JayneDoe
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Aries Man dumped me needed space but contacts me
Keep iggin him hes the one who broke up with u...you should give this situation as much distance As possible. And if he Ever does try to get back into a relationship make sure he jumps through hoops to get you. This goes for any guy
"It's hard not talking to you or wanting to be part of your life when we have been best friends for the last four years. "
You GOT HIM, YOU GOT HIM! You have the upperhand!
Email me if you want more details.
You GOT HIM, YOU GOT HIM! You have the upperhand!
Email me if you want more details.
Thank you all for the replies. @miha - that hurt hearing that he said we've been friends for 4 years and not lovers or more, when just a few months ago he was telling me he wanted to marry me and have kids together, I'm his world the love of his life. I told him that he was more than my friend, and he replied saying of course I was more than a friend to him as well, etc...but he doesn't know how to give me my space. But I will just ignore him, I won't wait around for him to make up his mind about how he feels. He keeps trying to play head games the more I ignore him.
And a while back I had seen that he had friended all his ex girlfriends on Facebook LOL so I guess he thought he was going to add me to that list and he admitted that he was upset that I deleted him as a friend on there.
I just wanted to hear some thoughts and personal experiences, since this is my first time dealing with a serious relationship / break-up.
And a while back I had seen that he had friended all his ex girlfriends on Facebook LOL so I guess he thought he was going to add me to that list and he admitted that he was upset that I deleted him as a friend on there.
I just wanted to hear some thoughts and personal experiences, since this is my first time dealing with a serious relationship / break-up.
@miha - you weren't harsh at all, I agree with you. It hurt reading him tell me we were "best friends" instead of saying I meant more to him. He has said that when we first broke up that I meant so much to him and I was his everything blah blah blah...but ever since I've started being brief with him and deleting him, to finally ignoring him he's been saying he no longer knows how he feels about me, and its too hard for him to express his feelings about no longer being in love or whatever. So I've said goodbye, but he continues to test me to see when I'll crack and give in.
And that's what I don't want to be is, one of the many girls. I feel he's trying to to explore his options right now since we lived together for 3 years and he had talked about marriage and kids. We did get glued to the hip, a lot was by his choice not mine. But we needed personal space I see that now. However I refuse to wait for him to go out play and come back to me....after 4 years to end like this a huge part of me wants him back.
Thank you soooo much for the support!! =) I am staying active and living my life, he said he wanted space but admits he can't give me mine, and me reversing the role taking control has him acting confused lol. I keep telling myself if were meant to be then we'll be together in time....Thank you again!!!
And that's what I don't want to be is, one of the many girls. I feel he's trying to to explore his options right now since we lived together for 3 years and he had talked about marriage and kids. We did get glued to the hip, a lot was by his choice not mine. But we needed personal space I see that now. However I refuse to wait for him to go out play and come back to me....after 4 years to end like this a huge part of me wants him back.
Thank you soooo much for the support!! =) I am staying active and living my life, he said he wanted space but admits he can't give me mine, and me reversing the role taking control has him acting confused lol. I keep telling myself if were meant to be then we'll be together in time....Thank you again!!!
I just read this and thought of you:
I GUARANTEE you—that if you don't call Aries
after you??re broken up, he will call you. The
problem is, he??ll call you to:
A. Sleep with you
B. Tell you how miserable he is without you
(and how he's so disappointed that you??re, sigh, not good
enough for him)
C. See if you??re still pining for him (out of curiosity)
D. Check whether anyone's snatched you up yet (and, by the
way, the answer is yes. Hey—you??re not lying. You??re dating
yourself. Take a hot bath tonight and pour yourself a glass
of Chardonnay. And stop mourning him. Aries man has
radar; he??ll sense when you??re not living and breathing
solely for him anymore.).
BUT: DO NOT TAKE THIS PHONE CALL. The only way Aries
guy will want to get back together with you is if you continually
don't take his phone calls. Seriously. One day, a year from now,
he??ll call you out of the blue like nothing happened. He??ll invite
you to his office to have sex. And you??ll tell him to go call a 900
number.
And he??ll think about it.
I GUARANTEE you—that if you don't call Aries
after you??re broken up, he will call you. The
problem is, he??ll call you to:
A. Sleep with you
B. Tell you how miserable he is without you
(and how he's so disappointed that you??re, sigh, not good
enough for him)
C. See if you??re still pining for him (out of curiosity)
D. Check whether anyone's snatched you up yet (and, by the
way, the answer is yes. Hey—you??re not lying. You??re dating
yourself. Take a hot bath tonight and pour yourself a glass
of Chardonnay. And stop mourning him. Aries man has
radar; he??ll sense when you??re not living and breathing
solely for him anymore.).
BUT: DO NOT TAKE THIS PHONE CALL. The only way Aries
guy will want to get back together with you is if you continually
don't take his phone calls. Seriously. One day, a year from now,
he??ll call you out of the blue like nothing happened. He??ll invite
you to his office to have sex. And you??ll tell him to go call a 900
number.
And he??ll think about it.
