A Scorp with a theory about an Aries.

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Hi!

I'm a 21 y/o Scorp female and I've got a theory. I want to run it by you lovely people to see if I'm correct.

If an Aries male teases you, shares his misery with you, likes spending time with you, is an ass to everyone in general but never an ass to you in more than a playful sense, tries to share his interests with you, heeds your advice as being important to him, smiles a lot when he's around you, playfully insults you and gives you a nickname, gets worried when you're upset, asks you what you first notice in men and when you give him your answer he narrows it down to himself, would it be correct to assume that the said Aries man has developed a little crush?

Additional details, I'm a 21 y/o girl and he is 19. He is a year junior to me at uni and we became friends in February this year. We used to talk (but only in moderate amounts) all through Feb-June. But after returning to uni for the new term in August, we've been hanging out a lot. Not sure how that came around- he just seemed to randomly appear whenever I was hanging around outside so then we ended up talking quite a bit and then that grew to talking everyday. So, what do you think?

Thanks for reading!
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Posted by 18scorpio
If an Aries male teases you, shares his misery with you, likes spending time with you, is an ass to everyone in general but never an ass to you in more than a playful sense, tries to share his interests with you, heeds your advice as being important to him, smiles a lot when he's around you, playfully insults you and gives you a nickname, gets worried when you're upset, asks you what you first notice in men and when you give him your answer he narrows it down to himself, would it be correct to assume that the said Aries man has developed a little crush?

...he just seemed to randomly appear whenever I was hanging around outside so then we ended up talking quite a bit and then that grew to talking everyday. So, what do you think?
He likes you. Aries come on strong when they like you.

What's your next move?

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If an Aries male teases you, shares his misery with you, likes spending time with you, is an ass to everyone in general but never an ass to you in more than a playful sense, tries to share his interests with you, heeds your advice as being important to him, smiles a lot when he's around you, playfully insults you and gives you a nickname, gets worried when you're upset, asks you what you first notice in men and when you give him your answer he narrows it down to himself, would it be correct to assume that the said Aries man has developed a little crush?

...he just seemed to randomly appear whenever I was hanging around outside so then we ended up talking quite a bit and then that grew to talking everyday. So, what do you think?
He likes you. Aries come on strong when they like you.

What's your next move?



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Not sure really. I'm probably not going to initiate anything unless he does
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UPDATE: I think I might be stuck in a love triangle-ish situation. There is a sophomore who likes him. I know this sophomore, we're just acquaintances though. Sometimes we hang out but not so much in general. Moreover, the Aries and the sophomore had some kind of a misunderstanding a while back due to which they had stopped talking. They recently started talking again (she messaged him) and since then the sophomore's been trying to get his attention. If the Aries and I are talking, she'll walk by 4 or 5 times in hopes that he'll notice her. And he plays basketball so she will religiously go to see him play his matches.

Two days ago, she called him and asked if he's free to talk to her. Aries had already called me and made plans to hang out with me, so when I appeared, he tried to convince me to hang out with the two of them. I refused because I didn't want to interfere between them. Aries took it to heart and said that if I don't come hang out with him then he'll end up spending most of his time with her since she will definitely keep pursuing him for his attention. Probably due to a mixture of PMS and a tiring day, I felt really bad at what he said. So I just left and came to my room. Later that night he called me and we talked for a bit, I told him I had felt really bad since we're good friends. He explained to me that I was present in his life when the sophomore wasn't and I'm more of a priority than she is. So it's all sorted out between the two of us, but I'm like a little on edge about the sophomore. I just don't want things to get ruined between the Aries because of another girl.

Idk, I guess I need an Aries insight into the situation?
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Er.. it doesn’t sound like you have much to worry about. If he is hanging out with someone else and then calls you afterwards, it usually means he found her boring and would have preferred to be with you. And you sound honest and open with each other so that’s a good sign too. I would concentrate more on making the most of your time with him, rather than wasting time thinking about her.

