NEED HELP.. do aqua man come back?

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I really need great advice here.. if you are an Aquarius male or have experience with one, even better! So....I have been dating an Aquarius man for 5 months now. We have to keep it a secret because we work together and we aren't allowed to date at work. He is 39 and I am 24. He is the most loving man I have ever had. Only problem is that he was married before and now has 3 kids from the marriage. Him and his wife are separated for 2 years and finalizing the divorce but she is making it tough on him. He had tried to get me a great position at another company just so he can show me off to everyone and be open about us. He has introduced me to his kids as coworkers and friends for now because he wants them to be comfortable around me first. He is a great dad. He wants me to meet his parents. He talks about wanting to marry me. Have kids with me and he cannot stop thinking about me. He really loves me and I know it. Texted me or called me on his days off when we didn't see eachother..Problem started because he told me him and his soon to be ex are still living together while finalizing divorce. He is trying to get her to stay in that house with the kids while he moves out. I got upset yesterday about it and texted him that it bothers me and I felt insecure and uneasy. He first called and said I have nothing to worry about because I know they are going to be living separate in 2 weeks. Later he texted me saying "I will make it easy...once I have set schedule and not living on same property I reach out to see if you still single and interested in me. Don't want you to worry" at first I responded saying i am sorry and I'll wait for you and hope things end well. Ill miss you....Then I texted him to call me to talk it out, he didn't reply but I called and he didn't answer my call. I texted him a long message after few hours saying I love you and we don't need a break and I'll never let him feel lonely and that I'm there when he's ready to talk and I am understanding to his stressful situation..etc. he is going out of country for a week tomorrow so I won't get to see him or have phone contact and I feel bad we fought before he left. He hasn't contacted me back.. will he come back? I don't want to contact him again. Before we fought he had told me to download WhatsApp so we could talk when he was away. I downloaded it but I haven't told him I did since he is ignoring me. I hope he reaches out before he leaves. What should I do?

P.s: everyone in his family and friends know his marriage is over. No chance of reconciliation
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Hi astrology101, I should contact him again? And say I will date others or..? I'm not understanding your response
No I didn't mean that.

I meant write to him saying you are newly single and interested in him.. but I guess you don't have to.

What I am trying to say is tell him you are interested in him.. no need to call him.. just send him a text message.
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My last text to him was "We don't need a break. I don't want a break from you. I know I was going crazy lol.. just not used to it. But I understand. I know it's a lot of stress for you with this separation situation already and I'm here for you through it all. I won't ever let you feel alone. I'm here for you when you want to talk. We will figure it all out together and get through all the mess. Also, You better win big on your trip. I'm very excited for you and it's a great trip, doing what you love to take you away from the work and home stress. I love you and send me pics of the new hair after lol " yesterday so I technically said I'm still into him. He just needs to contact me lol.. will he? Is he just sulking ? Is this something to breakup over?
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Hi astrology101, I should contact him again? And say I will date others or..? I'm not understanding your response
No I didn't mean that.

I meant write to him saying you are newly single and interested in him.. but I guess you don't have to.

What I am trying to say is tell him you are interested in him.. no need to call him.. just send him a text message.




My last text to him was "We don't need a break. I don't want a break from you. I know I was going crazy lol.. just not used to it. But I understand. I know it's a lot of stress for you with this separation situation already and I'm here for you through it all. I won't ever let you feel alone. I'm here for you when you want to talk. We will figure it all out together and get through all the mess. Also, You better win big on your trip. I'm very excited for you and it's a great trip, doing what you love to take you away from the work and home stress. I love you and send me pics of the new hair after lol " yesterday so I technically said I'm still into him. He just needs to contact me lol.. will he? Is he just sulking ? Is this something to breakup over?


He's not breaking up.. I don't know what he is doing to be honest.

If you have already written to him.. saying you are into him.. then no need to write anything for now. Wait for 2 weeks.. and I'm sure he will respond.

After 2 weeks ... text him .. ask him how is he..

