Aquarius man and Jealousy

I really need help..

My aquarius man is a friendly man to anybody. That's the reason why everybody loves him. Especially girls..

I'm Aries and it drove me crazy everytime any girl trying to hit on him (texting, talking, flirting...)

He's ofcourse so friendly that it could make the girls think as if he's interested in them (which i guess, or at least try to convince myself..)

He once told me that he met a lot of girls but never interested in anyone (we works in publishing, so mostly he met lot of model type) And he told me that I'm special to him.

Recently, there is one girl that hit on him a lot, and she knows he's with me. (she works for him) She flirts and texted him to ask him out (he made excuse not to go). I told him that it made me uncomfortable and I feel very jealous when he rejected her directly instead of making excuse which will keep her hope. And then, we had a big fight.

When we made up, he told me why I have to be worry. He's interested in other girls, and he said he found them boring even if they're smart people. And, he said he find too much fun to pick on me that he couldn't think of anyone else.

What should I do? I still feel jealous and the girls still hit on him... ;(

I really want to work this out. And i dont want to bother him with my insecurity..

First of all quickly give

your birthday including year

and his birthday including year

also realize Jealousy isn't an Aquarian trait


I'm Aquarius sun and I have NO Jealousy.......EVER seriously... I don't understand those low level emotions like jealousy , envy and etc

Posted by IrresistableScorp
^^^ or How to Lose an AquaMan in 3 Easy Steps. lol

^ Speaks from experience 😆

How long have yall been together?

Whatever you do, do not try to flirt with other guys to make him jealous. It won't work. He won't care. They really aren't jealous people. And, they're not going to compete to win you. You're either loyal to them or you're not.

Your jealousy and insecurity will drive him away. You are going to have to have faith in him. Trust him to turn these women down. Trust him to be loyal to you.

Let him handle these women his way. If you start trying to control how he rejects them, you will lose because an aqua does not want to be controlled. Can't be controlled. They are their own person.

Pay attention to his actions. He is ignoring and turning them down. Right now, he is being honest with you and telling you about all this. If you keep being jealous, he won't tell you, because he doesn't want to hear all your insecurities and won't want to deal with it. Then, gradually, he will stop opening up in you and once he can't be open with you, that will be the end of the relationship because he needs a place to feel safe. If he can't feel safe with you and tell you things, he will eventually find another confidante.

Be confident. Be independent. Have faith. Don't be like all the other girls.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
^^^ or How to Lose an AquaMan in 3 Easy Steps. lol

Yep. I read this somewhere and I'm frustrated..

Posted by truecap
How long have yall been together?

Whatever you do, do not try to flirt with other guys to make him jealous. It won't work. He won't care. They really aren't jealous people. And, they're not going to compete to win you. You're either loyal to them or you're not.

Your jealousy and insecurity will drive him away. You are going to have to have faith in him. Trust him to turn these women down. Trust him to be loyal to you.

Let him handle these women his way. If you start trying to control how he rejects them, you will lose because an aqua does not want to be controlled. Can't be controlled. They are their own person.

Pay attention to his actions. He is ignoring and turning them down. Right now, he is being honest with you and telling you about all this. If you keep being jealous, he won't tell you, because he doesn't want to hear all your insecurities and won't want to deal with it. Then, gradually, he will stop opening up in you and once he can't be open with you, that will be the end of the relationship because he needs a place to feel safe. If he can't feel safe with you and tell you things, he will eventually find another confidante.

Be confident. Be independent. Have faith. Don't be like all the other girls.

Wow, thank you. This will help me.

We were friends for 8 months. He was secretly in love with me for another 6 months (he realized he loves me when I got sick and had to do sugery all the sudden). Actually, we both secretly in love but didnt pursue. We both thought it's one-side love. One day, we spent all night talking and we clicked. And, we're together for 1 year and 8 months now.
I'm always loyal to him. I never tried to get him jealous. He knows I worked hard to control emotion and anger for him, for the relationship.
I never pushed/asked/talked/mentioned about commitment to him. I enjoy every moment with him.

I hope this will last. But if he doesnt love me anymore, it's still ok. As long as he's happy and has to tell me straight..

Posted by truecap
How long have yall been together?

Whatever you do, do not try to flirt with other guys to make him jealous. It won't work. He won't care. They really aren't jealous people. And, they're not going to compete to win you. You're either loyal to them or you're not.

Your jealousy and insecurity will drive him away. You are going to have to have faith in him. Trust him to turn these women down. Trust him to be loyal to you.

