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@cap
I think what BV means is they love hearing it but there has to be a balance. I mean everyone in life thinks people should act/think the way we ourselves think. So aquas go around at least in my experience assuming people should understand how they feel, which is probably why they don't feel the need to TALK about how much they care even though they probably care deeply.
Long story short: Show how you feel but maintain balance, becuase they already know you care especially when they feel like you accept them for who they are.
I think what BV means is they love hearing it but there has to be a balance. I mean everyone in life thinks people should act/think the way we ourselves think. So aquas go around at least in my experience assuming people should understand how they feel, which is probably why they don't feel the need to TALK about how much they care even though they probably care deeply.
Long story short: Show how you feel but maintain balance, becuase they already know you care especially when they feel like you accept them for who they are.
@LILMeow
Don't worry I'm doing the same thing as you are doing. Wanting more,expecting more...wanting to speed up the process. But I fortunately have kept it in my head and that's as far as it's gone. I haven't discussed it with friends per usual and haven't really posted about it like i've wanted to even though I'm probably indirectly doing it right now.
Just gotta remind yourself they are the opposite thinkers/doers than what is the norm so you have to be okay with what we all consider "slow pace" when this is normal for them. Actually if you think about it, this is somewhat normal in general.
We as people are used to society being full of game players and mixed message givers that we feel like that's normal and always having to figure someone out as well. But aquas, they are straight forward with how they feel and we still seek validation LOL haha
The irony in that.
If your aqua man has said that he adores you in whatever fashion he's said it...then that probably is still how he feels if he's still with you.
🙂
Don't worry I'm doing the same thing as you are doing. Wanting more,expecting more...wanting to speed up the process. But I fortunately have kept it in my head and that's as far as it's gone. I haven't discussed it with friends per usual and haven't really posted about it like i've wanted to even though I'm probably indirectly doing it right now.
Just gotta remind yourself they are the opposite thinkers/doers than what is the norm so you have to be okay with what we all consider "slow pace" when this is normal for them. Actually if you think about it, this is somewhat normal in general.
We as people are used to society being full of game players and mixed message givers that we feel like that's normal and always having to figure someone out as well. But aquas, they are straight forward with how they feel and we still seek validation LOL haha
The irony in that.
If your aqua man has said that he adores you in whatever fashion he's said it...then that probably is still how he feels if he's still with you.
🙂
@LILMeow
Also I wanted to add something. This may help you or it may help me who knows. But Despite all the difficulty he and I have had, and all the crazy shit I've done (he's done his fair share too) he's still my friend today. If it weren't for the crazy shit i've done we'd be at where we are now a couple of years ago.
I mean right now we're just friends or whatever category we are in becuase he doesn't and hasn't defined things. Probably never will. I do know that he assumes I already "know" what he thinks/feels. Not just how he and I relate but somehow he thinks I already know what he thinks about everything else in life. I don't know why. He's weird but i'm okay with that.
My approach even though in some ways its annoying cause I need to label things, is I just truly let things go the way they go. I have been continuously been working hard at NOT wondering what he's thinking or feeling but if I ever wanted to know what he thought or what he wants to do about anything I just ask or I indirectly suggest. Such as:
The other day I was wondering (god knows why) if I'm going to be the last person he says goodbye to at the end of the night and HOW he will say goodbye. Instead I decided to leave first to guage his reaction (which with aquas you shouldn't be doing that because it just further makes the "wanting to rush" worse) and I said Bye "Aqua Man". I'll see ya.
and he just simply said "Bye have a good rest of the evening". And I found myself not satisfied with that.
But i thought about it later I could have threw him for a loop and said "I've gotta leave now so I think you should say goodnight to me. 🙂" or something similar. It's kinda flirty and probably would have gotten him to make some kind of effort.
It's a stupid example but they are so enthralled by situations like that or at least my aqua is because I don't think he's used to being romantically flirted with. I don't think he even realizes he's very good looking.
Anyway my point is to honestly stop WONDERING about whether he is this or that..just let it be. If anything you could just ask but if he's already told you once, you don't need to ask again. Or you can indirectly suggest things like:
If he has mentioned no plans with you on friday night "You know when you take me to Olive Garden tomorrow night, I think we should try that tiramisu, I've been craving it ever since."
