Seeking opinion from Aquarius esp men.

I got a very close friend who is an Aquarius sun, with moon in Sag and venus in Aries. My friend is someone who shares a lot about himself to me, about his family, friends, and even past lovelife. He would randomly share even pictures of them and we text every day. And naturally, I would respond with curiosity. I would ask about them or about anything that he shares to me. I express my interest on the subject because I felt that those are too personal information and I don’t want to be nonchalant about it and make him felt ignored in the process. But when I do the same, sharing about my family and share pictures, he doesn’t express as much curiosity. He doesn’t ask more questions about me as I did to him. When I share, he will just say nice and deflect the convo, not even asking more about the picture. They said that when Aquarius trust you enough or like you enough, they would be open about his personal life but why is he not expressing curiosity about me, as if he doesn't want to know more about me? Sometime I felt like he deliberately also avoid giving me compliments even as a friend. And now, I selectively share my personal info about me as I want to avoid feeling disappointed or rejected with his nonchalance. Why do you think is that so?

Skyline. I am a Gemini with lots of earth in my planets, so that makes me a stable air sign I guess. It matters that he doesn't express curiosity because I'd also want him to know me. As being an air sign myself, I am not a simple person personality wise, so it matters to me that he'd want to know me too, maybe like the way I was with him. I mean, they said Aqua don't open up easily unless he like or trust the person, and I felt secure that he does trust me. But why does it seem he's not curious enough for me and yet talks to me everyday?

I know you asked for Aqua men only, however I had an Aqua friend who was very much liked this. She shared her journey of miscarriages, her mother’s open heart surgeries, her relationship struggles. Everything you name it. And as a cancer Scorpio moon I was open to listening and didn’t get to share too much in return, when I did she gave me generic and basic feedback. Eventually I got tired and exhausted of being her trusted vessel, where her “how are yous” turned into her telling me about her day instead. I think that some Aquas find someone who they trust to spill all their guts too but don’t have much interest in what the other person really has going on....

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Skyline. I am a Gemini with lots of earth in my planets, so that makes me a stable air sign I guess. It matters that he doesn't express curiosity because I'd also want him to know me. As being an air sign myself, I am not a simple person personality wise, so it matters to me that he'd want to know me too, maybe like the way I was with him. I mean, they said Aqua don't open up easily unless he like or trust the person, and I felt secure that he does trust me. But why does it seem he's not curious enough for me and yet talks to me everyday?

Sorry we are like that. You want him to behave like a Gemini but he is an Aquarius.

He talks to you because he considers you a friend and enjoy communicating with you.

You shouldn’t expect him to behave how you do. We don’t like expectations. Give him time and don’t pressure the relationship that you have.

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Yes, I understand that. But I guess you don't need to be a particular sign to actually ask personal questions back especially if you two are already close. I guess what I'm trying to understand is that how will he be able to understand or know me if he's not curious enough to know me? Also I learned that he ask personal questions to our friends but don't share as much personal stuff about himself as he is to me. But I sometimes feel that there was a deliberate avoidance to go in that space to ask me personal stuff. I would end up divulging them to him as a form of back and forth 2-side convo but he doesn't initiate the asking. I guess it just frustrates me as I am not an open person myself. I need to be asked in order for me to share. thanks for responding, Sky

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I know you asked for Aqua men only, however I had an Aqua friend who was very much liked this. She shared her journey of miscarriages, her mother’s open heart surgeries, her relationship struggles. Everything you name it. And as a cancer Scorpio moon I was open to listening and didn’t get to share too much in return, when I did she gave me generic and basic feedback. Eventually I got tired and exhausted of being her trusted vessel, where her “how are yous” turned into her telling me about her day instead. I think that some Aquas find someone who they trust to spill all their guts too but don’t have much interest in what the other person really has going on....

Hi, Sassy. I'm open to suggestions from other people though so it's okay. Yeah, I think I can see where you're coming from. It does feel like a one-sided conversation sometimes. At times, I'd try to observe if maybe he's not interested to communicate anymore but he does answer every text or every questions I had for him. He just waits for me though. I guess he's used with me initiating but when I try not to talk to him for a day or two, he would send random text just to maybe to get an answer from me but it would go back to the pattern where I end up just asking but not being asked back. My frustrations were always that when I do share my personal stuff, he doesn't have probing questions or follow on, like he's not interested to know more when I already presented it to him as a conversation topic of sorts.

