BAV
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Oh well... you should admit your wrongs without much explaining, maybe tell her that she can get back at you when she feels like and then leave her alone. It seems like u both met eachother at the wrong time.
My Aqua and I been together for almost 2 years. We both love each other very much. We might have different stories and reasons from yours but she has been back and forth like that. Since I still love her so much, I am the one who suffers all times. She may suffer too but in a different way, the Aqua way I reckon.
When they keep silent, it is very easy for Aqua to relate to their Zodiac traits. Well, I am sorry all Aqua in this forum but I disagree. Love or any relationship is a 2-way thing. You just cannot cite from a book and do not care what your other half is feeling when you are so detached.
In a sense, I think her love or feeling for you is fading. That's only explanation.
You need to learn how to cope with devastation of being lost in love.
Best
When they keep silent, it is very easy for Aqua to relate to their Zodiac traits. Well, I am sorry all Aqua in this forum but I disagree. Love or any relationship is a 2-way thing. You just cannot cite from a book and do not care what your other half is feeling when you are so detached.
In a sense, I think her love or feeling for you is fading. That's only explanation.
You need to learn how to cope with devastation of being lost in love.
Best
Posted by OldLibra
My Aqua and I been together for almost 2 years. We both love each other very much. We might have different stories and reasons from yours but she has been back and forth like that. Since I still love her so much, I am the one who suffers all times. She may suffer too but in a different way, the Aqua way I reckon.
When they keep silent, it is very easy for Aqua to relate to their Zodiac traits. Well, I am sorry all Aqua in this forum but I disagree. Love or any relationship is a 2-way thing. You just cannot cite from a book and do not care what your other half is feeling when you are so detached.
In a sense, I think her love or feeling for you is fading. That's only explanation.
You need to learn how to cope with devastation of being lost in love.
Best
Thanks, I've read your posts from last weeks. Isn't it like you guys were almost non-existent as a couple a few months ago, for a few months? And then everything was ok? How are you now?
I dont understand her (re) actions. She was obviously pissed that I didn't contact her after the failed attempt to surprise her and her stupid egoistic reaction. But then... after contacting her, I dont get it... she replies sometimes to what Im writing. But I have to say that I texted her some stupid and idiotic things, making fun in a way of our "relationship" and about my feelings for her... I even asked her out on Monday, coz I was in the neighborhood. she said no because she wants to relax at home.
She is driving me crazy!!! and at the same time I miss her like hell... I have never met someone like her, so loving and cold in the same person!! kind of just like my mother... also an Aqua 🙂)))
Hi mate I was in a similar situation to you and can give you advice from my experience.
With my ex there was an age difference and when she told her folks they disagreed with us being together and she became quite distant and cold. I got a very brief summary as to whats happened and we broke up.
I tried various times to initiate a conversation and she did oblige but was very short. On a few occasions she did say we should talk but never came through. Eventually she blocked me on everything and just stopped talking. We work together as well.
It was hard for me to do but I just left her alone. She needs to work it out for herself. If am around then we can talk and see what goes from there.
In your case, I think its best to just leave it as I pushed and it didn't get me anywhere. They will talk to you when and if they are ready. If you don't hear from her then its best to let it go and move forward.
Being aloof seems to be an aqua trait. They do what they want when they want.
With my ex there was an age difference and when she told her folks they disagreed with us being together and she became quite distant and cold. I got a very brief summary as to whats happened and we broke up.
I tried various times to initiate a conversation and she did oblige but was very short. On a few occasions she did say we should talk but never came through. Eventually she blocked me on everything and just stopped talking. We work together as well.
It was hard for me to do but I just left her alone. She needs to work it out for herself. If am around then we can talk and see what goes from there.
In your case, I think its best to just leave it as I pushed and it didn't get me anywhere. They will talk to you when and if they are ready. If you don't hear from her then its best to let it go and move forward.
Being aloof seems to be an aqua trait. They do what they want when they want.
Posted by MrR78Hi, thanks! I've read your story, don't know if you know that we are also working together 🙂)) but our positions doesn't imply meeting too much.
Hi mate I was in a similar situation to you and can give you advice from my experience.
With my ex there was an age difference and when she told her folks they disagreed with us being together and she became quite distant and cold. I got a very brief summary as to whats happened and we broke up.
I tried various times to initiate a conversation and she did oblige but was very short. On a few occasions she did say we should talk but never came through. Eventually she blocked me on everything and just stopped talking. We work together as well.
It was hard for me to do but I just left her alone. She needs to work it out for herself. If am around then we can talk and see what goes from there.
In your case, I think its best to just leave it as I pushed and it didn't get me anywhere. They will talk to you when and if they are ready. If you don't hear from her then its best to let it go and move forward.
Being aloof seems to be an aqua trait. They do what they want when they want.
Should I admit to her that it was wrong to come to surprise her at that time and that it was a bit childish of me and played victim (I realized that 2 days ago when I texted someone those exact words, referring to a story shared with me). And that maybe I was over dramatic in my attitude, but I realize that now. And that we can speak normal as we used to....
Or that would be to much from my side?
That's your choice bud, there isn't really a right or wrong answer to that question. Again I am talking from experience.
The last time I spoke with my ex I did admit my mistakes and she just agreed with me. She did not acknowledge any of the mistakes she made (I wasn't looking for her to do so, but it would have helped clear the air). The only thing she did say was she was sorry for wasting my time as she can see that now.
The last thing she did say to me before she got out of my car was that she cant see her life not talking to me and can we be friends to which I agreed 2 days later. She also said she hopes she doesn't regret her decision. Since then she hardly made any effort to be friends. This conversation happened 31/10 last year. We are now in January and she only made an effort on one day after I made an effort with her which resulted in a few smiles being exchanged and then she emailed at work. Since then I have had nothing, no xmas text, or NYE. Its her birthday on Sunday and because she chose to blank me, I didn't write in her bday card and have no intention of sending a bday text either.
The question to you need to ask yourself is how much of your pride and self respect are you willing to put on the line? This could potentially be a damaging situation for you if you do, or you could just wait it out and see what happens.
I made the choice to leave it purely because my ex is a very private person who just happened to tell a close mate of mine at work she was back with her. Whether its true or not, the message was very powerful. Now she is occasionally looks at me and other times turns her face which is also a powerful statement. If she wants to talk she knows where I am, I chose to leave it to her and just get on with life.
The last time I spoke with my ex I did admit my mistakes and she just agreed with me. She did not acknowledge any of the mistakes she made (I wasn't looking for her to do so, but it would have helped clear the air). The only thing she did say was she was sorry for wasting my time as she can see that now.
