He ignores me.. help asap

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So, I’ve been with my aqua for a year! Friday we talked as usual when he told me he’s so tired and and I told him he should go hangout with his buddies so he said was gonna watch the game with them. I came home to see mom for the weekend. He didnt text me back that night after 7 which is odd, doesn’t happen. Next day I texted him first saying you were MIA. He said he was tired and passed out and woke up early. I asked why he didn’t text even 1 text to let me know he was safe and home and going to bed ( he insists I should do that always so I figured it applies to him too), he said bc he slept. I asked did he watch the game and he said ya so I said then why couldn’t you send 1 text at night or even this morning..no reply after that at 9am....

Today I still haven’t heard from him. We had plans to hang out tonight so I texted him “so are we still seeing each other today or you need space and time?”

I have done everything from him. He’s a good guy but we have been together a year and this silent treatment is just confusing. Please help advise on how to proceed. I have lost sleep over this. Why does he give me the treatment when I think he’s in the wrong? Maybe he thinks he’s right?
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Too clingy. He told you where and what he was doing. Whining about not getting text play by play comes off as controlling.

My dude is a air sun and moon and it really pays off to give him his space. They come back to you twice as strong. If he tells me he’s going to the brewery with friends my response is ‘have fun, get home safe!’ I’m not expecting him to text me throughout the night or check in once he’s home.

Telling him he was mia, why didn’t you text me when you got home...etc...it reads as insecure nagging.

You gotta approach this differently.
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Too clingy. He told you where and what he was doing. Whining about not getting text play by play comes off as controlling.

My dude is a air sun and moon and it really pays off to give him his space. They come back to you twice as strong. If he tells me he’s going to the brewery with friends my response is ‘have fun, get home safe!’ I’m not expecting him to text me throughout the night or check in once he’s home.

Telling him he was mia, why didn’t you text me when you got home...etc...it reads as insecure nagging.

You gotta approach this differently.

I give him almost too much space though. He’s the insuecure one always if I don’t text in 10 min I get missed calls like crazy. But I see your point. I urged him to go out and yes he did say he slept. But what is his point in ignoring? Is he trying to end things over something so small? How do I move forward? I already sent the text.. no reply yet but I know he’s up. He wakes up at 6am always
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Too clingy. He told you where and what he was doing. Whining about not getting text play by play comes off as controlling.

My dude is a air sun and moon and it really pays off to give him his space. They come back to you twice as strong. If he tells me he’s going to the brewery with friends my response is ‘have fun, get home safe!’ I’m not expecting him to text me throughout the night or check in once he’s home.

Telling him he was mia, why didn’t you text me when you got home...etc...it reads as insecure nagging.

You gotta approach this differently.


I give him almost too much space though. He’s the insuecure one always if I don’t text in 10 min I get missed calls like crazy. But I see your point. I urged him to go out and yes he did say he slept. But what is his point in ignoring? Is he trying to end things over something so small? How do I move forward? I already sent the text.. no reply yet but I know he’s up. He wakes up at 6am always click to expand
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Ignoring doesn’t equal wanting to end things with you. Don’t be dramatic.

He’s dodging you cause you were texting him and calling him out. He doesn’t want the confrontation and drama over, in his mind, something so minimal.

And it is minimal...

He told you what he was doing, where he was going, and he checked in with you in the am. You gotta let this go.

He will contact you when he’s ready.

Try not to jump down his throat about this when he does. Really let it go and keep the convo light and fun.
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She tagged me but I'm no help in the situation lol I do everything wrong dealing with Aquas 😆

You've been with him for a year, I don't think you have much to worry about lol

Just leave it and let him text you back when he feels like it. Just like he calls when you don't text back soon enough, the same will apply if you don't bug him with a bunch of texts.

Worst case, try calling after a few hours.
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Too clingy. He told you where and what he was doing. Whining about not getting text play by play comes off as controlling.