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I know you asked for Aqua men only, however I had an Aqua friend who was very much liked this. She shared her journey of miscarriages, her mother’s open heart surgeries, her relationship struggles. Everything you name it. And as a cancer Scorpio moon I was open to listening and didn’t get to share too much in return, when I did she gave me generic and basic feedback. Eventually I got tired and exhausted of being her trusted vessel, where her “how are yous” turned into her telling me about her day instead. I think that some Aquas find someone who they trust to spill all their guts too but don’t have much interest in what the other person really has going on....

Hi, Sassy. I'm open to suggestions from other people though so it's okay. Yeah, I think I can see where you're coming from. It does feel like a one-sided conversation sometimes. At times, I'd try to observe if maybe he's not interested to communicate anymore but he does answer every text or every questions I had for him. He just waits for me though. I guess he's used with me initiating but when I try not to talk to him for a day or two, he would send random text just to maybe to get an answer from me but it would go back to the pattern where I end up just asking but not being asked back. My frustrations were always that when I do share my personal stuff, he doesn't have probing questions or follow on, like he's not interested to know more when I already presented it to him as a conversation topic of sorts.

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There’s no probing questions because there isn’t as much interest.... or he just isn’t that person who communicates that way....

I did that dance for maybe two years.... then I stopped reaching out, stopped initiating and now there’s no contact at all..

Good Luck. I’m learning receiving from the person isn’t always what someone’s looking for, sometimes just being there for the person is their own personal compensation....

Posted by Aquarelle

He only sees you as a friend he enjoys talking too.

We usually respect your privacy so we won't pry or get into a topic that feels uncomfortable. Also, men in general are less into emotional sharing so don't expect too much from him. He is not a girlfriend.

Hi, Aquarelle. But the thing is even if I share something personal to him, like maybe about a family member, I initiated to open the topic so therefore it's not an uncomfortable subject. And as a friend, I'd like to feel that I could trust that he could be someone I could openly talk to as he was about himself and it frustrates me when he just say things like nice and then talk about something else. And I thought Aquarius are good friends and if he likes you he would be interested to know you and understand you. even if it's only platonic.

Posted by Antiphates

I rarely open up about things I currently am still in struggle with. Once I have settled those things they go from my secret necronomicon in my secret chamber to the open book in my front store.

Or in other words: what he seems to be telling you isn't being open and probably more on the side of normal small talk.

Hi, Antiphates. But he claimed that what he was sharing to me he doesn't share to any of our common friends. He sometimes would talk about his fear. I guess what I'm trying to understand is it is natural for aquarius to be awkward on personal topic even if it's clear that i was willing to talk about it? And sometimes it does feel like it was deliberate to avoid knowing me, if you get what I mean. He would never give me compliments too even just in a friendly way but I would hear from our common friend that there are things he admire about me but those things he never verbalized to him personally. So why can't he be straightforward about those things? Because sometimes I feel it's one-sided conversations and I'm just a receiver.

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I know you asked for Aqua men only, however I had an Aqua friend who was very much liked this. She shared her journey of miscarriages, her mother’s open heart surgeries, her relationship struggles. Everything you name it. And as a cancer Scorpio moon I was open to listening and didn’t get to share too much in return, when I did she gave me generic and basic feedback. Eventually I got tired and exhausted of being her trusted vessel, where her “how are yous” turned into her telling me about her day instead. I think that some Aquas find someone who they trust to spill all their guts too but don’t have much interest in what the other person really has going on....

Hi, Sassy. I'm open to suggestions from other people though so it's okay. Yeah, I think I can see where you're coming from. It does feel like a one-sided conversation sometimes. At times, I'd try to observe if maybe he's not interested to communicate anymore but he does answer every text or every questions I had for him. He just waits for me though. I guess he's used with me initiating but when I try not to talk to him for a day or two, he would send random text just to maybe to get an answer from me but it would go back to the pattern where I end up just asking but not being asked back. My frustrations were always that when I do share my personal stuff, he doesn't have probing questions or follow on, like he's not interested to know more when I already presented it to him as a conversation topic of sorts.

