Opening up

How hard is it for aquas to share their feelings?

My aqua is going through things, and I give him his space, but I really want to (a) know what the hell is going on. And (b) want to make him feel better.

I told him the "I'm here if you need me," stuff and try to give him some sunshine and make him smile when we're together, avoiding his woes.

But, and we've been together a little over 2 years, when do I become his confidant? I've proven my loyalty and trust with many things. Why won't he open up to me?

What do aquas need in order to open up and share?

I still don't share much with my gf. And I never did with my best friend for the last 8 years.

As @blessyou said, sometimes it can't be fixed by our loved ones. Also, we don't want to burden you with our problems.

He has told me that before, that he doesn't want to burden me. But why would it burden me, it's not my problem directly. I just want to hear him, give him a sounding board, and maybe give some advice - or at least a good hug.

Mine haa been going through some really crappy stuff lately (inheritance and family), and it's pretty bad. He had an incident over the weekend that was outrageous and he was beyond disturbed.

I listened, was honest when I said I wished I could make it better for him and I hated seeing him hurting like that. He said me being just there was all he needed. Then I asked if he wanted a hug, he said yes, I told him I loved him.

When he started in on it again I basically calmed him down, and said he needed to stop for his own sake.

Then we watched some TV and eventually he was able to eat dinner.

We haven't spoken about it since, and he's good for now.

Just knowing you're there is all he needs. Talking it out doesn't help for these guys, it makes things worse. Be a reminder of other things, good things that make them happy and feel loved. That's the best way to help.

Posted by pennystealing123
He has told me that before, that he doesn't want to burden me. But why would it burden me, it's not my problem directly. I just want to hear him, give him a sounding board, and maybe give some advice - or at least a good hug.

Aquas open up when they feel comfortable with the person they're with. If you really want him to open, stop asking him to. He won't do it just to please you; but, it will be because he WANTS too (if and when he decides).

You should stop asking and just be there making his time with you fun and calm without personal questions because maybe lots of people have been asking the same question : "what happened are you okay " you know give him a break and getaway when he's with you and then he will probably open up that works

Perhaps he thinks you'll try to hard to fix it, or you'll try too hard to cheer him up, or you'll obsess and not understand. You're prying will make him distance more.

From my experience, just be around, be a presence, just be. Don't try to force it. Be a safe haven where problems don't exist. That is being supportive from their point of view.

I've observed that they tend to think in their heads and like to figure things out on their own. They would rather internalize than verbalize.

Posted by sultrykitty
Mine haa been going through some really crappy stuff lately (inheritance and family), and it's pretty bad. He had an incident over the weekend that was outrageous and he was beyond disturbed.

I listened, was honest when I said I wished I could make it better for him and I hated seeing him hurting like that. He said me being just there was all he needed. Then I asked if he wanted a hug, he said yes, I told him I loved him.

When he started in on it again I basically calmed him down, and said he needed to stop for his own sake.

Then we watched some TV and eventually he was able to eat dinner.

We haven't spoken about it since, and he's good for now.

Just knowing you're there is all he needs. Talking it out doesn't help for these guys, it makes things worse. Be a reminder of other things, good things that make them happy and feel loved. That's the best way to help.

This ^^

I still haven't been privy to my Aquas issue(s)

He posts these sad and sometimes angry things on FB.

I don't ask. We act like nothing is wrong and only he wants to talk about sex - what he wants to do to me, with me, and recap on things we've done.

He also is being suuuuper sweet like "I didn't want you to go to sleep without me wishing you good night" texts. He used to say these things in the beginning of our relationship, and waned over two years. So I guess I'm doing the right thing if he's being

I just eyefukk him when we can't have sex, and give him my all when we're together. It seems that all he wants right now.

But what's making him sad/angry and withhold from me?

Posted by pennystealing123
How hard is it for aquas to share their feelings?

My aqua is going through things, and I give him his space, but I really want to (a) know what the hell is going on. And (b) want to make him feel better.

I told him the "I'm here if you need me," stuff and try to give him some sunshine and make him smile when we're together, avoiding his woes.

But, and we've been together a little over 2 years, when do I become his confidant? I've proven my loyalty and trust with many things. Why won't he open up to me?

What do aquas need in order to open up and share?

Aquarius are kind alike this... However they do have a deeper side and I would be a hair worried if he is keeping the relationship at arms length. Also know that Mars is retro so people have less energy right this second. Things may not also be going your's or his way. Often retro's bring fears... I see the Ram Icon so I know I am feeling this see how you feel after the 29th... Or even a week or 2 after. Some times they are just slower to show it and of course are very idealistic so they want to be told what they have to do.