I do not know much about Scorpios, but they like to investigate (continously), from what you’ve said, he’s being extremely open and honest, and you are naturally curious because you are a Scorpio. You will need to keep it under control, because you do not want to show too much of a jealous side (a little bit can be ok, just not too much). And do not try to force him to share anything he does not want to. You will feel the need to investigate and question other women, but he is being honest, so you do not need to.
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Posted by AriesJo
Er.. it doesn’t sound like you have much to worry about. If he is hanging out with someone else and then calls you afterwards, it usually means he found her boring and would have preferred to be with you. And you sound honest and open with each other so that’s a good sign too. I would concentrate more on making the most of your time with him, rather than wasting time thinking about her.

I do not know much about Scorpios, but they like to investigate (continously), from what you’ve said, he’s being extremely open and honest, and you are naturally curious because you are a Scorpio. You will need to keep it under control, because you do not want to show too much of a jealous side (a little bit can be ok, just not too much). And do not try to force him to share anything he does not want to. You will feel the need to investigate and question other women, but he is being honest, so you do not need to.


This is actually pretty great advice. I'm going to go ahead and listen to everything you just said. And yes, I do feel the need to investigate continuously, but I try my best to keep it in control, it's tough sometimes though. But yeah,I never force him and I appreciate his honesty. I will not waste any more of my time thinking about her and appreciate the friendship I have with the Aries. Thanks 🙂
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Aries Man here...

I really dont want to disapoint you...but it sounds like freind zone to me...lol

Maybe a good flirt and fun...but not love...thats for sure 😉
LOL, it's alright!

I don't have any expectations of it to be love either. I know it's not 😉 I just don't want the friendship to get ruined because of complex emotional dynamics
But let me tell you this...

Its allways better to have a good freind...turn into lover...

Than a lover...turn into a bad freind....

And i can tell you, that he most likely sees you as a good person...i think he really likes you 😉

And who knows right ? 🙂 Have fun for now 😉
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Haha! So true about friends turning into lovers. I see him as a really good person too and enjoy spending time with him, like I was freaking out before a test and wouldn't talk to anyone except him and it actually made me feel better. But you know what, he just told me that he wants things to get sorted between the sophomore and I because it's awkward for him. I wonder what that's about :/
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Aries Man here...

I really dont want to disapoint you...but it sounds like freind zone to me...lol

Maybe a good flirt and fun...but not love...thats for sure 😉
LOL, it's alright!

I don't have any expectations of it to be love either. I know it's not 😉 I just don't want the friendship to get ruined because of complex emotional dynamics
But let me tell you this...

Its allways better to have a good freind...turn into lover...

Than a lover...turn into a bad freind....

And i can tell you, that he most likely sees you as a good person...i think he really likes you 😉

And who knows right ? 🙂 Have fun for now 😉
Haha! So true about friends turning into lovers. I see him as a really good person too and enjoy spending time with him, like I was freaking out before a test and wouldn't talk to anyone except him and it actually made me feel better. But you know what, he just told me that he wants things to get sorted between the sophomore and I because it's awkward for him. I wonder what that's about :/
humm dunno about that sophomore also...i guess every person is diferent...

But still...i just think that he doesnt Love you...like...full Aries Love (which only happens like once or twice in a lifetime lol) but i do think that he is into you 😉

See were this goes...i started off with my gf...just being freinds 😉
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Haha! yes of course, I am definitely not his once in a lifetime love person. Thanks for your blessings though 😉
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UPDATE (If anyone is still listening):

The sophomore sent him messages along the lines of "Why did you leave me to hang out with her" (her being me i.e. the OP) and he showed me the conversation he had with her and it was definitely weird. She was basically feeling bad that he was spending time with me. He seemed a little disturbed by this girl and her questions but I told him to not take it seriously and we kind of laughed about the conversation he had with her.

Then, things got SUPER WEIRD.