The last thing she did say to me before she got out of my car was that she cant see her life not talking to me and can we be friends to which I agreed 2 days later. She also said she hopes she doesn't regret her decision. Since then she hardly made any effort to be friends. This conversation happened 31/10 last year. We are now in January and she only made an effort on one day after I made an effort with her which resulted in a few smiles being exchanged and then she emailed at work. Since then I have had nothing, no xmas text, or NYE. Its her birthday on Sunday and because she chose to blank me, I didn't write in her bday card and have no intention of sending a bday text either.
The question to you need to ask yourself is how much of your pride and self respect are you willing to put on the line? This could potentially be a damaging situation for you if you do, or you could just wait it out and see what happens.
I made the choice to leave it purely because my ex is a very private person who just happened to tell a close mate of mine at work she was back with her. Whether its true or not, the message was very powerful. Now she is occasionally looks at me and other times turns her face which is also a powerful statement. If she wants to talk she knows where I am, I chose to leave it to her and just get on with life.
Posted by BAVThanks BAV for asking. Yes, we have been on and off. Still on today but I am not sure about tomorrow. It's gonna be a long story.Posted by OldLibra
My Aqua and I been together for almost 2 years. We both love each other very much. We might have different stories and reasons from yours but she has been back and forth like that. Since I still love her so much, I am the one who suffers all times. She may suffer too but in a different way, the Aqua way I reckon.
When they keep silent, it is very easy for Aqua to relate to their Zodiac traits. Well, I am sorry all Aqua in this forum but I disagree. Love or any relationship is a 2-way thing. You just cannot cite from a book and do not care what your other half is feeling when you are so detached.
In a sense, I think her love or feeling for you is fading. That's only explanation.
You need to learn how to cope with devastation of being lost in love.
Best
Thanks, I've read your posts from last weeks. Isn't it like you guys were almost non-existent as a couple a few months ago, for a few months? And then everything was ok? How are you now?
I dont understand her (re) actions. She was obviously pissed that I didn't contact her after the failed attempt to surprise her and her stupid egoistic reaction. But then... after contacting her, I dont get it... she replies sometimes to what Im writing. But I have to say that I texted her some stupid and idiotic things, making fun in a way of our "relationship" and about my feelings for her... I even asked her out on Monday, coz I was in the neighborhood. she said no because she wants to relax at home.
She is driving me crazy!!! and at the same time I miss her like hell... I have never met someone like her, so loving and cold in the same person!! kind of just like my mother... also an Aqua 🙂)))
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About yours, let me put it this way. It's about the fact that you love her so much, just like in my case. So again, lets put zodiac signs aside, there's no point if she does not feel the same for you. If I were right (which I hope not), it's gonna be good for you because it is one side love - you. It's easy to let it go and move on, get ready for someone whose love you deserve more than the current girl's.
My Aqua texts me now as I "speak" to you in here. I decide not to read it yet. I need my quiet time too. So do you.
Also, try not to get into too deep feeling as time goes by like in my case. Otherwise, you'll probably want to hang yourself just like I do now.
Posted by DivaCanLeo🙂)))) Yeap, you are probably right, but the screwed up think is that I fell inlove for that cold, insensitive woman and Im pretty sure she felt the same at some point and now.... for whatever stupid reason she is giving me a fucking hardtime. Yes, the smart way, would be to just ignore her and forget everything, I know.
Back with her what do you mean back with her—
Aquas gather admirers like it's nothing... I've witnessed this... They'll call them "friends". And probably sleep with them. Its bullshit. I feel they just string along these guys and use them when they want. Sure it's wrapped in as maybe nice package but I don't think it's that nice. At all.
To the Op what happened to your balls?
Obviously you've lost your way.
Man down on aisle 3
But... she fucking conquered my brains with her loving ways which are.. unique. Sooo, I just want her back the way we were... but 90% thats not gonna fucking happen, I know that too. But Im looking at the 10% , like an idiot I am.
Aquarius in love
https://aquariusinterpreter.tumblr.com/post/155466185273/how-do-i-know-if-an-aquarius-is-in-love-with-me
"Night and day an Aquarian will think about her lover. Thinking about her future with him." She told me this many times.... that she is thinking all the time about me, she even wakes in the night and thinks about me.. that was in November.
"We will go to the moon and back for you…then all of a sudden we pull back and disappear. For hours, days, maybe a few weeks. " Yeah, been there, she always came back in hours/days. She told me she needed time off to think about whats to be done for us.
Basically all that you wrote its true.. she even gave me hints that she loves me. She admitted to her friend that she was inlove with me. But now... Im not sure if its gone for good or its just one of her pull backs... I believe its more likely the first option. 😢
btw, "They take a long time to commit because they enjoy freedom and no restrictions." what's long time suppose to mean?
Aquarius and why she might be ignoring you
https://aquariusinterpreter.tumblr.com/post/155471489303/why-is-my-aquarian-ignoring-me
so, there are actually 4 reasons why Aquas might ignore someone:
1. being hurt
2. letting go easy
3. just dont like you
4. falling for you
She did the last one a few times with me, always came back.
I dont think I hurt her, and if I have she would ignore me completely.
She does like me, that I know for sure. I told her this 2-3 weeks ago and she said: "its more than like, its a warm feeling inside me and its sooo nice".
Soooo, she is just letting me go easy, ghosting. We basically now talk if I text her something. But I dont text that often because I feel like an idiot. Yesterday was the second time she texted me on her own, asking how I am.
Any chances she might come back after ghosting on me or this is it? What is in her head? 🙂))) What does she want from me now?? Should I just let her go or should I explain that it was wrong for me to surprise her in such a blunt way? coz now I know it was....
Too much back and forth drama. Seems like she only wants you when it's convenient for her. The rest of the time, she's with another man.
Go find someone better. Please.
Go find someone better. Please.
Posted by bumboklatt
Well don't wanna be a jerk but aquas tend to value friendships more than sex.
If sex is what turns a friendship into a relationship then there's not much you can do.
The more you hurt the less likely she will care.
I don't understand what you mean by valuing friendship over sex. We had sex once 3 months ago, and after that we fell inlove with each other, but didn't had sex.. We tried once more, but said she was not ready for it and we slept together (first time for her in 5 years when she just slept besides a guy). No, I don't think it was the sex that make us come together. It was the fucking feelings that were on both sides, I'm sure of this.
She doesnt know that Im hurt, I guess, I dont know... I told her Im not.
I will text her that it was stupid of me to come and surprise her, I know that now, and yes there was drama associated with it, which I hate myself also. And then thats it... no more from my part. Its driving me insane and time to move on.
coming from an aquarius....this isn't gonna end well.
she is fwb with a married man? did I read that right? why pursue someone like that? how old are you guys? OMG!
