Do you think this aqua is dev deeper feelings

I have known her since sept. Long story short she has been hot and cold all along. The other day while she was at work she texted me that she got asked out. I played it cool. You going to date him? And shes like I guess I'll play the field. Do you want me too? I said I prefer that you don't and if you are you and I aren't going to mess around anymore. Shes like good just making sure my boyfriend is on the same page. She has clearly known my feelings for a month now.. I said boyfriend? Shes like Oh I won't call you that then. I told her I like it.
I also told her she has a wall up. She agreed and said be patient with me. I haven't had feelings like this in a long time. ... This is the second time she opened up. The first was about a month ago she said she was falling for me... Since she has been hot and cold.. Ignoring for awhile to being all into me .. Do you think she does have feelings for me? It has been a roller coaster already... To messing around.. to just friends to know I don't want to be just friends... to being all into me.. to being cold.. to into me.. then cold.. They surprised I heard she called me boyfriend. What do you other aquas think?

Oh this is typical Aqua behavior and it seems to be good or in your favor. But the other aquas will explain it you much better then I can.

Good luck. And pay attention to the advice given you will use it.

Thanks for your reply.. Yeah today she is kind of grumpy. Guess I woke her up while she was sleeping.. I called her twice... we doing training together at the gym. She told me she was going in the am... And so i called her. Mine was around noon.She didn't go this morning and ended up sleeping.. I'm going to give her time...

I have opened up.. She knows how i feel..

Posted by jade72980
I have known her since sept. Long story short she has been hot and cold all along. The other day while she was at work she texted me that she got asked out. I played it cool. You going to date him? And shes like I guess I'll play the field. Do you want me too? I said I prefer that you don't and if you are you and I aren't going to mess around anymore. Shes like good just making sure my boyfriend is on the same page. She has clearly known my feelings for a month now.. I said boyfriend? Shes like Oh I won't call you that then. I told her I like it.
I also told her she has a wall up. She agreed and said be patient with me. I haven't had feelings like this in a long time. ... This is the second time she opened up. The first was about a month ago she said she was falling for me... Since she has been hot and cold.. Ignoring for awhile to being all into me .. Do you think she does have feelings for me? It has been a roller coaster already... To messing around.. to just friends to know I don't want to be just friends... to being all into me.. to being cold.. to into me.. then cold.. They surprised I heard she called me boyfriend. What do you other aquas think?

teach her a lesson for being so hot and cold. dump her and get a new girl, make sure she's hotter and smarter. let's see how much crying she's gonna be doing after that if she really loves you.

Posted by jade72980
I have known her since sept. Long story short she has been hot and cold all along. The other day while she was at work she texted me that she got asked out. I played it cool. You going to date him? And shes like I guess I'll play the field. Do you want me too? I said I prefer that you don't and if you are you and I aren't going to mess around anymore. Shes like good just making sure my boyfriend is on the same page. She has clearly known my feelings for a month now.. I said boyfriend? Shes like Oh I won't call you that then. I told her I like it.
I also told her she has a wall up. She agreed and said be patient with me. I haven't had feelings like this in a long time. ... This is the second time she opened up. The first was about a month ago she said she was falling for me... Since she has been hot and cold.. Ignoring for awhile to being all into me .. Do you think she does have feelings for me? It has been a roller coaster already... To messing around.. to just friends to know I don't want to be just friends... to being all into me.. to being cold.. to into me.. then cold.. They surprised I heard she called me boyfriend. What do you other aquas think?

I think she is really into you!!! 🙂 Especially since she called you her boyfriend... it sounds like she is waiting for you to be forward about starting a relationship up, otherwise she wouldnt have given you those signals!