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Will do! I will see him back at work after this vacation in a week so I'll wait until then! 🙂 thank you. Just wanted reassurance he is still into me. Being a cap, I go crazy without reassurance
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Posted by ruscovaxx
Good lord woman leave him alone. Stop contacting him, aquas need their space to think and absorb what they thought about. I'm sure he's read your text but doesn't feel the need to reply yet.

I'm with an aqua.
Lol thank you. I know. It was the first time I have ever texted him 3 times or called. He's usually always the first to text and call and even mentioned how I never reach out first. I will not contact anymore. Did I ruin anything?
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Good lord woman leave him alone. Stop contacting him, aquas need their space to think and absorb what they thought about. I'm sure he's read your text but doesn't feel the need to reply yet.

I'm with an aqua.
Lol thank you. I know. It was the first time I have ever texted him 3 times or called. He's usually always the first to text and call and even mentioned how I never reach out first. I will not contact anymore. Did I ruin anything?
If you keep up the constant texting/calling you will! You should've stopped and chilled after the first time. I don't think you ruined anything though, you were just worried.
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Ah thank you. Aquas are addicting. I am never one to behave this way! I was just hurt that he let me go so easy... if his text translates to him letting me go. I took it that way
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Posted by ruscovaxx
Good lord woman leave him alone. Stop contacting him, aquas need their space to think and absorb what they thought about. I'm sure he's read your text but doesn't feel the need to reply yet.

I'm with an aqua.
Lol thank you. I know. It was the first time I have ever texted him 3 times or called. He's usually always the first to text and call and even mentioned how I never reach out first. I will not contact anymore. Did I ruin anything?
If you keep up the constant texting/calling you will! You should've stopped and chilled after the first time. I don't think you ruined anything though, you were just worried.


Ah thank you. Aquas are addicting. I am never one to behave this way! I was just hurt that he let me go so easy... if his text translates to him letting me go. I took it that way


Aquas are blunt asf with what they say, there's no.. between the lines bs. What was his text?
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Started off with his good morning I miss you blah blah and when I sent a text showing how upset I am and was feeling insecure about the ex, he called me immediately saying "baby you're crazy. I love you and you're crazy and you have nothing to worry about."

Than he texted me saying "Don't worry about it. Within 2 weeks we are not on same property"

Followed by "I will make it easy...once I have set schedule of kids custody and not living on same property I will reach out to see if you still single and interested in me. Don't want you to worry"

And so all that is going to happen in 2 weeks where his ex has to move out.
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OP (Capricongirl1111)

you are really sweet... what are your planets? (moon, venus, mars, etc). And what are his?

It is true, that Aquas (if they cannot solve the situation), just dont answer, because he said everything, he wanted to say, that dont worry... then you assured him you dont want to "break-up", so there was no need to answer, it was your answer to his text, I mean it didnt warrant a reply

but, I would like to point out some red flags (in my opinion):

- you said "he is going out of country for a week tomorrow so I won't get to see him or have phone contact" - where is he going that there is no phone contact? is he an explorer? (jungle, top of mountain? where is the place with no phone contact?)

- typical office affairs ("divorcing" man and the young girl) Is he your boss? what is your work-relationship?

- they are divorcing for 2 years while still living together... its perfectly possible, but I wouldnt have been okey with this for 6 months

- why is it necessary to introduce you as a co-worker and friend? what is wrong with girlfriend?

- are there any big assets to decide in this divorce? does the "ex-wife" have a new partner?

and, more importantly, what are your life-dreams? what do you want to achive in life? Do you have a set of reliable friends? Do you live alone? I mean, we dont know anything about you....

maybe the best thing would be to find another work (but if you are happy with your current job, its not easy...)

please, post your and his planets

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OP (Capricongirl1111)

you are really sweet... what are your planets? (moon, venus, mars, etc). And what are his?