Let him handle these women his way. If you start trying to control how he rejects them, you will lose because an aqua does not want to be controlled. Can't be controlled. They are their own person.

Pay attention to his actions. He is ignoring and turning them down. Right now, he is being honest with you and telling you about all this. If you keep being jealous, he won't tell you, because he doesn't want to hear all your insecurities and won't want to deal with it. Then, gradually, he will stop opening up in you and once he can't be open with you, that will be the end of the relationship because he needs a place to feel safe. If he can't feel safe with you and tell you things, he will eventually find another confidante.

Be confident. Be independent. Have faith. Don't be like all the other girls.

Oh my god I'm slightly annoyed that you know this because your a cap LOL

because its spot on for a pure aquarius

Aquarius with scorpio moon obviously gets jealous and is more secretive and introverted [as an example ]


Did you learn that so you can pull Aqua and Sag men :? y/n ?

@Xel1337:

My boyfriend of two years is an aqua. I dated two others before that. My favorite aunt and about six of my friends are aquas. My mars is in aqua and I just feel like I really understand them and where they are coming from.

@funkygal:

Aqua men can make the most confident and independent women feel insecure. I've been there. At this length of time in your relationship, don't you feel pretty secure by his consistency and past actions? Or has he given you reason not to trust him? I'm remembering your other thread, so I'm thinking he has?

Posted by truecap
@Xel1337:

My boyfriend of two years is an aqua. I dated two others before that. My favorite aunt and about six of my friends are aquas. My mars is in aqua and I just feel like I really understand them and where they are coming from.

@funkygal:

Aqua men can make the most confident and independent women feel insecure. I've been there. At this length of time in your relationship, don't you feel pretty secure by his consistency and past actions? Or has he given you reason not to trust him? I'm remembering your other thread, so I'm thinking he has?

your aqua man is dominant earth right, truecap? even though he has a pisces mars?

yes.

Posted by truecap
@Xel1337:

My boyfriend of two years is an aqua. I dated two others before that. My favorite aunt and about six of my friends are aquas. My mars is in aqua and I just feel like I really understand them and where they are coming from.

@funkygal:

Aqua men can make the most confident and independent women feel insecure. I've been there. At this length of time in your relationship, don't you feel pretty secure by his consistency and past actions? Or has he given you reason not to trust him? I'm remembering your other thread, so I'm thinking he has?

We're all good until now. At the moment, he is too busy with his work (I work with him) that he has very little quality time for me. Lack of attention makes me insecure..
My exes cheated on me that made me think thing can change overnight.

Don't let your past baggage ruin this relationship. Keep in mind that he is not them.

Remember. Trust and faith - until you have reason not to.

I have an on/off jealousy thing lol, but I never show it. I seeth & bubble on the inside. I think I've shown my jealousy once. I mean you can smile & hide it for so long before you start feeling disrespected.

This guy was talking to another female & I felt that the conversation was a bit inappropriate. I SMILED. The smile got bigger & bigger the more pissed I got until I finally exploded. I waited until the girl was gone, though. Didn't want to make her happy.

Relationship with aquarius is like a bet.
He wouldn't reassure me by telling me he loves me. He said it once from the beginning, then never say it again.
I wouldn't know if he falls out of love or if he's faithful or he's still in love with me. He's still all hot and cold, still have disapearing act.
I don't want to pressure him on these issue. But man, at some point of time, I'm scare that he just fade out and never come back.
I love him too much to the point that it would break my heart just to think of leaving him. I really need to think about if I should stay in this relationship or move on.
Should I talk about relationship with him? I want to know where we are.. Will it push him away?

Posted by aquansidenout
I'm an Aquarius who is extremely possessive and jealous and if a woman so happens to breathe on my Taurus I will burst a gasket. That's just me. In relationships I cut down or out any indication that I am flirting or giving another man my attention because I wouldn't want to have it done to me. Aquarius men are playful but I know way to many who act on the women who throw themselves at them. I would put that line in the sand early on so he knows that you don't cross that line with me.

We went to eat a few nights ago and I swear the waitress was flirting with my aqua. He had asked how one dish was prepared, but ordered something else. So she brings him a sample in a little bowl so he could taste it. Okay, maybe she's trying to sell more of that dish cuz the restaurant makes more profit on it. I get that. Then, though, I knew she was flirting with him because she comes by to see if he liked it, then actually reached out and lightly touched him on the arm. Yeah, the bitch actually touched him!

Although, it was really pretty funny and quite pathetic on her part because he treated he like he would any other waitress. He seemed pretty clueless to her advances, so I didn't need to say anything or even get pissed at her. But, the nerve! That's what gets me, the nerve of some people!