There’s no probing questions because there isn’t as much interest.... or he just isn’t that person who communicates that way....

I did that dance for maybe two years.... then I stopped reaching out, stopped initiating and now there’s no contact at all..

Good Luck. I’m learning receiving from the person isn’t always what someone’s looking for, sometimes just being there for the person is their own personal compensation....

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Thanks, Sassy. So, even though I get tired of this but I don't want to just cut contact. PArt of me wants to ask him why. Do you think it's a good idea to confront him about this to maybe also understand where he's coming from? Because maybe there's only some things I don't understand? What should I do based from an Aquarius perspective?

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I know you asked for Aqua men only, however I had an Aqua friend who was very much liked this. She shared her journey of miscarriages, her mother’s open heart surgeries, her relationship struggles. Everything you name it. And as a cancer Scorpio moon I was open to listening and didn’t get to share too much in return, when I did she gave me generic and basic feedback. Eventually I got tired and exhausted of being her trusted vessel, where her “how are yous” turned into her telling me about her day instead. I think that some Aquas find someone who they trust to spill all their guts too but don’t have much interest in what the other person really has going on....

Hi, Sassy. I'm open to suggestions from other people though so it's okay. Yeah, I think I can see where you're coming from. It does feel like a one-sided conversation sometimes. At times, I'd try to observe if maybe he's not interested to communicate anymore but he does answer every text or every questions I had for him. He just waits for me though. I guess he's used with me initiating but when I try not to talk to him for a day or two, he would send random text just to maybe to get an answer from me but it would go back to the pattern where I end up just asking but not being asked back. My frustrations were always that when I do share my personal stuff, he doesn't have probing questions or follow on, like he's not interested to know more when I already presented it to him as a conversation topic of sorts.

There’s no probing questions because there isn’t as much interest.... or he just isn’t that person who communicates that way....

I did that dance for maybe two years.... then I stopped reaching out, stopped initiating and now there’s no contact at all..

Good Luck. I’m learning receiving from the person isn’t always what someone’s looking for, sometimes just being there for the person is their own personal compensation....

Thanks, Sassy. So, even though I get tired of this but I don't want to just cut contact. PArt of me wants to ask him why. Do you think it's a good idea to confront him about this to maybe also understand where he's coming from? Because maybe there's only some things I don't understand? What should I do based from an Aquarius perspective?

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Here's a question for you, do you want something more than just a friendship? Are your romantically interested or have hopes for the friendship to flourish into more?

In my experience I did. & initially it began as dating and turned into a friendship- I thought I would be comfortable with the dynamic changing to platonic friendship, but when the concerns and the friendship wasnt reciprocated I lost energy and the energy was draining....

Soooo if you are truly concerned as a friend and nothing more, you can ask for clarification but then it prob wouldnt change as it is only a friendship...It also can change because he will feel obligated to change his behavior.

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I know you asked for Aqua men only, however I had an Aqua friend who was very much liked this. She shared her journey of miscarriages, her mother’s open heart surgeries, her relationship struggles. Everything you name it. And as a cancer Scorpio moon I was open to listening and didn’t get to share too much in return, when I did she gave me generic and basic feedback. Eventually I got tired and exhausted of being her trusted vessel, where her “how are yous” turned into her telling me about her day instead. I think that some Aquas find someone who they trust to spill all their guts too but don’t have much interest in what the other person really has going on....

Hi, Sassy. I'm open to suggestions from other people though so it's okay. Yeah, I think I can see where you're coming from. It does feel like a one-sided conversation sometimes. At times, I'd try to observe if maybe he's not interested to communicate anymore but he does answer every text or every questions I had for him. He just waits for me though. I guess he's used with me initiating but when I try not to talk to him for a day or two, he would send random text just to maybe to get an answer from me but it would go back to the pattern where I end up just asking but not being asked back. My frustrations were always that when I do share my personal stuff, he doesn't have probing questions or follow on, like he's not interested to know more when I already presented it to him as a conversation topic of sorts.

There’s no probing questions because there isn’t as much interest.... or he just isn’t that person who communicates that way....

I did that dance for maybe two years.... then I stopped reaching out, stopped initiating and now there’s no contact at all..

