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There's nothing calm about blocking someone instead of talking it out. It's the equivalent of putting your fingers in your ears and go "lalalalalalalalalala!"

I didn't block him. The conversation ended and at that moment I just decided it's best for me to end it by deleting him. After I calmed down I guess I could've gone about it another way. But he is always used to me just being calm and cool about everything. And this time he really went to far, and I really need to set boundaries. Maybe not the best way to make my point clear. But he is very stubborn and never wants to acknowledge he is wrong.

What's he been doing that he won't admit?

2 weeks ago we were together and I asked him a personal question. He answered en reassured me that he was telling the truth and all of that. Then i found out he lied. He always lies about the most dumb stuff I just don't get it. So usually we don't speak for like max. a week and then we just act like nothing happened and continue. But this time the way he looked me in my eyes and reassured me and still lied.. that really pissed me off.

He will never admit that 😄

If he lie to you it means that he is “scared” of you reaction if he tells you the truth. Make it easier for him not to need to lie to you and everything will be fine.

Scared? He knows i get angry when he doesnt tell me the truth. I cant stand liars...

We’ve already deleted eachother so what now 😅

Scared of telling you the truth.

Aquarius don’t like confrontation, and they only lie when they feel the truth is not welcome.

You cannot change him, but you can change yourself to make it easier for him never to have to lie to you again. Don’t try to control an Aquarius. It never works. He has to do it himself.

Now you are in trouble because they are fixed. He is probably waiting for you to calm down

Okay. Yes but so you’re not allowed to set boundaries? Like everything has to be on his terms?

And I’ve calmed down but I really think if I contact him he will never respect me

Ofc you can. It should be mutual.

But deleting doesn’t help because you are braking the breach to talking.

If I was you I will unblock him and hope that he contact you. When he does you talk and put your boundaries in a mature and calm way. Then you will have a chance that he listens to you and change because he wants to do it for you. You can’t force it from him

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So last week I got into an argument with my aqua guy. I must say i was very calm and collected and told him we're done and deleted his number and him on social media. He didn't say anything and couple days after he also deleted and unfollowed me. But I'm not blocked anywhere. Only I forgot I have him on facebook because we just recently added eachother and I had just posted a video of myself but he watched it and didnt delete me of facebook.

I usually don't do the whole deleting thing, but he doesn't want to take any responsibility whatsoever. He can never admit he is wrong in any kind of shape or form.

He'd rather lose me than admit he is wrong.

So i'm wondering why didnt he delete me of facebook? Will he ever take responsibility?

You're a gemini. You didn't forget he was on Facebook. You did it on purpose. Stop the tricks lol

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There's nothing calm about blocking someone instead of talking it out. It's the equivalent of putting your fingers in your ears and go "lalalalalalalalalala!"

I didn't block him. The conversation ended and at that moment I just decided it's best for me to end it by deleting him. After I calmed down I guess I could've gone about it another way. But he is always used to me just being calm and cool about everything. And this time he really went to far, and I really need to set boundaries. Maybe not the best way to make my point clear. But he is very stubborn and never wants to acknowledge he is wrong.

What's he been doing that he won't admit?

2 weeks ago we were together and I asked him a personal question. He answered en reassured me that he was telling the truth and all of that. Then i found out he lied. He always lies about the most dumb stuff I just don't get it. So usually we don't speak for like max. a week and then we just act like nothing happened and continue. But this time the way he looked me in my eyes and reassured me and still lied.. that really pissed me off.

He will never admit that 😄

If he lie to you it means that he is “scared” of you reaction if he tells you the truth. Make it easier for him not to need to lie to you and everything will be fine.

Scared? He knows i get angry when he doesnt tell me the truth. I cant stand liars...

We’ve already deleted eachother so what now 😅

Scared of telling you the truth.

Aquarius don’t like confrontation, and they only lie when they feel the truth is not welcome.

You cannot change him, but you can change yourself to make it easier for him never to have to lie to you again. Don’t try to control an Aquarius. It never works. He has to do it himself.

Now you are in trouble because they are fixed. He is probably waiting for you to calm down

Okay. Yes but so you’re not allowed to set boundaries? Like everything has to be on his terms?

And I’ve calmed down but I really think if I contact him he will never respect me

Ofc you can. It should be mutual.

But deleting doesn’t help because you are braking the breach to talking.