Anyway, yeah, that story was pretty irrelevant to the conversation since I'm a cap, but what you said reminded me of it.

Posted by funkygal
Relationship with aquarius is like a bet.
He wouldn't reassure me by telling me he loves me. He said it once from the beginning, then never say it again.
I wouldn't know if he falls out of love or if he's faithful or he's still in love with me. He's still all hot and cold, still have disapearing act.
I don't want to pressure him on these issue. But man, at some point of time, I'm scare that he just fade out and never come back.
I love him too much to the point that it would break my heart just to think of leaving him. I really need to think about if I should stay in this relationship or move on.
Should I talk about relationship with him? I want to know where we are.. Will it push him away?

Ahh, those dang aquas!! HORRIBLE about giving reassurances. They tell you they love you once and then they feel you should just know they still do. Generally, depending on the venus sign, they don't see the point of saying it over and over. Actions, the look in their eye - that's what you go on. Do they treat you like they love you? Then yes, they do. Do they look at you like they love you? Yes, then they do.

Recently something happened and the question 'Was he jealous?' came to mind.

I randomly via Instagram got a request to follow from a guy and I accepted, he liked my pics etc bla bla bla.. he sent me a private message and we started chit chatting. Nothing flirty just passing time chit chatting. I was really bored at home because i was off sick i started browsing his pics and noticed my Aqua guy is in those pics. what a weird situation.. he turns out to be my Aqua guys best mate from Uni (very very small world). I mentioned that to this guy that im mates with him. Few hours later i got a message on my phone from my Aqua guy saying 'why are you chatting to my mates?' being honest, i told him and said I'll stop.

After this few days later my aqua guy randomly started showing me a little attention. He was talking to me after months later. He's gone cold now.. but what does this mean tho? I have no intention of making him jealous coz that's just dumb and pointless but the situation makes it seem like that.

What do you guys think? was he jealous? showing his territory that its his mate back off? lol I dunno..

I think Aquarius can be jealous, but only if it's not fake (i mean, he wont get jealous if he smell that you try to make him jealous). And, they probably don't know how to handle their jealousy. They might start to act weird. They seem to struggling with lots of question but they don't want to ask you which make you think he's control freak.
Once they know there's nothing wrong, they will act normal again (which is detach from you again).

My aquarius man saw some messages from guys that he doesn't know. He started to act funny weird way and asked who are those guys. He wouldn't drop it until he gets the answer. There were a guy want to have dinner with me, I explained to my aquarius that I need to go since he did me a favor and I want to buy him meal to thank him. In middle of the dinner, he texted me if dinner is good..

I think it's cute 🙂

funkygal,
It is kinda cute.. can tell he's obsevant with your movement. Its weird because some say Aqua dont get jealous at all because its an emotion and some say they do.. confusing! hehe

See now this friend of his is complimenting me and saying nice things which is sweet but i dont want him to get the wrong idea thinking that something will happen..

can you deal with a flirt? all your life, maybe?

one of the reasons i left my ex [an aries] was that he didn't know how to set boundaries with the women hitting on him...

i mean...i didn't feel insecure, i felt awkward. if i know how to set boundaries with the men hitting on me, i ask the man i am with to know how to do the same.

i congratulate myself on walking away...i currently am with a cancer man who's as good-looking as the aries ex, but i never see him letting women cross THAT LINE. and it is not a line I set...it is just how we both understand to respect the partner....

trust me...there is a huge difference between being nice/polite to people and allowing them to hit on you even if you don't pursue them...

good luck

Posted by AquaMermaid
Nothing irritates an Aquarius more than being constantly questioned and suspected by their partners.

My aqua said his ex wife was like that and it drove him away from her.

Posted by funkygal
I think Aquarius can be jealous, but only if it's not fake (i mean, he wont get jealous if he smell that you try to make him jealous). And, they probably don't know how to handle their jealousy. They might start to act weird. They seem to struggling with lots of question but they don't want to ask you which make you think he's control freak.
Once they know there's nothing wrong, they will act normal again (which is detach from you again).

My aquarius man saw some messages from guys that he doesn't know. He started to act funny weird way and asked who are those guys. He wouldn't drop it until he gets the answer. There were a guy want to have dinner with me, I explained to my aquarius that I need to go since he did me a favor and I want to buy him meal to thank him. In middle of the dinner, he texted me if dinner is good..

I think it's cute 🙂

i think you both play this game...is not healthy, me thinks...

