Understanding the games

I'm definitely not your a-typical Aqua (give me my space) girl, and I am sort of seeing this Aries/Taurus cusp guy. He has me in a constant push pull mode, where as soon as I have assumed he is no longer interested in me, he surprises me with something that says he cares.

From the moment we met there was heavy attraction, we ended up having sex on the first date and through the next week we were extremely flirty in our emails and phone conversations. We got along great, we talked so easily to each other it was perfect. We agreed to be exclusive but we haven't gone as far as calling each other a boyfriend/Girlfriend yet. We have met up a few times each week since that magical first week, we have continued to have sex, and still email each other all day long, however the flirting has gone. even though we are talking all day it is more friend like. I have taken this lack of flirting as a sign that he may have started to loose interest in me. He also no longer emails me 1st thing in the morning, he waits for me to suggest for us to meet up, he won't suggest our next date, he rarely calls me. I myself have backed off a bit because of this. Every time I am about to just throw in the towel and start scanning the horizon for another potential beau, he comes back with something that inadvertently shows he is thinking of me or might actually care about me. There will be a cute email wondering where I have gone, or a phone call reminding me he has a movie he knows I want to see. This push and pull may all just be in my mind. He could just be slowing things down to see if there is real potential for a relationship, or I may be falling victim to his game. I don't know. I know I shouldn't use sun signs as a gauge, but I wonder how much of this is typical for Aries or Taurus guys. Do you start hot and heavy then back off?

Hi Mamma Roz - What I am seeing here is not about "sun signs" or what is typical for an Aries or Taurus man but about you giving up the goods (yourself) toooooo soon to a man -any man! He got what he wanted - there is no more for him to wonder about - no more layers to peel away - he reached the core tooo fast my Lady!

What he is doing now, is keeping you on a "string" for when the mood hits him (ya know dancin' in the sheets 😉)

Red Flags - he rarely calls you - a man who is interested in a woman WILL call her.
talking more like a friend to you
he WAITS for ME to suggest meeting up
he WON'T suggest our next date

Mamma dear - YOU know in your wonderful heart of hearts that he is just that not into you. This is a great book btw if you have not read it. He Is Just Not That Into You - my apologies that I have forgotten the author's name but I have seen where he is going to have his own talk show about this sort of thing :-)

Another way to help see this situation...if the shoe were on the other foot and it was you who was choosing to respond to a man in the manner he has chosen to respond to you - why would you have made that choice?

I really think that maybe you just wanted to know if your hunches were spot on?

Best wishes to you, Mamma Roz

what the heck ! is it normal to have sex on the first date ? or is this typically American style ?

ontopic: yeah, we Aries start hot and heavy and then calm down... looking for a potential ...

i don't know any Aries/Taurus crusps ..

good luck ..

It is most certainly not normal for me to give it up on the first date. I am normally not that friendly with someone untill I know them better. This was kind of a freak occurance for me. We just got on so wonderfully on the first meeting.

I don't know who is right, I cannot stand games, why is it people cannot just be honest about whats happening. If he is not interested he should just say it. If I weren't interested in him I would be suggesting just being friends.

been with one for 21 years, and that has been our relationship. as soon is i feel it is over and he says something that let me knows he cares, but now i feel like we are about to get a divorce again.

But Mamma Roz ..watz with Ur scorpio mate U were talking about on the scorp board at the same time ?

rox i agree...a man likes a challange...simple as that

you know its not unusual for a aries to have sex on the first date...we are very spontaneous like that...we can hook you if we want... regardless..first date...5th date

"you know its not unusual for a aries to have sex on the first date..."

A pitfall to be avoided.

that's all rubbish, that stuff about having sex on the first date. those are rules set up by dr.phil to sell some more books.
if i'm not in a relationship i don't mind having sex...no, i'll go even further, i like it!
if a person is seriously interested in you, it doesn't matter if you had sex with them or not. if a person is not interested in you, they simply aren't.
i don't get that 'you gave yourself away to him, now there's nothing left he wants of you' at all. i'm very choosy when it comes to relationship 'material', i only had two serious boyfriends in my life, one for almost seven years, the second one for 5 years and no end in sight. so if i would have sat back and waited for someone to fit my ideals my sex life would have been very very frustrating, non existent.
and furthermore, with both of my longlasting relationships, we got intimate the day we met, so the theory that men are not interested in you anymore after you had sex with them is, as i said, rubbish. it depends on what you expect. i've never been in search of a relationship, they just happened. i never expected more than a night of fun, so i never felt the need to call, and didn't have the time to be disappointed. sometimes i don't understand women 😉

Tupie....Howz U been darling ? 😛

belated merry christmas, gaurav 🙂

Belated merry chritmas to U as well 🙂

How are things with U ?

i'm fine, i got rid off all the relatives 😛

haa haa....Urs or someone else's ? 😛

both, i've been at my mums three days ago and when i came back home my boyfriends dutch family came to visit us....phew...and that's supposed to be a holiday? i'm less busy when i have to go to work! 😉

"and that's supposed to be a holiday"

I see...never imagined U cud be homely and caring 😛

i am! i love to cook! to make up for all my inadequacies 😛

i bet i spellt inadequacies wrong...be gentle with me, i'm a foreigner 😉

" am! i love to cook"

Ahh...now thatz an absolute shocker ! 😛

"be gentle with me, i'm a foreigner "

Am more foreign than U perhaps 😉

not only do i love it, it even tastes good 😛
where do you come from, gaurav? i always thought it was GB

LOL...yeah am in GB right now ...but I hail from India.

What kinda food do U cook..white sausages ?...taste good ? 😛

india? yeah, then you're probably more foreign than i am 😉 i've been to india for 6 month and the ppl were great, but i had to attache to the culture.
no, no white sausages, that's too easy, i need a challenge so i go for obscure stuff. the more complicated the better

"i've been to india for 6 month and the ppl were great, but i had to attache to the culture."

Great...which all places U visited ?.....Max Mueller center ?


"need a challenge so i go for obscure stuff. the more complicated the better"

What all ....am not familiar with Ur cuisine ?

Max Mueller center...great clichee, you idiot 😛 i was in the north west of india

i didn't mean this as an offence at all, btw 🙂as usual, i sound snappy every now and then

LOL...not a problem....Idiot is still kind 😛...I hear lots of other abuses as well.

North West of India ?...Were U covering Kashmir ? 😉

seems you're one of the few male aries who are not insane 😛

"seems you're one of the few male aries who are not insane "

So sad U think so negatively about my clan ...Aries intellect is profound. 😛

Aries have a strong self image, the ability to think fast and size up most situations in an instant. Arians calculate risks with lightning speed and make decisions accordingly. An adage that fits the Arian well is 'A straight line is the shortest distance between two points'. Arians don't waste time and energy beating around the bush, they come straight to the point, and leave the bodies where they fall.

"An Aries appears to be an outcast. Unable to find acceptance for his beliefs,' he hunts for the meaning of life."

Perhaps thatz what drive people to brand us as insane.

yeah, aries are funny, the men are wild. we all want sex immediately and often, buuuuut, we really need that chase. that adventure. my husband made me wait years after i met him to move forward. by that time, i was hopelessly caught. well, as much as an aries can be caught. my bro is aries and wow. he likes a woman who teases a bit, who makes him work for it. who keeps him guessing. his wife did that. he was putty in her hands. buuuut, aries guys are very jealous. good lord. i'd avoid them just for that! give him something to work for. make youself not a sure thing, play games a little. hate that? then don't date an aries!