Good Luck. I’m learning receiving from the person isn’t always what someone’s looking for, sometimes just being there for the person is their own personal compensation....

Thanks, Sassy. So, even though I get tired of this but I don't want to just cut contact. PArt of me wants to ask him why. Do you think it's a good idea to confront him about this to maybe also understand where he's coming from? Because maybe there's only some things I don't understand? What should I do based from an Aquarius perspective?

Here's a question for you, do you want something more than just a friendship? Are your romantically interested or have hopes for the friendship to flourish into more?

In my experience I did. & initially it began as dating and turned into a friendship- I thought I would be comfortable with the dynamic changing to platonic friendship, but when the concerns and the friendship wasnt reciprocated I lost energy and the energy was draining....

Soooo if you are truly concerned as a friend and nothing more, you can ask for clarification but then it prob wouldnt change as it is only a friendship...It also can change because he will feel obligated to change his behavior.

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Well, I do care for him and it's a driver I guess on why I want to continue having a quality friendship with him. But regardless of feelings, my friendship with some other guys was that they also tried to know me and understand me by asking questions. I mean that's the most logical and practical way to know someone. It doesn't need to take some romantic interest to be interested in knowing your friends especially as close as we are. I felt it's just a waste of closeness and every day communication when at the end of the day he still don't know me. As a Gemini, I'm complex as Aquarius. I don't have a black and white personality. And like him, I also hated being misunderstood. So he will only end up understanding me through assumptions on my actions maybe because he didn't made an effort to know the reason. And as a cerebral person, everything is ruled by reason. He's got to ask the question and that's the source of my frustrations really. lol

Hmm. Relationships should be balanced. If you feel like you can't be your TRUE self while in this friendship, then, what is its purpose? I couldn't imagine hearing someone spill their shit to me and when I want to talk about and elaborate on some of my shit, it hits a dead end because the "listener" has nothing to offer.

OP, what is it that YOU get out of your friendship? Something to ponder on.

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He only sees you as a friend he enjoys talking too.

We usually respect your privacy so we won't pry or get into a topic that feels uncomfortable. Also, men in general are less into emotional sharing so don't expect too much from him. He is not a girlfriend.

Hi, Aquarelle. But the thing is even if I share something personal to him, like maybe about a family member, I initiated to open the topic so therefore it's not an uncomfortable subject. And as a friend, I'd like to feel that I could trust that he could be someone I could openly talk to as he was about himself and it frustrates me when he just say things like nice and then talk about something else. And I thought Aquarius are good friends and if he likes you he would be interested to know you and understand you. even if it's only platonic.

Do you want to be his friend or his lover?

If he doesn't show you interest in the way you want him to, you have to realize that you cannot change him. So you have to accept how he is or find another friend who shows you interest in the way you want to.

I get the feeling you want more than friendship and he is not giving it to you......

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It isn't that really. I do like him yes but we don't need to be more than that. I just want reciprocity when it comes to sharing because as a Gemini communication is important to me and the chance to express myself to those I feel close to, to not make it as a one-sided conversation, to not be made to feel like I was trying too hard. This is just how I'm starting to feel about it.

But the thing with him is he does give me attention by talking to me everyday, and that he does talk to me and share personal stuff to me, more than I even shared to him and I don't think that's an easy thing to do.. And you're right, it might be better to find some other friends but I don't want him to feel betrayed that after getting close to me and sharing all those personal stuff about his life (and as Aquarius they said you just don't trust anyone and easy to share personal info) and like trusting me that I would just cut him off because he doesn't communicate the way I'd want him to. That's why I wonder on why as an Aquarius he's like that, if that's even common among Aquarius and the better way to approach it, because I can't also ignore my frustration but also don't want to be too shallow to just cut ties just like that.

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I know you asked for Aqua men only, however I had an Aqua friend who was very much liked this. She shared her journey of miscarriages, her mother’s open heart surgeries, her relationship struggles. Everything you name it. And as a cancer Scorpio moon I was open to listening and didn’t get to share too much in return, when I did she gave me generic and basic feedback. Eventually I got tired and exhausted of being her trusted vessel, where her “how are yous” turned into her telling me about her day instead. I think that some Aquas find someone who they trust to spill all their guts too but don’t have much interest in what the other person really has going on....

