Why did the Aquarius man disappear?

Because he's not that into you.

Posted by fem_femme

Posted by Librawoman77
Because he's not that into you.

Well he has told me that im hard to forget, im hot, sexy, sweet, intelligent, genuine, beautiful, at the same time he was the one who constantly kept coming back and lured me back so to speak into a contact with him and he also told me that i drive him wild although he meant our flirting not a physical contact which we haven't had much besides kissing, so i am not sure how he is 'not into me' with all these statements he has made not to mention that he said he likes me, so his behavior is puzzling. He also said that i intrigue him, so im not sure how else someone has to be 'into me' if not after all these things he has said.

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Hmmm he's said a lot but has done nothing. It's just words. He's just not that into you.

Posted by fem_femme
Thanks guys for your comments.

Well, he did tell me that he barely dates because of the effort that goes into it...whatever that means.

At the same time before we met he was talking about how much he is desperate to marry and have kids an how sad it would be if he doesn't at his age (51). He even said that had his mom been alive now, he would have gotten a surrogate to have a child with so that his mom could take care of his kid since he is very busy himself. I think he wants to have a baby but doesn't want to settle down deep down but knows that in his situation he needs to have one which would be only through marriage.

Contrary to what you guys said that he isn't into me, quite honestly, I feel that he is into me and likes me a lot, BUT his action shows me as if he is stringing me along for some reason, so I feel more like he is but I just don't get why. Anyways, the last time we had a normal nice conversation, and it's the first time that I haven't heard from him for a week and 3 days now. It is unfortunate, though, as I really liked him and I do feel like he missed on a lot in terms of me, so at this point I am not even sure to ignore him if he contacts me or should I talk but keep it very brief and kinda formal and friendly as in 'hey, im great thanks hope all is well" and leave it at that. What would be the best option? I don't know if ignoring him would make him think that his silence ticked me off, hence now Im ignoring him....I guess I dont want to look like that, but I want to get out of this the classy way with a high value since I dont even chase him.

Also, he is very wealthy and I don't chase him because I wouldn't want him to feel like I like him because of what he has, since I really do like him. Regarding sex....I think he could have created opportunities for sex especially if he is the player type, but he did not so it was more like he wanted a mental stimulation from me and I even hinted on some physical stuff and he said he would love it (i was checking his reaction) but he still doesn't initiate the physical part as if he's afraid to cross that barrier with me lol. I also do feel that he thinks of me highly in a way in a positive way and maybe he knows that he isn't looking for anything, so he doesn't want to lure me into bed so then I wouldn't feel hurt eventually, which wouldn't make him feel good about himself.

I have noticed that he isn't that sexual. I kissed him once myself and he just stood there lol. He has Sun in Aqua, Moon in Capricorn, Saturn in 5th house, Venus in Pisces. I feel like he is very cut and dry and rigid and a bit boring personality-wise. He is NOT passionate at all, kinda a reserved, formal, shy. I think his Saturn in 5th has deprived him of the fun personality lol and he seems to have his guard up. it's like I can not get through him an this becomes boring coupled with other things. I am a Sun in Pisces, leo Moon and Taururs rising, so that leo moon fiestiness, passion, drama and fire always comes out of me at some point with me, but I feel these leo moon qualities in me are hampered with him and I am watching myself not to go overboard. I love it when a man ignites the fire in him and I think his Moon in capricorn coupled with Saturn in 5th (square his sun by the way) hampers things for him in the relationship front.

Interestingly, he has Scorpio rising and taurus descendant, while I have the opposite (taurus asc & scorp desc), his venus is in pisces, Im a pisces sun, His juno is in leo and I am leo moon, my juno is in aqua and he is an aqua lol. He has only NN in 7th, I have Uranus in my 7th, my saturn is conj my 7th house ruler (pluto) in 6th house of health and he works in health industry. Synastry wise we have a tight Sun & Venus conunction, Moon and MC conj and Juno and Moon conj with Mars conj Pluto as well as other stuff. So I do feel this warmth towards him and I also feel that he feels comfortable with me and I don't doubt what he said about the comfort part since i feel the same. I assume he has commitment issues hence being single at 51 (just turned 51) and I do feel a struggle in him with merging vs freedom especially the childless part, which goes to show how relevant it is to have Saturn sitting in the 5th in natal charts! I was going along with the flow and acting more like a friend having read that Aquas like to establish friendship first and I assumed it takes them a LONG time to want to be with you having the need to analyze you in depth before going further, so that's the only reason why I was going along with the flow yet very frustrated that his only efforts went into texting and explaining what he did each weekend. I didn't act clingy. If he can't appreciate that then oh well I guess...his loss.

And with all that said he still hasn't shown real interest. Doesn't matter if you feel he likes you, when he hasn't shown you. You're too wrapped up into what he thinks and feels.

Do you even realize how hooked you are to this guy? Ignore the hell out of him, safe some face at least. The problem with guys like that is not their star sign but that they don't respect any boundaries and no limits is their motto. Be glad that he hasn't asked for money or something.

Is he very wealthy, or is he a nurse...? Which one is it 😄?

I am an aquarian.. I feel that he is all over the place. Not actually focused. Doesn't matter what you say. He will call you when he wants. He will be selfish in that way. He wanted his cake and eat it too earlier on. And now it seems he is still in that mode. Change your number and date a guy at the library who seems he doesnt camp out at the library. lol seriously try meeting someone at the library who smells like soap preferably.

I am laughing but maybe I can see something in the future for you.

Don't try to figure out the aquarian. He wanted the feel and love and warmth of you and now he is acting like he is full of what he wanted from you. Whats your sign I can tell you want i think would work for you in the future. feel free to send me a message or respond here