If I was you I will unblock him and hope that he contact you. When he does you talk and put your boundaries in a mature and calm way. Then you will have a chance that he listens to you and change because he wants to do it for you. You can’t force it from him

Do you think he will contact me? And how long should I wait? Been thinking about what you all said and maybe if everything has cooled down I contact him to ask if we can talk?

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I think your confused about the series of events.

You told him you were done with the relationship. He respected what you wanted.

Hes moved on with his life and started dating again.

Now he wants to make amends with you.

He apologized. That's it. Nothing more, nothing less. Did he mention getting back together? Did he ask to be friends?

Get back in your life...define that. You assumed romantically.

It ended because you asked for it to end.

Move on and find someone who isnt a liar.

Yes, he did say he wants to get back together that's why I'm confused. And that he doesnt want to loose me because i'm the one that really understands him and what not. He said he doesnt want to stay friends he wants more than that so I'm confused as to how u could just find someone within a week. He was very sweet and attentive when we met and he said that he had really missed me and felt I really deserved the apology and thats why he contacted me. We also ended up sleeping together. So his behaviour now is really confusing. We had a fall out I apologized he first ignored my apology but then still accepted it since then we havent spoken. I'm keeping my distance, but he is still talking to that girl.

I also asked him about the girl but he said it wasnt a date. He just wanted to go the movies etc. And i asked him if he liked her and he said no so i dont get it.

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You are not together. He is keeping his options open.

What did you tell him in your last date when he said that he wanted you to be more than friends?Did you tell him that you wanted to be his girlfriend too?

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There's nothing calm about blocking someone instead of talking it out. It's the equivalent of putting your fingers in your ears and go "lalalalalalalalalala!"

I didn't block him. The conversation ended and at that moment I just decided it's best for me to end it by deleting him. After I calmed down I guess I could've gone about it another way. But he is always used to me just being calm and cool about everything. And this time he really went to far, and I really need to set boundaries. Maybe not the best way to make my point clear. But he is very stubborn and never wants to acknowledge he is wrong.

What's he been doing that he won't admit?

2 weeks ago we were together and I asked him a personal question. He answered en reassured me that he was telling the truth and all of that. Then i found out he lied. He always lies about the most dumb stuff I just don't get it. So usually we don't speak for like max. a week and then we just act like nothing happened and continue. But this time the way he looked me in my eyes and reassured me and still lied.. that really pissed me off.

He will never admit that 😄

If he lie to you it means that he is “scared” of you reaction if he tells you the truth. Make it easier for him not to need to lie to you and everything will be fine.

Scared? He knows i get angry when he doesnt tell me the truth. I cant stand liars...

We’ve already deleted eachother so what now 😅

Scared of telling you the truth.

Aquarius don’t like confrontation, and they only lie when they feel the truth is not welcome.

You cannot change him, but you can change yourself to make it easier for him never to have to lie to you again. Don’t try to control an Aquarius. It never works. He has to do it himself.

Now you are in trouble because they are fixed. He is probably waiting for you to calm down

Okay. Yes but so you’re not allowed to set boundaries? Like everything has to be on his terms?

And I’ve calmed down but I really think if I contact him he will never respect me

Ofc you can. It should be mutual.

But deleting doesn’t help because you are braking the breach to talking.

If I was you I will unblock him and hope that he contact you. When he does you talk and put your boundaries in a mature and calm way. Then you will have a chance that he listens to you and change because he wants to do it for you. You can’t force it from him

Do you think he will contact me? And how long should I wait? Been thinking about what you all said and maybe if everything has cooled down I contact him to ask if we can talk?

No, I don't think he will contact you. When someone breaks up with me, it is a break up and I don't look to contact the person to make up or whatever. I move on.

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You are not together. He is keeping his options open.

What did you tell him in your last date when he said that he wanted you to be more than friends?Did you tell him that you wanted to be his girlfriend too?

Nope. I did not. Because I know he is talking to other girls. I did tell him at our last date for the (first time) that I like him more than FWB. And he said okay we will see how it goes( as im going through some personal stuff) and after that personal stuff he said we will see how we will continue.

We aren't speaking atm. Because we had a fall out. I apologized for it, he ignored it. After that i apologized again he did reply but it was really cold and distant. I know he is now talking to the other girl.