My dude is a air sun and moon and it really pays off to give him his space. They come back to you twice as strong. If he tells me he’s going to the brewery with friends my response is ‘have fun, get home safe!’ I’m not expecting him to text me throughout the night or check in once he’s home.

Telling him he was mia, why didn’t you text me when you got home...etc...it reads as insecure nagging.

You gotta approach this differently.




I give him almost too much space though. He’s the insuecure one always if I don’t text in 10 min I get missed calls like crazy. But I see your point. I urged him to go out and yes he did say he slept. But what is his point in ignoring? Is he trying to end things over something so small? How do I move forward? I already sent the text.. no reply yet but I know he’s up. He wakes up at 6am always click to expand

Ignoring doesn’t equal wanting to end things with you. Don’t be dramatic.

He’s dodging you cause you were texting him and calling him out. He doesn’t want the confrontation and drama over, in his mind, something so minimal.

And it is minimal...

He told you what he was doing, where he was going, and he checked in with you in the am. You gotta let this go.

He will contact you when he’s ready.

Try not to jump down his throat about this when he does. Really let it go and keep the convo light and fun. click to expand
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Makes sense! Thank you. I already sent him a text about hanging out today so hopefully he gets back and when I see him, I’ll just be normal and nice and let it go! I texted him this morning “so are we still hanging out today or you need space and time?” Hopefully that wasn’t stirring the pot again ):
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So, I’ve been with my aqua for a year! Friday we talked as usual when he told me he’s so tired and and I told him he should go hangout with his buddies so he said was gonna watch the game with them. I came home to see mom for the weekend. He didnt text me back that night after 7 which is odd, doesn’t happen. Next day I texted him first saying you were MIA. He said he was tired and passed out and woke up early. I asked why he didn’t text even 1 text to let me know he was safe and home and going to bed ( he insists I should do that always so I figured it applies to him too), he said bc he slept. I asked did he watch the game and he said ya so I said then why couldn’t you send 1 text at night or even this morning..no reply after that at 9am....

Today I still haven’t heard from him. We had plans to hang out tonight so I texted him “so are we still seeing each other today or you need space and time?”

I have done everything from him. He’s a good guy but we have been together a year and this silent treatment is just confusing. Please help advise on how to proceed. I have lost sleep over this. Why does he give me the treatment when I think he’s in the wrong? Maybe he thinks he’s right?

You will chase him away if you keep pressuring him into talking to you

When someone you love is acting out of the ordinary in a negative way, ask them if theres anything you can do to help. If they dont need your help, leave them alone. Do not initiate contact. Let them be. When they contact you, dont turn it into an argument but just tell them that youd appreciate some kind of communication next time. Maintain your dignity. Its not always about you and if you love someone, theres your chance to prove that click to expand
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You are right! Unfortunately I already reached out today LOL saying are we still hanging out or he needs space! Hopefully that wasn’t bitchy! I jut needed to know bc if we aren’t hanging out then I Will just stay at moms and make other plans! No more contact 🙂
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She tagged me but I'm no help in the situation lol I do everything wrong dealing with Aquas

You've been with him for a year, I don't think you have much to worry about lol
Just leave it and let him text you back when he feels like it. Just like he calls when you don't text back soon enough, the same will apply if you don't bug him with a bunch of texts.

Worst case, try calling after a few hours.
I gotta be a strong independent woman who doesn’t need a man!! Lol yeah I will try not to contact unless it’s close to evening and I have to know if plans are still on..
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Too clingy. He told you where and what he was doing. Whining about not getting text play by play comes off as controlling.

My dude is a air sun and moon and it really pays off to give him his space. They come back to you twice as strong. If he tells me he’s going to the brewery with friends my response is ‘have fun, get home safe!’ I’m not expecting him to text me throughout the night or check in once he’s home.

Telling him he was mia, why didn’t you text me when you got home...etc...it reads as insecure nagging.

You gotta approach this differently.




