being pushed away

do aquarian men push away women they are attracted to? I am a cancer female and I have been with an aquarian man for over a year now. We are not boyfriend/girlfriend. we are just very good friends, that used to have wild crazy sex. We used to hang out and have alot of fun not to mention the sex was awesome everything was perfect because there was no strings and I felt very comfortable in the fact the he didn't want more than I was able to give. Lately he seems as if he doesn't want anything to do with me sexually maybe once or twice a month and I don't know what has changed. But his conversations with me has increased and he hangs around me alot more which is kind of odd because he likes his space. I am so confused, I do not want a relationship with him but I do care about him alot and have alot of fun with him maybe in time I might feel different but I am still gunshy when it comes to relationships. I have issues where relationships are concerned due to trust issues and being in a relationship for 15 years with a man that lied to me alot and abused me. I don't understand what his game is, he shows alot of interest in other women almost as if to try and see if I am jealous or something which I could care less. In the beginning of our friendship when we first started messing around we agreed to see other people and he did, I am just not as open to sleeping around with different people and I have not. So I know he knows I am not jealous, but since he moved in with me back at the end of april he has changed in a sense that he doesn't want sex as much any more and he is not seeing other women, he comes home every night. he does really sweet things for me like surprising me with my favorite ice cream or coming up to me and stroking my cheek. He verbally makes it clear he does not want a relationship with me but does alot of things in contradiction to that, he has been in the process of getting his own place and moving since he moved in pretty much and as it stands right now he is planning to move at the first of the year but says he wants to get me organized and things done around my house first before he moves. what is his deal? He plays around with me all the time he'll come up and punch me in my leg and smile he has only kissed me a few times in the past year which really surprised me, he has come home on a couple of different occassions and just hugged me for no reason. Then there are times he doesn't talk to me for days. He is confusing and I told him a long time ago that he is so frustrating and confusing that I don't want to figure him out I just have fun with him and enjoy spending time with him because he's alot of fun and for awhile he stopped trying to confuse me but it seems like he's back to trying to get me to figure him and and I really could care less because all I want from him is his friendship and sex I work three jobs and I stay busy so I dont have time for a relationship anyway. So I don't understand why he is playing games. Any input would be helpful because he is driving me crazy, even though I have tryed to stop figuring him out he has stepped up his game of confusion and its just driving me crazy!!!!!

He verbally makes it clear he does not want a relationship with me but does alot of things in contradiction to that

Oh Boy do I know that!!!!!!!!!! :-)

This is very frustrating to me especially since I am not interested in a realtionship but with him staying with me and sleeping in my bed everynight it really feels like one for the most part. The feeling is more than enough for me I don't want or need the title girlfriend to feel justified I am in my late 30's so it doesn't mean as much to me as at might some. I just want to know if he is sincere in his friendship with me or if I am just some game that is amusing him right now. The way he acts gives me the impression it's not a game and he's sincere in his feelings he has told me he cares about me but doesn't want a realtionship but some of the things he says off the cuff whether it be out of insecurity or fear hurts me and makes me feel he is not vested in our friendship. I just wanted to hear from some aquarian men on this site for their input and wisdom.

I agree that I may be projecting some of my own fears from my past relationship onto our friendship but I don't think it has anything to do with our friendship because he says he feels the same as i do and doesn't want a relationship and has planned to move out at the first of the year which he may or may not do because he did not plan to stay with me as long as he has but for some reason he's still there. I do care alot about him and I believe he cares for me. I know he has alot of respect for me some of it comes from what he's seen me go through with my ex boyfriend and what it took for me to get away from him and that I have enough respect for my self not to sleep aroudn with a bunch of guys because I can and maybe the fact that when he was sleeping with other women I didn't go out and sleep with some guy just to play a game and say look i can do the same as you in your face. my delima with him comes from the fact that we are just friends and he is living with me sleeping in the same bed with me every night and has been since april. It was easy to keep things in perspective when he wasn't there all the time. I felt comfortable in the fact that we were just friends with benefits but it feels more and more like a realtionship without the title. I am scared that I will get used to his presence and be hurt when he leaves. When I say I feel like he trys to make me jealous I get this from the way he acts I have told him how I feel about men looking at other women and it doesn't bother me because I think a man would have to be brain dead not to notice a beautiful woman but I am secure enough in who I am that looking just makes you a man. he will notice I am looking at him and obviously stare at a girl and then look back at me as if he were a kid saying mom is this ok. it's kind of funny but it seems to me so blatant as if to make me jealous or see if he could get a rise out of me or test me. I have on several occasions caught him watching me or just looking at me or checking up on me at work He's never been the type that goes out every weekend but he has hooked up with a couple of women in the beginning and it is baffling to me why he hasn't hooked up since he moved in. I was prepared for it and expected it to happen and it hasn't we work together and he beats me home every night we are generally together on the weekend and i've even asked him which i know he would be honest because he always has been in the past when I told him that if he had a girlfriend or was "f"ing someone else to let me know I was ok with it and he justlaughs at me and says no. But refused to tell me why it's like it's a game to him and I am confused.

my sign is cancer, and I'm sorry I haven't gotten back on this subject for a while, I've been reading other posts. But I do have a new development. we were talking today and I jokingly told him he was a slut and he laughed and said how's that. I told him he gets around and he said hows that when your the only woman I've been with in the past 6 months —?? he is so confusing. I admit I thought about it some when he first moved in whether or not he would be screwing around on me and how I would take it. It was hard enough when we didn't live together but living together made it a little more complicated. Yes I guess you would say I am a tad bit jealous but it's human nature and I never expressed it to him because there was no point. anyway he brings this up today and since I had stopped thinking about it, it has raised questions in my mind like why would he be with only me. I popped off I knew why and proceeded to tell him he just hadn't found anyone interesting enough to sleep with and he said thats not true and proceeded to give me names and he's right he could of had them — so why.... and you know he's not telling me.... Does anyone have any aquarian knowledge for me?? He said don't read anything into it theres no hidden messages in it and dropped the subject and of course I haven't brought it back up he's an aqua never beat a subject to death. Next subject but still I am left confused because I cannot come up with a logical reason he would be with only me, were not in a relationship, he doens't show feelings for me, he's planning on moving ( which he has done several times and not went through with) and he can do what and who he wants without me saying anything because that's how I am I keep feelings like that to myself. I just don't know what to think any input would be appreciated, I guess I kind of do like him more than I want to admit.