is this usual Aquarius behaviour

i was FB with an aquarius guy for a while until he broke it off because he was getting too attached. We're still friends and talk a bit but its all very flirty. The other week we were both drunk in town and he ending up coming back to mine he was very drunk and kept on saying how he didn't like me flirting with other people and didn't understand why this stopped because he always have a laugh together. We've seen each other a few times after this but have hardly been messaging. I've decided to talk a step back and not contact him and then he contacts me we are talking fine then he goes quite and now nothing for 2 days hasn't even checked my message, I'm just so confused by his behaviour, is this something you guys do? hot then cold, I'm just a bit lost of to where to take it from here.

You're confused because you accepted an FWB relationship. That's all it is. You want more, but he really doesn't. He broke off the FWB because YOU were getting too attached. He likes the benefits, but he doesn't want the responsibility.

Sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear, but it is the cycle of an FWB relationship.

The lack of messaging from him is the tell tale sign.

but its him thats done all the messaging. He told me that he was getting to attached so we backed off, HE then messaged ME and we started talking for a bit then HE messaged ME asking if i was out in town then HE messaged ME when i was ill seeing if i wanted him to come and look after me (which i said no) and then HE messaged ME again last week and nows gone quite

Posted by gemini88june
i was FB with an aquarius guy for a while until he broke it off because he was getting too attached. We're still friends and talk a bit but its all very flirty. The other week we were both drunk in town and he ending up coming back to mine he was very drunk and kept on saying how he didn't like me flirting with other people and didn't understand why this stopped because he always have a laugh together. We've seen each other a few times after this but have hardly been messaging. I've decided to talk a step back and not contact him and then he contacts me we are talking fine then he goes quite and now nothing for 2 days hasn't even checked my message, I'm just so confused by his behaviour, is this something you guys do? hot then cold, I'm just a bit lost of to where to take it from here.

This is where I got that from.

Honestly I think the line "I'm getting too attached and want to break it off" is bullshit. If a man is getting attached, he'll want to lock it down.

And who cares whether he likes you flirting with other guys or not. If he cared, he'd lock it down so you don't get swept away by someone else. So until he's ready to lock it down, keep on doing your thing. I would even go so far as tell him that straight up so he knows where you stand.

- but that's just me.

Just sayin' all this so you can clear the confusion.

I agree with @truecap As an Aqua, when I see something, I'm plotting, planning, making decision trees on how to get it.

Maybe you are the one who's getting too attached?

FWB... you can't expect too much from that

Posted by Gennie
I agree with @truecap As an Aqua, when I see something, I'm plotting, planning, making decision trees on how to get it.

This is hilarious!! You are making decision trees?! I would have bet a million dollars that my Aqua does this. Sometimes just to entertain himself. Like, if I do this, will she do this or that. And then I guess he does this about big things, too. Like now, when we have a break.. Hm. : ) Despite all the crazy things Aquas do I can't but love you guys to bits. 😄

Posted by truecap
Honestly I think the line "I'm getting too attached and want to break it off" is bullshit. If a man is getting attached, he'll want to lock it down.

this.

playing games is stupid. not serious about commitment.

Posted by gemini88june
i was FB with an aquarius guy for a while until he broke it off because he was getting too attached. We're still friends and talk a bit but its all very flirty. The other week we were both drunk in town and he ending up coming back to mine he was very drunk and kept on saying how he didn't like me flirting with other people and didn't understand why this stopped because he always have a laugh together. We've seen each other a few times after this but have hardly been messaging. I've decided to talk a step back and not contact him and then he contacts me we are talking fine then he goes quite and now nothing for 2 days hasn't even checked my message, I'm just so confused by his behaviour, is this something you guys do? hot then cold, I'm just a bit lost of to where to take it from here.

I've had a similar experience with an aqua fb, going hot & cold, messaging all the time then nothing for days or even weeks. I quickly got used to his ways and stopped questioning it or trying to read something into it.

I also have an aqua ex and he was full on from the time he decided he wanted to be with me.

If your aqua wanted more he would make more effort and a lot more contact. That's just based on my experiences in both situations with an aqua.

thanks for all the feedback from everyone its helped me sort a lot of things out. I think most of you are right I'm getting quite attached too but I'm leaving at the end of the year and I've always been very vocal about the fact i want to be single while doing this, i guess I'm just wanting a fling for a few months but now its too late to say, he's pretty hot, he's moved on I'm guessing! oh well, thats life.