Anyway, I'm speaking from personal experience here, but as an Aqua, I have to truly fckn love you, to still keep you around after you tell me that you want to pursue another girl. And if I don't really love you, well then I just have you around as another side piece I can hook up with when I'm tired of the other guy, which kind of sounds like that's the reason she stayed friends with you. You were doing your thing and she was doing hers, but there was still the potential that something can spark between you two.
Fast forward to you guys having sex and falling for each other, but then she pulls away..I thought you knew, us Aquas don't do well with feelings. And it's not that we don't want to. I'm sure you've seen her attempt to show her feelings and you just thought it was so cute and it just made you want her more. Deep down, Aquas want that mushy stuff. They want to feel loved and wanted and romanced, but they will never ask for it because they expect you to know and you should be able to read between the lines. I know...we're impossible lol. She pulls away because we are never in the present. She has already thought up all the endless possibilities of how your relationship with her can go and will go. And maybe she is fighting a battle with it because she's so indecisive. Because she sees how great it can be, but she also sees how terrible it can be.
Another reason we pull away is because we reach this point of NO FCKS GIVEN. when we reach that, you're as good as dead to us. we don't care anymore. we realize, it's not gonna work. we can still be your friend, but that part you once saw of us, the part that reeled you in, the part that made you fall for us the first place....that part is closed to you for good.
However, I don't think she's at that last part because SHE KEEPS COMING BACK. This is a vulnerable and confused Aqua. In my opinion, I don't think this is something you should pursue, but people are gonna do what they want anyway. If you do, apologize for showing up, although I think deep down, she enjoyed that you showed up. Stop acting like the victim, you both have faults. if you want to pursue a relationship, talk about it. Tell her it's not okay for her to keep pulling away and playing with your emotions either. I think any true Aqua will try her hardest not to do anything to hurt you intentionally and she will try to be a little more grown up about her detachment.
she is fwb with a married man? did I read that right? why pursue someone like that? how old are you guys? OMG!
Anyway, I'm speaking from personal experience here, but as an Aqua, I have to truly fckn love you, to still keep you around after you tell me that you want to pursue another girl. And if I don't really love you, well then I just have you around as another side piece I can hook up with when I'm tired of the other guy, which kind of sounds like that's the reason she stayed friends with you. You were doing your thing and she was doing hers, but there was still the potential that something can spark between you two.
Fast forward to you guys having sex and falling for each other, but then she pulls away..I thought you knew, us Aquas don't do well with feelings. And it's not that we don't want to. I'm sure you've seen her attempt to show her feelings and you just thought it was so cute and it just made you want her more. Deep down, Aquas want that mushy stuff. They want to feel loved and wanted and romanced, but they will never ask for it because they expect you to know and you should be able to read between the lines. I know...we're impossible lol. She pulls away because we are never in the present. She has already thought up all the endless possibilities of how your relationship with her can go and will go. And maybe she is fighting a battle with it because she's so indecisive. Because she sees how great it can be, but she also sees how terrible it can be.
Another reason we pull away is because we reach this point of NO FCKS GIVEN. when we reach that, you're as good as dead to us. we don't care anymore. we realize, it's not gonna work. we can still be your friend, but that part you once saw of us, the part that reeled you in, the part that made you fall for us the first place....that part is closed to you for good.
However, I don't think she's at that last part because SHE KEEPS COMING BACK. This is a vulnerable and confused Aqua. In my opinion, I don't think this is something you should pursue, but people are gonna do what they want anyway. If you do, apologize for showing up, although I think deep down, she enjoyed that you showed up. Stop acting like the victim, you both have faults. if you want to pursue a relationship, talk about it. Tell her it's not okay for her to keep pulling away and playing with your emotions either. I think any true Aqua will try her hardest not to do anything to hurt you intentionally and she will try to be a little more grown up about her detachment.
Posted by bumboklattI think what he's trying to say is that Aquas can care less about sex. Friendship is much more important to us. That is definitely true. 🙂Posted by BAVSee that's what I mean. Are you sure she feels the same way you feel?Posted by bumboklatt
Well don't wanna be a jerk but aquas tend to value friendships more than sex.
If sex is what turns a friendship into a relationship then there's not much you can do.
The more you hurt the less likely she will care.
She doesnt know that Im hurt, I guess, I dont know... I told her Im not.
I will text her that it was stupid of me to come and surprise her, I know that now, and yes there was drama associated with it, which I hate myself also. And then thats it... no more from my part. Its driving me insane and time to move on.
Maybe she's confused. It's just a possibility and you have to communicate to have some sort of resolution.click to expand
Posted by aquarius_beautyPosted by AquaNextDoorEvery time I see your picture on a thread...I smile on the inside.
Oh well... you should admit your wrongs without much explaining, maybe tell her that she can get back at you when she feels like and then leave her alone. It seems like u both met eachother at the wrong time.
For the OP: Read up
Aquarius and why she might be ignoring you
https://aquariusinterpreter.tumblr.com/post/155471489303/why-is-my-aquarian-ignoring-me
Aquarius in love
https://aquariusinterpreter.tumblr.com/post/155466185273/how-do-i-know-if-an-aquarius-is-in-love-with-meclick to expand
Really? Is it science? Thank you poster. Never known this before. But, after they are sure they are in love with you, then what? Will they be distant and cold for most of the time with their excuse that they are already yours? So you dont have to care about them and they dont want to care about you any more?
Posted by BAVPosted by bumboklatt
Well don't wanna be a jerk but aquas tend to value friendships more than sex.
If sex is what turns a friendship into a relationship then there's not much you can do.
The more you hurt the less likely she will care.
I don't understand what you mean by valuing friendship over sex. We had sex once 3 months ago, and after that we fell inlove with each other, but didn't had sex.. We tried once more, but said she was not ready for it and we slept together (first time for her in 5 years when she just slept besides a guy). No, I don't think it was the sex that make us come together. It was the fucking feelings that were on both sides, I'm sure of this.
She doesnt know that Im hurt, I guess, I dont know... I told her Im not.
I will text her that it was stupid of me to come and surprise her, I know that now, and yes there was drama associated with it, which I hate myself also. And then thats it... no more from my part. Its driving me insane and time to move on.click to expand
Hey desperate stranger, try to cut her off as soon as you can. Man, trust me, you dont want to be like myself right now! God bless you!
Posted by bumboklattIm 99% sure that she felt something for me, something more than just like, as she said it, and that she didn't lie. Why the fuck would somebody lie about this for like 3 months?? Everything was very intense, like a rollercoster. When we kissed, most of the time she would back away, saying its too fucking intense, too good to be true. Who would lie about shit like this?? for 3-4 months??Posted by BAVSee that's what I mean. Are you sure she feels the same way you feel?Posted by bumboklatt
Well don't wanna be a jerk but aquas tend to value friendships more than sex.