It is true, that Aquas (if they cannot solve the situation), just dont answer, because he said everything, he wanted to say, that dont worry... then you assured him you dont want to "break-up", so there was no need to answer, it was your answer to his text, I mean it didnt warrant a reply

but, I would like to point out some red flags (in my opinion):

- you said "he is going out of country for a week tomorrow so I won't get to see him or have phone contact" - where is he going that there is no phone contact? is he an explorer? (jungle, top of mountain? where is the place with no phone contact?)

- typical office affairs ("divorcing" man and the young girl) Is he your boss? what is your work-relationship?

- they are divorcing for 2 years while still living together... its perfectly possible, but I wouldnt have been okey with this for 6 months

- why is it necessary to introduce you as a co-worker and friend? what is wrong with girlfriend?

- are there any big assets to decide in this divorce? does the "ex-wife" have a new partner?

and, more importantly, what are your life-dreams? what do you want to achive in life? Do you have a set of reliable friends? Do you live alone? I mean, we dont know anything about you....

maybe the best thing would be to find another work (but if you are happy with your current job, its not easy...)

please, post your and his planets




I am bad with planets but his DOB is feb 11, 80 and I am dec 27, 94.

He is going on a big tournament with 4 other men and he will be busy competing. Prior to our argument he had asked me to download WhatsApp before he goes bc he would like to send me pictures and talk to me while he is away. He is going to Mexico.

His kids are very young and since the divorce isn't finaled, it isn't a good idea to tell them bc they would tell their mother who would then make the divorce even harder. And ask for more of his income.

he makes a lot of money so there are lots of big assets involved in the divorce so it's tough also. And yeah he is my boss. But he wasn't when we first started seeing eachother. He got promoted. He is very paranoid bc he can lose his job and he hates not being able to tell anyone I'm his gf because guys flirt with me and he gets jealous at the office. He has made calls to get me interviews at other companies and I'll be making even more than I am making here and land a good position. He wants to keep dating me and wants to marry me and has shown me he is committed. He is willing to either find himself another job but it's hard bc he is a high executive at my company already. Or he is willing to find me something where I will be happy and make a lot more also..
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OP (Capricongirl1111)

you are really sweet... what are your planets? (moon, venus, mars, etc). And what are his?

It is true, that Aquas (if they cannot solve the situation), just dont answer, because he said everything, he wanted to say, that dont worry... then you assured him you dont want to "break-up", so there was no need to answer, it was your answer to his text, I mean it didnt warrant a reply

but, I would like to point out some red flags (in my opinion):

- you said "he is going out of country for a week tomorrow so I won't get to see him or have phone contact" - where is he going that there is no phone contact? is he an explorer? (jungle, top of mountain? where is the place with no phone contact?)

- typical office affairs ("divorcing" man and the young girl) Is he your boss? what is your work-relationship?

- they are divorcing for 2 years while still living together... its perfectly possible, but I wouldnt have been okey with this for 6 months

- why is it necessary to introduce you as a co-worker and friend? what is wrong with girlfriend?

- are there any big assets to decide in this divorce? does the "ex-wife" have a new partner?

and, more importantly, what are your life-dreams? what do you want to achive in life? Do you have a set of reliable friends? Do you live alone? I mean, we dont know anything about you....

maybe the best thing would be to find another work (but if you are happy with your current job, its not easy...)

please, post your and his planets




More about me: I am highly competitive and driven. So is he. Which is why we get along great. I have always had lots of responsibility growing up so I have friends all older and always get told I'm wise beyond my years. He loves that I'm not a crazy party girl but I know how to drink and have fun with any age group (for example, my coworkers are all in their 40s and I hangout with them and they love me). I recently moved to this state and this was my first job here and met him and fell in love. No one understand my situation as he has baggage but I see past it because he makes me happy. I dream to also be in management and that is possible with either this company or the other company he is getting me an offer from. Without sounding cocky, I am extremely good looking and have a great body. I am charming and intelligent. He cannot stop admiring my looks and intelligence and wisdom. He thinks I'm very kind hearted also. I'm not sure what it is but I feel myself feeling insecure even though I know I have so much to offer
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OP (Capricongirl1111)

you are really sweet... what are your planets? (moon, venus, mars, etc). And what are his?

