Me and my aqua fought and he stop texting me. Help

Last week, we made plan for our 1st valentines day.
We dated since Jan, and we're in a long distance relationship (2 hrs away).

I wanted him to visit me.
1st, he said maybe
2nd time, he said he's coming to see me
3rd time, he said he wanted to watch NBA All star game at his apt in Valentine's day (which made me upset and he changed his mind to come to see me).
4th time, he said he's broke after paying electricity and cable bills. So as he knows very well, I hate people who can't keep the plan. So I was about to tell him that he didn't need to come anymore. However, he changed his mind again and told me to booked the hotel.... he's coming to see me.

However, on Friday before Valentine's.. I told him I was going to cancel the hotel but I still can see him until 5pm on Valentine's day bc of my parents.
He was mad and told me he's NOT coming to see me. And he disappeared for a day.

I was so upset. I called him twice but no answers. So I left him alone until he contacted me.

I called him after he contacted me... asking what's wrong and why he's mad at me. I wanted to solve this problem.
He said, "You don't need to know"
So I kept asking him. I explained to him that my parents don't want me to date. But I'm serious about this relationship so I told my parents about him.
But my parents said that want us to stay friends for now and get to know each other.
His respond was: "I'm serious too. I'm not going to see you this weekend"
And he hung up.

I was so upset... and I think it might be a time to stop our "date" and stay just friends.
I messaged him and want to talk to him on the phone bc I don't want to talk on the chat about this serious thing.
He said, "No more picking up the phone and answer your questions."
" You don't have authority to question me"
" You ruined my good moods" "I'm done"

So I told him that I care about him. THat's why I did this. But he didn't answer.

I told my friend about it. He suggested me to forget about this guy, unfriended him on facebook, move on, don't come back..... which I did.
I unfriended my "date"... but it's the most thing I regretted.
At least, I still want to be friend with my crush (and I still have feeling for him).

So I added him again the next day, he didn't accept my request at all.

I texted him on Feb 16 (his bd) to tell him HBD. And I told him that we're not friends on facebook anymore. He pretended that he didn't know and ask me why. I told him I added him again... but he

I don't think he ever intended on coming to see you.

Aquas like things to be light hearted and fun, roll with the flow, just light. It seems you put a lot of pressure on him to come see you and naturally to their instinct aquas rebel when pressure is applied. They refuse to be pushed and pressured.

Your getting upset only caused him to distance. Now, it would be different if you had been in an actual relationship for three years, but you're not. You're only talking and all this pressure and expectations was just too much so he bailed altogether.

Try to see it from his angle, if you're putting this amount of pressure on him now, what would you be doing if you were actually in a relationship? Red flag!

I agree with your friend. Unfriend him, lose his number and forget about this guy.

Yeah, once I did that when I didn't want to hangout with a group I wasn't close to but was forced. So, I did very similar to what your guy did.

Looks like he was not comfortable with you and wanted to distance. You gave him the chance to make it a problem and he made good use of it. I do that sometimes if I have to distance myself from someone or a group I don't like hanging out with. Sorry to say this. 😢

i agree with all the ladies. If he's being an ass, its not worth trying to "reach" him and get him to understand.

He's choosing not to understand.

Thanks everyone!!! I will try my best to forget him.
Anyway... he suddenly texted me today and talked about my hockey team (My hockey team's playing tonight.)
He disappeared after I texted him back!....

I don't know why he did that to me!!?

A part of me wants to scream b/c this scenario seems so young-minded & reeks of dating/relationship inexperience.

BUTTTTTTT....we all gotta learn. We've all been in childish situations that eventually groomed us into the experienced folks that we are, so here it goes.

If you're not ready to demand that your parents & anyone else stop trying to dictate & control who you see, date & love, then dating is not for you. Not right now. There's nothing worse than someone having to wait on a grown ass woman to cut the umbilical cord herself.

Valuing their opinion & letting them influence your dating decisions so much so that they have control over your decisions are 2 different things.

Secondly, this guy was never that serious about you. Sure, there's a chance that he may naturally be undependable, immature, wishy washy, etc. with everybody. Nah, doubt it. He's that way with you b/c he's not that into you. He likes you a little, but not ENOUGH. And there is a difference.

Should you let him go? Yes. You already know that. Will you most likely actually listen to our advice? Probably not lol You give into your emotions even if doing so defies your logic or best interest. That about you will change as you get older & start developing a backbone that even the cutest 'crush' can't penetrate or change.