On Saturday, we met in the evening and we talked for a bit. His friends find a constant need of teasing me about how they think he likes me and on Friday, when both of us were hanging out, his friends were staring. It was extremely weird for me so I later confronted one of them and he said "I am sorry but I can't tell you why we were looking at you". Anyway, on Saturday I mentioned it to him (was this a mistake, idk?) mostly because I honestly did not think he would mind. We usually openly joke about such stuff. Like, one time, I made him take the MBTI personality test and he turned out to be INFP and I turned out to be INFJ and we were reading this article where INFP-INFJs were supposed to be Ying and Yang to each other. So I went "ewww gross, I have you as my Ying? Disgusting". And we both laughed about it. So yeah, getting back to my story, after I mentioned the thing with his friends, he went totally quiet and pulled out his phone. I asked him, if he's bothered by it and he said no. When he didn't say anything for about ten minutes, I looked at him and his response was like "I know I'm really hot but don't stare at me". 😐

Our Libra friend (close to both the Aries and I and who knows the whole sophomore deal) found us and tried to get us to talk to each other. Basically that didn't go down so well and we all parted feeling like crap (at least I was). I texted the Aries asking if he's ok and then said that I didn't mean to upset him or anything. He says to me "It's your life, do what you want, we are not answerable to each other". Sensing that he's mad, I said goodnight and we didn't talk much over the weekend. Yesterday, I got high with the Libra and he brought the Aries along. There was so much tension but the Libra made us understand that this is a trivial issue and we shouldn't get so hung up on it. Honestly, I was a bit hurt that things were playing out this way but I decided to talk to the Aries anyway. So I talked to him normally, made jokes as usual but he was not responsive at all. And then, he just left. I figured he's still mad at me, though i know not why, so I left him alone.

Today, I see him talking and chilling with the sophomore. Here's the deal: She's been whining for his time but I haven't. In fact, I've been encouraging him to hang out with her. She feels bad when he doesn't give her time but I feel bad that HE'S feeling bad.

But that doesn't matter now does it, since I've been cut off haven't I? Any Aries want to help?
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What exactly did you tell him? How did you word the incident with his friends?


Well he already knew about his friends teasing me. So this is what I said: (paraphrased)

You know, when we were chilling yesterday your friend XYZ, and the rest were staring at me. I thought they wanted to talk to me so I kind of signalled asking what's up? But they didn't respond. And at night I asked one of them why they were looking at me and he said "I'm sorry I can't tell you about it". Isn't that weird?

That's all.
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What exactly did you tell him? How did you word the incident with his friends?


Well he already knew about his friends teasing me. So this is what I said: (paraphrased)

You know, when we were chilling yesterday your friend XYZ, and the rest were staring at me. I thought they wanted to talk to me so I kind of signalled asking what's up? But they didn't respond. And at night I asked one of them why they were looking at me and he said "I'm sorry I can't tell you about it". Isn't that weird?

That's all.
Hm, I'm thinking either he thought his friend and you were flirting? Or maybe he thought you knew he liked you hence why his friends were teasing you and liked him back but then you seemed oblivious about it and it hurt his feelings because he then thought you didn't care about him?



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Hmm sounds possible. But does it matter that once him and I talked about this stuff, like, he wanted to know why the sophomore still had expectations from him and I told him it's because he shows interest. And then I explained to him that it's his nature and to someone not mature enough to know the difference between friendly interest and romantic interest, it would seem like he's flirting. And then I said that if I didn't know the difference, I would assume he liked me but I know he doesn't.

what would you suggest I do? I mean, I've been not giving him any attention at all.
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What exactly did you tell him? How did you word the incident with his friends?


Well he already knew about his friends teasing me. So this is what I said: (paraphrased)

You know, when we were chilling yesterday your friend XYZ, and the rest were staring at me. I thought they wanted to talk to me so I kind of signalled asking what's up? But they didn't respond. And at night I asked one of them why they were looking at me and he said "I'm sorry I can't tell you about it". Isn't that weird?

That's all.
Hm, I'm thinking either he thought his friend and you were flirting? Or maybe he thought you knew he liked you hence why his friends were teasing you and liked him back but then you seemed oblivious about it and it hurt his feelings because he then thought you didn't care about him?




Hmm sounds possible. But does it matter that once him and I talked about this stuff, like, he wanted to know why the sophomore still had expectations from him and I told him it's because he shows interest. And then I explained to him that it's his nature and to someone not mature enough to know the difference between friendly interest and romantic interest, it would seem like he's flirting. And then I said that if I didn't know the difference, I would assume he liked me but I know he doesn't.

what would you suggest I do? I mean, I've been not giving him any attention at all.
So you told him that you knew he didn't like you? And you didn't give him any attention? Why not if you like him?

