Aquas, are you a sucker for love?

I mean as YOU, the person. Yes, Big-D has fell into the confusing vertigo of love, but I came out of the abyss with absolutely nothing but a shattered heart. I think that anyone else would fall back into love to try to recover themselves and forget the pain of yesterday, but I think that Aquas are way too smart to fall back into that helpless state, so we become even more unattached as a safeguard, as with me.

Anybody longing for some lovin, even though your heart was torn in two? How did you get over the pain to move on...I would love to hear how you did it...

For me, I'd be damned if I would get my heart broken again. I won't even give my girlfriend the benefit of that. Love isn't needed to have a good relationship, and they need to realise that all the lovey dovey stuff ain't gonna work on me. You have to be honest...that's all I want. Tell me what you want, and then we can work from there. How can I make you happy if what I have to offer isn't what you want?

Nope never been in love...would love too, but im in NO HURRY.

Let me tell you Lady M, it's not as cracked up as they say it is. It actually is pretty binding and immensely confusing. Don't take it from me though; I had a VERY bad experience with it.

Everyone ive ever known has had a bad experience...hence my fear of being in love...but I still would like to try oit out atleast once. Does that make me a masochist?

Ive come close...but I just shake it off and keep it movin'.

No. That just makes you logical. Well, if everyone else is gettin their asses kicked by this love thing, why should I even take the chance?

Lady M, I think love is whatever you want it to be. I don't think you should be afraid of it, just let it come to YOU.

Oh...so you came close to the love thing? How did it make you feel? Did you feel sick, binded, confused? Love doesn't always come as this fairy tale happiness when you're with this guy, it could hit you when you argue with him. Then, when you're driving home after a thirty minute breakup argument, your stomach starts turning like "What the hell is this feeling?"...nothing short of L-O-V-E!

Oh I have no problem with it, but when love is unhealthy and you find yourself doing stoopid (DXP lingo I learned) things...that is the part I would like to stay away from. Ive witnessed plenty of that to do all I can to keep myself from it.

Well I felt totally CONFUSED, and constantly distracted...LOL. But the thing is one minute I think I love the person...and then the next minute I sit and think about it and feel asolutely nothing...weird.

I dont need any of that right now, I have to stay focused.

Oh man, I really want the libra...but im not hearing many good things about them here...

I was close with the pisces, the closest ive ever been...but we never really got our chance, so im waiting....

Everyone else was fun and games...I think I liked the aqua, but it was confusing. The cancer was crazy, I let him go.

Oh the sag guy...I dont even know how "we" happened..nice guy, BUT I just had NO feelings for him...I let him go with NO REGRETS..we are still friends too.

No No not at all...its their decision, not mine. Its that aqua charm, they just cant resist. 🙂 I never considered any of the above real relationships...half the time I didnt even know it was happening... LOL. When I figure it out I bolt or just lose interest.

BUT thats changing...but I dont know about the libra...we'll see.....

I like him. He's a weirdo, which keeps it interesting and fun. BUT he's also kinda shallow, not my kinda turn on, BUT very smart.

So, we'll see...

😛 whatever. Were just friends...for now.

im in love and love it!!!!

Yes and no... I have an idealized version of love in my head where the guy and I chose to be with each other forever. In a way though this is the cause of my troubles and my strength. When I figure out that the guy I'm with has flaws that I can't live with, I'm out the door claiming 'it was never really love.'

However ::grumbles to herself here:: yesterday a woman told me that I was acting like a woman in love for the first time in my life. I said a sentence, one sentence, uno, about Mr. Cap and how I wanted to buy him an extension cord (so romantic of me huh?) and the female friend told me that she never saw me in love before. And the scariest thing of all is that I'd totally walk away from this guy if he pissed me off, and I feel totally in control of myself and at ease with who I am and who I'm with, but darn it all I guess I really like him or something. She scared me when she said that to me though, I'm not going to lie. I know for a fact that Mr. Cap would run the roost but somehow I think that I trust him to make a good decision and listen to me... scary as usually I'm the intelligent one.

But my ease with walking away from a situation has always come from a belief inside myself that I deserve something better.

"For me, I'd be damned if I would get my heart broken again"

-personally, i think that is a silly thing to say b/c sometimes the consequence of falling in love is getting your heart broken. if you don't want to ever get your heart broken again, then you will never fully love someone again.

i am a risk taker, and i believe that life is all about taking risks in everything...especially love. what does not kill you only makes you stronger...right?