Hi, Sassy. I'm open to suggestions from other people though so it's okay. Yeah, I think I can see where you're coming from. It does feel like a one-sided conversation sometimes. At times, I'd try to observe if maybe he's not interested to communicate anymore but he does answer every text or every questions I had for him. He just waits for me though. I guess he's used with me initiating but when I try not to talk to him for a day or two, he would send random text just to maybe to get an answer from me but it would go back to the pattern where I end up just asking but not being asked back. My frustrations were always that when I do share my personal stuff, he doesn't have probing questions or follow on, like he's not interested to know more when I already presented it to him as a conversation topic of sorts.

There’s no probing questions because there isn’t as much interest.... or he just isn’t that person who communicates that way....

I did that dance for maybe two years.... then I stopped reaching out, stopped initiating and now there’s no contact at all..

Good Luck. I’m learning receiving from the person isn’t always what someone’s looking for, sometimes just being there for the person is their own personal compensation....

Thanks, Sassy. So, even though I get tired of this but I don't want to just cut contact. PArt of me wants to ask him why. Do you think it's a good idea to confront him about this to maybe also understand where he's coming from? Because maybe there's only some things I don't understand? What should I do based from an Aquarius perspective?

Here's a question for you, do you want something more than just a friendship? Are your romantically interested or have hopes for the friendship to flourish into more?

In my experience I did. & initially it began as dating and turned into a friendship- I thought I would be comfortable with the dynamic changing to platonic friendship, but when the concerns and the friendship wasnt reciprocated I lost energy and the energy was draining....

Soooo if you are truly concerned as a friend and nothing more, you can ask for clarification but then it prob wouldnt change as it is only a friendship...It also can change because he will feel obligated to change his behavior.

Well, I do care for him and it's a driver I guess on why I want to continue having a quality friendship with him. But regardless of feelings, my friendship with some other guys was that they also tried to know me and understand me by asking questions. I mean that's the most logical and practical way to know someone. It doesn't need to take some romantic interest to be interested in knowing your friends especially as close as we are. I felt it's just a waste of closeness and every day communication when at the end of the day he still don't know me. As a Gemini, I'm complex as Aquarius. I don't have a black and white personality. And like him, I also hated being misunderstood. So he will only end up understanding me through assumptions on my actions maybe because he didn't made an effort to know the reason. And as a cerebral person, everything is ruled by reason. He's got to ask the question and that's the source of my frustrations really. lol

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Gem's are complex, no offense but I try not to get too close....As emo as they say Cancer's are, our emotions are in huge but can be a bit more consistent.

My advice is, he is who he is. If it isnt flowing that way, it prob wont as he doesnt seem to have an interest to push further, this is comfortable to him, but uncomfortable for you as you want a little more....

The decision is actually up to you. Accept as is, discuss it with him and not be happy with not receiving the results youre looking for.

Posted by sweetpea2977

Hmm. Relationships should be balanced. If you feel like you can't be your TRUE self while in this friendship, then, what is its purpose? I couldn't imagine hearing someone spill their shit to me and when I want to talk about and elaborate on some of my shit, it hits a dead end because the "listener" has nothing to offer.

OP, what is it that YOU get out of your friendship? Something to ponder on.

Hi, sweetpea. Yeah, the situation seemed like that. I do like my aqua friend and we've really gotten close. To your question, aside from not being too curious about something personal that I share to him, we're very okay with other interests and other topics actually.

It's also guilt and attachment on my part I guess. At first he's closed off but I encouraged him to be open by showing interest in his life as I really genuinely want to know him. And when he felt he could trust me, he did opened up and I respected that very much and never ever tried to betray him even to our common close friends. I just feel guilty now that after all this time I'd just cut him off just like that because I felt dissatisfied with the conversation. I don't want to do that to him.

