Would an Aqua move to another state with his gf?

I am trying to go a career route (bookpublishing) in which most companies are based in New York. My bf and I are currently in California but I just got an internship at one place in Manhattan. My bf is not tied down to any career as we both just graduated from college so he is going with me for the summer there. However I am not sure if he would stay permanently with me if I can't get a job back in San Diego or LA.

A week ago he told me that if I really wanted to have my career there then he would go with me. But today he seemed to be backing out. He was kind of avoiding the subject when I started talking about it and asked me if I would move with him if he got a job in California. I said yes but it really wouldn't be fair to me. He wants to go into finance, accounting or computer programing and he can do that anywhere...including New York. I can really only do publishing in New York.

I think he doesn't want to move because he doesn't like the New York mentality and wants to be near his family.

Would you move with a significant other? How do I go best about talking to him about this and being logical? I tend to break down and cry (Pisces over here) lol

I don't think it's an aqua thing. I think it's a human nature thing, so I'm going to throw out my capricorn opinion. It is a huge decision to move across the country with someone. Leaving your life, all your friends and family and everything you know behind is a scary move.

Be patient with him and give him time to make this decision.

The problem I have is this sentence right here:
"asked me if I would move with him if he got a job in California. I said yes but it really wouldn't be fair to me"

It speaks of a double stand of some sorts because you want him to move for you, but truthfully you would resent moving for him. He knows if the shoe were on the other foot, you would do it, but you'd always feel like it wasn't fair to you. You would come to resent him for taking you away from your career and the life you built for yourself.

Now, the line "I tend to break down and cry", sounds like a guilt trip. Guilt trips might get someone to do something, but it seldom lasts. The partner who was guilted into doing something they don't want to do will become to resent the guilter. Give him time to make the decision on his own to prevent resentment. Stop the crying and be logical. Most likely, an aquarius is ONLY going to look at this decision logically and rationally and will take the emotional factor out of the equation.

Basically, if he doesn't want to go, then don't resent him, make him feel guilty, get angry, make accusations or anything like that. He needs to do what's best for him. It's not a measure of love, it's a decision based on his future and he deserves to make the right decision for him.

By the same token, if he doesn't go, then you go. You do what's best for you and you follow your dreams. Don't let him hold you back because you will learn to resent him because you made the decision to stay. Move to Manhattan. Go for your career. You deserve the chance to do what you've always wanted to do.

If it doesn't work out between the two of you, it doesn't work out. Relationships end all the time after college when young people reach out to follow their career dreams. That's the problem with serious relationships in college. Not saying it's bad to have a serious relationship in college, but couples have to realistic about what happens after college. Some work out, some don't.

If it's meant to be, it's meant to be and fate will take care of everything.

Let him try it out for the summer, but don't pressure him to make a decision. He will make one on his own.

Who knows, he may love it and want to stay!!!! 🙂

He may hate it and want to leave. 😢

Either way, it needs to be his decision without influence from you.

I think it depends on which leg of the journey you're on with your life. I was confronted with the decision years ago but no I wanted to go after my dreams and I'm happy to let romance take a back seat because it's the logical choice to do.

It's also dependent on factors seeing I had no real attachments back then. She wanted to go one way and I wanted to go another and that was goodbye. If I had the same choice now I would consider moving because I know I can make things work wherever I go.

Guilt can be a funny thing. You never know under what circumstances they can creep up.