Aries Cancer relationship

This story is long, so please bear with me!
Back in January, I met this girl in my college English class, and we started out as great friends (or so I thought) but she's an Aries female and I am a Cancer male so I thought nothing would come of this friendship.
A few, weeks into our friendship, we found out that we live relatively close to each other(3 miles away to be exact) so we decided to carpool to school and we spent even more time together. Unfortunately, one morning she was late picking me up and I chewed her out for being late.(She was late because she partied too hard the night before)
I absolutely HATE being late for anything, but I tried to keep a level head and accept that what happened was just a bad day and move on; however, she wasn't having that. A few days later she began to lash out at me: She would take pictures of herself kissing other guys and tag me in them on Facebook out of spite. I didn't think too much of it because I knew I hurt Aries' feeling when I chewed her out a few days prior.
A few weeks had past and I tried to distance myself from her as much as I could, granted it was extremely difficult because I would see her all the time during class. Also, I found out that she had been kicked out of her home shortly after our argument so I couldn't help but feel guilty. Unfortunately, she dropped out of our English class and moved 100 miles out of town.
I thought that closed the book on our relationship but I was wrong. In the months following our breakup, I couldn't help but feel emotionally conflicted over our relationship; I racked my brain over and over again trying to figure out where I went wrong - how I could have handled the situation differently.
Admittedly, racking my brain over this relationship was emotionally-draining, so I blocked it out and focused on myself. This summer I started playing different venues across California with my band, meeting different faces in different places was wonderful. I even began researching my very first car purchase. Needless to say, life was looking up for me. I apologized to her and she said she accepted it and moved on and she wanted to come see me perform. A few days later she tells me its best if we don't talk anymore and she was going to block me and I'm so confused. Where did I go wrong?!!

^That seems plausible but there was six months between when we had our falling out and when I finally apologized. If she didn't want to be in my life she could have made that clear before I apologized, but she didn't. She made it seem like she accepted my apology, and gave me an inclination that she wanted to rebuild our relationship. Why lead someone on like that?

Maybe she's dealing with something personal and doesn't wanna drag you into it. I've done this before.

move on. I mean you said it was a "friendship", so if it was a friendship...I don't get how she flaunted making out with other guys on social media. See the word lash specifically irks me because you used the term friendship. If anything I think you gave her the wrong idea because your actions never matched up with your words. Regardless of who was right or wrong, it's probably just one of those things where people follow different paths in life. Also, you chewing her out because she was late was petty, but hey we're all guilty of something like that, it's no big deal. I think it was the fact that you let something THAT SMALL get you to the point of being rude to someone you barely know was what initially turned her off, and probably some other incidents that were bottled up. Cancer+Aries aside from cancer+cap and cancer+taurus is one of the worst astrological match ups ever.

Posted by Cali_guy323
^That seems plausible but there was six months between when we had our falling out and when I finally apologized. If she didn't want to be in my life she could have made that clear before I apologized, but she didn't. She made it seem like she accepted my apology, and gave me an inclination that she wanted to rebuild our relationship. Why lead someone on like that?

Just because someone accepts an apology, doesn't mean you go back to where things last left off. Aries do not hold grudges, we are good at letting go. I think she didn't want to make the same mistake twice and was probably just being cautious around you. Or maybe she was just polite. The apology was great, but whats done is done. I do not foresee a friendship or an interaction of any sort between you two in the future because simply put, it will take too much effort to try and understand each other.

Posted by Gooober
Maybe she's dealing with something personal and doesn't wanna drag you into it. I've done this before.

this too.

Posted by biosynthesis
move on. I mean you said it was a "friendship", so if it was a friendship...I don't get how she flaunted making out with other guys on social media. See the word lash specifically irks me because you used the term friendship. If anything I think you gave her the wrong idea because your actions never matched up with your words. Regardless of who was right or wrong, it's probably just one of those things where people follow different paths in life. Also, you chewing her out because she was late was petty, but hey we're all guilty of something like that, it's no big deal. I think it was the fact that you let something THAT SMALL get you to the point of being rude to someone you barely know was what initially turned her off, and probably some other incidents that were bottled up. Cancer+Aries aside from cancer+cap and cancer+taurus is one of the worst astrological match ups ever.