I read once that an aquarius only ever falls in love once and if our hearts are broken that one time when we totally trust someone then we never really get over it and every relationship after that time is a little more detached though we can eventually love again, just not the total tantric and complete trust in one other person type of love. In a way I've always believed that I would never get over a complete heartbreak, and I rationalize it away whenever everything goes wrong so it doesn't hold me back.

Don't get me wrong here as I've dated more men that most girls. I've kissed my share of frogs but the frogs never received anything more than a kiss. I went through undergrad as a virgin and lived quite a while happily on my own. Men are drawn into my little picture of the world I guess, but I never analyzed why I've never really been completely alone.

So I read 'I'll be damned if I would get my heart broken again' as yes a closing of the gates, but hopefully with time he'll find the right person to be himself with. Weighing the risk before leaping is what heartbreak can do to us, but he has hope if he wants it. And he has added to my theory that at least I am only capable of absolute love once, so it better be a good choice.

Pluto's Pride: "I think Aquas have in innate fear of connecting too deeply with one person. They may feel that will isolate them from the vast group of people they really need in their lives to feel whole and connected to humanity."

Very valid conclusion Pluto's Pride. There could be plenty of possibilities, but this sounds more at home.

Hey, Lady M. The one that broke my heart was a Libra...she was the only one that knew what I wanted even if I acted like I didn't want it. It's as if Libras (to me) are stubborn, and they won't give you up even if we constantly play our Aquarian playa games with them. I don't know, it's something I like about them...I just can't put my whole hand on the answer...

LOL. rockchick it sucks huh, but im working on it...and dont give up either.

Well libras arent looking to good right about now...but we shall see.

Intellectually superior... what is that? I would love just to MEET a man that was intelligent. Why do men, who are smart, get so stupid when it comes to love and relationships? Where are the men who actually plan dates and think ahead about the relationship? I became friendly with an aquas man once in college. We were extremely competitive toward each other. Do you all find yourself competing with others to see who is mentally stronger? Is that a turn-off for guys? Or should I say does a smart woman intimidate guys?

Message posted by: BigD56 on 11/3/2006 2:39:10 PM
Hey, Lady M. The one that broke my heart was a Libra...she was the only one that knew what I wanted even if I acted like I didn't want it. It's as if Libras (to me) are stubborn, and they won't give you up even if we constantly play our Aquarian playa games with them. I don't know, it's something I like about them...I just can't put my whole hand on the answer...

BigD56 - I feel you. Libra's have something. I think it's their creative intelligence and humility that are appealing to the aquarius. I have one that is breaking my heart right now... We are best friends, but I can't tell him I have a crush.

Im in love with an Aqua..heart and soul..but he couldnt be worse for me if he tried. He has no idea and its killing me. He?ll never know..because i was destroyed in the past and it its NEVER happening again. Im feeling you BigD, the choices you make and how you arrive at them are yours alone.

Just remember that love hurts..its true, but sometimes its worth it!

"oh yeah and aquarianbrat, I think libras have the ability to play around with people's feelings and they use it as long as they're not in love."

Yes...I believe this is true about Libras. They can continue the hypnotizing charm on you as a cover up to use that love for their "need for partnership".

Aquaaqi: " got my heart stomped on and discarded without so much as a backward glance plenty of times, and every time, it just made me more determined to find the real thing."

Aquaaqui, this is the answer I was looking for. I wondered if Aquarians truly did want love, and was strong enough to continue looking for it even when they've been decieved. My statement was just another conclusion I mustered up for the reason for our ultimate unattachment (It was through my own experience, so I wondered if anyone else was the same way).

Libra?s give the best love..they?re always worth the pain. Just trust the wise one on this.

If you say so....

I am an Aquarian female, who is always seeking the perfect Romantic, Intellectual, Freedom giving relationship. When i am in love, i give my partner 100% and at times, i have been involved with someone who wasn't right for me romantically.

It hurts to be in love and feel that you are not loved back in the way you would like to be, however, for every person who enters your life, there is a lesson to be learned. Never regret choices made ... just understand that in order grow deeper as a person, life must be lived !!! Move forward, learn, reflect, be aware, be generous/kind and never sacrafice your true self.

We as Aquarians are definitely misunderstood ... it is important to be aware of our differences, embrace them and be flexible in our relationships.

I hope this helps a little ...