Aquarius will not let go

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Posted by pisceswoman123
I have been there... You really have to make it very very clear that you will never ever be with him again. He will go if he sees it is not chance to be with you again.
I tried that, tried to do a clean break and said I just don't see us together again because he broke my trust. And he started crying and said, "You mean I will never see you again? Never?" I mean this went on for an hour, of him crying and me being unemotional and just straightforward because I wanted to be clear. I held his hand while he cried. "But will you call me if you need something?" I said, okay, yes I would. I would call him if I needed help, but I didn't mean it, I just wanted him to calm down.

Then last week I was horribly sick, I had a stomach virus, and he was taking care of me, and for a hot minute we were getting along again, but this is why we need to live apart. The cycle will just keep repeating itself and I can't live like this anymore, with the breaking up and getting back together. I spend so much energy thinking about our relationship and I know it's really unhealthy and that we need to be apart.

It is so bad that even though my name is on the lease, I am the one looking for another apartment because he pretends he is looking for other places, but "can't find anything." I actually feel trapped by him because he refuses to accept what I am saying and accept how I feel.
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I have been there... You really have to make it very very clear that you will never ever be with him again. He will go if he sees it is not chance to be with you again.
I tried that, tried to do a clean break and said I just don't see us together again because he broke my trust. And he started crying and said, "You mean I will never see you again? Never?" I mean this went on for an hour, of him crying and me being unemotional and just straightforward because I wanted to be clear. I held his hand while he cried. "But will you call me if you need something?" I said, okay, yes I would. I would call him if I needed help, but I didn't mean it, I just wanted him to calm down.

Then last week I was horribly sick, I had a stomach virus, and he was taking care of me, and for a hot minute we were getting along again, but this is why we need to live apart. The cycle will just keep repeating itself and I can't live like this anymore, with the breaking up and getting back together. I spend so much energy thinking about our relationship and I know it's really unhealthy and that we need to be apart.

It is so bad that even though my name is on the lease, I am the one looking for another apartment because he pretends he is looking for other places, but "can't find anything." I actually feel trapped by him because he refuses to accept what I am saying and accept how I feel.
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So you are still leaving together? Then he thinks still is a chance...
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I have been there... You really have to make it very very clear that you will never ever be with him again. He will go if he sees it is not chance to be with you again.
I tried that, tried to do a clean break and said I just don't see us together again because he broke my trust. And he started crying and said, "You mean I will never see you again? Never?" I mean this went on for an hour, of him crying and me being unemotional and just straightforward because I wanted to be clear. I held his hand while he cried. "But will you call me if you need something?" I said, okay, yes I would. I would call him if I needed help, but I didn't mean it, I just wanted him to calm down.

Then last week I was horribly sick, I had a stomach virus, and he was taking care of me, and for a hot minute we were getting along again, but this is why we need to live apart. The cycle will just keep repeating itself and I can't live like this anymore, with the breaking up and getting back together. I spend so much energy thinking about our relationship and I know it's really unhealthy and that we need to be apart.

It is so bad that even though my name is on the lease, I am the one looking for another apartment because he pretends he is looking for other places, but "can't find anything." I actually feel trapped by him because he refuses to accept what I am saying and accept how I feel.
So you are still leaving together? Then he thinks still is a chance...
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He is forcing it. He thinks that if one of us moves out, I will forget all about him and find someone better. He basically is trying to keep himself in my life even though it's making everything worse. Really if we had some space and time, we'd have a better chance.
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I have been there... You really have to make it very very clear that you will never ever be with him again. He will go if he sees it is not chance to be with you again.
I tried that, tried to do a clean break and said I just don't see us together again because he broke my trust. And he started crying and said, "You mean I will never see you again? Never?" I mean this went on for an hour, of him crying and me being unemotional and just straightforward because I wanted to be clear. I held his hand while he cried. "But will you call me if you need something?" I said, okay, yes I would. I would call him if I needed help, but I didn't mean it, I just wanted him to calm down.

Then last week I was horribly sick, I had a stomach virus, and he was taking care of me, and for a hot minute we were getting along again, but this is why we need to live apart. The cycle will just keep repeating itself and I can't live like this anymore, with the breaking up and getting back together. I spend so much energy thinking about our relationship and I know it's really unhealthy and that we need to be apart.

It is so bad that even though my name is on the lease, I am the one looking for another apartment because he pretends he is looking for other places, but "can't find anything." I actually feel trapped by him because he refuses to accept what I am saying and accept how I feel.
So you are still leaving together? Then he thinks still is a chance...
He is forcing it. He thinks that if one of us moves out, I will forget all about him and find someone better. He basically is trying to keep himself in my life even though it's making everything worse. Really if we had some space and time, we'd have a better chance.
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I see. You still think that it could be a chance. He can feel that and he is not willing to move on because of that.

