Me Aqua dating a Virgo guy, getting bored of him

Me and my Virgo man both live in different states, and I've noticed that Virgos can be shy, reserved, and not as talkative. This makes it worse especially when we're far apart from each other and I'm just getting bored of him because I feel like I'm usually the first to say something in order to get the conversation going. What should I do?

He initiates the conversation too sometime but it would almost always be the same thing... like "i miss you" or "how's your day been?" It'll be nice if he can say some other things. I'm getting tired of hearing the same things.

Hey least you got someone who actually cares about how your day went... You out of like 300 other million Americans.... It's never a bad thing ya know.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Hey least you got someone who actually cares about how your day went... You out of like 300 other million Americans.... It's never a bad thing ya know.

Yeah that's true. But i feel like he should put more effort because anyone can easily say those things.

Anyone could say those things easily but not everyone does.

What do you want him to say?

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Anyone could say those things easily but not everyone does.

What do you want him to say?

I don't want him to say anything specifically but to initiate the conversation. Like how friends would randomly text each other. Just anything to get a conversation going. If that makes any sense.

Somehow it just seems like your over-complicating things...
Mean if you wanna talk why not just initiate the conversation yourself.. do you not like talking to him or something ^.^?

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Somehow it just seems like your over-complicating things...
Mean if you wanna talk why not just initiate the conversation yourself.. do you not like talking to him or something ^.^?

Yeah but I don't want to always be the one initiating the conversation. I don't want to seem desperate x_x

I get where you are coming from as it's nice to have someone who equally engages you. Buuuuuuuut NotYourAverageAquarius makes a good point: you have someone who cares about you and your day and there certainly is no reason to over-complicate it. How about just letting him know you've noticed the conversation is usually initiated by you? That might make him realize he could be more communicative. He is a guy after all and not a mind-reader. If it bugs you fill him in but you can't expect him to know what you want or what's bothering you unless you tell him.

I see your point and I been in the same situation and to be honest its bloody boring. There is load of things happening in this world and I dont think its a good idea to stay silent or just use sweet words instead of intellectually stimulating our minds. From my experience am saying you'll felt trapped if this relation goes for long term that doesnt mean am saying to dump him but you should make it clear to him either he needs to open up or bugger off. I think you are extremely independent and you need a partner to stimulate your mind body and soul, but it will be too much work for most of them.

I don't get the point of dating someone or being in a relationship with someone who lives in another state.

I dated a virgo a long time, he was soo boring. It took everything to leave him, he was such a nice person. But the thrill wasn't there. I thought I would regret it but I seriously never did.

what? he's not like a Charlie Sheen?? Or a Keanu Reeves? Those guys aren't boring at all.

Posted by rachelsnow12
Yes, I too dated a Virgo. He was very nice and sincere, but he put me to sleep.

I stayed with mine way too long...

Posted by lisabethur8
what? he's not like a Charlie Sheen?? Or a Keanu Reeves? Those guys aren't boring at all.

they do not appeal to me at all and they do look boring

Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by lisabethur8
what? he's not like a Charlie Sheen?? Or a Keanu Reeves? Those guys aren't boring at all.

they do not appeal to me at all and they do look boring

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I love Keanu Reeves!! He's one of my faves. He appeals to me, I even told hubby, I said, Keanu is sooooo cool!

Even as Nero...he rocks! And Charlie's just funny with great wit. Me and hubs love his comedy. He's a player though from what I read of him. (shrug) Poor guy can't find a stable relationship. I even feel for Keanu, but he's hurting from his ex's accident I believe.

Posted by lisabethur8
what? he's not like a Charlie Sheen?? Or a Keanu Reeves? Those guys aren't boring at all.

OMG! Could you imagine dating Charlie Sheen??

*shivers*

ohhh and Richard Gere is pretty good. A bit too coolly for my taste as a celebrity. I didn't like him in "First Knight." Too corny. But, he's a good actor anyway. He's got great looks even for his old age, and wonderful ability to shine without saying much. He's actually married to an Aquarius woman.

As for Charlie, there's just something about him that makes me LOL. He's got the funny looks without trying. It's so great he got into comedy, it suits him so well. He's perfect for that role in "2 1/2 men." I don't like Ashton.

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Posted by lisabethur8
what? he's not like a Charlie Sheen?? Or a Keanu Reeves? Those guys aren't boring at all.

OMG! Could you imagine dating Charlie Sheen??

*shivers*

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No i can't. LOL but an Aquarius woman married him. So did a Leo woman.

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Posted by rachelsnow12
Yes, I too dated a Virgo. He was very nice and sincere, but he put me to sleep.

I stayed with mine way too long...

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you sound like Cindy Crawford (AquaPisces cusp too) and she didnt like him (they married but divorced)

anyway we're off to dinner. Have a lovely weekend people.

Posted by Taggize
I get where you are coming from as it's nice to have someone who equally engages you. Buuuuuuuut NotYourAverageAquarius makes a good point: you have someone who cares about you and your day and there certainly is no reason to over-complicate it. How about just letting him know you've noticed the conversation is usually initiated by you? That might make him realize he could be more communicative. He is a guy after all and not a mind-reader. If it bugs you fill him in but you can't expect him to know what you want or what's bothering you unless you tell him.

I'm definitely going to tell him that soon. I'm just waiting until we get on Skype so that I can tell him that through face time and not through texting. But he has failed to get on Skype on time for about two three times and has kept me waiting. Two out of the three times I was just too pissed off and went to sleep.

Posted by geminidude
I see your point and I been in the same situation and to be honest its bloody boring. There is load of things happening in this world and I dont think its a good idea to stay silent or just use sweet words instead of intellectually stimulating our minds. From my experience am saying you'll felt trapped if this relation goes for long term that doesnt mean am saying to dump him but you should make it clear to him either he needs to open up or bugger off. I think you are extremely independent and you need a partner to stimulate your mind body and soul, but it will be too much work for most of them.

Thanks and you're right. I am independent and I do need a partner who can stimulate me! Hopefully things will become better with me and my Virgo guy... he is the only guy that I've dated that can be quite boring. No offense.

Posted by rachelsnow12
Maybe you are just focusing in on the things that he doesn't do, rather than the things that he does do... that you like? I can be quiet sometimes, depending on how well or how comfortable I am with someone. Or even if I've known them forever, sometimes we will both sit on the phone in silence, and then say "ok then... I'll talk to you tomorrow" It's ok to be quiet sometimes.

Long distance is hard enough as it is, if you aren't feeling that vibe, then I would say best to cut your losses and move on, or just be friends... not expect anything, and take it from there.

Perhaps you're right. But since it's a long distance relationship, I think it would be nice if he put in some effort too. There are some good things that he do but I can't say much because we haven't hung out in person for long enough.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
I dated a virgo a long time, he was soo boring. It took everything to leave him, he was such a nice person. But the thrill wasn't there. I thought I would regret it but I seriously never did.

I agree. My Virgo guy is also a really nice person but definitely boring -____-" (well that was the first and only time when we spent vacation together). He later told me that he was shy so I guess that explained the reason why... Hopefully he will not be as boring the next time we see each other.

All the above is agreeable. Its the whole long distance that kills it most of the time. You have to from both sides make the extra effort with communication. I used to have that where the conversation is just a casual one and gets killed off. like one of those meaningless conversations. You end up loosing that spark.. Do you get to meet up? all you need to do is interact with eachother more. x