Do aqua's lie just to avoid conflict?

Yesterday I called my aqua friend and invited him over and he said he would then he doesn't show up. This happens often. He'll say yes then won't follow through. I get the impression he doesn't like conflict so instead of just saying he doesn't want to or has something else to do, he'll agree only to leave me hanging. I know he's a work a holic so it could very well be that he got tied up at work, but if not will he ever be honest enough to tell me straight up that he doesn't want to see me?

Good luck. I have an Aqua friend that I previously dated and we are now very close friends. I can go weeks without talking to him and then he will call or text or I'll run into him somewhere and we will hang out a few days or so and then poof... gone again for a while. He ALWAYS says he's gonna do this or that and he will call me later, but seldom ever does. Aquas are notorious for being non-commital or just "flying by the seat of their pants" so to speak. I ALWAYS know that he is gonna most likely flake on me, so I never take it personally. It's just who he is, a part of his personality and I accept that about him. I dont necessarily think he intentionally LIES to me in order to avoid conflict, however I do think he most times avoids making a commitment just in case something else he would rather do comes along. I just think he is aloof and does whatever crosses his path without thinking too much into it. Kinda like if he is walking along a path toward a specific destination and he runs into an area that attracts his attention so he lingers off the path to check it out and just ends up distracted by the scenery. Most Aquas I know are very honest... brutally so sometimes, they just don't like to commit to things.

So, it's not just me....This Aqua guy in my life, who I know really likes me, has does this on occasion and seems to always have a good excuse or puts enough distance between us so that I forget about it when I see him next. He flaked on after telling me he was in love with me....? Does that mean he really didn't mean it, or was he simply processing his feelings?

oh my my aqua friend used to do that all the time lol in the end we had to say look we're not pushing you, you dont have to come if you dont want too.. lol but she doesnt now well not often anyway shes kinda weird if its just me and her she'll come but if i'm with other people (people she knows as well) she won't turn up or lie and say she will. idk. i think they do to avoid conflict and because they dont want too let people down but sometimes its just they can't be bothered so they'll lie.

Posted by donnapetunia
So, it's not just me....This Aqua guy in my life, who I know really likes me, has does this on occasion and seems to always have a good excuse or puts enough distance between us so that I forget about it when I see him next. He flaked on after telling me he was in love with me....? Does that mean he really didn't mean it, or was he simply processing his feelings?

could just be processing them... alot of people change there minds for no reason i guess something you said in the moment might change later on.. doesnt mean he doesnt though.. have you asked him about his behaviour?

I can't lie. I'm guilty of doing this to alot of my friends. One thing's for sure, you don't have to make any excuses for him (working alot, etc.) b/c the issue here is about him being respectful & true to his word. Whether or not he works 23 hours a day or 8 shouldn't matter when it comes down to how dependable a person is.

As an Aqua, alot of my friends tell me that I sometimes don't follow through. Idk, I can't explain it. It's often not even personal. It's almost like we have mood swings. When we're talking to you & setting up the plans, we might REALLY want to go. But hours later & when it's time to get ready, we'll just slip into another mood & not really be in the mood to go anywhere. And I can easily understand why this throws off people. I don't think Aquas do this to avoid conflict b/c if anything, Aquas are very blunt with their feelings & if we knew there'd never be a chance that we'd want to hang out or do certain things with others, we would simply tell them NO upfront. Do we hate conflict? Yes, but we don't necessarily avoid it. If anything, he might feel as though he's not tied or obligated to you, thus he won't feel bad for not holding up his end of the bargain, even though it wouldn't have hurt to just say he was no longer willing/wanting to come.

Plus, it could be an issue with this guy specifically & not necessarily b/c he's an Aqua. He may not be that into you. The best thing you can do in this situation with an Aqua is to take a stand & be upfront about how he makes you feel when he does this! If he really wants you, then he'll either stop doing this to you OR he'll just start saying NO upfront. THEN, you'll know what the problem really is with him & you.

Well since then I haven't heard from him. I've tried calling a few times but didn't get an answer. I don't want to run him off or anything, it just would have been nice if he would have been upfront with me. During our conversation I asked if he was certain that he wanted to come over and he said yeah. Maybe something did come up but my instincts are telling me otherwise.

Aquas just lie in general...not just to avoid conflict. They lie bc lying to them is like breathing.....Basically a solid way to know if an Aqua is lying is if their mouth is open.....If their mouth is open....They're lying 😉

Ah!!! Crazy monkey. I'm gonna have nightmares.

Monkeys give me the creeps.

I'd always been told that aqua's were pretty honest. Which is it?

Ok, well I stil havent heard from him and I invited him over on Tuesday. I take the hint, I take it he was just telling me what he thought I wanted to hear. I get the hint and I will give him 'space.'

Posted by adoringanaqua
Yesterday I called my aqua friend and invited him over and he said he would then he doesn't show up. This happens often. He'll say yes then won't follow through. I get the impression he doesn't like conflict so instead of just saying he doesn't want to or has something else to do, he'll agree only to leave me hanging. I know he's a work a holic so it could very well be that he got tied up at work, but if not will he ever be honest enough to tell me straight up that he doesn't want to see me?

