Cancer male and Sagittarius Female

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by EmilySalasTeddy on Friday, September 19, 2014 and has 26 replies.

Understanding Cancer Male and Sagittarius Female Relationships

Cancer males often value emotional security and may hesitate to commit quickly. Sagittarius females are adventurous and independent, which can challenge Cancer's need for stability. Communication and patience are key to building trust and harmony in this relationship.

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@EmilySalasTeddy
11 Years

Hello cancers! im currently dating a cancer male who has said he has loved me and could never stop caring about me we have been dating for three months yet he still does not want to commit he says i am very impatient and the fact that i had one drunken night scared him away until he forgot about it any advice from you cancers please help i really care about my cancer i want him to be happy i love how he keeps me grounded!

thankyou cancers

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@EmilySalasTeddy
11 Years

Well there is no rush i suppose i just think if you care about eachother why not just be together already i mean does whats is he waiting for i of course will wait because i do care he does tell me he wishes i could just go with the flow and to stop overthinking all of the time hmm... :/

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@CancerOnTheCusp
12 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by EmilySalasTeddy
Hello cancers! im currently dating a cancer male who has said he has loved me and could never stop caring about me we have been dating for three months yet he still does not want to commit he says i am very impatient and the fact that i had one drunken night scared him away until he forgot about it any advice from you cancers please help i really care about my cancer i want him to be happy i love how he keeps me grounded!

thankyou cancers

Patience, Archer.
Cancer Man and Sag Woman is one of those hidden gems of the Zodiac.
Its actually one of my favorites, TBH.
Kindred spirits in a strange, quincunx manner.
Simple question (and statement): Do you REALLY want him? Tell him either way. He may say he doesn't want to commit, but hit him straight up (but don't go for the kill right away).

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@EmilySalasTeddy
11 Years

how do i hit him straight up but not go in for the killl i dont mind waiting for him because i do love him i only fear he does not feel the same because he is being so patient about it but he has assured me that he will never stop caring about me he just wants me to ease up?

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@xtina
17 Years1,000+ PostsAries

Be patient!!

Whoah theres an echo in here πŸ˜„

Crabs will alway go at their own pace and will not be forced or fooled into anything.

Plus changing the status of the relationship doesn't change or guarantee the way he feels for you so what does it matter? And honestly the way he feels is more important than some stupid label.

**"Well there is no rush i suppose i just think if you care about eachother why not just be together already i mean does whats is he waiting for i of course will wait because i do care he does tell me he wishes i could just go with the flow and to stop overthinking all of the time hmm... :/"**

Don't forget a relationship is a two way street. What he wants is just as important as you want (not just your wants and needs). So you guys are at a stand still you want a relationship label (or commitment or whatever) he doesn't. You can't force him to so either you break it off because you don't want to wait or you BE PATIENT.

Come one girl I'm a Ram and I have more patience than you πŸ˜‰

In the long run you have to pick and choose your battles. Is the title/ commitment so important that you will forgo your love? Sometimes the meaning and the feeling is more important than the love itself.

Good luck!

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@xtina
17 Years1,000+ PostsAries

You're just going to have to take his word for it. There is only so much a person can do to show you their love. IME with talking to girls in your same situation they always want more. Once they have the commitment then it's this thing and that thing. Always getting their love to jump through hoops to prove their love. Maybe you need to be secure with yourself and understand you have the capabilities to know when someone os telling the truth or no ( especially someone you love) Your a Sag for chrissakes! You have the best bs meter πŸ˜„

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@xtina
17 Years1,000+ PostsAries

Be secure with yourself and love yourself and you might not need so much from your man. And trust me I'm speaking from experience. Once you let your Cancer man step back and do his thing he will shine with so much love like no other πŸ™‚

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@EmilySalasTeddy
11 Years

xtina i love you!! thats exactly what i needed to hear Yes i am an archer! im impatient when i want something i want it now!!! but what really hit me was you saying what is more important a label or love and the love is definitely more important i will give him his time and space and love myself through this journey so i can in return love him thank you so much patience is a virtue i soooo wish i had πŸ˜„ HAHAH