If sex is what turns a friendship into a relationship then there's not much you can do.
The more you hurt the less likely she will care.
She doesnt know that Im hurt, I guess, I dont know... I told her Im not.
I will text her that it was stupid of me to come and surprise her, I know that now, and yes there was drama associated with it, which I hate myself also. And then thats it... no more from my part. Its driving me insane and time to move on.
Maybe she's confused. It's just a possibility and you have to communicate to have some sort of resolution.click to expand
Posted by berrywiddle
coming from an aquarius....this isn't gonna end well.
she is fwb with a married man? did I read that right? why pursue someone like that? how old are you guys? OMG!
Anyway, I'm speaking from personal experience here, but as an Aqua, I have to truly fckn love you, to still keep you around after you tell me that you want to pursue another girl. And if I don't really love you, well then I just have you around as another side piece I can hook up with when I'm tired of the other guy, which kind of sounds like that's the reason she stayed friends with you. You were doing your thing and she was doing hers, but there was still the potential that something can spark between you two.
Fast forward to you guys having sex and falling for each other, but then she pulls away..I thought you knew, us Aquas don't do well with feelings. And it's not that we don't want to. I'm sure you've seen her attempt to show her feelings and you just thought it was so cute and it just made you want her more. Deep down, Aquas want that mushy stuff. They want to feel loved and wanted and romanced, but they will never ask for it because they expect you to know and you should be able to read between the lines. I know...we're impossible lol. She pulls away because we are never in the present. She has already thought up all the endless possibilities of how your relationship with her can go and will go. And maybe she is fighting a battle with it because she's so indecisive. Because she sees how great it can be, but she also sees how terrible it can be.
Another reason we pull away is because we reach this point of NO FCKS GIVEN. when we reach that, you're as good as dead to us. we don't care anymore. we realize, it's not gonna work. we can still be your friend, but that part you once saw of us, the part that reeled you in, the part that made you fall for us the first place....that part is closed to you for good.
However, I don't think she's at that last part because SHE KEEPS COMING BACK. This is a vulnerable and confused Aqua. In my opinion, I don't think this is something you should pursue, but people are gonna do what they want anyway. If you do, apologize for showing up, although I think deep down, she enjoyed that you showed up. Stop acting like the victim, you both have faults. if you want to pursue a relationship, talk about it. Tell her it's not okay for her to keep pulling away and playing with your emotions either. I think any true Aqua will try her hardest not to do anything to hurt you intentionally and she will try to be a little more grown up about her detachment.
Thanks for taking the time to answer 🙂
Yes, as she said: after her divorce, 5 years ago, she only had friends and fwb. That's it, no real relationship. And that I'm the first one with whom she thinks at a relationship, but that she feels good with herself, doesn't really need one... then came back to her loving ways. Then said she runs away because she feels too good with me.. pfffffff And that we would be perfect together but doesn't see herself in a relationship NOW. Why the fuck would you say this kind of shit, if you don't mean it?? for 3 months!!
I told her I want to pursue another girl 4-5 months ago, when me and the aqua were just friends. At that time she was a bit desperate to be with someone that she was thinking to get back together with her ex husband!! she didnt in the end. But, yes, there is the fwb, that she wants to get rid off, but not very hard. In November when we were almost like in a relationship, she didn't mentioned him at all, just at one point when she told me that she told him that she was inlove with me. Oh, and she knows very good that I want a relationship with her! She knows this 100% .
Actually, now, we haven't been like we used to in the last couple of weeks. 90% I initiate conversations, which Im tired off actually. And we mainly talk about job, we work in the same place. This is of course because of me showing up unexpected, and after her stupid rejection, I stopped communicating with her for 4-5 days and then she said I was being immature. Sooo, now Im the confused one.. Are we in the place of no return or not?? When we do talk, we talk normal, but at some point I feel her backing away, almost like she remembers stuff or that she is bored and I stop.
Could it be that she thinks that I went to my ex, just a thought....
Posted by aquarius_beautyIm Taurus. 2 weeks passed already. Im not sure you read the whole story. We used to talk everyday, she knew that I wanted to share my life with her, she knew that very well, she liked me, I'm sure of this. But then, after that thing... she went ghosting. I guess thats it then. Her birthday is coming on the 31st. I will just say happy birthday and move on from there. This is getting ridiculous.Posted by BAVI'm just curious to know are you a water sign? Cancer? Pisces? Because you sound like you need a lot of validation from the Aqua. You need to give her time. We don't fall for you quickly. If she's reaching out then she still cares about you. If she is being distant for at least a couple/few weeks then yes she is ghosting you. But she will NOT make an effort to reach out to you.
Aquarius and why she might be ignoring you
https://aquariusinterpreter.tumblr.com/post/155471489303/why-is-my-aquarian-ignoring-me
so, there are actually 4 reasons why Aquas might ignore someone:
1. being hurt
2. letting go easy
3. just dont like you
4. falling for you
She did the last one a few times with me, always came back.
I dont think I hurt her, and if I have she would ignore me completely.
She does like me, that I know for sure. I told her this 2-3 weeks ago and she said: "its more than like, its a warm feeling inside me and its sooo nice".
Soooo, she is just letting me go easy, ghosting. We basically now talk if I text her something. But I dont text that often because I feel like an idiot. Yesterday was the second time she texted me on her own, asking how I am.
Any chances she might come back after ghosting on me or this is it? What is in her head? 🙂))) What does she want from me now?? Should I just let her go or should I explain that it was wrong for me to surprise her in such a blunt way? coz now I know it was....
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.... and she's back... We talked small talk last night, today she wanted to see me at work, but we couldn't meet, because she had to leave early, but called me after to tell me this. And she told me personal stuff, like how her ex husband made her cry 2 days ago and that's why she was not yesterday at work etc etc. We were talking just like nothing had happened between us 2 weeks ago. And we agree to talk some more in the evening....
pfffffff. this is good I guess, but at the same time its a bit frightening... her coming back 🙂))))
pfffffff. this is good I guess, but at the same time its a bit frightening... her coming back 🙂))))
Posted by pinkbird03
Too much back and forth drama. Seems like she only wants you when it's convenient for her. The rest of the time, she's with another man.
Go find someone better. Please.
Agreed. She may not be with someone else, but she is only talking to you when it is convenient for her. One thing to remember is that Aquas don't deal well with emotions of heavy emotional conversations. So if you've been texting her in a way that isn't light and playful that could be the reason she's constantly backing off. This kind of thing confuses and scares Aquas. She may have strong feelings for you and hasn't sorted through them. Also regardless of the sign, some people aren't emotional mature. She may just be using you for the attention and emotional gratification it gives her. Like you said, "she's lonely". Lonely people tend to be lonely for a reason. Maybe she has a bad habit of pushing people away.