Why a statement like that could/would work is a)It makes it "his" idea instead of yo
Also I wanted to add something. This may help you or it may help me who knows. But Despite all the difficulty he and I have had, and all the crazy shit I've done (he's done his fair share too) he's still my friend today. If it weren't for the crazy shit i've done we'd be at where we are now a couple of years ago.
I mean right now we're just friends or whatever category we are in becuase he doesn't and hasn't defined things. Probably never will. I do know that he assumes I already "know" what he thinks/feels. Not just how he and I relate but somehow he thinks I already know what he thinks about everything else in life. I don't know why. He's weird but i'm okay with that.
My approach even though in some ways its annoying cause I need to label things, is I just truly let things go the way they go. I have been continuously been working hard at NOT wondering what he's thinking or feeling but if I ever wanted to know what he thought or what he wants to do about anything I just ask or I indirectly suggest. Such as:
The other day I was wondering (god knows why) if I'm going to be the last person he says goodbye to at the end of the night and HOW he will say goodbye. Instead I decided to leave first to guage his reaction (which with aquas you shouldn't be doing that because it just further makes the "wanting to rush" worse) and I said Bye "Aqua Man". I'll see ya.
and he just simply said "Bye have a good rest of the evening". And I found myself not satisfied with that.
But i thought about it later I could have threw him for a loop and said "I've gotta leave now so I think you should say goodnight to me. 🙂" or something similar. It's kinda flirty and probably would have gotten him to make some kind of effort.
It's a stupid example but they are so enthralled by situations like that or at least my aqua is because I don't think he's used to being romantically flirted with. I don't think he even realizes he's very good looking.
Anyway my point is to honestly stop WONDERING about whether he is this or that..just let it be. If anything you could just ask but if he's already told you once, you don't need to ask again. Or you can indirectly suggest things like:
If he has mentioned no plans with you on friday night "You know when you take me to Olive Garden tomorrow night, I think we should try that tiramisu, I've been craving it ever since."
Why a statement like that could/would work is a)It makes it "his" idea instead of yo
A statement like that could/would work because:
a) it makes it his idea
b) YOu possibly get a date friday night
c) relieves him of the stress of keeping you pleased
d) he gets to rescue or provide for you by getting you that tiramisu
plus it kept making plans a light hearted situation instead of an "obligation" which is why he's keepin it casual.
a) it makes it his idea
b) YOu possibly get a date friday night
c) relieves him of the stress of keeping you pleased
d) he gets to rescue or provide for you by getting you that tiramisu
plus it kept making plans a light hearted situation instead of an "obligation" which is why he's keepin it casual.
I have an aqua cousin whose just like ZelaleZ's. Cheater.. Hit on a girl friend of mine WITH his current wife there lol. I've only been w/ 1 aqua male & it was the most traumatizing, horrible experience I've ever had. But that's just my view. Everyone can be different, act differently w/ other people, & maybe have a better experience. Only way to see is to try for yourself! 🙂
for those that say they are horrible to be with, what made them horrible.
No exaggerations please, just straight truth.
No exaggerations please, just straight truth.
Women be cray
Posted by LilMeowPosted by IAmMystified
Anyway my point is to honestly stop WONDERING about whether he is this or that..just let it be.
Good advice. I'm guilty of jumping to conclusions sometimes and he'll be perfectly fine!
He has been inviting me to hang out more and tonight I'll see him at the club, so it's been good. I'm feeling really positive about us 🙂click to expand
Nothing wrong with jumping to conclusions. But gotta keep reminding yourself that they handle things differently than we as society are used to. But the bright side is, knowing an aqua man teaches patience and not being emotionally unstable and trust.
Those are great lessons to learn 🙂
Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Women be cray
Yeh we can be because this indirectness that you aqua men exude comes across as mixed. You all drive us crazy lol
I learned to stop with the letting people effect my emotions.
It used to take very little for people to piss me off, annoy me and I'd so flip a switch and it would ruin my day.
Also taught me that passive aggressiveness and spite is stupid. When I could just say what I'm thinking/feeling.
Haha.
It used to take very little for people to piss me off, annoy me and I'd so flip a switch and it would ruin my day.
Also taught me that passive aggressiveness and spite is stupid. When I could just say what I'm thinking/feeling.
Haha.
Posted by IAmMystified
for those that say they are horrible to be with, what made them horrible.
No exaggerations please, just straight truth.