Your just making the guy feel awkward by pursuing him, it's hugely uncomfortable for any man to be chased, wanna see a man's fight or flight instincts kick in, chase him and he will run fast and avoid you as much as possible, chasing is calling/text messaging/emailing him first (be patient let him do it first), asking him out first (be patient let him ask you out on a date instead), going to his house to make it easy for him to see you and to be blunt he's a guy, he doesn't know why you would ask him to come over so he's going to be suspicious of your motives, so instead of deal with what you want and need he's just going to avoid you altogether, and if you asked him once to come over and he never followed through that means he's not that into you not even as a friend, Why in the hell would you keep inviting him to come over after he's stood you up again and again? This guy probably thinks your so desperate and clingy he starts having panic attacks when you get in contact with him LOL

This is not just an aqua thing, it is guy thing period, it's also about a girl that doesn't understand how men are so you keep banging the dead horse. Lose his number, stop asking him out and ignore the crap out of him for a little while...a good heavy dose of apathy and indifference should turn it around.

Someone mentioned Aquas lie, I' don't care for lying, it's not my style , I do hear that the men lie all the time but as for me I can be flaky especially if I'm not in the mood to be social, I'm the type if I don't feel some kind of kindred connection I can take it or leave it when it comes to hanging with friends. I don't stand people up although when I was younger if I felt pressure from a guy that liked me more than I liked him I would walk 10 blocks away just to avoid him. I hate being chased by a person I don't have attraction for, I will tolerate it but I won't be pushed to reciprocate...if he's avoiding you he's not interested not in the way you want him to be and not enough to follow through with you.

Not to avoid conflict, me thinks. More like not interested at the moment.

Honey, what you need to do is to just leave him alone. Trust me, him as an Aqua AND man PERIOD, means that if and when he wants you, he will come to you. I think the issue here has more to do with him being unreliable moreso than it does him being an Aqua. Yes, Aquas generally do have a problem being consistent & this generally isn't even personal against the other person, even though it may seem so. BUT, it's no different than if this man always shows up 30 minutes late every time he actually DOES come through. Sure, you can call it an aqua thing all day long, but clearly the issue in that case would be that he doesn't respect something called time. Don't make excuses for him just b/c he's an Aqua b/c you'll find yourself losing this guy, and moreso b/c he can spot that you don't stand up for yourself. Trust me, even when Aquas do this, they are fully AWARE of the fact that they are doing it. And to be honest, most of the time we get away with it is b/c people are often so amazed at how bold we are b/c of how we continually pull the disappearing act, we in return get amazed by how many people never stand up to us about it. They simply approach the situation with passiveness as if they don't have a good reason to be a little upset & feel taken advantage of and/or pushed to the side.

You need to stop chasing this guy. Let him call you for once. Let him prove himself. Let him call YOU & volunteer to come over, & when he does so, make it clear that you're life & schedule doesn't revolve around him. Let him come to YOU. The answer to your problems isn't to just keep re-inviting him over when he didn't even show up the 1st time. Show him that you've got better things to do & that he doesn't deserve the right to be in your company OR even request to be in your company until he can show some respect. And when that happens, he'll either do 1 of 2 things. He'll either 1. Realize that you've caught on & that you're no-tolerance attitude is coming out, thus if he really likes you he'll get it together AND quick! Or 2. He'll keep on shrugging you off, not b/c he's an Aqua, but b/c he doesn't take what you both have going on (friendship/relationship, whatever) seriously. Either way, by simply TELLING (not asking) him that he's either going to respect you or not have you at all, he'll show his true colors quicker than you think.

I think he's just leading you on. Call it "lying" or whatever you want, but alot of men do this to women when they are not completely serious about them. It shouldn't matter whether or not this guy is the dang on President. The fact is, he keeps disrespecting you. And even though we Aquas often do this to our friends, that doesn't make it right, just b/c it's a habit of ours. Believe it or not, we don't do this to the friends of ours that put a stop to this & get us straight. We only do this to the people who might complain under their breath but yet not really do anything about it. The fact that you keep re-asking him to come over & keep inviting him over lets him know that he can walk all over you. Trust me, He IS aware that his lips/mouth are telling you yes, when his mind/heart is saying no. So, don't make excuses for him. If he's going to keep standing you up, then you need to let this guy go. And if anything, if you've already confronted him about this & yet he CONTINUES to do this, then you need to see this as an issue of respect for one another moreso than him just being an Aqua & shrugging it off like it's okay just b/c of his Zodiac sign.

He's not answering his phone b/c he doesn't want to talk to you. It may be personal. It might not be. Either way, to keep calling him just makes it worse. What people don't understand is that when an Aqua has made the DECISION to ignore or stand up someone, our decision is final & when another person tries to FORCE us to do anything we didn't put our minds to, it gets even worse & it FURTHER makes us ignore that person even more. So if you want him to pay you some attention, back off. Sounds backwards, but isn't everything when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex?

Its not a bad thing its just aquas like to make decisions in the not plan stuff out. I do this quiet often to friends who like to plan. I usually plan 5 hours ahead usually no farther when it comes to leisure activities.

aquas don,t lie generally, i in fact rarely,. no need to. it does'nt gain anything whatsoever in my book. certainly i would,nt lie to avoid conflict, i would quite simply explain myself. should the other person or persons not like the truth not much more i can do, sorry i'll make it up to you later

i hope ya'll see the irony in this, you came to an aqaurius thread looking for them to tell the truth


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