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Posted by pennystealing123
I still haven't been privy to my Aquas issue(s)

He posts these sad and sometimes angry things on FB.

I don't ask. We act like nothing is wrong and only he wants to talk about sex - what he wants to do to me, with me, and recap on things we've done.

He also is being suuuuper sweet like "I didn't want you to go to sleep without me wishing you good night" texts. He used to say these things in the beginning of our relationship, and waned over two years. So I guess I'm doing the right thing if he's being

I just eyefukk him when we can't have sex, and give him my all when we're together. It seems that all he wants right now.

But what's making him sad/angry and withhold from me?

"We act like nothing is wrong and only he wants to talk about sex."

Red flag... Sex is important in a relationship... However any guy if all they do is talk about sex or that kinda thing... they are primal minded. Aries are very idealistic... I understand this very well because even then my x where most aqua's. They like to pun or play around with the topic but they do normally have morals... The one exception is if they have confidence problems which is often a karmatic lesson for them with there nerves... They may act out like a girl dressing to slutty... or a guy flirting with girls.

You should try to keep your emotions in check and not blow up about it when you talk about it. Just bring up the issues... often it takes couples too long to address these things. People don't want to change unless they are willing to themselves. that is not to say he can't partly because of you... but he has to understand there is a lot more then sex or good looking women in life... and even more so in a relationship. If he can't then you may consider moving on. I am sorry about the 2 years Aquarius are very good at avoiding conflict and if he is self justifying the situation... just keeping you around for sex. It is really sexism and he is objectifying you.

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Posted by pennystealing123
I still haven't been privy to my Aquas issue(s)

He posts these sad and sometimes angry things on FB.

I don't ask. We act like nothing is wrong and only he wants to talk about sex - what he wants to do to me, with me, and recap on things we've done.

He also is being suuuuper sweet like "I didn't want you to go to sleep without me wishing you good night" texts. He used to say these things in the beginning of our relationship, and waned over two years. So I guess I'm doing the right thing if he's being

I just eyefukk him when we can't have sex, and give him my all when we're together. It seems that all he wants right now.

But what's making him sad/angry and withhold from me?

It honestly doesn't seem to me like you have his heart.

The only thing you speak about is your sex life. I understand that there may be more that you're not comfortable talking about, but just from the outside it doesn't look like a very deep connection.

While Aquas seem aloof and somewhat shallow, they really will connect deeply with someone, and desire that. I'm not getting that srnse from what you've said

pennystealing123,
Talking from experience from my 2 previous relationships with aquarius men (1 year and 3.5 years respectively), I found out that these guys have difficulty in understanding that a gf just wants to show her care by being there for him and casually asking to understand his pb. From their reaction and mood, you see they have a pb but they would share only on their terms.
Most of the important things/decisions are on their terms, and this is not equate to free will or independance but rather self centreness, plain selfishness.

In the long run , it becomes exhausting. You run out of patience. Up to you to know to know where to draw the line.
Else it's very eaasy for you to be gradually transformed into somebody whom he wants you to become. The transformation they try to do on you is not obvious at all. When I confronted him, he admitted it himself.

Am sure not all aqua men are like that coz not everything depends on horoscopes.

To summarise, just be yourself and if you start second guessing or you do not feel free to share your own opinions (like I care for you and would like to know what is bothering you and you need to ask advice for such a simple thing), then there is a problem. It takes 2 to tango...always remember that dear.

Posted by pennystealing123
I still haven't been privy to my Aquas issue(s)

He posts these sad and sometimes angry things on FB.

I don't ask. We act like nothing is wrong and only he wants to talk about sex - what he wants to do to me, with me, and recap on things we've done.

He also is being suuuuper sweet like "I didn't want you to go to sleep without me wishing you good night" texts. He used to say these things in the beginning of our relationship, and waned over two years. So I guess I'm doing the right thing if he's being

I just eyefukk him when we can't have sex, and give him my all when we're together. It seems that all he wants right now.

But what's making him sad/angry and withhold from me?

This kind of sounds as if your relationship is only based on sex.

don't push it though...I know giving her space is tricky to do but it will eventually work out the way it should. if you push push and push for her to open up and share her thoughts/feelings, she will just get angrier and angrier at you since shes not ready to share.