Best advice at this point is to let her contact you when she's ready and to go on with your life. Seriously talk to other women, don't put all of your eggs into her basket. When she does contact you, let her know you'd like to see her. If she declines, let her know to contact you when she's ready to get together and have some fun and to keep in touch (then let the conversation drop). If she asks to hang out as "just friends", politely decline and let her know that you would like to date her and you don't want to lie about your feelings by agreeing to "only friends". Let her know you can keep things friendly to start, but you like her and aren't ashamed to be direct with her. If she accepts, invite her out to something fun and keep the conversation fun and light. Don't bring up emotions or a relationship, let her do that. Basically have her come to you at her own pace. When you invite her out (since she's an Aqua) plan a date that is intellectually stimulating (and not sappy/romantic per se).
Thanks for the advice! But yesterday I found my answer to all of this non-sense.
2 days ago it was her birthday, Jan 31. She wanted me to come see each other (in her office, we work together). So I went, gave her a present, which I bought a month ago, before that insane thing with the trip to Brussels. She was amazed by it, she liked it very very much, then we small talked for 45 minutes, she wouldn't let me leave her office. Told me that she was very upset by her ex husband, she is not doing ok, but she didn't tell what was going on. She was really not feeling ok during the last week, she was devastated, told me she can't write on a piece of paper, her hands were shaking. And that she didn't talk to me lately because she couldn't, with all those thing in her life.... In the end, when I left, she kissed me, on the lips I mean. It was something like... thank you for the nice present. Later in the evening, I think she was flirting a bit with me.
Anyway, yesterday was very cold, but we had this game, when I would write to her in French (I cant speak it well, she can). 2 months ago she told me that we will buy a house for us sometime. Sweet, right? So, giving the fact that she recently was looking for a new apartment, but she had just refused to buy it that morning, I told her in French, that we will by a house, when we will be together. And asked her if that was right.
She answered me in the middle of the night: No 🙂 Because we will never be together.
Well, at least I know were we are standing now. She told me this before, but not so blunt. that we can't be together at this moment, because Im not ready, because she is not ready, whatever.
She always changes her mind... She told me a lot of times she will not speak ever again with her ex husband, yet he hurts her again and again. Told me she will tell her fwb to stop contacting her, lasted a few days/weeks. 3-4 weeks ago tells me she will not move, now she is looking for a new place.
I really thought that aquas, especially mature ones, really know what they want. She seems to not know this very well.... We talked in the morning, very cold again, aggressive I could say.
Whatever, I'll keep my distance from her. Its a 180 degrees from her attitude 3 weeks ago. There a 2 options: either she felt trapped when I surprised her with that trip, and she is very scared that things were so good with each other when we were in person, that she might really fall. This is something she kept on telling me. Or, the likely one, that it was all a game for her to feel better and to have someone in love with her and know she realises she doesn't want that anymore.
2 days ago it was her birthday, Jan 31. She wanted me to come see each other (in her office, we work together). So I went, gave her a present, which I bought a month ago, before that insane thing with the trip to Brussels. She was amazed by it, she liked it very very much, then we small talked for 45 minutes, she wouldn't let me leave her office. Told me that she was very upset by her ex husband, she is not doing ok, but she didn't tell what was going on. She was really not feeling ok during the last week, she was devastated, told me she can't write on a piece of paper, her hands were shaking. And that she didn't talk to me lately because she couldn't, with all those thing in her life.... In the end, when I left, she kissed me, on the lips I mean. It was something like... thank you for the nice present. Later in the evening, I think she was flirting a bit with me.
Anyway, yesterday was very cold, but we had this game, when I would write to her in French (I cant speak it well, she can). 2 months ago she told me that we will buy a house for us sometime. Sweet, right? So, giving the fact that she recently was looking for a new apartment, but she had just refused to buy it that morning, I told her in French, that we will by a house, when we will be together. And asked her if that was right.
She answered me in the middle of the night: No 🙂 Because we will never be together.
Well, at least I know were we are standing now. She told me this before, but not so blunt. that we can't be together at this moment, because Im not ready, because she is not ready, whatever.
She always changes her mind... She told me a lot of times she will not speak ever again with her ex husband, yet he hurts her again and again. Told me she will tell her fwb to stop contacting her, lasted a few days/weeks. 3-4 weeks ago tells me she will not move, now she is looking for a new place.
I really thought that aquas, especially mature ones, really know what they want. She seems to not know this very well.... We talked in the morning, very cold again, aggressive I could say.
Whatever, I'll keep my distance from her. Its a 180 degrees from her attitude 3 weeks ago. There a 2 options: either she felt trapped when I surprised her with that trip, and she is very scared that things were so good with each other when we were in person, that she might really fall. This is something she kept on telling me. Or, the likely one, that it was all a game for her to feel better and to have someone in love with her and know she realises she doesn't want that anymore.
Sorry to hear that mate....
It seems as if im not the only one who is having issues with an aqua.
The bottom line is this now im my opinion bud - how much do you value yourself? Aquas have this amazing way of holding onto people and playing mind games (it may well be their confusion).
If you want something with her after all her "games" then you will need to lay down the law and then tell her what you want. If she cant give it to you, then close the chapter and move on.
It seems as if im not the only one who is having issues with an aqua.
The bottom line is this now im my opinion bud - how much do you value yourself? Aquas have this amazing way of holding onto people and playing mind games (it may well be their confusion).
If you want something with her after all her "games" then you will need to lay down the law and then tell her what you want. If she cant give it to you, then close the chapter and move on.
well, I think we have passed this, the moment she said black on white (WhatsApp) that we will never be together. That wasn't so much of a problem, but to say that she doesn't ask me personal stuff and I should not ask her also... this is too much.
btw, look at you messages 🙂
btw, look at you messages 🙂
my messages—?
I have been told when an aqua says something its final... you have been told that you will never be together. I was told "Lets move on"
I have been told when an aqua says something its final... you have been told that you will never be together. I was told "Lets move on"
Posted by MrR78Yes, your messages here, on dxp. upper right corner 🙂))
my messages—?
I have been told when an aqua says something its final... you have been told that you will never be together. I was told "Lets move on"
Posted by BAVPosted by DivaCanLeo🙂)))) Yeap, you are probably right, but the screwed up think is that I fell inlove for that cold, insensitive woman and Im pretty sure she felt the same at some point and now.... for whatever stupid reason she is giving me a fucking hardtime. Yes, the smart way, would be to just ignore her and forget everything, I know.