Posted by mz
can you deal with a flirt? all your life, maybe?

one of the reasons i left my ex [an aries] was that he didn't know how to set boundaries with the women hitting on him...

i mean...i didn't feel insecure, i felt awkward. if i know how to set boundaries with the men hitting on me, i ask the man i am with to know how to do the same.

i congratulate myself on walking away...i currently am with a cancer man who's as good-looking as the aries ex, but i never see him letting women cross THAT LINE. and it is not a line I set...it is just how we both understand to respect the partner....

trust me...there is a huge difference between being nice/polite to people and allowing them to hit on you even if you don't pursue them...

good luck

Problem with aquas though is they show attention to EVERYONE...so why wouldn't the significant other get jealous.

Posted by truecap

Posted by funkygal
Relationship with aquarius is like a bet.
He wouldn't reassure me by telling me he loves me. He said it once from the beginning, then never say it again.
I wouldn't know if he falls out of love or if he's faithful or he's still in love with me. He's still all hot and cold, still have disapearing act.
I don't want to pressure him on these issue. But man, at some point of time, I'm scare that he just fade out and never come back.
I love him too much to the point that it would break my heart just to think of leaving him. I really need to think about if I should stay in this relationship or move on.
Should I talk about relationship with him? I want to know where we are.. Will it push him away?

Ahh, those dang aquas!! HORRIBLE about giving reassurances. They tell you they love you once and then they feel you should just know they still do. Generally, depending on the venus sign, they don't see the point of saying it over and over. Actions, the look in their eye - that's what you go on. Do they treat you like they love you? Then yes, they do. Do they look at you like they love you? Yes, then they do.

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Women need to be reassured especially with aquas because they are soooooooooooooo flirty and friendly with everyone so its not like we can tell how they feel because they are so hard to read becuase they don't talk about mooshy stuff.

Posted by IAmMystified

Posted by truecap

Posted by funkygal
Relationship with aquarius is like a bet.
He wouldn't reassure me by telling me he loves me. He said it once from the beginning, then never say it again.
I wouldn't know if he falls out of love or if he's faithful or he's still in love with me. He's still all hot and cold, still have disapearing act.
I don't want to pressure him on these issue. But man, at some point of time, I'm scare that he just fade out and never come back.
I love him too much to the point that it would break my heart just to think of leaving him. I really need to think about if I should stay in this relationship or move on.
Should I talk about relationship with him? I want to know where we are.. Will it push him away?

Ahh, those dang aquas!! HORRIBLE about giving reassurances. They tell you they love you once and then they feel you should just know they still do. Generally, depending on the venus sign, they don't see the point of saying it over and over. Actions, the look in their eye - that's what you go on. Do they treat you like they love you? Then yes, they do. Do they look at you like they love you? Yes, then they do.

Women need to be reassured especially with aquas because they are soooooooooooooo flirty and friendly with everyone so its not like we can tell how they feel because they are so hard to read becuase they don't talk about mooshy stuff.

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Mine's friendly, but he's definitely not flirty.

If you learn how to read the actions and facial expressions, you won't have any problems feeling reassured. The words, eh, not so often, but actions ring loud and clear. Besides, what man really likes to talk about mooshy stuff? Most don't. And a LOT of them say mooshy stuff when they don't mean it. I'd rather have the actions any day.

Posted by truecap
@Xel1337:


Aqua men can make the most confident and independent women feel insecure. I've been there......

That is so true!!! I'm a confident and independent Aqua woman and my boyfriend is also Aqua. I know he's not cheating on me but he's so secretive and his latest 'disappearing act' is driving me to distraction. Sometimes I just don't think I can handle the roller coaster ride of dating an Aqua man.

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Ok so I have a question for aquarius males. Do you guys tend to get jealous and overreact a lot? I was with an aquarius for a few months. He was so in love with me and still says he is. But he treated me like crap over nothing. On Facebook I made a general post about how I think women that have no husband or children are empowering and are a rare type of sexy. Of course people commented on the opinion. One guy in particular made a general statement and it sent my ex over the edge! Mind you, the guy that commented is old enough to be my father and is married... Im 24. My ex still didn't care. He called the man thirsty, said that he wanted me and called him my cookiemonster boy. He even went as far as unfriending me and told me that he wanted me out of his life. I tried over and over to make him see that the guy was not flirting with me. I confronted him with evidence and facts and he still blew his lid. Wtf— I did nothing wrong. Please help me. Am I going crazy? Is he crazy? What is the deal—

Correction... He called him my little b**** boy ?