Also when I'm keeping my options open and dating other guys he gets angry? But like really mad. So I was like a bit shocked and said maybe we should just be friends and he doesn't want that either. He is so confusing one day he will say he wants to stay FWB, then another day he will say he wants to be with me but has a hard time trusting me and then another day he will say we are not in a relationship so he can do what he wants etc.. but when I do it all hell breaks loose.

I'm so confused and hurt. so I'm just keeping my distance for now....

What is confusing? He likes you. He told you. That is why he doesn’t want you to be with other guys. You cannot be his girlfriend because of personal issues. And he doesn’t trust that you are serious. Until then he will keep his options open

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You are not together. He is keeping his options open.

What did you tell him in your last date when he said that he wanted you to be more than friends?Did you tell him that you wanted to be his girlfriend too?

Nope. I did not. Because I know he is talking to other girls. I did tell him at our last date for the (first time) that I like him more than FWB. And he said okay we will see how it goes( as im going through some personal stuff) and after that personal stuff he said we will see how we will continue.

We aren't speaking atm. Because we had a fall out. I apologized for it, he ignored it. After that i apologized again he did reply but it was really cold and distant. I know he is now talking to the other girl.

Also when I'm keeping my options open and dating other guys he gets angry? But like really mad. So I was like a bit shocked and said maybe we should just be friends and he doesn't want that either. He is so confusing one day he will say he wants to stay FWB, then another day he will say he wants to be with me but has a hard time trusting me and then another day he will say we are not in a relationship so he can do what he wants etc.. but when I do it all hell breaks loose.

I'm so confused and hurt. so I'm just keeping my distance for now....

What is confusing? He likes you. He told you. That is why he doesn’t want you to be with other guys. You cannot be his girlfriend because of personal issues. And he doesn’t trust that you are serious. Until then he will keep his options open

So because I'm going through personal issues that is an excuse for you to keep your options open. But when I do it? there is a problem. I dont get it? He likes me but doesnt even bother to ask me how I'm doing or how I've been? Nope. How can you expect someone to be loyal to you ( what I've been) but he doesnt even believe it. But you're not loyal yourself?

If he really likes me, why isn't he just straight about it or tell me I dont like you dating other guys.

Do u know what I think? He is just juggling different girls at the same time.

How does he expect me to be serious, if he is not giving me anything to be serious about? He is always 'keeping his options open'

We arent speaking anymore. And I see now all of a sudden he is totally invested in that girl atm. So it is what it is.

You expect him to wait for you when he doesn’t trust you and you don’t want to be with him?

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You are not together. He is keeping his options open.

What did you tell him in your last date when he said that he wanted you to be more than friends?Did you tell him that you wanted to be his girlfriend too?

Nope. I did not. Because I know he is talking to other girls. I did tell him at our last date for the (first time) that I like him more than FWB. And he said okay we will see how it goes( as im going through some personal stuff) and after that personal stuff he said we will see how we will continue.

We aren't speaking atm. Because we had a fall out. I apologized for it, he ignored it. After that i apologized again he did reply but it was really cold and distant. I know he is now talking to the other girl.

Also when I'm keeping my options open and dating other guys he gets angry? But like really mad. So I was like a bit shocked and said maybe we should just be friends and he doesn't want that either. He is so confusing one day he will say he wants to stay FWB, then another day he will say he wants to be with me but has a hard time trusting me and then another day he will say we are not in a relationship so he can do what he wants etc.. but when I do it all hell breaks loose.

I'm so confused and hurt. so I'm just keeping my distance for now....

What is confusing? He likes you. He told you. That is why he doesn’t want you to be with other guys. You cannot be his girlfriend because of personal issues. And he doesn’t trust that you are serious. Until then he will keep his options open

So because I'm going through personal issues that is an excuse for you to keep your options open. But when I do it? there is a problem. I dont get it? He likes me but doesnt even bother to ask me how I'm doing or how I've been? Nope. How can you expect someone to be loyal to you ( what I've been) but he doesnt even believe it. But you're not loyal yourself?

If he really likes me, why isn't he just straight about it or tell me I dont like you dating other guys.

Do u know what I think? He is just juggling different girls at the same time.

How does he expect me to be serious, if he is not giving me anything to be serious about? He is always 'keeping his options open'

We arent speaking anymore. And I see now all of a sudden he is totally invested in that girl atm. So it is what it is.

You expect him to wait for you when he doesn’t trust you and you don’t want to be with him?

