I love you

I hear 'I love you' is not an easy phrase for aquas to say. Does this depend on who you say it to? Is it easy to say to friend, or is it a generally hard thing?

I was with mine for a year and a half before he said it. Now 3 years later, he says it quite often.

I've heard mine say I love being with you.......I love kissing you............I love being with you....but no I love you yet. He keeps just joking around saying he wishes he had someone to love him

Aqua Mermaid,

Great advice. If I get an ILU that's great but if not, I'll be okay with that too. I'm happy and as far as he's told me, he's happy. I know I love him but I won't say because I won't risk the state we're in now. So if he says it, then I'll flow from there. But as to your point, no sign really should be pressured into saying those words.

Posted by AquaMermaid
It's easy to say it to friends,family and spouse. I feel too lovey dovey at times due to the Cancer Moon. I don't mind saying I love you to girls that I adore.There is a comfort level with the females.I know they aren't trying to get in my pants,lol!! It definitely wasn't easy to say it to the opposite sex during the "dating period". Sometimes, It took me year and above to say those three words and sometimes the comfort level was really amazing so it came out earlier like within few months. It depends on the comfort level you share. The person who adapts to our quirky ways and understands our needs has a higher chance of hearing it fast. Putting pressure or getting frustrated will not help the case.

This is good to hear but can I ask. Does the way you say it affect if you mean it as friendly, or if you mean it as 'I love you' in the romantic sense? As quirky as you people are it can be hard to call. I've heard it twice in about a month. I haven't made a big deal of it, and so far I am not afraid as I know he knows how I feel. I'm an actions over words gal. However, I don't want him to think I don't feel the same because I haven't said it back...it's a dilemma because I don't want to freak him out, yet I don't want to rush him or myself to a place we may not be ready for. For example, I called him by a pet name and he laughed with delight. I jokingly said, "you loved that didn't you, I know you did, I can tell". He replied "It's not that I loved it, I found it funny". I said "cool, you know I'm just playing anyway" (not sure why I said that!) He stopped laughing, it wasn't awkward, but I could sense his mind ticking. I made another joke, he laughed again and I said I had to go. To which he said "goodnight dear"...that was it. My mind is exploding over this guy, I don't doubt his is over me to. I Def love his quirkiness, and love doing things for him. He has asked how I always know what he needs? "I just do" is what I tell him...

Posted by AquaMermaid
@OP, He actually said it to you but you haven't said it back. Why?? You not saying it back may seem like you're not interested in him.He might feel rejected. Aquarians( except a few) like to start a relationship as friends first.That's how it started with my husband.We were friends and would talk about everything. He said those three words first and it took me a long time to say it back. Say it back to him next time he says those words.

I guess I'm a little afraid. I wasn't sure he meant it romantically...the timing and all. I'll say it next time...he knows his heart is safe with me, I'd move mountains for him! I guess I want to enjoy the chilled pace. The friendship is good, the attraction is blatant, but the circumstances don't seem correct for me...I do love him though.

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@OP, He actually said it to you but you haven't said it back. Why?? You not saying it back may seem like you're not interested in him.He might feel rejected. Aquarians( except a few) like to start a relationship as friends first.That's how it started with my husband.We were friends and would talk about everything. He said those three words first and it took me a long time to say it back. Say it back to him next time he says those words.

I guess I'm a little afraid. I wasn't sure he meant it romantically...the timing and all. I'll say it next time...he knows his heart is safe with me, I'd move mountains for him! I guess I want to enjoy the chilled pace. The friendship is good, the attraction is blatant, but the circumstances don't seem correct for me...I do love him though.

You're a Libra,right? Can you tell me yours and your Aqua's moon/mars/venus and rising signs?

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Me:
Moon cap
Mars cancer
Venus libra
Rising Gemini

Him:
Moon sag
Mars Scotland
Venus cap
Rising taurus

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@OP, He actually said it to you but you haven't said it back. Why?? You not saying it back may seem like you're not interested in him.He might feel rejected. Aquarians( except a few) like to start a relationship as friends first.That's how it started with my husband.We were friends and would talk about everything. He said those three words first and it took me a long time to say it back. Say it back to him next time he says those words.

I guess I'm a little afraid. I wasn't sure he meant it romantically...the timing and all. I'll say it next time...he knows his heart is safe with me, I'd move mountains for him! I guess I want to enjoy the chilled pace. The friendship is good, the attraction is blatant, but the circumstances don't seem correct for me...I do love him though.

You're a Libra,right? Can you tell me yours and your Aqua's moon/mars/venus and rising signs?

Me:
Moon cap
Mars cancer
Venus libra
Rising Gemini

Him:
Moon sag
Mars Scotland
Venus cap
Rising taurus

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His mars is Scorpio lol

If you feel it, say it. If you say it, own it. Be confident about it.

Otherwise, your insecurity about it will be your downfall.

Posted by AquaMermaid
I don't really need to stress on the Sun sign compatibility aspect as everyone knows Aquarius and Libra are both air element hence considered compatible.I hope it helped you Libra 🙂

That helps a lot. Thank you.

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Posted by truecap
If you feel it, say it. If you say it, own it. Be confident about it.

Otherwise, your insecurity about it will be your downfall.

And so many times it isn't said, or it's never taken to that point for fear of losing. And then comes the big masquerade in order to over-compensate for those fears.

But life and risk mean the same thing.

There is no sweeter rejection, than to be denied for being who and what you are, rather than to be denied for trying to be something or someone else in order to attract or appease.

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You're both right. Thanks

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Posted by truecap
If you feel it, say it. If you say it, own it. Be confident about it.

Otherwise, your insecurity about it will be your downfall.

And so many times it isn't said, or it's never taken to that point for fear of losing. And then comes the big masquerade in order to over-compensate for those fears.

But life and risk mean the same thing.

There is no sweeter rejection, than to be denied for being who and what you are, rather than to be denied for trying to be something or someone else in order to attract or appease.

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Wow that's really deep.

I have a hard time saying it. I'd rather just feel it in my heart and not verbalize it. I'm an aqua sun. Pisces moon. Sagittarius mars. Cap Venus.