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Posted by jade72980
I have known her since sept. Long story short she has been hot and cold all along. The other day while she was at work she texted me that she got asked out. I played it cool. You going to date him? And shes like I guess I'll play the field. Do you want me too? I said I prefer that you don't and if you are you and I aren't going to mess around anymore. Shes like good just making sure my boyfriend is on the same page. She has clearly known my feelings for a month now.. I said boyfriend? Shes like Oh I won't call you that then. I told her I like it.
I also told her she has a wall up. She agreed and said be patient with me. I haven't had feelings like this in a long time. ... This is the second time she opened up. The first was about a month ago she said she was falling for me... Since she has been hot and cold.. Ignoring for awhile to being all into me .. Do you think she does have feelings for me? It has been a roller coaster already... To messing around.. to just friends to know I don't want to be just friends... to being all into me.. to being cold.. to into me.. then cold.. They surprised I heard she called me boyfriend. What do you other aquas think?

I think she is really into you!!! 🙂 Especially since she called you her boyfriend... it sounds like she is waiting for you to be forward about starting a relationship up, otherwise she wouldnt have given you those signals!

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I agree with this from a female perspective. She's telling you she wants a relationship and doesn't want to see anyone else.

she's playing way too many games.

and torturing the hell out of you. You NEED to teach her a lesson indeed. Bring that bitch down.

Make her cry and weep for playing terrible games.

i just don't like men being tortured like that. She needs to be STRAIGHT with you. Tell you how she feels. That she doesn't want you with NO ONE ELSE. Or there's gonna be hell to pay. But instead the woman plays, torturing your soul.

I had an amazing dinner with her thursday night and we were also intimate. We had a great night! She asked what i was doing Friday and shes like im sure ill see you. Have a good night. Friday comes along and i texted her good morning, how amazing she is, and asked if she still wanted to hang out. She ignores me all day. I called her a butt for ignoring me.. Quite frankly and I pissed and I never get mad.. Just don't appreciate being ignored..

I just don't get how she can be all sweet and loving and then next minute cold. If i meant that much to her she wouldn't be ignoring me. Heck she called me her boyfriend... Lisabethur8 maybe you are right. Some people say she is into me, maybe she isn't.. She is 43. I am in my mid thirties. I am a Leo if that helps.

Thanks again for all your comments . Right now I am confused once again by her cold and ignoring actions...

She is going to lose me if she keeps this up.

@jade,

she's an older woman and still hasn't settle down? perhaps she was married/with someone long term and /or divorced? Maybe she's "jaded" just like your username suggests?

well, my suggestion? if you want anything serious, i dont feel she's the one for you. if it's just sex, you may just be her "sex toy"

Like how Madonna has sexy boy toys. Or the "older woman" has boy toys kind of thing. I dunno, just throwing that out there.

Thanks so much for your thoughts. Appreciate it. I may be just her sex toy. She usually gets cold after sex... She was married went through a divorce.

ok first off. Lisa why would you even suggest a game like that to someone? Seriously? another woman? That's just shady and a huge game. You read from his posting that she is playing games? I see an Aqua having a hard time dealing with her emotions, and perhaps, just perhaps she is afraid to fall too hard...Sorry I hate games and think it's pretty shitty to suggest that to anyone. We all know that will cause her to bolt, never look back and to never trust him again.

This is the same Aqua that was your boss before Jade? I know you went to another job.. how long has this been on between you two? She called you her boyfriend.. that's how she feels. do not let others influence the truth- ask her point blank if she wants to be in a committed relationship, just you and her. This is usually something you want to ask before sex gets involved, if you are seeking more than a FWB, btw. Age may be a factor, but I doubt it.. Again, you need to talk to her directly. She is most likely aware of her hot/cold but may not know how to do anything differently. She may not be aware that she does it.. sometimes we can have triggers from things and not even be aware of it.

Hope some of that helped.

"I also told her she has a wall up. She agreed and said be patient with me. I haven't had feelings like this in a long time. ... This is the second time she opened up. The first was about a month ago she said she was falling for me... Since she has been hot and cold.. Ignoring for awhile to being all into me. "

Again, she is telling you she has feelings, she is falling for you, she is having a hard time processing it but to give her time...

Posted by miha
maybe you've just solved your puzzle: you are 33 while she is 43...do you think she doesn't know that? it's in her mind. she's 10 years older....this is what makes her be hesitant...and most probably she'll leave because she feels it wrong...

i may be wrong...but...i don't think i am

I agree
I'm 33 and I was dating guy who was 24 years old, it doesn't feel right....for me.
I liked him but .... no, I couldn't

@justagirl, i suggested he DUMP her first, then he find someone prettier AND smarter. Emphasis on the smarter.