No, offcourse not. I do want to be with him. But without trust how can we be? I can’t make someone trust me if he just doesn’t? I’ve always been loyal and never been with another guy since him. I’ve told him this multiple times. But still no, like so now its like I have to prove my worth to him?

But now he is acting real sneaky, deleting our convo’s and that sort of stuff. So i guess he is serious with that girl

I am trying to show you how he thinks. Not trying to be harsh.

Right now you can’t be with him. Time will tell. You were not even together. That girl is probably giving him what you cannot.

Sorry you are having a hard time with it.

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You are not together. He is keeping his options open.

What did you tell him in your last date when he said that he wanted you to be more than friends?Did you tell him that you wanted to be his girlfriend too?

Nope. I did not. Because I know he is talking to other girls. I did tell him at our last date for the (first time) that I like him more than FWB. And he said okay we will see how it goes( as im going through some personal stuff) and after that personal stuff he said we will see how we will continue.

We aren't speaking atm. Because we had a fall out. I apologized for it, he ignored it. After that i apologized again he did reply but it was really cold and distant. I know he is now talking to the other girl.

Also when I'm keeping my options open and dating other guys he gets angry? But like really mad. So I was like a bit shocked and said maybe we should just be friends and he doesn't want that either. He is so confusing one day he will say he wants to stay FWB, then another day he will say he wants to be with me but has a hard time trusting me and then another day he will say we are not in a relationship so he can do what he wants etc.. but when I do it all hell breaks loose.

I'm so confused and hurt. so I'm just keeping my distance for now....

What is confusing? He likes you. He told you. That is why he doesn’t want you to be with other guys. You cannot be his girlfriend because of personal issues. And he doesn’t trust that you are serious. Until then he will keep his options open

So because I'm going through personal issues that is an excuse for you to keep your options open. But when I do it? there is a problem. I dont get it? He likes me but doesnt even bother to ask me how I'm doing or how I've been? Nope. How can you expect someone to be loyal to you ( what I've been) but he doesnt even believe it. But you're not loyal yourself?

If he really likes me, why isn't he just straight about it or tell me I dont like you dating other guys.

Do u know what I think? He is just juggling different girls at the same time.

How does he expect me to be serious, if he is not giving me anything to be serious about? He is always 'keeping his options open'

We arent speaking anymore. And I see now all of a sudden he is totally invested in that girl atm. So it is what it is.

You expect him to wait for you when he doesn’t trust you and you don’t want to be with him?

No, offcourse not. I do want to be with him. But without trust how can we be? I can’t make someone trust me if he just doesn’t? I’ve always been loyal and never been with another guy since him. I’ve told him this multiple times. But still no, like so now its like I have to prove my worth to him?

But now he is acting real sneaky, deleting our convo’s and that sort of stuff. So i guess he is serious with that girl

I am trying to show you how he thinks. Not trying to be harsh.

Right now you can’t be with him. Time will tell. You were not even together. That girl is probably giving him what you cannot.

Sorry you are having a hard time with it.

Thanks. I needed to hear that. I wasnt trying to be rude or anything. But I get it. I'm just hurt and having a real hard time with this. But time will pass and I will heal. So you suggest me leaving him alone? Its not like we are speaking but still

If he is with the other girl is not much you can do right now. Just concentrate in yourself and your personal issues and when you are 100% you can be with him then talk to him. If he wants you like he said, then he will live any girl for you if he knows for sure that you want to be serious with him.

Take care 😘

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You are not together. He is keeping his options open.

What did you tell him in your last date when he said that he wanted you to be more than friends?Did you tell him that you wanted to be his girlfriend too?

Nope. I did not. Because I know he is talking to other girls. I did tell him at our last date for the (first time) that I like him more than FWB. And he said okay we will see how it goes( as im going through some personal stuff) and after that personal stuff he said we will see how we will continue.

We aren't speaking atm. Because we had a fall out. I apologized for it, he ignored it. After that i apologized again he did reply but it was really cold and distant. I know he is now talking to the other girl.

Also when I'm keeping my options open and dating other guys he gets angry? But like really mad. So I was like a bit shocked and said maybe we should just be friends and he doesn't want that either. He is so confusing one day he will say he wants to stay FWB, then another day he will say he wants to be with me but has a hard time trusting me and then another day he will say we are not in a relationship so he can do what he wants etc.. but when I do it all hell breaks loose.

I'm so confused and hurt. so I'm just keeping my distance for now....