I believe my actions were justified. Who parties the night before when they know they have obligations? She made a promise to pick me up and, barring unforeseen circumstances, I expect her to keep the promise. If I did the same to her I know she would call me out on it. If she had communicated with me that she was running late or whatever I would have understood 100% but she didn't: communication is key in any relationship

^my point proven. "in any relationship.....". dude you barely know her. or knew her..whatever tense lol. I get that you were annoyed, and I agree with you on the promise part, because I'm like that too, but to chew her out, someone you barely know, over something like that? It was not only that incident that turned her off. It's your entire attitude towards the interaction, as if there is already a set label. It's very off putting

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this is why it's good to have a back up plan for the back up plan. never totally depend on someone, especially someone you recently met. i got that you hate being late. but to chew someone out when you're depending on them to do something for you is very rude. things happen. people aren't going to do things as you feel they should. be grateful that she was picking you up period. from the sound of things, she was only late once. so for you to go off on her says a lot.

and if you guys were just friends, why do you feel her sending pics of kissing other guys was to spite you? friends wouldn't care. then you go on to say it was a relationship. that gives clues that you wanted or thought it was something more. which is it? friends or relationship? it doesn't matter now. just leave her alone and let her go on about her business. if it's meant for you to hang our or whatever, time will bring that.

Posted by LadyYin
this is why it's good to have a back up plan for the back up plan. never totally depend on someone, especially someone you recently met. i got that you hate being late. but to chew someone out when you're depending on them to do something for you is very rude. things happen. people aren't going to do things as you feel they should. be grateful that she was picking you up period. from the sound of things, she was only late once. so for you to go off on her says a lot.

and if you guys were just friends, why do you feel her sending pics of kissing other guys was to spite you? friends wouldn't care. then you go on to say it was a relationship. that gives clues that you wanted or thought it was something more. which is it? friends or relationship? it doesn't matter now. just leave her alone and let her go on about her business. if it's meant for you to hang our or whatever, time will bring that.

+1

Sounds like he was making more of the friendship than she was.

I went through that recently with a Pisces friend. In his head, the friendship was more, so when things happened that he didn't feel were "relationship" appropriate, he'd lash out at me when he had no place to be doing so as a friend.

Water signs... total head cases.

Looks like you have quite a situation there.

You guys started out as friends but it sounds like you two were definitely in some kind of relationship judging by her actions she was more emotionally invested than she lead on. And when an Aries breaks it off you are dead to them; the fact that she still remembers you after all these months is a great sign.

I have dated a few Aries in my time and they definitely don't act the way she has, so I wouldn't chalk this all up to her sign. Typical Aries aren't that hot and cold seems like she has a lot of emotional issues she's dealing with internally. Reach out to her and let her know you are available to talk whenever and don't beat yourself up over it

Have u ever seen Maslows hierarchy of needs?

She lost her house dude; so a man chewing her off a strip about being late ONE frigging time is not even in the same ball park - and she is telling you this in a round about way

She has important shit to deal with in her life that takes priority over you and your perceived "relationship" I can't actually see what relationship is there tbh..

Posted by AriesGirl74
Have u ever seen Maslows hierarchy of needs?

She lost her house dude; so a man chewing her off a strip about being late ONE frigging time is not even in the same ball park - and she is telling you this in a round about way

She has important shit to deal with in her life that takes priority over you and your perceived "relationship" I can't actually see what relationship is there tbh..

+1 agreed. I don't think there was one in the first place....I think it was one of those cases where there was one in his head lol

Posted by AriesGirl74
Have u ever seen Maslows hierarchy of needs?

She lost her house dude; so a man chewing her off a strip about being late ONE frigging time is not even in the same ball park - and she is telling you this in a round about way

She has important shit to deal with in her life that takes priority over you and your perceived "relationship" I can't actually see what relationship is there tbh..

I couldn't mention this in my initial post because it got cut off but she didn't get kicked out of her house until AFTER our argument (about a week later). She then proceeded to try and place blame on me for it by claiming I "jinxed" her life.

I viewed it as a friendship maybe I didn't read the signs properly but I saw it as a friendship. I did ask her outright if she would like to be my girlfriend, but I never got a definitive answer. But if we weren't in a "relationship" why does her actions reek of a hurt ex? (Tagging me in pictures on Instagram etc) Either way, life goes on. I have let her know that if she wants to talk, I'm available. I'm not going to lose sleep over this Aries