(shrug) just mirroring what he's feeling from her. All that hot and cold bullshit is lame. I hate that crap! So if i'm gonna put myself in his shoes, although i'm a female and heterosexual and married, i'm gonna try and put myself in his shoes, try to see it from his perspective...

and when he says that she's doing all this crap and go "Teehee, i'm thinking about gonna go dating with someone else, do you like that?" as if he is a dumbass not to see through that bullshit.

maybe you don't have male cousins, brothers, uncles, or sons, or those you love that are male and if they are up against women like this. Of course it's gonna irk me.

bullshit about dealing with emotions. She knows exactly what she's doing and she's NO teenager. If she were a teenager, and or/ someone in her 20s who has never dated in her entire life....i could see it happening. but would need more detail. stop trying to placate and pacify some of these older women who are cougaring some of these younger men.

am i being too much of a hard ass? O_O

well, better to be a sweet ass in this case.

Justagirl. This is the same aqua. she has opened up slowly... We had amazing sex on Thursday. I can tell in her eyes that she has feelings for me.. We were even laying in bed together watching the news and she would catch me looking at her. And I said you can't even look at me and she giggled. I know she has feelings.. That look in the eyes don't lie.

I am really trying to be patient. I still haven't heard from her since Thursday. I do think she got scared and vulnerable bc I felt how strong her feelings were. I am hoping she comes back again. She has before.. I told her ill give her some time but also that i am here for her. that i would be patient.

I really hope this works out. I feel strongly for her and just don't want to give up. She is an amazing aqua. Funny, intelligent, bold, tough but with a soft inside, kind to animals, and spontaneous. Thank you for everyone who gave me advice. It means so much.

Thanks again everyone🙂 Still no word.. I am giving her time to process things.. Like I said, Last thing I said was that I am here for her and her kid. That I promise to be patient and I feel as if she needs a little space and time. I told her you know where I am. I care for both you and your daughter deeply.

We shall see. I have a feeling she will come around. ... Hope I'm not wrong. Just don't like it when she ignores me.. Kind of stings a bit. Deep down I know she has feelings. Every time we get close, she pulls back some. I back off and then she comes around... I just hope this will eventually stop.

I do care for her a heck of a lot and her daughter too.

I am giving her some space. She is the mood when I contact her, she ignores. She gets like this. So I just give her a little space to let her do her aqua things.

Its the Aqua touch! when they're hot.. they're HOT! When they're cold.. they're ICE cold..

thats the frustracting part.

That's exactly it! When's shes hot boy does she surprise me. Called me her boyfriend. All warm and loving... And then cold. .Won't return my texts , so I decided to let her come to me.. I know she will. It's her pattern.

I do know that aquas mean what they say. So if she is saying please be patient with me, I haven't felt this way in a long time. I know she means it. She has a huge wall up.

I am a Leo.. Always warm. I am trying to just understand her. I care about her tremendously.

Lisabeth you were right the whole time. She played the friend card once before. I heard from her last night. She said its best that we are friends and that she needs to back up a bit. Just last week she called me her boyfriend and that she hasn't felt this way in years..
I am beyond hurt. Thanks for all your help!

Posted by jade72980
Lisabeth you were right the whole time. She played the friend card once before. I heard from her last night. She said its best that we are friends and that she needs to back up a bit. Just last week she called me her boyfriend and that she hasn't felt this way in years..
I am beyond hurt. Thanks for all your help!

well sorry to hear that.
at least you were brave and daring to go into this, knowing her hot and cold ways. good luck in the future.

Thank you ! I was very brave. Put my heart out there!

Posted by jade72980
That's exactly it! When's shes hot boy does she surprise me. Called me her boyfriend. All warm and loving... And then cold. .Won't return my texts , so I decided to let her come to me.. I know she will. It's her pattern.