Just be your usual self. Don't make a big deal out of it. Aries men usually don't stay angry for long If they like you. 😛

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Ah, wait. I think I didn't word that properly.

I meant, I explained to him that sometimes people mistake platonic interest/care displayed towards a person as romantic love/care. I was giving him advice about the sophomore. That she is mistaking the former for the latter. And then I gave him an example that it's not his fault per se that she has expectations because if I didn't know the difference I would assume he had a huge thing for me.

And, I haven't been giving him much attention since Saturday and none since last night.

I'll try not to make it into a big deal, just wanted to know if I was cut out of his life. Because hey, we're really good friends and if he was going to cut me out so quick then I want to do the same. 😛Sorry, Scorp revenge shone through my last statement
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He wants you 2 to compete for him.
:/ really? Like do you mean that I should ask him to spend time with me and then get upset if he doesn't? I'm quite mad at him for the way he acted you know, I haven't done anything wrong. :/
And here we go with the whole hit one then cold another type of feeling here you'll got going on. It's already started. If you asked what you are? Or what is status is as far as what he's wants in his life right now and it's different then you have to evaluate things ? Then trust if something is wrong listen to your gut too and ask
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I'm sorry, I don't get you. Would you mind explaining a bit more? Thanks =)
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I'm just saying you as a fixed sign may start feeling a bunch of stuff in your gut that doesn't make sense to you and one right now is figuring out or finding out from him what type of status he has?, what direction is he going in life?, sit back and observes things. Have you asked what you are ? Is it friends only or does he even want a relationship?
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UPDATE :

So, I ignored the Aries for like 2 days. Talked to him yesterday, he said "I can play your game better than you", (yikes) and after a heated discussion over text, I asked if he wants to move on from this baseless "argument" or not. He said he does.

So, I think it's behind us now but things aren't 100% the way they used to be (understandably so). I think I need to give it some time, right?

I guess I'm asking if Aries ever goes back to being the same way they were with someone close after an argument/if their ego is bruised?
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UPDATE :

So, I ignored the Aries for like 2 days. Talked to him yesterday, he said "I can play your game better than you", (yikes) and after a heated discussion over text, I asked if he wants to move on from this baseless "argument" or not. He said he does.

So, I think it's behind us now but things aren't 100% the way they used to be (understandably so). I think I need to give it some time, right?

I guess I'm asking if Aries ever goes back to being the same way they were with someone close after an argument/if their ego is bruised?
I have yet to meet an aries man that hold grudges for a long time. If they don't care about you they will just move on and not look back.

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Ah we meet again. Hello 🙂

I will just be patient then and let him come around at his own pace. You have vast insight into aries and their modus operandi, do you mind if I ask if this knowledge has been acquired through personal experience in dealing with aries?
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sounds to me like you're playing attention games with him .... it's typical for a Scorpio female to delude herself into believing her fanatical imaginings are reality and then act on them by attempting to make her target jealous of her, to make him believe she is a sought after commodity.

the only reason you would tell him about his friends looking at you like that is for purposes of playing him for attention.

I cannot comment on his behavior because:

1. your description of his character and intent is based off of your jadedness

2. he is not here to speak for himself.



YOU are here .... and your actions are:

1. deluded

2. manipulative
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sounds to me like you're playing attention games with him .... it's typical for a Scorpio female to delude herself into believing her fanatical imaginings are reality and then act on them by attempting to make her target jealous of her, to make him believe she is a sought after commodity.

the only reason you would tell him about his friends looking at you like that is for purposes of playing him for attention.

I cannot comment on his behavior because:

1. your description of his character and intent is based off of your jadedness

2. he is not here to speak for himself.



YOU are here .... and your actions are:

1. deluded

2. manipulative
Hi, I am sorry but I would have to disagree with you. I know Scorpio females can get obsessed but I don't think I am a manipulative person just because I am a Scorpio. I think it's unfair to say that.

The only reason I would tell him about his friends is not to get his attention but because we have a honest and open relationship. In fact, like I mentioned, he already knew his friends do that.

But, you are entitled to have a different opinion and judgement like the rest of us. Cheers!