For me the worse part is not knowing what they are thinking, especially with emotions and feelings on the relationship. Puts you through an emotional rollercoaster on your own emotions and security - and it's your own fault and you know it at the time. lol! We're past that now, but in the earlier stages it did bother me.
The aloof/warm/aloof/warm isn't all that fun and the responses to some things you say are sometimes odd and not what you would expect and it takes you aback a little. The lack of romance and sweet words might bother you occasionally. But, it is what it is and I wouldn't say it is awful.
If that's the worse I've dealt with, then I must have found a good one! 🙂
Posted by truecapPosted by IAmMystified
for those that say they are horrible to be with, what made them horrible.
No exaggerations please, just straight truth.
For me the worse part is not knowing what they are thinking, especially with emotions and feelings on the relationship. Puts you through an emotional rollercoaster on your own emotions and security - and it's your own fault and you know it at the time. lol! We're past that now, but in the earlier stages it did bother me.
The aloof/warm/aloof/warm isn't all that fun and the responses to some things you say are sometimes odd and not what you would expect and it takes you aback a little. The lack of romance and sweet words might bother you occasionally. But, it is what it is and I wouldn't say it is awful.
If that's the worse I've dealt with, then I must have found a good one! 🙂click to expand
So if there's very little romantic gestures, how does he show he cares?
By being there, listening, doesn't disappear, responds to calls and texts in a timely manner, helping with projects, doing what he says he will do, the twinkle of the eye, by wanting to spend lots of time together, by showing up when he's supposed to, including me with his family events, making sure my car is maintenanced correctly, fixing things around my house and making sure the locks are secure, cooks me dinner, back rubs, spends time with my family, makes sure I'm safe, worrying about me, etc.
By lack of romance, I mean he's not one to send cards or flowers, not one to set up candles and spread a rose petal trail, not one to set you up a bubble bath, not one to dedicate a song to you on the radio, stuff like that.
By lack of romance, I mean he's not one to send cards or flowers, not one to set up candles and spread a rose petal trail, not one to set you up a bubble bath, not one to dedicate a song to you on the radio, stuff like that.
Posted by truecap
By being there, listening, doesn't disappear, responds to calls and texts in a timely manner, helping with projects, doing what he says he will do, the twinkle of the eye, by wanting to spend lots of time together, by showing up when he's supposed to, including me with his family events, making sure my car is maintenanced correctly, fixing things around my house and making sure the locks are secure, cooks me dinner, back rubs, spends time with my family, makes sure I'm safe, worrying about me, etc.
By lack of romance, I mean he's not one to send cards or flowers, not one to set up candles and spread a rose petal trail, not one to set you up a bubble bath, not one to dedicate a song to you on the radio, stuff like that.
Yeah. Hmmm intresting. I agree with teh things you said are romantic in a general way but I don't know if I consider that caring in my situation cause he's naturally mr. rescue. Hmm. Not that i'm getting all emotional and doubting anything because ever since the epiphany i've seen changes in both of us in the short time since that post.
I just think like i said in the other post there are times where he is "off" and I am saying goodnight or something and he'll respond but he won't look up or smile or nothing he just keeps doing whatever he's doing but I bet if it was like his one aqua male buddy he'd automatically turn into etertaining.
You said yeah cause he doesn't need to "entertain" me but he doesn't need to entertain his close male buddy either.
So when stuff like that happens its a downer lol.
I started dating an Aqua a few months ago (we met online). As someone mentioned earlier, in the beginning, they're very attentive, but in time you'll find that changes. My Aqua texted me constantly: "Good morning," "Have a great day!" "How did your test go?" He was always messaging, and I won't lie, I was loving it! But over time he texted less often, and eventually stopped saying good morning, stopped wishing me a good day, stopped asking how an event I attended went. The messages began to be more about something that happened to him that day, he'd let me know what he thought about a movie he had just watched that we had talked about previously, things like that. Basically we became good friends and I felt he had become comfortable enough with me that he didn't feel he had to send all those nice messages. Fine with me! I was playing the dating game by his rules, and I think that's important when dating an Aqua. You don't want to ask for more than they are willing to give.
Things seemed to be going really well until we went almost 2 months without seeing each other. Then, about a month or so ago, he met another girl on the same site we met on. She's pretty much the exact opposite of me, and she lives in the next state. I believe that's that "fear of commitment" they have (he and I are somewhat long-distance as well being an hour away from each other). His interest in her is definitely greater than it is in me now. (I think he still likes me because he still lights up when he looks at me and he'll message me at times. We attended a concert together last week [that was the first time we'd seen each other in almost 2 months], and he held and kissed me all night long.) Nevertheless, as his liking of her grows, his liking of me seems to be dwindling.