I do know that aquas mean what they say. So if she is saying please be patient with me, I haven't felt this way in a long time. I know she means it. She has a huge wall up.

I am a Leo.. Always warm. I am trying to just understand her. I care about her tremendously.

Oh yeah the advice that i got was the same. She is into you and has made that clear. but yeh being patient is what you need to be.. Its gna be tuff but worth it for you x

Posted by jade72980
Thank you ! I was very brave. Put my heart out there!

you're welcome.
🙂 tis okay, i love courageousness. You'll be fine. You learned hopefully from this. don't give up on love!! persistence and courage! ^_^

Posted by jade72980
Thank you ! I was very brave. Put my heart out there!

Every time I took a risk with my aqua guy and put my heart out there, I've gotten good, positive and receptive results. It's scary to be vulnerable, but can be worth it.

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Posted by jade72980
Thank you ! I was very brave. Put my heart out there!

people call us unemotional, aloof...and we say it is not true. and believe us it is not true. we do love, we do care as anybody else...with our hearts....just we make decisions with our heads....
there were people on here who told you that age made her feel it was not right for her. she made her decision...with her head, not her heart....and it stays like that...
at least you know she cared about you, and oh, boy, she did...but she simply needs things which are right for her[given the age, maturity level, responsabilities], not exciting...
if you understand her reasoning, you'll respect her more than a woman who'd have thrown herself to you and been proud that she's landed a younger man...
i respect and understand her a lot...
good luck to you

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— you're saying she made a decision in her "head" because he's a younger man?? if she loved him and felt a connection with him, she wouldnt care if he were younger or older.

plus she was playing games. If a guy played games with you like that you'd take it up the ying yang?

She did let's be friends thing in January.. do you think that she will come back like she always has? Do you guys think its over?

I know she has feelings for me and that's what's killing me....

I am just so hurt

I was out a bar and do you know what? I felt her presence. I just had a feeling she was going to be there.. Not her normal hang out but just a gut feeling. Sure enough... She came...
She was with a group of her friends, ignored me, was cold, etc...
One of her friends who knows of me,, kept saying things like hey there is that hot guy you like to her he just stepped out the door, and kept asking and yelling who is jade? 5-7 times..... i thought it was rude and honestly i asked her friend to stop..

Very hard to be there while they were there.

She knew I was angry. and I left..

She immediately texted me after I left . And said hey I totally wanted to pull you in the bathroom tonight at the bar. Did you make it home ok? love...
then got the sad face...
My phones battery was almost dead so I didn't respond until later..

Today, she told me about her divorce.. its almost over... she worries about her kid. Thats her main focus..Also said i was mean to her friend.. I felt mocked at the bar.. I had a friend with me so it just wasn't me noticing what her friend was doing.

I told her to stop being hot and cold. And don't flirt if u just want to be friends. If you like me , then say so. If not we can be friends. Also said that i am here for her and her kid. That i would be a friend. The kid is taking the divorce hard.

She didn't respond. I'm leaving this at that..

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Posted by mindofaquarius
she sounds really immature - hot nd cold ok stupid behavior but common, but calling you her bf and still telling you she got asked out and what u think about it ? sounds kinda stupid and ego stroking to me

+1

I hate this kind of behavior. Leading someone to believe one thing, playing mind games with them, using them while figuring out what you want. So disrespectful and selfish. I've had this happen to me more than once with Aquas. She's old enough to know how to treat people. This isn't the way.

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don't just pin it on aquas, just because they did that to you. other signs do it too, it's just immaturity and playing games.

but yes i agree with you.

Well, she may not be ready for a relationship. She needs to get this divorce over and done with (unless it's drug on for a long time or there are circumstances where she might be ready for a relationship). And, she has to consider the kid. It will be a while before the kid will be ready to accept thier mom in a new relationship.

She may really like you, but she's got lots to consider....don't put any pressure on her.