Back with her what do you mean back with her—
Aquas gather admirers like it's nothing... I've witnessed this... They'll call them "friends". And probably sleep with them. Its bullshit. I feel they just string along these guys and use them when they want. Sure it's wrapped in as maybe nice package but I don't think it's that nice. At all.
To the Op what happened to your balls?
Obviously you've lost your way.
Man down on aisle 3
But... she fucking conquered my brains with her loving ways which are.. unique. Sooo, I just want her back the way we were... but 90% thats not gonna fucking happen, I know that too. But Im looking at the 10% , like an idiot I am.click to expand
You just sounded like my ex and another "friend " mentor who says he loves me says the same thing to my face. ??
Posted by Aerazodon't get it. explain?Posted by BAVPosted by DivaCanLeo🙂)))) Yeap, you are probably right, but the screwed up think is that I fell inlove for that cold, insensitive woman and Im pretty sure she felt the same at some point and now.... for whatever stupid reason she is giving me a fucking hardtime. Yes, the smart way, would be to just ignore her and forget everything, I know.
Back with her what do you mean back with her—
Aquas gather admirers like it's nothing... I've witnessed this... They'll call them "friends". And probably sleep with them. Its bullshit. I feel they just string along these guys and use them when they want. Sure it's wrapped in as maybe nice package but I don't think it's that nice. At all.
To the Op what happened to your balls?
Obviously you've lost your way.
Man down on aisle 3
But... she fucking conquered my brains with her loving ways which are.. unique. Sooo, I just want her back the way we were... but 90% thats not gonna fucking happen, I know that too. But Im looking at the 10% , like an idiot I am.
You just sounded like my ex and another "friend " mentor who says he loves me says the same thing to my face. ??
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Posted by berrywiddle
coming from an aquarius....this isn't gonna end well.
she is fwb with a married man? did I read that right? why pursue someone like that? how old are you guys? OMG!
Anyway, I'm speaking from personal experience here, but as an Aqua, I have to truly fckn love you, to still keep you around after you tell me that you want to pursue another girl. And if I don't really love you, well then I just have you around as another side piece I can hook up with when I'm tired of the other guy, which kind of sounds like that's the reason she stayed friends with you. You were doing your thing and she was doing hers, but there was still the potential that something can spark between you two.
Fast forward to you guys having sex and falling for each other, but then she pulls away..I thought you knew, us Aquas don't do well with feelings. And it's not that we don't want to. I'm sure you've seen her attempt to show her feelings and you just thought it was so cute and it just made you want her more. Deep down, Aquas want that mushy stuff. They want to feel loved and wanted and romanced, but they will never ask for it because they expect you to know and you should be able to read between the lines. I know...we're impossible lol. She pulls away because we are never in the present. She has already thought up all the endless possibilities of how your relationship with her can go and will go. And maybe she is fighting a battle with it because she's so indecisive. Because she sees how great it can be, but she also sees how terrible it can be.
Another reason we pull away is because we reach this point of NO FCKS GIVEN. when we reach that, you're as good as dead to us. we don't care anymore. we realize, it's not gonna work. we can still be your friend, but that part you once saw of us, the part that reeled you in, the part that made you fall for us the first place....that part is closed to you for good.
However, I don't think she's at that last part because SHE KEEPS COMING BACK. This is a vulnerable and confused Aqua. In my opinion, I don't think this is something you should pursue, but people are gonna do what they want anyway. If you do, apologize for showing up, although I think deep down, she enjoyed that you showed up. Stop acting like the victim, you both have faults. if you want to pursue a relationship, talk about it. Tell her it's not okay for her to keep pulling away and playing with your emotions either. I think any true Aqua will try her hardest not to do anything to hurt you intentionally and she will try to be a little more grown up about her detachment.
That last part YESSSSS!!!!!!
We don't like guys who play victims like we are "hurting" them....pull your pants up and take control, surprise her.. I think I told you this before!!
That's when you'll know if she is staying or you're creeping her out. lol
Nope - still cant see any messages in the top right hand corner
What am I missing?
What am I missing?
Posted by BAVMy ex of 12 years I ended the relationship and he swears he loves me, he says that I hurt him too much and he'd still be with me. But He says that he already knows that I'm not coming back to him and that I'm too cold for not giving him another chance. I can still be friends around him no problem, he says it hurts him.Posted by Aerazodon't get it. explain?Posted by BAVPosted by DivaCanLeo🙂)))) Yeap, you are probably right, but the screwed up think is that I fell inlove for that cold, insensitive woman and Im pretty sure she felt the same at some point and now.... for whatever stupid reason she is giving me a fucking hardtime. Yes, the smart way, would be to just ignore her and forget everything, I know.
Back with her what do you mean back with her—
Aquas gather admirers like it's nothing... I've witnessed this... They'll call them "friends". And probably sleep with them. Its bullshit. I feel they just string along these guys and use them when they want. Sure it's wrapped in as maybe nice package but I don't think it's that nice. At all.
To the Op what happened to your balls?
Obviously you've lost your way.
Man down on aisle 3
But... she fucking conquered my brains with her loving ways which are.. unique. Sooo, I just want her back the way we were... but 90% thats not gonna fucking happen, I know that too. But Im looking at the 10% , like an idiot I am.
You just sounded like my ex and another "friend " mentor who says he loves me says the same thing to my face. ??
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My mentor I've known 8 yrs and at the beginning I pushed him away completely because he was married. I didn't even gave myself a chance with him. (met him during a break up phase between new and my ex)
He'd do anything and help me in any way he's 8yrs older and mature. back then I was 20 he was 28.
Now that I'm single he came back and he says that he always loved me but he knew he was never gonna get a chance. and now that I'm single he is approaching me in many ways. He's still married but he says his wife knows that he's always loved me, they are together bc of family status.
I don't know, I think my feelings towards him are still blocked I like him but I don't feel comfortable around him yet. it's complicated.
plus there's a guy I'm interested in now. ??
Posted by AerazoWell, Im not sure you have read what i've written yesterday. She said that we will never be together. Point blank. After that, she became very angry when I said something personal about her ex husband and that she is not over him. And said that we don't talk personal stuff anymore. If she wants to, she will say it, but will not ask me anymore personal stuff, and I should do the same.Posted by berrywiddle
coming from an aquarius....this isn't gonna end well.
she is fwb with a married man? did I read that right? why pursue someone like that? how old are you guys? OMG!
Anyway, I'm speaking from personal experience here, but as an Aqua, I have to truly fckn love you, to still keep you around after you tell me that you want to pursue another girl. And if I don't really love you, well then I just have you around as another side piece I can hook up with when I'm tired of the other guy, which kind of sounds like that's the reason she stayed friends with you. You were doing your thing and she was doing hers, but there was still the potential that something can spark between you two.
