Understanding the games

I'm posting this here to, so I can get the Taurus opinion as well.

I'm definitely not your a-typical Aqua (give me my space) girl, and I am sort of seeing this Aries/Taurus cusp guy. He has me in a constant push pull mode, where as soon as I have assumed he is no longer interested in me, he surprises me with something that says he cares.

From the moment we met there was heavy attraction, we ended up having sex on the first date and through the next week we were extremely flirty in our emails and phone conversations. We got along great, we talked so easily to each other it was perfect. We agreed to be exclusive but we haven't gone as far as calling each other a boyfriend/Girlfriend yet. We have met up a few times each week since that magical first week, we have continued to have sex, and still email each other all day long, however the flirting has gone. even though we are talking all day it is more friend like. I have taken this lack of flirting as a sign that he may have started to loose interest in me. He also no longer emails me 1st thing in the morning, he waits for me to suggest for us to meet up, he won't suggest our next date, he rarely calls me. I myself have backed off a bit because of this. Every time I am about to just throw in the towel and start scanning the horizon for another potential beau, he comes back with something that inadvertently shows he is thinking of me or might actually care about me. There will be a cute email wondering where I have gone, or a phone call reminding me he has a movie he knows I want to see. This push and pull may all just be in my mind. He could just be slowing things down to see if there is real potential for a relationship, or I may be falling victim to his game. I don't know. I know I shouldn't use sun signs as a gauge, but I wonder how much of this is typical for Aries or Taurus guys. Do you start hot and heavy then back off?

"however the flirting has gone. even though we are talking all day it is more friend like."

I hate to say this, but yes, the flirting is gone because you have proven to him that he doesn't need to chase you. You've been caught, and very early, might I add.

I concur with peach.

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That phase did end early on because you rushed into things, however, it's really the way most relationships go... me, Taurus me, likes it when things settle down. He's feeling comfortable. Again, I like that when I'm sure of my partners feelings for me. You might just wanna pick a pace for yourself... I'd recommend pulling back sommmmmme and making HIM come after you. Sounds like he really is interested in you so I think he'd catch on after a while. I don't see that there really is anything to worry about.

Wow I didn't understand most of that myself... blech...

Anywho, if you hadn't noticed... that pushing and pulling is a reaction to *you* Pull back and let him be the one to seek you out.

Ahh another taurus / aqua match up. Best of luck! I'm in one now, oh boy it's a rollercoaster.

Tauro, you're not in one. The Aqua girl told you that you were better off as friends. That's not a relationship. You had doubts about her for a few weeks now. IT's time to let her go, sweetie.

So I should just back off and let him come to me? Sounds kinda like a game. Why must it always be a game to date someone? Sigh, you're probably right, perhaps I should just back off anyway. I'm getting sick of this pushing and pulling crap as it is.

"The girl steps back; the guy moves forward. Girl moves forward; guy moves back."

Very true statement. I never thought of it that way. I'm going through this with a guy. He moved forward, and I back. When I finally moved forward, he went back. Now we aren't even speaking and I don't even know why. Sorry, I didn't mean to go off topic.

its easy - want to keep him keen - so easy ..... so easy ..... so easy...
just back off, if he wants sex with you or relationship - remember these develop over time!! just play it cool, who knows maybe the whole thing will be casual and nicely relaxed, doesnt have to be in each others pockets,look everything is a little game in the beggining - if you cant have - you want - its really bad and a contact of modern relationships - however i do believe several times in your life you people do connect and there is no games just a joy of bein in each others company - till then - be a little ellusive, hey but all cool if not this chap then the next one ( me ) you will naturally be a little more hesitant and he will try to win you over, a game ... yes, unfortunately unless you just really really really want to be with someone its generally what happens - and yes do boys do it to girls ----yes---- do girls do it to boys -----yes.good luck you seem really nice and sorry you have to play this stupid game.its called anticipation.

oh have to add, talk to a sag girl they can advise you so well how to get a guy to be hangin on your every move ! masters of that game ! recon they not even know it - just natural to them xxx

Question: during a 'pull back' is there any danger in a taurus male misinterpreting this as the girl not being interested in him anymore?

Not for a Taurus man. He takes that as a challenge if he's truly interested in pursuing her.

Bulls have patience and tenacity....

thanks HP...glad to hear it. i did the 'pull back' not to play games, but to gain back some perspective.

now am ready to pick things up again, was a little worried that maybe he's decided am not interested anymore. (he contacted me during my 'pull back' and i was a little short with him...)

If he's still interested in you, he'll bite your line.

hey HP...sorry i missed you on livelynurse's thread...what colour did you end up painting yr room?