I give him almost too much space though. He’s the insuecure one always if I don’t text in 10 min I get missed calls like crazy. But I see your point. I urged him to go out and yes he did say he slept. But what is his point in ignoring? Is he trying to end things over something so small? How do I move forward? I already sent the text.. no reply yet but I know he’s up. He wakes up at 6am always click to expand



Ignoring doesn’t equal wanting to end things with you. Don’t be dramatic.

He’s dodging you cause you were texting him and calling him out. He doesn’t want the confrontation and drama over, in his mind, something so minimal.

And it is minimal...

He told you what he was doing, where he was going, and he checked in with you in the am. You gotta let this go.

He will contact you when he’s ready.

Try not to jump down his throat about this when he does. Really let it go and keep the convo light and fun. click to expand

Makes sense! Thank you. I already sent him a text about hanging out today so hopefully he gets back and when I see him, I’ll just be normal and nice and let it go! I texted him this morning “so are we still hanging out today or you need space and time?” Hopefully that wasn’t stirring the pot again ): click to expand
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You’ll be fine!!

It’s only been a year. You guys are both still finding the balance in how to communicate with each other.

Ime I’ve had more success saving ‘serious’ convos for face to face cause then he can’t ghost the conversation. Plus he sees I’m coming from a place of wanting to make us stronger, not insecurity or lack of trust in him.

What is your dudes Moon sign? And yours as well..?
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Too clingy. He told you where and what he was doing. Whining about not getting text play by play comes off as controlling.

My dude is a air sun and moon and it really pays off to give him his space. They come back to you twice as strong. If he tells me he’s going to the brewery with friends my response is ‘have fun, get home safe!’ I’m not expecting him to text me throughout the night or check in once he’s home.

Telling him he was mia, why didn’t you text me when you got home...etc...it reads as insecure nagging.

You gotta approach this differently.




I give him almost too much space though. He’s the insuecure one always if I don’t text in 10 min I get missed calls like crazy. But I see your point. I urged him to go out and yes he did say he slept. But what is his point in ignoring? Is he trying to end things over something so small? How do I move forward? I already sent the text.. no reply yet but I know he’s up. He wakes up at 6am always click to expand



Ignoring doesn’t equal wanting to end things with you. Don’t be dramatic.

He’s dodging you cause you were texting him and calling him out. He doesn’t want the confrontation and drama over, in his mind, something so minimal.

And it is minimal...

He told you what he was doing, where he was going, and he checked in with you in the am. You gotta let this go.

He will contact you when he’s ready.

Try not to jump down his throat about this when he does. Really let it go and keep the convo light and fun. click to expand



Makes sense! Thank you. I already sent him a text about hanging out today so hopefully he gets back and when I see him, I’ll just be normal and nice and let it go! I texted him this morning “so are we still hanging out today or you need space and time?” Hopefully that wasn’t stirring the pot again ): click to expand

You’ll be fine!!

It’s only been a year. You guys are both still finding the balance in how to communicate with each other.

Ime I’ve had more success saving ‘serious’ convos for face to face cause then he can’t ghost the conversation. Plus he sees I’m coming from a place of wanting to make us stronger, not insecurity or lack of trust in him.

What is your dudes Moon sign? And yours as well..?
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Yeah usually we do talk gace to face! Texting is always tough so I talk to him usually and he sees my point because I show him the logic!

He is: aqua sun, sag moon, Aries Venus and Virgo mars

I am : cap sum, Libra moon, scorpio Venus and Virgo mars
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She tagged me but I'm no help in the situation lol I do everything wrong dealing with Aquas

You've been with him for a year, I don't think you have much to worry about lol
Just leave it and let him text you back when he feels like it. Just like he calls when you don't text back soon enough, the same will apply if you don't bug him with a bunch of texts.

Worst case, try calling after a few hours.

I gotta be a strong independent woman who doesn’t need a man!! Lol yeah I will try not to contact unless it’s close to evening and I have to know if plans are still on.. click to expand
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If he does message once he gets the nerve 😛 just move on with the conversation and don't bring it up again. He heard what you said and will take note of it. 🙂
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She tagged me but I'm no help in the situation lol I do everything wrong dealing with Aquas

You've been with him for a year, I don't think you have much to worry about lol
Just leave it and let him text you back when he feels like it. Just like he calls when you don't text back soon enough, the same will apply if you don't bug him with a bunch of texts.

