Gem man Aqua Girl sheesh _??

Hey, about 2 months ago I met an Aqua lady. Ticked a lot of boxes. We hit it off straight away. Talking for hours texting for ages picture messaging. She came down to where I live. And things was even better in person. Things started moving quickly I went to hers for a weekend (200 miles apart) and then went back the following week. Still talking as much as we was, all reciprocated. She then told me she had a planned op, then a week before she said she wanted to take things slow, real slow because she felt I was pushing for a rship and maybe a couple of things I said. I don't think I was, just very honest in I liked what I knew about her and did want to know more. So we left it as we'd talk in between her recovery and possibly pick up where we left off. We've spoken briefly, both asks did we cool nd she mentions we're friends. I over think things naturally, but just want some advice from another aqua lady. Should I leave it, or possibly stay friends and see what happens, I don't wanna push her but don't want to friend zone myself. But don't wanna give myself up so easily again lol! Any advice would be great _—

Sounds like a gem I once knew same scenario, he's in the army now but I think I fell for him later on when he wasn't as pushy anymore. Just stay in the friendzone for now and things will change I give it a good 4-5 months she'll be hinting for a relationship.

I like her or what I know of her a lot but it's hard because of how we were to how we are now. I'm quite old school in the way I feel for someone. I don't sleep around and I don't give my time to anyone easy. We live 200 miles apart so I can only think that is the reason it moved so quick.

I decided to message her today to see how she's doing after her op. We hadn't spoken for 4 days prior. It was brief I let her know I hope she's ok, and thinking of her while she's recovering. I don't want to push this at all. But I wanna know what should be my next step. Shall I ask to see her, or just keep it light messaging? Shall I spontaneously call her next week? She knows I like her, but I don't know if she feels the same. She said she needs time before but I'm not sure I have the time she maybe wants. I've been single for a longer time than her. God over thinking lol!

Well we've spoken today and I've just let her know that I hope shes ok. We messaged briefly about when she's back and her practicsing her driving and what not asked about me and my weekend. We arranged to go out in October and she goes back to work then. So I'm kind of thinking that this won't happen because of her job. Anyway, I thought I would ask if we could hang out before she goes back to work and I got a reply later this evening, of "Ok we'll see how I go Hun" not very optimistic if I'm totally honest .....

Posted by doublesidedGem
We arranged to go out in October and she goes back to work then. So I'm kind of thinking that this won't happen because of her job.

I mean we arranged this date a while ago ...

I can relate and he was more of a city kid traveling and losing girls left and right. Gems seem to be full of life and out there, you will have to give her the space otherwise she'll be standoffish as I was with the gem pursuing me. One thing he had going for him was the jokes constantly making me laugh. Are you a comedian in the making? It could work towards your advantage and also funny pics maybe send one of your hair half down, bed head or just a crazy funny face. The more you aren't pushy about the hangout the more she is to want to make time for it. We are workaholics so work consumes us and makes it hard for a relationship. I guess this was my alibi as well.

disappear on her for about 4 days, do what she wont expect. And my gosh please don't hold out with the jokes. lol

Thanks for the comments. We do make each other laugh. And I do want to give her that space. But I don't want to be that one chasing all the time. I'm being very patient with her as shes asked. Hence the first time I've asked to see her for about 3 weeks.

As for your jokes thing I sent a snapchat video of me watching a show she got me into lol, maybe that'll work. Weird because I dated a Auqa women earlier this year and when it was over she made it clear it was, whereas this one hasn't, but has openly said if she wasn't interesed, she wouldn't reply, she has stated we're friends. And the whole do/don't/don't know if I want to talk to you. I guess I just have to play it cool and wait to see if we eventually get to meet up again!

Well I think that's it. I left her for a while and messaged yesterday, talking for a bit. Gave her a light message this morning to a post she made. I asked her to post my jacket as the weather is shit. I left it at hers. She made a reply about dating to which I responded with it's not a prob, just would like to talk to her more. But that got her back up and now shes accused me of pestering her, and she not signing up for this. I given her nothing but time, been civil. Even when the whole dynamics changed. She was never clear, and said on more than 1 occasion we'd see each other soon. Then says she wants to be single and her heads not in it. Yet all of 3 weeks ago, we couldn't stop talking, messaging, or planning future dates.

Sad really.

I am sorry to hear that, you sound more reserved than the gemini situation I dealt with but it ended that way the same. He was too pushy with me, I don't see any out of bounds from what you posted to us. This sadly happens she is probably just emotional with work going back from her surgery and all. Don't take it too serious gem. Unfortunately that is her mind though and keeping her interest will be hard, one minute she's for it the next she's scared and then after that she isn't there or into the idea. If you still wish to have her, just not step all the way back until she reaches out to you.

Thank you. Yeah I mean I learnt a lot about Aqua women on here and probably could have have her a lot more time. She said we not ever see each other again, it may have changed now. But I'll give her all the space, I won't request anything and if she wants to talk she'll know where I am, I want to let her know that but don't want to pester her, but I think she knows it, I did mention it to her! Thanks for the help _—

I meant she said before that we would see each other but that may have changed.

Yes I'm sure she knows and she'll be back around don't worry. Keep me updated ok, in the meantime enjoy your single life but yes aqua women are very special.

I don't know much about Aquas but it sounds like she lost interest. That or there is someone else. But maybe she'll be back around.

Thanks Light!

@Starmooney possibly. Shes just recovering and her mum is having an op as well. Just bad timing I think and prob not enough space!

We'll see, I won't sit and wait but if she gets in contact, who knows.

Hi, I am a Gemini and I had an Aqua friend too, relationships with them always start off fast. As if they are interested in you and they are but its their friendly side that they are showing. And if she backs off from u she is just interested in being a friend to u only, if she wants more she will at all cost let u know that she wants more. Aquas like their space just like us Gems do. So keep things light and fun with them and don't rush them into anything with you, that will make them back off for good. They do act like that I got a Aqua daughter and she is like that too with guys, and very straight forward person if they want you they will tell u straight up. Like I say keep it on a friendly terms with them let things develop on its own. Don't push or rush.

Thanks but I think it's got to a point of no return sadly. It was a whirlwind at first. Last Monday we spoke and she mentioned she couldn't date during her current situation. I mentioned it wasnt about the dating, just talking abit more maybe, she then kinda told me in no uncertain terms she's deleting me from everything as I pester her. Never spoke to her for several days before that. Since then we haven't spoken and today she deleted from the final social media things, sad really cos at the start it was awesome. But maybe, just maybe, I never gave her the space she wanted.

I wonder if I'll hear from her again, but I doubt it. I just want to say to her that I realised what went wrong ... But it's only been a week and she's still pissed I guess.

doublesidedGem

Sorry your going through this, I hope things get better for u. Or else your just gonna have to count this one as a lost. I know how u feel im a Gemini too and with Aquarius rather it be male/female its always a roller coaster ride with them.

You're right, I'm beginning to think the latter. But, I am going to give her the space she craved. And see how we are in a few weeks hah!

doublesidedGem
Yeah try that and see what happens, they like space just like us Gems do