Also, here's an example of my dissatisfaction. Like I shared a picture of my friend who was gay with whom I've talked to him about that gay friend beforehand and about sexuality. When I showed him the picture, he instead pointed past the picture and into the picture on the wall that was on the picture and totally ignoring the purpose on why I showed him the picture. He knew about this gay friend of mine and yet he didn't even asked anything more about the picture and he deflected the convo by entirely talking about something else. That's just one example. He does the same when I shared something about my brothers. But in his case, whatever he shared to me I tried to ask more questions and interest on what he's sharing. He also didn't asked me about my principles or ideas about relationship but he shared to me about what he feels about romance and relationships and such. And as friends, I thought he should know that about me. Just like when he made a mistake of assuming I'd fall for a bad boy persona and I told him what made you think I'd fall for someone like that. I felt if he tried to know me more it wouldn't have occurred to him that a bad boy would even be my type . Things like that.

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Hmm. Relationships should be balanced. If you feel like you can't be your TRUE self while in this friendship, then, what is its purpose? I couldn't imagine hearing someone spill their shit to me and when I want to talk about and elaborate on some of my shit, it hits a dead end because the "listener" has nothing to offer.

OP, what is it that YOU get out of your friendship? Something to ponder on.

Hi, sweetpea. Yeah, the situation seemed like that. I do like my aqua friend and we've really gotten close. To your question, aside from not being too curious about something personal that I share to him, we're very okay with other interests and other topics actually.

It's also guilt and attachment on my part I guess. At first he's closed off but I encouraged him to be open by showing interest in his life as I really genuinely want to know him. And when he felt he could trust me, he did opened up and I respected that very much and never ever tried to betray him even to our common close friends. I just feel guilty now that after all this time I'd just cut him off just like that because I felt dissatisfied with the conversation. I don't want to do that to him.

Also, here's an example of my dissatisfaction. Like I shared a picture of my friend who was gay with whom I've talked to him about that gay friend beforehand and about sexuality. When I showed him the picture, he instead pointed past the picture and into the picture on the wall that was on the picture and totally ignoring the purpose on why I showed him the picture. He knew about this gay friend of mine and yet he didn't even asked anything more about the picture and he deflected the convo by entirely talking about something else. That's just one example. He does the same when I shared something about my brothers. But in his case, whatever he shared to me I tried to ask more questions and interest on what he's sharing. He also didn't asked me about my principles or ideas about relationship but he shared to me about what he feels about romance and relationships and such. And as friends, I thought he should know that about me. Just like when he made a mistake of assuming I'd fall for a bad boy persona and I told him what made you think I'd fall for someone like that. I felt if he tried to know me more it wouldn't have occurred to him that a bad boy would even be my type . Things like that.

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I completely understand.

Aquarius don’t ask many questions.

He will wait for you to share whatever you’re ready to share.

He obviously enjoy talking to you because they don’t waste their time with people that don’t amuse them 😄

Just chill out and enjoy your friendship

Sharing is not always a sign of affection and trust. I for one share quite openly with strangers and people I I won't be attached to like distant acquaintances. I say that because if he's displayed no signs of actual interest in who you are and what you're about then perhaps you're just not that interesting to him.

Like yeah aquas do open up eventually maybe if you have an industrial grade can opener but I never really deep dive with people I'm interested in off the bat. I soften them up before I tell them I'm actually crazy.

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I know you asked for Aqua men only, however I had an Aqua friend who was very much liked this. She shared her journey of miscarriages, her mother’s open heart surgeries, her relationship struggles. Everything you name it. And as a cancer Scorpio moon I was open to listening and didn’t get to share too much in return, when I did she gave me generic and basic feedback. Eventually I got tired and exhausted of being her trusted vessel, where her “how are yous” turned into her telling me about her day instead. I think that some Aquas find someone who they trust to spill all their guts too but don’t have much interest in what the other person really has going on....

Hi, Sassy. I'm open to suggestions from other people though so it's okay. Yeah, I think I can see where you're coming from. It does feel like a one-sided conversation sometimes. At times, I'd try to observe if maybe he's not interested to communicate anymore but he does answer every text or every questions I had for him. He just waits for me though. I guess he's used with me initiating but when I try not to talk to him for a day or two, he would send random text just to maybe to get an answer from me but it would go back to the pattern where I end up just asking but not being asked back. My frustrations were always that when I do share my personal stuff, he doesn't have probing questions or follow on, like he's not interested to know more when I already presented it to him as a conversation topic of sorts.

There’s no probing questions because there isn’t as much interest.... or he just isn’t that person who communicates that way....