It is true, that Aquas (if they cannot solve the situation), just dont answer, because he said everything, he wanted to say, that dont worry... then you assured him you dont want to "break-up", so there was no need to answer, it was your answer to his text, I mean it didnt warrant a reply

but, I would like to point out some red flags (in my opinion):

- you said "he is going out of country for a week tomorrow so I won't get to see him or have phone contact" - where is he going that there is no phone contact? is he an explorer? (jungle, top of mountain? where is the place with no phone contact?)

- typical office affairs ("divorcing" man and the young girl) Is he your boss? what is your work-relationship?

- they are divorcing for 2 years while still living together... its perfectly possible, but I wouldnt have been okey with this for 6 months

- why is it necessary to introduce you as a co-worker and friend? what is wrong with girlfriend?

- are there any big assets to decide in this divorce? does the "ex-wife" have a new partner?

and, more importantly, what are your life-dreams? what do you want to achive in life? Do you have a set of reliable friends? Do you live alone? I mean, we dont know anything about you....

maybe the best thing would be to find another work (but if you are happy with your current job, its not easy...)

please, post your and his planets


I am:

Cap sun

Libra moon

Scorpio Venus

Virgo mars



He is:

Aquarius sun

Sagittarius moon

Aries Venus

Virgo mars

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Do not reach out to him so soon or do not reach out to him at all and let him miss you because if he DEEPLY loves you, he WILL be back! Just watch and see.

Full blooded Scorpio woman here and I was with one for almost 10 months. Our relationship was great until we would have disagreements and then he wanted to break up or I would get mad at him and leave him.

When things happen, Aquarius get scared and don't know how to handle such deep emotions(those mixed emotions we get when we are hurt) from themselves. They need time to think and be away from you and decide if you are really the one they want.

My Aqua guy was a VERY sensitive person!! Extremely. But, anyways, he was falling deeply in love with me and could not stay away... So we would stop talking and I would not call him nor would I text him and he would come running back but it took time because it would eat him inside that he didn't have me around!

This Aqua man was EXTREMELY affectionate, always wanted to kiss me, hug me, rub me, before our recent break up he would tell me he loved me a lot and that he never wanted to live without me.... He would go into deep depression when I was away so his sister would tell him to put his pride aside and do the right thing. He would just cuddle me all night and some nights his kisses would wake me up. Sometimes I would wake up and he would just be staring at me and would tell me how I was the most beautiful woman he has ever seen.... Or he would tell me that on his dying day that he wants my name to be the last word he speaks.... Very loving, romantic, and very giving to anyone which is why I fell in love with him.... But, his pride would kill it. When he was angry, HE WAS ANGRY and when they are mad, THEY ARE MEAN and CRAZY!

Anyways, we had a disagreement about 5 days ago and I told him before I was tired of us breaking up and not speaking for weeks so two days later I text him starting off very nicely and then I just got straight to the point but was tactful. At the end of the message I told him to call me and we talk it out and he told me he will always love me but he was done and I asked him, are you so sure about that and he said he was.... I was totally upset, even cried which I hardly do, but I'm over his immature crap when he gets angry over BS.... So, NOW he has tried to fill me out and questioned where I was when I didn't answer his phone call(very jealous over me and paranoid), but I keep it short and keep on moving because he KNOWS he has f*cked up. He knows he's wrong and I'm not saying two words to him because I tried to be the bigger person and talk it out with him. I will not make it easy on him this time. I will let it burn and burn so he can see.

Anyways, ms.capi, if he wants you, he will be back. They are strange creatures and they need time to think and cool off so just give him space and let him breath and miss you. Once they fall in love and genuinely feel like they can't get better, they will eventually do better. Just be patient honey, I know it can be tough sometimes.