Fast forward to you guys having sex and falling for each other, but then she pulls away..I thought you knew, us Aquas don't do well with feelings. And it's not that we don't want to. I'm sure you've seen her attempt to show her feelings and you just thought it was so cute and it just made you want her more. Deep down, Aquas want that mushy stuff. They want to feel loved and wanted and romanced, but they will never ask for it because they expect you to know and you should be able to read between the lines. I know...we're impossible lol. She pulls away because we are never in the present. She has already thought up all the endless possibilities of how your relationship with her can go and will go. And maybe she is fighting a battle with it because she's so indecisive. Because she sees how great it can be, but she also sees how terrible it can be.
Another reason we pull away is because we reach this point of NO FCKS GIVEN. when we reach that, you're as good as dead to us. we don't care anymore. we realize, it's not gonna work. we can still be your friend, but that part you once saw of us, the part that reeled you in, the part that made you fall for us the first place....that part is closed to you for good.
However, I don't think she's at that last part because SHE KEEPS COMING BACK. This is a vulnerable and confused Aqua. In my opinion, I don't think this is something you should pursue, but people are gonna do what they want anyway. If you do, apologize for showing up, although I think deep down, she enjoyed that you showed up. Stop acting like the victim, you both have faults. if you want to pursue a relationship, talk about it. Tell her it's not okay for her to keep pulling away and playing with your emotions either. I think any true Aqua will try her hardest not to do anything to hurt you intentionally and she will try to be a little more grown up about her detachment.
That last part YESSSSS!!!!!!
We don't like guys who play victims like we are "hurting" them....pull your pants up and take control, surprise her.. I think I told you this before!!
That's when you'll know if she is staying or you're creeping her out. lol
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Today, we exchanged some texts for the job, but I think she wanted to see how I was, coz what she had to say about work was not relevant at all. I answered strictly business related.
So, the point is, when an Aqua says that we have no future together, they fucking mean it, and thats it. Although, she said that to me, in nicer words, in the past, and still came back 🙂))
I'll move on.
Posted by MrR78I don't get it, I wrote you a message 2h ago. You should be able to see a red number 1 to the left of the MESSAGES text 🙂)))
Nope - still cant see any messages in the top right hand corner
What am I missing?
Posted by BAVPosted by AerazoWell, Im not sure you have read what i've written yesterday. She said that we will never be together. Point blank. After that, she became very angry when I said something personal about her ex husband and that she is not over him. And said that we don't talk personal stuff anymore. If she wants to, she will say it, but will not ask me anymore personal stuff, and I should do the same.Posted by berrywiddle
coming from an aquarius....this isn't gonna end well.
she is fwb with a married man? did I read that right? why pursue someone like that? how old are you guys? OMG!
Anyway, I'm speaking from personal experience here, but as an Aqua, I have to truly fckn love you, to still keep you around after you tell me that you want to pursue another girl. And if I don't really love you, well then I just have you around as another side piece I can hook up with when I'm tired of the other guy, which kind of sounds like that's the reason she stayed friends with you. You were doing your thing and she was doing hers, but there was still the potential that something can spark between you two.
Fast forward to you guys having sex and falling for each other, but then she pulls away..I thought you knew, us Aquas don't do well with feelings. And it's not that we don't want to. I'm sure you've seen her attempt to show her feelings and you just thought it was so cute and it just made you want her more. Deep down, Aquas want that mushy stuff. They want to feel loved and wanted and romanced, but they will never ask for it because they expect you to know and you should be able to read between the lines. I know...we're impossible lol. She pulls away because we are never in the present. She has already thought up all the endless possibilities of how your relationship with her can go and will go. And maybe she is fighting a battle with it because she's so indecisive. Because she sees how great it can be, but she also sees how terrible it can be.
Another reason we pull away is because we reach this point of NO FCKS GIVEN. when we reach that, you're as good as dead to us. we don't care anymore. we realize, it's not gonna work. we can still be your friend, but that part you once saw of us, the part that reeled you in, the part that made you fall for us the first place....that part is closed to you for good.
However, I don't think she's at that last part because SHE KEEPS COMING BACK. This is a vulnerable and confused Aqua. In my opinion, I don't think this is something you should pursue, but people are gonna do what they want anyway. If you do, apologize for showing up, although I think deep down, she enjoyed that you showed up. Stop acting like the victim, you both have faults. if you want to pursue a relationship, talk about it. Tell her it's not okay for her to keep pulling away and playing with your emotions either. I think any true Aqua will try her hardest not to do anything to hurt you intentionally and she will try to be a little more grown up about her detachment.
That last part YESSSSS!!!!!!
We don't like guys who play victims like we are "hurting" them....pull your pants up and take control, surprise her.. I think I told you this before!!
That's when you'll know if she is staying or you're creeping her out. lol
Today, we exchanged some texts for the job, but I think she wanted to see how I was, coz what she had to say about work was not relevant at all. I answered strictly business related.
So, the point is, when an Aqua says that we have no future together, they fucking mean it, and thats it. Although, she said that to me, in nicer words, in the past, and still came back 🙂))
I'll move on.click to expand
If she said that and she's still initiating contact is for you to f*******g realize that you have to make a decision about the two of you.
I have something written for this guy that I'm losing my patience with bc he's not stepping up to get things moving but it basically says that I'm done... So he's supposed to come back stronger and make a plan for us.
Posted by AerazoSo, after she said 2 days ago that we will NEVER be together and that she doesn't want to discuss personal stuff, basically saying that she doesn't care about my life, you think she expects something else?? WTF??Posted by BAVPosted by AerazoWell, Im not sure you have read what i've written yesterday. She said that we will never be together. Point blank. After that, she became very angry when I said something personal about her ex husband and that she is not over him. And said that we don't talk personal stuff anymore. If she wants to, she will say it, but will not ask me anymore personal stuff, and I should do the same.Posted by berrywiddle
coming from an aquarius....this isn't gonna end well.
she is fwb with a married man? did I read that right? why pursue someone like that? how old are you guys? OMG!
Anyway, I'm speaking from personal experience here, but as an Aqua, I have to truly fckn love you, to still keep you around after you tell me that you want to pursue another girl. And if I don't really love you, well then I just have you around as another side piece I can hook up with when I'm tired of the other guy, which kind of sounds like that's the reason she stayed friends with you. You were doing your thing and she was doing hers, but there was still the potential that something can spark between you two.
Fast forward to you guys having sex and falling for each other, but then she pulls away..I thought you knew, us Aquas don't do well with feelings. And it's not that we don't want to. I'm sure you've seen her attempt to show her feelings and you just thought it was so cute and it just made you want her more. Deep down, Aquas want that mushy stuff. They want to feel loved and wanted and romanced, but they will never ask for it because they expect you to know and you should be able to read between the lines. I know...we're impossible lol. She pulls away because we are never in the present. She has already thought up all the endless possibilities of how your relationship with her can go and will go. And maybe she is fighting a battle with it because she's so indecisive. Because she sees how great it can be, but she also sees how terrible it can be.