I did that dance for maybe two years.... then I stopped reaching out, stopped initiating and now there’s no contact at all..

Good Luck. I’m learning receiving from the person isn’t always what someone’s looking for, sometimes just being there for the person is their own personal compensation....

Thanks, Sassy. So, even though I get tired of this but I don't want to just cut contact. PArt of me wants to ask him why. Do you think it's a good idea to confront him about this to maybe also understand where he's coming from? Because maybe there's only some things I don't understand? What should I do based from an Aquarius perspective?

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Ive been there. Try to adapt to what he can give. It's an aqua. Get rid of conventional expectations of relationships in general with them.

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Sharing is not always a sign of affection and trust. I for one share quite openly with strangers and people I I won't be attached to like distant acquaintances. I say that because if he's displayed no signs of actual interest in who you are and what you're about then perhaps you're just not that interesting to him.

Like yeah aquas do open up eventually maybe if you have an industrial grade can opener but I never really deep dive with people I'm interested in off the bat. I soften them up before I tell them I'm actually crazy.

We've been friends for a year now. He always claimed that the information about himself, like the photos of his family or friends or his activities for that day that he shared only to me. Also what baffles me is that no question we're close as he wouldn't share as much about himself to me -- in fact, he shares more than I share -- but in the case of social media, he's not really quick to "like" my posts even thought our common friends liked it, or that even if he's already aware of that post because I already told him about it before posting it and he commented something positive about it on personal message but he doesn't click the like bottom, even if it's just a courtesy thing. I don't know if it has any type of indications. Anyway, I'm also trying to reassess my friendship with him or the degree or level of friendship I would be giving him. I care about reciprocity especially about my friendships. So i have to rethink if I should continue regarding him as my best friend or would have to downgrade him as it doesn't sometimes feel two-sided or equal.

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Sharing is not always a sign of affection and trust. I for one share quite openly with strangers and people I I won't be attached to like distant acquaintances. I say that because if he's displayed no signs of actual interest in who you are and what you're about then perhaps you're just not that interesting to him.

Like yeah aquas do open up eventually maybe if you have an industrial grade can opener but I never really deep dive with people I'm interested in off the bat. I soften them up before I tell them I'm actually crazy.

We've been friends for a year now. He always claimed that the information about himself, like the photos of his family or friends or his activities for that day that he shared only to me. Also what baffles me is that no question we're close as he wouldn't share as much about himself to me -- in fact, he shares more than I share -- but in the case of social media, he's not really quick to "like" my posts even thought our common friends liked it, or that even if he's already aware of that post because I already told him about it before posting it and he commented something positive about it on personal message but he doesn't click the like bottom, even if it's just a courtesy thing. I don't know if it has any type of indications. Anyway, I'm also trying to reassess my friendship with him or the degree or level of friendship I would be giving him. I care about reciprocity especially about my friendships. So i have to rethink if I should continue regarding him as my best friend or would have to downgrade him as it doesn't sometimes feel two-sided or equal.

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Just from seeing how you reply I can see you're idea of friendship probably differs from his. I also don't say this in a negative view but one year isn't a lot of time at all, you should also consider he may not always be completely truthful even if he vocally tells you that he is.

Social media side you should probably let that slide but again that's just me (as an aqua) it's not something I particularly enjoy and not a metric of friendship there is no such thing as courtesy likes that's just fucking stupid.

I can't answer for him but I'll answer it as an aqua. What I give to a friend is what I give, I don't expect much in return and if I consider them to be a true friend and not just an acquaintance or a person I see a lot due to whatever reason, I would have zero expectations of them yet I would have their backs, see how they are going; a loyal friend. Not in the way you describe it because, the way I see it, we all have our own lives to live... Just as I can't always be there for them physically or mentally on a moments notice I don't expect them to be there for me. It's nothing about what a friend is 'suppose' to do.

Maybe most Aquas will agree with me on this point but real friends that we care about we latch on to but not in a needy sense and definitely not in the sense that we must spend every waking moment together nor do we must share our darkest secrets. This may apply even more to the Aqua you're talking about due to his placements you've given so far.

Take away what you will but from what you've written there's nothing but negative points of how bad of a friend he is perhaps he's not really a friend you should be worth investing in.