Aquas generally like to keep their options open when dating. It's true that they'll send you on an emotional rollercoaster, and in the end you may not even be the one he ends up with. But even if things don't work out the way you thought, you may still have a great friendship to hold onto.
Things seemed to be going really well until we went almost 2 months without seeing each other. Then, about a month or so ago, he met another girl on the same site we met on. She's pretty much the exact opposite of me, and she lives in the next state. I believe that's that "fear of commitment" they have (he and I are somewhat long-distance as well being an hour away from each other). His interest in her is definitely greater than it is in me now. (I think he still likes me because he still lights up when he looks at me and he'll message me at times. We attended a concert together last week [that was the first time we'd seen each other in almost 2 months], and he held and kissed me all night long.) Nevertheless, as his liking of her grows, his liking of me seems to be dwindling.
Aquas generally like to keep their options open when dating. It's true that they'll send you on an emotional rollercoaster, and in the end you may not even be the one he ends up with. But even if things don't work out the way you thought, you may still have a great friendship to hold onto.
Posted by M00Nchild
I started dating an Aqua a few months ago (we met online). As someone mentioned earlier, in the beginning, they're very attentive, but in time you'll find that changes. My Aqua texted me constantly: "Good morning," "Have a great day!" "How did your test go?" He was always messaging, and I won't lie, I was loving it! But over time he texted less often, and eventually stopped saying good morning, stopped wishing me a good day, stopped asking how an event I attended went. The messages began to be more about something that happened to him that day, he'd let me know what he thought about a movie he had just watched that we had talked about previously, things like that. Basically we became good friends and I felt he had become comfortable enough with me that he didn't feel he had to send all those nice messages. Fine with me! I was playing the dating game by his rules, and I think that's important when dating an Aqua. You don't want to ask for more than they are willing to give.
Things seemed to be going really well until we went almost 2 months without seeing each other. Then, about a month or so ago, he met another girl on the same site we met on. She's pretty much the exact opposite of me, and she lives in the next state. I believe that's that "fear of commitment" they have (he and I are somewhat long-distance as well being an hour away from each other). His interest in her is definitely greater than it is in me now. (I think he still likes me because he still lights up when he looks at me and he'll message me at times. We attended a concert together last week [that was the first time we'd seen each other in almost 2 months], and he held and kissed me all night long.) Nevertheless, as his liking of her grows, his liking of me seems to be dwindling.
Aquas generally like to keep their options open when dating. It's true that they'll send you on an emotional rollercoaster, and in the end you may not even be the one he ends up with. But even if things don't work out the way you thought, you may still have a great friendship to hold onto.
I'm sorry that's happening to you but I do agree with you. They are great friends to have. I may or may not end up with my aqua friend but I do love his presence. I do know that he's always there whenever you need him if you ask.
I definitely care more about him more than anyone I've ever known which includes
people i've dated, exes, firends and acquaintances.
My biggest love was Aquarius, like me. It was the best relationship I've had, so fun and full of passion... Until he started cheating on me ha! To this day we are in touch and he's saying now how stupid he's been, but I just think that Aquarius men are this way. They like flirting and can't really settle with one girl. I think they lack self confidence and that's why they need the attention of many girls all the time. But as friends they are perfect! That's why I stayed in touch with my ex. Very hard to stay angry at them 🙂 but I'm sure it all depends on the age and the maturity of the person. I'm just speaking from my own experience 🙂 good luck! 🙂
Posted by lola29
My biggest love was Aquarius, like me. It was the best relationship I've had, so fun and full of passion... Until he started cheating on me ha! To this day we are in touch and he's saying now how stupid he's been, but I just think that Aquarius men are this way. They like flirting and can't really settle with one girl. I think they lack self confidence and that's why they need the attention of many girls all the time. But as friends they are perfect! That's why I stayed in touch with my ex. Very hard to stay angry at them 🙂 but I'm sure it all depends on the age and the maturity of the person. I'm just speaking from my own experience 🙂 good luck! 🙂
Ha definitely understand the "can't stay mad at them thing".
They have this adorable helpless way about them. HAHAHAHHA.
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