What is confusing? He likes you. He told you. That is why he doesn’t want you to be with other guys. You cannot be his girlfriend because of personal issues. And he doesn’t trust that you are serious. Until then he will keep his options open

So because I'm going through personal issues that is an excuse for you to keep your options open. But when I do it? there is a problem. I dont get it? He likes me but doesnt even bother to ask me how I'm doing or how I've been? Nope. How can you expect someone to be loyal to you ( what I've been) but he doesnt even believe it. But you're not loyal yourself?

If he really likes me, why isn't he just straight about it or tell me I dont like you dating other guys.

Do u know what I think? He is just juggling different girls at the same time.

How does he expect me to be serious, if he is not giving me anything to be serious about? He is always 'keeping his options open'

We arent speaking anymore. And I see now all of a sudden he is totally invested in that girl atm. So it is what it is.

You expect him to wait for you when he doesn’t trust you and you don’t want to be with him?

No, offcourse not. I do want to be with him. But without trust how can we be? I can’t make someone trust me if he just doesn’t? I’ve always been loyal and never been with another guy since him. I’ve told him this multiple times. But still no, like so now its like I have to prove my worth to him?

But now he is acting real sneaky, deleting our convo’s and that sort of stuff. So i guess he is serious with that girl

I am trying to show you how he thinks. Not trying to be harsh.

Right now you can’t be with him. Time will tell. You were not even together. That girl is probably giving him what you cannot.

Sorry you are having a hard time with it.

Thanks. I needed to hear that. I wasnt trying to be rude or anything. But I get it. I'm just hurt and having a real hard time with this. But time will pass and I will heal. So you suggest me leaving him alone? Its not like we are speaking but still

If he is with the other girl is not much you can do right now. Just concentrate in yourself and your personal issues and when you are 100% you can be with him then talk to him. If he wants you like he said, then he will live any girl for you if he knows for sure that you want to be serious with him.

Take care 😘

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So 3 weeks ago my aqua guy contacted me and apologized After that he still kept acting distant, taking super long to reply but still asking when we could meet f2f. So we scheduled a date and suddenly i see him posting on his story that he is out with another girl... this girl i have her on social media too so i saw her posting too.. so i asked him straight up who he was with he didnt lie he told the truth and said he could do what he wants because we are not together??

I just dont know why you would take out your time and energy to apologize and do something shady like this?

I just find it weird... why go through such lengths to apologize to me and get me back in your life (while I was finally letting it go and being ok with how it ended) to turn around and backstab me like that?

Are they known for keeping a grudge? What is he trying to do with this?

I really feel hurt and dont know what to do anymore. Im just keeping my distance for now...

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You are not together. He is keeping his options open.

What did you tell him in your last date when he said that he wanted you to be more than friends?Did you tell him that you wanted to be his girlfriend too?

Nope. I did not. Because I know he is talking to other girls. I did tell him at our last date for the (first time) that I like him more than FWB. And he said okay we will see how it goes( as im going through some personal stuff) and after that personal stuff he said we will see how we will continue.

We aren't speaking atm. Because we had a fall out. I apologized for it, he ignored it. After that i apologized again he did reply but it was really cold and distant. I know he is now talking to the other girl.

Also when I'm keeping my options open and dating other guys he gets angry? But like really mad. So I was like a bit shocked and said maybe we should just be friends and he doesn't want that either. He is so confusing one day he will say he wants to stay FWB, then another day he will say he wants to be with me but has a hard time trusting me and then another day he will say we are not in a relationship so he can do what he wants etc.. but when I do it all hell breaks loose.

I'm so confused and hurt. so I'm just keeping my distance for now....

What is confusing? He likes you. He told you. That is why he doesn’t want you to be with other guys. You cannot be his girlfriend because of personal issues. And he doesn’t trust that you are serious. Until then he will keep his options open

So because I'm going through personal issues that is an excuse for you to keep your options open. But when I do it? there is a problem. I dont get it? He likes me but doesnt even bother to ask me how I'm doing or how I've been? Nope. How can you expect someone to be loyal to you ( what I've been) but he doesnt even believe it. But you're not loyal yourself?

If he really likes me, why isn't he just straight about it or tell me I dont like you dating other guys.

Do u know what I think? He is just juggling different girls at the same time.