Another reason we pull away is because we reach this point of NO FCKS GIVEN. when we reach that, you're as good as dead to us. we don't care anymore. we realize, it's not gonna work. we can still be your friend, but that part you once saw of us, the part that reeled you in, the part that made you fall for us the first place....that part is closed to you for good.
However, I don't think she's at that last part because SHE KEEPS COMING BACK. This is a vulnerable and confused Aqua. In my opinion, I don't think this is something you should pursue, but people are gonna do what they want anyway. If you do, apologize for showing up, although I think deep down, she enjoyed that you showed up. Stop acting like the victim, you both have faults. if you want to pursue a relationship, talk about it. Tell her it's not okay for her to keep pulling away and playing with your emotions either. I think any true Aqua will try her hardest not to do anything to hurt you intentionally and she will try to be a little more grown up about her detachment.
That last part YESSSSS!!!!!!
We don't like guys who play victims like we are "hurting" them....pull your pants up and take control, surprise her.. I think I told you this before!!
That's when you'll know if she is staying or you're creeping her out. lol
Today, we exchanged some texts for the job, but I think she wanted to see how I was, coz what she had to say about work was not relevant at all. I answered strictly business related.
So, the point is, when an Aqua says that we have no future together, they fucking mean it, and thats it. Although, she said that to me, in nicer words, in the past, and still came back 🙂))
I'll move on.
If she said that and she's still initiating contact is for you to f*******g realize that you have to make a decision about the two of you.
I have something written for this guy that I'm losing my patience with bc he's not stepping up to get things moving but it basically says that I'm done... So he's supposed to come back stronger and make a plan for us.
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So, I should do what?? be casual again and try to be friendly? Just to show her Im not hurt? Im not hurt, Im starting to let her go easy, Im starting to stop my feelings for her.
She knows very well how I was feeling for her. She's a fucking egoistic and emotional unstable woman. She told me 4-5 times in the last months that we should stop and be friends (never that clear as 2 days ago) and came back, told me she will cut everything with her ex husband, that didn't happen, the jerk is still making her miserable etc etc. She's like a drama queen.
Posted by MrR78I'll check them out!!
@BAV - sorry mate cant see it.
@aerazo - you seem quite wise. I could do with some advice from you on my topics - Aqua ex is confusing me and how do you know an aqua has moved on.
@aeraz- Reasons an Aqua would block you and act like you dont exist.
Aqua ex is confusing me are the topics
Cheers
Aqua ex is confusing me are the topics
Cheers
OK, so I'll summarise here the last 3 weeks and hopefully I'll get you objective opinion on this.
1. I came in a surprise visit from Paris to Brussels, just to see her for a few hours. She didn't wanted to see me, saying over the phone that I should know by now that she doesn't like this stuff. And that she will take a longer period of stepping back for me to detach from her and then be friends and that all that happened before were exceptions from her real self, because she wanted to let me into her world.
2. didn't contact her for 4-5 days. She texts me that Im being childish and playing the victim. Texted her back that she had mislead me into believing something more and all I've wanted was to take care of her, like she is taking care of everything else in her life. And that yes, we can be friends. No answer on that, at all.
3. after that we talked almost daily, but she was being distant usually, talking mostly about work. Asked her out, she refused. After 2 weeks she began talking to me about more personal stuff, but not that much, saying that we talk this things over the phone at night (like we used to), which we never did actually.
4. On her birthday, we saw each other for the first time in 3 weeks, we chatted, casual, friendly, she kisses me, also telling me some personal stuff about her problems, but did not go into details.
5. 1 day later, yesterday, I gave her an opportunity to say something about us, it was like a game/joke. She said that we will never be together. Next day, I got her angry about her ex husband and she exploded saying that we no longer ask each other personal stuff, basically that she doesn't care about my life.
6. today, we chatted on WhatsApp work related, but we didn't have to do this, there was no need for that, and we could have done that over email. I suspect she just wanted to know how I was.
So, this are the objective facts. I personally think she is emotionally unstable, doesn't know what she want. She showed me this in the "relationship" with me, with her ex husband, with her friend etc.
I really need your input on this, Aquas. Thanks!!
1. I came in a surprise visit from Paris to Brussels, just to see her for a few hours. She didn't wanted to see me, saying over the phone that I should know by now that she doesn't like this stuff. And that she will take a longer period of stepping back for me to detach from her and then be friends and that all that happened before were exceptions from her real self, because she wanted to let me into her world.
2. didn't contact her for 4-5 days. She texts me that Im being childish and playing the victim. Texted her back that she had mislead me into believing something more and all I've wanted was to take care of her, like she is taking care of everything else in her life. And that yes, we can be friends. No answer on that, at all.
3. after that we talked almost daily, but she was being distant usually, talking mostly about work. Asked her out, she refused. After 2 weeks she began talking to me about more personal stuff, but not that much, saying that we talk this things over the phone at night (like we used to), which we never did actually.
4. On her birthday, we saw each other for the first time in 3 weeks, we chatted, casual, friendly, she kisses me, also telling me some personal stuff about her problems, but did not go into details.
5. 1 day later, yesterday, I gave her an opportunity to say something about us, it was like a game/joke. She said that we will never be together. Next day, I got her angry about her ex husband and she exploded saying that we no longer ask each other personal stuff, basically that she doesn't care about my life.
6. today, we chatted on WhatsApp work related, but we didn't have to do this, there was no need for that, and we could have done that over email. I suspect she just wanted to know how I was.
So, this are the objective facts. I personally think she is emotionally unstable, doesn't know what she want. She showed me this in the "relationship" with me, with her ex husband, with her friend etc.
I really need your input on this, Aquas. Thanks!!
Done the mature thing here and texted her that I didn't ran away from her, that Im not angry or playing the victim and that we can talk like before and Im the same good guy, by her side if she needs me.
Her reaction:
Sweet :*:*
I've been busy during the last couple of days and my daughter is not feeling so well.
tried to have a conversation with her, didn't work, she might have gone to bed.
So, now I'll let her with her feeling or whatever. I think I've done everything I can. If I would do something more, it would be pushing her away and scary probably. She knows she can speak to me as always.
Her reaction:
Sweet :*:*
I've been busy during the last couple of days and my daughter is not feeling so well.
tried to have a conversation with her, didn't work, she might have gone to bed.
So, now I'll let her with her feeling or whatever. I think I've done everything I can. If I would do something more, it would be pushing her away and scary probably. She knows she can speak to me as always.
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