He's not right for you. He's not dependable. He's got the emotional maturity of a 2 year old. And he does a horrible job of communicating & proving himself a worthy investment. Move on. There are billions of men on this earth. Literally. Surely you can't believe that he is the best that it gets. I get that moving on is hard, but if you hold on, you'd be holding onto the guy you wished he was OR the guy you thought he was...the problem is that who he currently is, is not good enough for you. And I know that b/c the right person for a woman usually leaves her feeling beautiful, sure, secure, confident & on cloud 9 for longer than 5 minutes

Thank you for your advice!!! I really appreciate it

Posted by krysrenee7
A part of me wants to scream b/c this scenario seems so young-minded & reeks of dating/relationship inexperience.

BUTTTTTTT....we all gotta learn. We've all been in childish situations that eventually groomed us into the experienced folks that we are, so here it goes.

If you're not ready to demand that your parents & anyone else stop trying to dictate & control who you see, date & love, then dating is not for you. Not right now. There's nothing worse than someone having to wait on a grown ass woman to cut the umbilical cord herself.

Valuing their opinion & letting them influence your dating decisions so much so that they have control over your decisions are 2 different things.

Secondly, this guy was never that serious about you. Sure, there's a chance that he may naturally be undependable, immature, wishy washy, etc. with everybody. Nah, doubt it. He's that way with you b/c he's not that into you. He likes you a little, but not ENOUGH. And there is a difference.

Should you let him go? Yes. You already know that. Will you most likely actually listen to our advice? Probably not lol You give into your emotions even if doing so defies your logic or best interest. That about you will change as you get older & start developing a backbone that even the cutest 'crush' can't penetrate or change.

He's not right for you. He's not dependable. He's got the emotional maturity of a 2 year old. And he does a horrible job of communicating & proving himself a worthy investment. Move on. There are billions of men on this earth. Literally. Surely you can't believe that he is the best that it gets. I get that moving on is hard, but if you hold on, you'd be holding onto the guy you wished he was OR the guy you thought he was...the problem is that who he currently is, is not good enough for you. And I know that b/c the right person for a woman usually leaves her feeling beautiful, sure, secure, confident & on cloud 9 for longer than 5 minutes

anyway... he texted me first yesterday... talking about my fav hockey's game last night...
Then he also told me that he already got my valentine's card.
First, he made fun of my handwriting.. 😢 (ugly, I know).
Then, he said, "Thanks babe... 🙂 From my deepest heart 🙂"

😭

I wouldn't put much stock into that.

Thanks girl... And he didn't text me for 2 days.
And I tried the hardest not to text him first.
It's so hard. And it really makes me upset.

I wanna be friend with him.. but I'm scared that if I text him first, he might think that I'm not over him yet.

Posted by truecap
I wouldn't put much stock into that.

Insecure women seek hope out of every bread crump that gets thrown. You get treated the way you allow others to treat you, backbone. I was there too... we all were I guess. But now it's "do it or leave it" aka date me properly or get the fuck out of my eyesight. Do I fear to end up alone or lose the crush I desire? Nah.. there are many other men who might have potencial. Take your chance with me or get lost

Posted by krysrenee7

A part of me wants to scream b/c this scenario seems so young-minded & reeks of dating/relationship inexperience.



BUTTTTTTT....we all gotta learn. We've all been in childish situations that eventually groomed us into the experienced folks that we are, so here it goes.



If you're not ready to demand that your parents & anyone else stop trying to dictate & control who you see, date & love, then dating is not for you. Not right now. There's nothing worse than someone having to wait on a grown ass woman to cut the umbilical cord herself.



Valuing their opinion & letting them influence your dating decisions so much so that they have control over your decisions are 2 different things.



Secondly, this guy was never that serious about you. Sure, there's a chance that he may naturally be undependable, immature, wishy washy, etc. with everybody. Nah, doubt it. He's that way with you b/c he's not that into you. He likes you a little, but not ENOUGH. And there is a difference.



Should you let him go? Yes. You already know that. Will you most likely actually listen to our advice? Probably not lol You give into your emotions even if doing so defies your logic or best interest. That about you will change as you get older & start developing a backbone that even the cutest 'crush' can't penetrate or change.



He's not right for you. He's not dependable. He's got the emotional maturity of a 2 year old. And he does a horrible job of communicating & proving himself a worthy investment. Move on. There are billions of men on this earth. Literally. Surely you can't believe that he is the best that it gets. I get that moving on is hard, but if you hold on, you'd be holding onto the guy you wished he was OR the guy you thought he was...the problem is that who he currently is, is not good enough for you. And I know that b/c the right person for a woman usually leaves her feeling beautiful, sure, secure, confident & on cloud 9 for longer than 5 minutes <----All of the things you're NOT feeling in this situationship.

yet another great advice by krysrenee