into the new town but I'm just worried my last move might have ruined things?

Excuse me if my language makes no sense. My brain is in a state of goo as I've had far too many bevies and an assortment of drugs prior to this posting. If anything I believe DMT is the current culprit.

Now understand this is just my perspective. There's an undertone to what I say and that is one of bias, my own bias so whatever I say may not apply to your not so secret crush (apparently). So this is an opinion stated at a particular time, given specific events to have had to happen in specific sequences which by the laws of possibility certainly won't be the same for this guy but here goes anyway.

You have stated one weeks time has passed and he has just recently moved in. Is this somewhat saggie anxiety at work here? I've seen this at catastrophic levels and I hope it's not the case. As an aquarius I tend to live in the moment, the good moments do linger but not long enough. That applies to communication in general and I understand from an outside perspective it can be frustrating as choking a headless chicken.

Truth be told, I don't connect with people for no reason. In saying that I'm also guilty of returning affection when I've not made up my decision. Though if it matters or puts your heart at rest, the idea would certainly be in my mind, that you are certainly a candidate or a possibility. Give it time and rest assured there would be clarity. If not through action then observe his subtle words when you guys make contact again.

Until then may I suggest meandering the riches of the internets and entertain yourself and ease your mind. I certainly should be doing that.

Signing off, a somewhat concerned aquarius.

It doesn't like you've actually done anything. So don't ask "what have I done to ruin it". Why are you automatically assuming you've done something wrong?

what you did was pretty bad

Posted by aquasnoz
Excuse me if my language makes no sense. My brain is in a state of goo as I've had far too many bevies and an assortment of drugs prior to this posting. If anything I believe DMT is the current culprit.

Now understand this is just my perspective. There's an undertone to what I say and that is one of bias, my own bias so whatever I say may not apply to your not so secret crush (apparently). So this is an opinion stated at a particular time, given specific events to have had to happen in specific sequences which by the laws of possibility certainly won't be the same for this guy but here goes anyway.

You have stated one weeks time has passed and he has just recently moved in. Is this somewhat saggie anxiety at work here? I've seen this at catastrophic levels and I hope it's not the case. As an aquarius I tend to live in the moment, the good moments do linger but not long enough. That applies to communication in general and I understand from an outside perspective it can be frustrating as choking a headless chicken.

Truth be told, I don't connect with people for no reason. In saying that I'm also guilty of returning affection when I've not made up my decision. Though if it matters or puts your heart at rest, the idea would certainly be in my mind, that you are certainly a candidate or a possibility. Give it time and rest assured there would be clarity. If not through action then observe his subtle words when you guys make contact again.

Until then may I suggest meandering the riches of the internets and entertain yourself and ease your mind. I certainly should be doing that.

Signing off, a somewhat concerned aquarius.

This is why you guys are my favourite

@sagg101

I don't think you did anything either. No one ever really does anything to make them temporarily disappear. They just do it anyway. Even if they friggin adore/love you, they still will do it. Give him space, don't be clingy, don't ask him where he's been or any hints like "hey stranger" or "I missed you" They hate that crap in the early beginning because it makes them think you were waiting for them to return when they assume you are living your own life 24/7 with them or without them.

When he returns act like how you would act like if you had just seen him the day before.