Worst case, try calling after a few hours.



I gotta be a strong independent woman who doesn’t need a man!! Lol yeah I will try not to contact unless it’s close to evening and I have to know if plans are still on.. click to expand

If he does message once he gets the nerve just move on with the conversation and don't bring it up again. He heard what you said and will take note of it. click to expand
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Thank you 🙂 will do! If he doesn’t reply, I see him at this friends event tomorrow anyway and I’ll go there looking like a dime 😉
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She tagged me but I'm no help in the situation lol I do everything wrong dealing with Aquas

You've been with him for a year, I don't think you have much to worry about lol
Just leave it and let him text you back when he feels like it. Just like he calls when you don't text back soon enough, the same will apply if you don't bug him with a bunch of texts.

Worst case, try calling after a few hours.



I gotta be a strong independent woman who doesn’t need a man!! Lol yeah I will try not to contact unless it’s close to evening and I have to know if plans are still on.. click to expand



If he does message once he gets the nerve just move on with the conversation and don't bring it up again. He heard what you said and will take note of it. click to expand

Thank you will do! If he doesn’t reply, I see him at this friends event tomorrow anyway and I’ll go there looking like a dime click to expand
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There you go! You know what you're doing!!!!! 😆
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So, I’ve been with my aqua for a year! Friday we talked as usual when he told me he’s so tired and and I told him he should go hangout with his buddies so he said was gonna watch the game with them. I came home to see mom for the weekend. He didnt text me back that night after 7 which is odd, doesn’t happen. Next day I texted him first saying you were MIA. He said he was tired and passed out and woke up early. I asked why he didn’t text even 1 text to let me know he was safe and home and going to bed ( he insists I should do that always so I figured it applies to him too), he said bc he slept. I asked did he watch the game and he said ya so I said then why couldn’t you send 1 text at night or even this morning..no reply after that at 9am....

Today I still haven’t heard from him. We had plans to hang out tonight so I texted him “so are we still seeing each other today or you need space and time?”

I have done everything from him. He’s a good guy but we have been together a year and this silent treatment is just confusing. Please help advise on how to proceed. I have lost sleep over this. Why does he give me the treatment when I think he’s in the wrong? Maybe he thinks he’s right?



You will chase him away if you keep pressuring him into talking to you

When someone you love is acting out of the ordinary in a negative way, ask them if theres anything you can do to help. If they dont need your help, leave them alone. Do not initiate contact. Let them be. When they contact you, dont turn it into an argument but just tell them that youd appreciate some kind of communication next time. Maintain your dignity. Its not always about you and if you love someone, theres your chance to prove that click to expand



You are right! Unfortunately I already reached out today LOL saying are we still hanging out or he needs space! Hopefully that wasn’t cookiemonstery! I jut needed to know bc if we aren’t hanging out then I Will just stay at moms and make other plans! No more contact click to expand

Nah not cookiemonstery at all, you were just asking for it out of practicality... riiiight? click to expand
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Lol yah I actually asked because I have to know! If I see him then I have to leave my moms house at a certain time because mom lives far from where I live. He stays closer to my own place. All practicality :p
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Aquas, those lovely creatures. 😂

I have friends who are Aquas. The more someone blows up their phone, the more likely, they will literally say out loud the person is being “annoying” and will not answer back. They’ve been around me when saying this.

And if they say they are sleeping, probably sleeping. The ones I know are more of a homebody than people think they are.
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Not again.

@pleistoanax @saggurl88 @señoritaLLp2 @mr_pinchy @aquasnoz

Another one bites the dust
I appreciate the tag and your trust in my good advice , but pls don't tag me on such occasions. I found that when i participate too much in such threads pm's start coming in.....and it looks like a wall of text (takes whole page of laptop screen plus scrolling down a bit), with the person laying bare their whole ordeal and i just don't want any of that lol.

