Any other aries mean ? (too honest/blunt) (Page 2)

i ask what you aries are thinking because most of the aries i know are obvious stirrers.

I have met a few Aries bullies. They are not obvious bullies either. They manipulate the situation for the sake of manipulating the situation and like to feel in control of other peoples lives. This is a very low version of aries and not many of them exist. It's the Aries with little experience and empathy for others; and I don't really consider it to be a common an Aries trait.

As far as I am concerned I never do anything to purposely cause something else to happen. When I make a mistake or hurt someone, it's because I have thought little of the consequences of my actions. My failure to plan, the trait many negative forms of aries strive for, is what I consider my flaw. But I'm getting better at that. And if I feel like I did something wrong, I will most definitely apologize. If the person I am close to will not accept this apology I realize that I was never close to them and cut losses. I don't stay with someone who wants me to grovel at their feet for a simple mistake because I never mess up big enough to hurt anything more then feelings.

What I hate is people bringing back old shit from the past we're supposed to be over to make me feel bad. It was a mistake that I will not repeat, yet they try and use it against me? That proves to me you care more about who has the control in the relationship and not about me or the relationship itself. It hurts because I realize the person I care about is different then I thought they were. What hurts the most is when my delusionally idealistic perfect world is crushed by a person not meeting my expectations; expectations I only give them after putting a deeper amount of trust and love into that person. I don't expect material goods, or time, or words in return for this trust. Just actions that prove to me you deserve it.

honesty doesnt hurt, only the truth can, i do believe there is a difference. messenger vs message

i'm all for the honesty, that is good. but what i am trying to say from experience is sheer bullying, going out of your way to make someone feel bad about themselves for the sake of making yourself feel good.

yes there are sensitive

Not true. I almost never get hurt by the truth because it's not something I tend to hide from. Only insecure people who know the truth but don't want it to get out, because they can't face it, care about that kind of shit.

What hurts me, as I said in a post below, is when I feel like a person I trust is using or abusing me. This is done by either not accepting an apology when they probably should, bringing up things from the past that they probably shouldn't, or (most commonly) making judgments about situations without asking my opinion on them directly. This is when people think they are telling me the "honest truth" that I "can't face" when it's really not the reality of the situation at all.

What hurts isn't the words that their spewing but the fact that they are spewing them. It proves to me they are not the kind of person I thought they were, which is like a good friend dying, or even worse, a good friend never existing in the first place. That's what hurts.

Posted by starlover
Hi airybri...love the pic!

""Not true. I almost never get hurt by the truth because it's not something I tend to hide from. Only insecure people who know the truth but don't want it to get out, because they can't face it, care about that kind of butter"".

I noticed you said "I almost never get hurt etc"....but that is you and the gent posting the comments was probably talking about people in general .... yeah? 🙂

What? lol. I'm not really sure what you're asking. I'm an Aries and he was talking about Aries. My understanding was that he thought Aries get offended by truthful negative comments on their lives. The point I was making against this is that I'm not hurt by the comments but by the fact that a person is making them. Usually because they are baseless or judgmental.

I don't mean to say all Aries are this way because everyone is different regardless of their sun sign, just my personal opinion on the matter.

Posted by zeoblade

i ask what you aries are thinking because most of the aries i know are obvious stirrers. i have a hypothesis that its wanting to be the centre of attention. the only aries that doesn't stir is my little sister but i dont think she will initiate any trouble making because of her relation to me. but the others are really trouble makers, except one guy. he teases people to achieve the life of the party kind of attention

We tend to get blamed for the entire groups involvement. We usually can handle it. What happens is, someone wants to do something, and whispers it amongst the others, and an Aries can take off with the idea and set it in motion because heck we are ones that start things in motion.

I think your sister loves stirring the pot with you to be playful, and I bet respectfully so. I am curious if you are saying you don't like what she does, or what.

And I know this is an insider's perspective that I have about most Aries (even those ones I don't know), I would wager they are finishing up a battle started by the enemy. We can be accidentally too rough with people and regret it, but we rarely throw a "first stone" at someone, at least in my opinion.

Classic example in my life:

I have sat through a horrible ex-friend's abusive nature time and time again and out at a friend's birthday party he throws a fit about me leaving a tip at the restaurant and proceeds to bitch at me. I called him on his bullshit and everyone thought I was so mean and "vindictive" for that moment, meanwhile I never spoke to him the entire party and all I was trying to do at the end was put money down for the tip. Basically what I am saying, is, I stayed out of his messy life and tried my best not to step in when he was being a total abusive dick. But finally he wanted to bring me into the situation. I don't mind that the ignorant friends that side with him do as they do. It was an eyeopener indeed.

All I am saying is, nobody is ever truly innocent, and nobody can carry the entire blame, I would wager most Aries in your life would be open to fixing things that may have caused hurt feelings.

You seem like a great person, I am eager to read more of your posts now to see the other side of conversations for sure. Thanks for making threads and posting on various ones.

I find Aries bluntness to be refreshing and honest. I always know where I stand with an Aries. No smiling to my face and talking about me behind my back. That's something I love about my Aries bf.