How does he expect me to be serious, if he is not giving me anything to be serious about? He is always 'keeping his options open'

We arent speaking anymore. And I see now all of a sudden he is totally invested in that girl atm. So it is what it is.

You expect him to wait for you when he doesn’t trust you and you don’t want to be with him?

No, offcourse not. I do want to be with him. But without trust how can we be? I can’t make someone trust me if he just doesn’t? I’ve always been loyal and never been with another guy since him. I’ve told him this multiple times. But still no, like so now its like I have to prove my worth to him?

But now he is acting real sneaky, deleting our convo’s and that sort of stuff. So i guess he is serious with that girl

I am trying to show you how he thinks. Not trying to be harsh.

Right now you can’t be with him. Time will tell. You were not even together. That girl is probably giving him what you cannot.

Sorry you are having a hard time with it.

Thanks. I needed to hear that. I wasnt trying to be rude or anything. But I get it. I'm just hurt and having a real hard time with this. But time will pass and I will heal. So you suggest me leaving him alone? Its not like we are speaking but still

If he is with the other girl is not much you can do right now. Just concentrate in yourself and your personal issues and when you are 100% you can be with him then talk to him. If he wants you like he said, then he will live any girl for you if he knows for sure that you want to be serious with him.

Take care 😘

Btw i inboxed u did u get it?

Sorry something is wrong with my DM 😬😤

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You are not together. He is keeping his options open.

What did you tell him in your last date when he said that he wanted you to be more than friends?Did you tell him that you wanted to be his girlfriend too?

Nope. I did not. Because I know he is talking to other girls. I did tell him at our last date for the (first time) that I like him more than FWB. And he said okay we will see how it goes( as im going through some personal stuff) and after that personal stuff he said we will see how we will continue.

We aren't speaking atm. Because we had a fall out. I apologized for it, he ignored it. After that i apologized again he did reply but it was really cold and distant. I know he is now talking to the other girl.

Also when I'm keeping my options open and dating other guys he gets angry? But like really mad. So I was like a bit shocked and said maybe we should just be friends and he doesn't want that either. He is so confusing one day he will say he wants to stay FWB, then another day he will say he wants to be with me but has a hard time trusting me and then another day he will say we are not in a relationship so he can do what he wants etc.. but when I do it all hell breaks loose.

I'm so confused and hurt. so I'm just keeping my distance for now....

What is confusing? He likes you. He told you. That is why he doesn’t want you to be with other guys. You cannot be his girlfriend because of personal issues. And he doesn’t trust that you are serious. Until then he will keep his options open

So because I'm going through personal issues that is an excuse for you to keep your options open. But when I do it? there is a problem. I dont get it? He likes me but doesnt even bother to ask me how I'm doing or how I've been? Nope. How can you expect someone to be loyal to you ( what I've been) but he doesnt even believe it. But you're not loyal yourself?

If he really likes me, why isn't he just straight about it or tell me I dont like you dating other guys.

Do u know what I think? He is just juggling different girls at the same time.

How does he expect me to be serious, if he is not giving me anything to be serious about? He is always 'keeping his options open'

We arent speaking anymore. And I see now all of a sudden he is totally invested in that girl atm. So it is what it is.

You expect him to wait for you when he doesn’t trust you and you don’t want to be with him?

No, offcourse not. I do want to be with him. But without trust how can we be? I can’t make someone trust me if he just doesn’t? I’ve always been loyal and never been with another guy since him. I’ve told him this multiple times. But still no, like so now its like I have to prove my worth to him?

But now he is acting real sneaky, deleting our convo’s and that sort of stuff. So i guess he is serious with that girl

I am trying to show you how he thinks. Not trying to be harsh.

Right now you can’t be with him. Time will tell. You were not even together. That girl is probably giving him what you cannot.

Sorry you are having a hard time with it.

Thanks. I needed to hear that. I wasnt trying to be rude or anything. But I get it. I'm just hurt and having a real hard time with this. But time will pass and I will heal. So you suggest me leaving him alone? Its not like we are speaking but still

If he is with the other girl is not much you can do right now. Just concentrate in yourself and your personal issues and when you are 100% you can be with him then talk to him. If he wants you like he said, then he will live any girl for you if he knows for sure that you want to be serious with him.

Take care 😘

Thanks so much for your advice( eventhough) it hurts.

For me it's best for me to delete him as it really just hurts atm...

I am happy I could help, sorry I was too harsh.

You have to think about your self and what works best for you now

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