So is up to you.

If you want to move on and never see him again then you have to move out or tell him to move out.

If you still think is a chance. Tell him that you need a break, time to think... a week, 2 weeks separate without any contact. He will respect that I think.
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I have been there... You really have to make it very very clear that you will never ever be with him again. He will go if he sees it is not chance to be with you again.
I tried that, tried to do a clean break and said I just don't see us together again because he broke my trust. And he started crying and said, "You mean I will never see you again? Never?" I mean this went on for an hour, of him crying and me being unemotional and just straightforward because I wanted to be clear. I held his hand while he cried. "But will you call me if you need something?" I said, okay, yes I would. I would call him if I needed help, but I didn't mean it, I just wanted him to calm down.

Then last week I was horribly sick, I had a stomach virus, and he was taking care of me, and for a hot minute we were getting along again, but this is why we need to live apart. The cycle will just keep repeating itself and I can't live like this anymore, with the breaking up and getting back together. I spend so much energy thinking about our relationship and I know it's really unhealthy and that we need to be apart.

It is so bad that even though my name is on the lease, I am the one looking for another apartment because he pretends he is looking for other places, but "can't find anything." I actually feel trapped by him because he refuses to accept what I am saying and accept how I feel.
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hey,

my fellow taurus lady...

awww i didn't realise this hasn't stopped yet!

must be so hard living together and all....

i understand exactly how you feel...

do you still love him?
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I have been there... You really have to make it very very clear that you will never ever be with him again. He will go if he sees it is not chance to be with you again.
I tried that, tried to do a clean break and said I just don't see us together again because he broke my trust. And he started crying and said, "You mean I will never see you again? Never?" I mean this went on for an hour, of him crying and me being unemotional and just straightforward because I wanted to be clear. I held his hand while he cried. "But will you call me if you need something?" I said, okay, yes I would. I would call him if I needed help, but I didn't mean it, I just wanted him to calm down.

Then last week I was horribly sick, I had a stomach virus, and he was taking care of me, and for a hot minute we were getting along again, but this is why we need to live apart. The cycle will just keep repeating itself and I can't live like this anymore, with the breaking up and getting back together. I spend so much energy thinking about our relationship and I know it's really unhealthy and that we need to be apart.

It is so bad that even though my name is on the lease, I am the one looking for another apartment because he pretends he is looking for other places, but "can't find anything." I actually feel trapped by him because he refuses to accept what I am saying and accept how I feel.
So you are still leaving together? Then he thinks still is a chance...
He is forcing it. He thinks that if one of us moves out, I will forget all about him and find someone better. He basically is trying to keep himself in my life even though it's making everything worse. Really if we had some space and time, we'd have a better chance.
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wait so you think there's still a chance—

then its not a break up,

its a BREAK.

??
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I have been there... You really have to make it very very clear that you will never ever be with him again. He will go if he sees it is not chance to be with you again.
Heartbreaker 😛😜😝
i know right,

is she really a pisces — 😛
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I believe that if you are 100% sure that you don’t want to be with someone, you have to make it very clear so they can move on. It is so selfish otherwise.
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Posted by pisceswoman123
I have been there... You really have to make it very very clear that you will never ever be with him again. He will go if he sees it is not chance to be with you again.
I tried that, tried to do a clean break and said I just don't see us together again because he broke my trust. And he started crying and said, "You mean I will never see you again? Never?" I mean this went on for an hour, of him crying and me being unemotional and just straightforward because I wanted to be clear. I held his hand while he cried. "But will you call me if you need something?" I said, okay, yes I would. I would call him if I needed help, but I didn't mean it, I just wanted him to calm down.

Then last week I was horribly sick, I had a stomach virus, and he was taking care of me, and for a hot minute we were getting along again, but this is why we need to live apart. The cycle will just keep repeating itself and I can't live like this anymore, with the breaking up and getting back together. I spend so much energy thinking about our relationship and I know it's really unhealthy and that we need to be apart.

It is so bad that even though my name is on the lease, I am the one looking for another apartment because he pretends he is looking for other places, but "can't find anything." I actually feel trapped by him because he refuses to accept what I am saying and accept how I feel.
hey,

my fellow taurus lady...

awww i didn't realise this hasn't stopped yet!

must be so hard living together and all....

i understand exactly how you feel...

do you still love him?

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I care about him. I found a flat finally. I will move out and he will stay here. I told him I want to take a break to process what I want. He was open to it but not happy. At least now things are moving in the right direction...