In desperate need of Aquarian insight!

Hi everyone, I'm in desperate need of some Aquarian insight! I started talking with an Aquarius guy who I work with a few months ago. At first he was the one chasing me, texting etc, and I was oblivious to what was going on. Then a few weeks later we started flirting, nothing too serious at first and I tried my best to keep it light hearted. Things then kicked up a notch when we kissed — this is when I fell for him and discovered that I did like this Aquarius more than just a friend. Again, the flirting continued until a month or so ago when it just stopped.

After having read a few posts on here and across other sites I can put this down to the fact that I was being overly clingy, and looking back probably came over as desperate, and when I confronted him on why the flirting had stopped he basically said that he wasn't in that sort of mood and that he had to concentrate on his work.

So I toned it back. Kept chatting to him frequently (I always fear the out of sight out of mind) but on a friendly level. I saw him begin to come around again, e.g. if I didn't text him back he would message me again etc. So this has continued for a few weeks and I thought screw it — let's try and flirt with him again. No surprises I was hit with a brick wall.

Then what with it being the holidays I thought I would send him a message (I'm an impulsive Gemini who thinks with my heart instead of my head), lay all of my cards on the table, confessed that I liked him and asked him whether the flirting would continue in the New Year or whether I basically need to get over him. As of yet haven't received an answer and now I'm going out of my mind to figure out what to do.
Have I blown it with this Aquarius? Does he like me at all (I have read that when an Aquarius guy likes you they can become detached as they don't know how to deal with emotions in this way)? What should my next move be? Any advice would be appreciated!

I'm an aquarius guy dating a gemini woman.

It's not hard to figure out. If he likes you, he will make plans to be with you. Whether that means dates or hanging out.

All you really have to do is be receptive and let him do the asking to make plans and such. Just be yourself and don't push. Let him chase you.

That's how I ended up with my current gem partner.

Thanks for the advice! From what I can tell that's the big thing with Aquarius is to give them space and let it manifest itself. Like I say I just hope I haven't blown it with being too needy the first time round 😢

If you can just give space and live independent and do your own thing and let him do his thing and do that happily, that is the best thing you can do. That is the kind of women that, in general terms, an aquarius man likes and needs.

If you're a clingy person by nature then don't pretend you're not. An aquarius can see right through that and know you're not being true to yourself. Then you will have a credibility issue.

Besides, you can only pretend for so long before you either fold or get found out. Either resentment will build up and you've had enough frustration to become unhappy and "give up" on him OR it will be just a matter of time before he sees that you're not who you have been saying you are and he drops you like a rock for what he will view as dishonesty.

Actually, you are who you are and you can't change it or pretend to be any different. There are some people who like it when their partners are clingy because it makes them feel wanted. Those are the kinds of partners clingy girls need.

I'm not trying to be negative, but make sure you're giving space because it's who you are and not just to "get the guy".

Thanks truecap - very good advice!