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You can never go back. Which is good. You learnt a lot more about how one another handles disagreements, different perspectives. That's a good thing.
You are correct. But if things are vastly different from what they were before, I'll sorely miss my old Aries friend. But I guess we have both learned some valuable lessons here.
I think you're making it to something bigger than it is. He got mad but he will get over it. 😛 I don't think he will think it's a big deal unless you make it into one.

Aries men are hot tempered but it never last long unless you keep revisiting the issue.



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I will definitely not make it into a bigger deal than it is already. Thanks for your input 🙂

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Aries likes the thrill of the chase.. Once he has caught his food. He will play with it for a bit, take a nibble then move on to the next victim and the thrill of the chase will start again...
This is not always the case... he will quickly evaluate your vibration if he is mature and move on... if you are unhealthy... If he is primal he will want sex... and it will become very physical... if he did not care enough to take his time like he seems like he has then I would say he must be primal but he has...

evaluate his vibration if you have a romantic interest. You should show some interest in small ways like flirting back and it will encourage him to open up... Then once you are with him just don't sleep with him right away evaluate how he treats you... I always say moon cycle and 3 months is about every retro grade.

I will say there are some very positive transits for Aries finding love you may not be the only one soon that is interested in him... So don't flater yourself to much. If you show no interested he will move on or get very distant with out verbal explanation.

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sounds to me like you're playing attention games with him .... it's typical for a Scorpio female to delude herself into believing her fanatical imaginings are reality and then act on them by attempting to make her target jealous of her, to make him believe she is a sought after commodity.

the only reason you would tell him about his friends looking at you like that is for purposes of playing him for attention.

I cannot comment on his behavior because:

1. your description of his character and intent is based off of your jadedness

2. he is not here to speak for himself.



YOU are here .... and your actions are:

1. deluded

2. manipulative
Hi, I am sorry but I would have to disagree with you. I know Scorpio females can get obsessed but I don't think I am a manipulative person just because I am a Scorpio. I think it's unfair to say that.

The only reason I would tell him about his friends is not to get his attention but because we have a honest and open relationship. In fact, like I mentioned, he already knew his friends do that.

But, you are entitled to have a different opinion and judgement like the rest of us. Cheers!

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You've been manipulating things from the start. What woman actually tells a man to go hangout with other females other than to "test" him? NONE. He's not playing your game. Good for him! Sounds like he showed genuine interest in you and you wouldn't meet him in the middle.

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Aries is a college athlete:

"I know I'm really hot but don't stare at me".

"It's your life, do what you want, we are not answerable to each other."

"I can play your game better than you"

playfully insults you and gives you a nickname




****Scorpio give up... your planned stings for this will not be felt. He's on to you. He gets alot of play as a college athlete. An Aries in the spotlight playing sports... girl, sit down. No bruising that ego. It's in your head. Most girls in college don't even fuck with athletes. The ones who do are willing to take and do whatever for the percieved payout of hopefully marrying a NBA star.

18Scorpio: "if he was going to cut me out so quick then I want to do the same. Sorry, Scorp revenge shone through my last statement"

Yep, it sure did... atleast you know who you are. But, go ahead, practice them stingers young Scorp. Young Aries will practice his burn....

What's the nickname he gave you?
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Posted by 18scorpio
Hi!

I'm a 21 y/o Scorp female and I've got a theory. I want to run it by you lovely people to see if I'm correct.

If an Aries male teases you, shares his misery with you, likes spending time with you, is an ass to everyone in general but never an ass to you in more than a playful sense, tries to share his interests with you, heeds your advice as being important to him, smiles a lot when he's around you, playfully insults you and gives you a nickname, gets worried when you're upset, asks you what you first notice in men and when you give him your answer he narrows it down to himself, would it be correct to assume that the said Aries man has developed a little crush?



He is definitely into you. My first boyfriend ever was an Aries sun Cancer moon and at first we started off as friends and how I knew he was starting to like me when he slowly started letting me know what his insecurities were. We would have long intense conversations for hours and he would tell me story on story. And even though he would tease me, he would make it obvious that he was joking and would call me little pet names even when we were just friends. Up until I finally admitted my feelings to him (Cancer moon made him shy about how he felt) and it all came out about how he had liked me for months lol.