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Posted by mindofaquarius
she sounds really immature - hot nd cold ok stupid behavior but common, but calling you her bf and still telling you she got asked out and what u think about it ? sounds kinda stupid and ego stroking to me

+1
I hate this kind of behavior. Leading someone to believe one thing, playing mind games with them, using them while figuring out what you want. So disrespectful and selfish. I've had this happen to me more than once with Aquas. She's old enough to know how to treat people. This isn't the way.

don't just pin it on aquas, just because they did that to you. other signs do it too, it's just immaturity and playing games.
but yes i agree with you.

I never said that only Aquas do this. I simply stated that I've had this done to me by more than one aqua. That's a fact. The rest is you putting words in my mouth.

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then you should re-word or re-read your words. Because from what i got from it, you were NOT being fair. For being a "fair" sign you're not being fair at all. Because of the fact that it happened to you by aquas. When your board and sign probably has its fair share of hot and cold bullshit. AND any other sign. and you ignored the fact that i agreed with you.

Posted by feby16aqua
When anyone treats you like that it means that they are not into you. We ignore the signs because we want to believe what we want to believe. It's the truth.

+100000000

so true.

people IGNORE all the signs because they want so badly.....

I am going through the same thing. He is 42 and I am 33..must be the age thing.

Yes I care for him very much and yes I have learned to let him lead..but I am lucky if I get texts one day a week. We have been together almost a year... and it pretty much has been that way even when we first met.

He did the same...asked me to be his girlfriend...now its well I like you. Then he make subtle hints toward the future. I saw him last weekend we had amazing conversation as always and he clearly didn't want me to leave. Now it will be a week tomorrow since I have heard from him..I understand what you are going through.

My concern is...if we do work out...what type of relationship can I have with someone who wants to text once a week!?!?!

Thanks everyone for your help...

Here she is again. I told her i needed time bc it was too hard.. Said I couldn't be around her right now but doesn't mean i won't be in her life one day.
The very next day she is like I can't let you go..
Just let's go slow.. Slow as in friends first with making out..

What is up with this aqua? games?

Posted by Gobshite
Dunno. They're more into kinky sex than love.

lol 😈

She has a whole mess of crap going on. We do this hot and cold crap when we are teenagers. She sounds immature. Also she is going through a divorce, she has a child, so basically her family is crumbling. She is not ready for a relationship.

Posted by feby16aqua
When anyone treats you like that it means that they are not into you. We ignore the signs because we want to believe what we want to believe. It's the truth.

I agree...

I hate to break it to you my friend..but I don't think she is really into you or ready to start something with you.

I know that for me I mainly play the cold game when someone has hurt me and I need to come around.
It sounds like you have done nothing but be by her side, treat her right and also give her space which is much needed.

You need to not let her play you..it sounds like her divorce and previous life before is sill hanging in her mind thus making her go back and forth with you.

When an Aquarius really likes you..they don't back out on dates and ignore calls unless there is some emergency or circumstance. Aquarius likes being admired and loved.

When an Aquarius says" yea i'l see you later", but not really into you, they only said that to get you out their face..

If you are looking for something serious you should move on because It sounds like she is just killing time with you or jut testing the waters....I love my Aquarius ladies...but don't let her play you.

good luck my friend!!!

In the past I vented to a friend about our relationship. It was a mutual friend. I vented to her when she got cold. I have met tons of her friends, I have been hanging out with her buddies. She is worried I will share her business now. She got mad at me. I told her i was sorry and that I havent' done it again. She is worried about it leaking out.. Heck she is still going through a divorce and this aqua is verryyy private. So she got mad and said Im just being honest.

I told her I need time and that I will have to back away from her. that its too hard on me.. She ignored that..

The next day. she is like I can't let you go.. let's go slow though. as in friends first with kissing..

She prob is playing games..

I am leaving her be.

Yes..now she wants slow..not only that she wants u to be her little secret too...worried what her friends will say..lol u say that now..but u will be thinking of her..

If you want any chance with her stand on your two feet....like u said tell her u need space..if she ever calls be her friend noithing more..try to contain your self..show her u are not confused like her..u are a man that wants to love her..she wants to be friend..fine but no kissing..lol..she wants the cake and eat it too..lol...she will appreciate u backing off a bit...she will come to her senses soon enough..good luck 🙂