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@EmilySalasTeddy
11 Years

thankyou are you currently with a cancer man your self?? πŸ˜„ and yes i admire how patient he is i only hope i can pick up this quality aswell i fear i might be too much for him sometimes but i have a virgo rising which helps keep me modest i believe πŸ™‚

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12 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by EmilySalasTeddy
how do i hit him straight up but not go in for the killl i dont mind waiting for him because i do love him i only fear he does not feel the same because he is being so patient about it but he has assured me that he will never stop caring about me he just wants me to ease up?

The impatient Aries has a handle on Cancer dudes here, lol.
Here's the skinny-when a Cancer dude tells you what you said in your earlier posts, he's telling you exactly how he feels. You have to step back on let him process (and I can't emphasis this enough) if you like this guy.
The fact that he has said anything like that is a big step (for him).
If he's said that to you (quoting your Post) he means it.

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@EmilySalasTeddy
11 Years

your right i will be patient with him and let him process things he is being more like himself again and i sometimes forget how good he is to me and how much he is trying i geuss i do not understand that about cancers but i do get that they are very cautious i just want him to feel safe with me

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@xtina
17 Years1,000+ PostsAries

Posted by EmilySalasTeddy
thankyou are you currently with a cancer man your self?? πŸ˜„ and yes i admire how patient he is i only hope i can pick up this quality aswell i fear i might be too much for him sometimes but i have a virgo rising which helps keep me modest i believe πŸ™‚

Yes, I am with a Cancer man. Lol, I have a Virgo rising too and a Venus in Pisces (which I think helps).

LOL I think I might be too much too sometimes but he loves it. Don't be afraid to be yourself but if you fuck up don't be afraid to say sorry and shower him with kisses if he deserves it πŸ˜‰

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@EmilySalasTeddy
11 Years

OH and yes it does seem odd haha but i have known him for years weve known eachother since hishchool sweethearts he was my prom date and we had crushes on eachothers we are just currently re-dating again friends to lovers! the best! πŸ˜„

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@xtina
17 Years1,000+ PostsAries

Posted by EmilySalasTeddy
your right i will be patient with him and let him process things he is being more like himself again and i sometimes forget how good he is to me and how much he is trying i geuss i do not understand that about cancers but i do get that they are very cautious i just want him to feel safe with me

Thats good! and it's important in order for a Cancer to open up to you you have to make him feel safe. Don't push, don't judge. Just be patient. And if he closes up just leave him to his thoughts.... LOL ok maybe I shouldn't be giving that advice, because when my cancer man retreats to his shell (most of the time I let him be) but sometimes I will ram my way in their and snuggle up there in his shell with him. I think he loves it πŸ˜„

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@xtina
17 Years1,000+ PostsAries

Posted by EmilySalasTeddy
OH and yes it does seem odd haha but i have known him for years weve known eachother since hishchool sweethearts he was my prom date and we had crushes on eachothers we are just currently re-dating again friends to lovers! the best! πŸ˜„

Aaawww so sweet! Friends to lovers is the best. I wish you the best in your relationship! πŸ™‚

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@EmilySalasTeddy
11 Years

@XTINA hahah that is so cute your making me miss my cancer πŸ˜„ aww thankyou for your advice im glad i have a fellow fire sign that understands me and how i feel towards my cancer i will give him his space and learn to be strong happy and independence oh and tree trunk upβ€”? hahah i dont understand that meaning/?

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@xtina
17 Years1,000+ PostsAries

Posted by EmilySalasTeddy
@XTINA hahah that is so cute your making me miss my cancer πŸ˜„ aww thankyou for your advice im glad i have a fellow fire sign that understands me and how i feel towards my cancer i will give him his space and learn to be strong happy and independence oh and tree trunk upβ€”? hahah i dont understand that meaning/?

treetrunk=f.u.c.k. up

shiiit=butter

everything is automatically censored here lol type in f.u.c.k and shiiit normally and you will see