It takes too much time to process it all, come up with a coherent, fairly air tight answer that covers most if not all options. Because when i work i can't half ass it. But it's a nuissance. I prefer one liners done at my own convenience. Hope it makes sense and i don't come off as evil lol. 😄
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Update: he texted me few hours ago saying “how is your day”? Didn’t answer questions about hanging out. I was nice and answered and asked him a bout his. We made small talk then I said “does 6:30 still work for tonight??” He replied “no. Not sure about seeing you later still. Need to figure it out” then I called him and he said “in the car with the boys headed back from the game (he had a game today). I’ll call you back in a few. One of the guys tore his patella so took him To a hospital” I said “hope he feels better. Ok call me!”

No call yet but wtf do I do. Why’s he not sure about seeing me
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Ok on a serious note - move away from him for now and get busy. Don’t make out that you’re desperate to know where he is and what he’s doing. Act like you don’t give a damn right now. Then when he’s ringing up your phone checking where you are and what you’re doing, tell him you need to speak with him face to face. Then tell him that you’re not okay with his disappearing acts and that he should have the courtesy to let you know that he’s busy or needs a bit of space. He should communicate like a grown adult and not behave in this infantile manner.
The crazy thing is that he’s 13 years older than me. I’m in mid twenties. Both with stable careers so I don’t understand his childish behavior. I will speak to him that way on the phone and ask him to speak to me face to face and communicate straight up
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Update: he texted me few hours ago saying “how is your day”? Didn’t answer questions about hanging out. I was nice and answered and asked him a bout his. We made small talk then I said “does 6:30 still work for tonight??” He replied “no. Not sure about seeing you later still. Need to figure it out” then I called him and he said “in the car with the boys headed back from the game (he had a game today). I’ll call you back in a few. One of the guys tore his patella so took him To a hospital” I said “hope he feels better. Ok call me!”

No call yet but wtf do I do. Why’s he not sure about seeing me
Exhausted from the day and the extra time it took to take his friend to the hospital. Don’t stress.
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Update: he never called. So I never bothered texting again to see if we are hangin our. It’s almost 9pm and still no word. This is just childish now.. what should I do? I see him tomorrow at an event

sound like a good moment to think, do you really want to deal with this kind of shit for the rest of your life? is he the one? clearly you won't expect him to be the one to change his ways, especially if he's older, so you either enjoy this feeling, or start thinking about your future.
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Update: he never called. So I never bothered texting again to see if we are hangin our. It’s almost 9pm and still no word. This is just childish now.. what should I do? I see him tomorrow at an event
Dude idk what you want...

His communication has been solid throughout. He got back to you about hanging out and told you prolly not which = no.

He told you there was an emergency with a friend and plans change 🤷‍♀️

Making this about him ‘not wanting to see you’ is a bit dramatic. Just chill
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capricorns are gods ! chin up !



I thought so until this man came into my life! Lol I have lost it now!!!! click to expand


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And the evil Sags always let you believe they were the enemies while the true ones lurked in front of you you. click to expand
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What is this now— You wanna fight! 😛

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Update: so he ended up texting me late Sunday night and said he will be better? Yesterday he looked for excuses to text me about some work stuff. Then we met up at the event and he couldn’t take his eyes off me. Followed me wherever and drank along with me. We are hanging it tonight and I will casually just say hey babe let’s work on communication a little better.

Every time he sees me, he can’t seem to notice anyone else. So that worked haha. And I appreciate every one of you for your inputs.
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I wish my gf would tell me to go hang out with my buddies

Last weekend she emotionally manipulated me cause my buddy invited me to hang out for a few hours



Do Aquas let their women hang out with friends or such? Cos' certainly, those that I've been with as well as the current one, always tell me NO. In the beginning, they will say ok go ahead, and then instruct me to go home only after a few hours of hanging out.

Deyyyyyyyy....🙄🙄 click to expand
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I'm confused, you have to ask permission to hang out with your friends—?