Thank you everyone for responding! He emailed me saying he knows I'm ignoring him, and that he has been upset with the fact that I deleted him from all social networking sites, and said a few mean things.
so he is playing the victim now, but the way he is acting has made it hard for me to consider a future reunion with him. It was okay for him to reject me and have me move out, but when i said I can't handle a friendship, he is trying to turn the guilt trip on me.
He has backed off with trying to contact me...one thing I remember him telling me about his ex-girlfriend before me was that he proposed to her and she said no, so he dumped her and when she wanted him back he said no and met me a year later.
he can't handle rejection too well or try to understand the other person's perspective. I keep reading that Aries men can fall in love fast & hard and fall out of love the same way...thanks everyone for all the support, I do need to act like he is dead, because I do feel like the man I was with has died and someone new has taken over his body. It just sucks because we had 2 cats together but he has to keep them, and so i have to give them up as well.
so he is playing the victim now, but the way he is acting has made it hard for me to consider a future reunion with him. It was okay for him to reject me and have me move out, but when i said I can't handle a friendship, he is trying to turn the guilt trip on me.
He has backed off with trying to contact me...one thing I remember him telling me about his ex-girlfriend before me was that he proposed to her and she said no, so he dumped her and when she wanted him back he said no and met me a year later.
he can't handle rejection too well or try to understand the other person's perspective. I keep reading that Aries men can fall in love fast & hard and fall out of love the same way...thanks everyone for all the support, I do need to act like he is dead, because I do feel like the man I was with has died and someone new has taken over his body. It just sucks because we had 2 cats together but he has to keep them, and so i have to give them up as well.
I don't know your last four years:
You probably have beautiful memories with a realized idea of a man you thought you knew. One day you had dreams, cats and goals and the next he leaves and takes the pets. You want some sense of connection. Your head is telling you ignoring him is right. All the Aries for the most part here agree with you. You don't want to be that option, in a collection of his ex's on social media, or a doormat. You are hurting though.
You are hurting because you are wonderful and he forgot you. Somewhere he stopped seeing you as needing him as a permanent part of life, together. Maybe it was the coffee or the kitty litter 😛.
Either way do you WANT this type of behavior back?
Scenario 1: You are back together. Everything goes completely back to whatever lead him to bolt.
Scenario 2: You are looking for scenario 1 no matter how many times you don't see it and you bolt
Scenario 3: You find someone new and wonder about 1& 2
Scenario 4: —
The list is endless.
Prioritize: What is important for your life without him right now? How is your health and well being? What can you do for you to feel and be better and more complete?
After all that soul and spirit searching then move on. Realistically you will need a few months to get all your clarity as this was a long relationship.
Do not rush your perspective or healing. Do not let anyone else including him do it either. It is all very fresh. Use the power of that newness to reconnect with yourself. That's all I can think of; I hope it helps.
You probably have beautiful memories with a realized idea of a man you thought you knew. One day you had dreams, cats and goals and the next he leaves and takes the pets. You want some sense of connection. Your head is telling you ignoring him is right. All the Aries for the most part here agree with you. You don't want to be that option, in a collection of his ex's on social media, or a doormat. You are hurting though.
You are hurting because you are wonderful and he forgot you. Somewhere he stopped seeing you as needing him as a permanent part of life, together. Maybe it was the coffee or the kitty litter 😛.
Either way do you WANT this type of behavior back?
Scenario 1: You are back together. Everything goes completely back to whatever lead him to bolt.
Scenario 2: You are looking for scenario 1 no matter how many times you don't see it and you bolt
Scenario 3: You find someone new and wonder about 1& 2
Scenario 4: —
The list is endless.
Prioritize: What is important for your life without him right now? How is your health and well being? What can you do for you to feel and be better and more complete?
After all that soul and spirit searching then move on. Realistically you will need a few months to get all your clarity as this was a long relationship.
Do not rush your perspective or healing. Do not let anyone else including him do it either. It is all very fresh. Use the power of that newness to reconnect with yourself. That's all I can think of; I hope it helps.
im aries and i know taurus very very well...well seem like the story doesnt add up. he said he needed space but u moved out...dont make since if you still go visit the cats...why? just take them with you or stay at the house and he move out! so if you coming around still after ignoring him then give him what he wants or dont come around anymore.if your pics are not up its because he knew you would see it and get hurt. Obviously he told you he wanted something that you wasnt willing to provide before his self discovery mission which is are you really loving me?? or are you only here for what i can offer you?? well he still writes msgs and things because he does love you but if you play the ignore game any longer and dont give in to what he wants..then move on because while you are ignoring him hes courting. if you dont want it to get to the next stage stop now and give in so you can be happy only if you know you will be sad without him. realtalk.
Okay everyone my Aries ex needed his "space" because turns out he was cheating on me....and now he is with that girl and said she doesn't care that he is having sex with other girls besides her because they're not serious, and she's just having fun so he can have as many girls as he wants....I guess after 4 years he got cold feet and thought he could dump me to have fun and keep me around as his "option" and then maybe, just maybe ask me back and then we would get married like he use to talk about LOL we were that last couple out of our friends who were not married, and they would ask him when were we going to get married, so maybe he felt the pressure and wanted to get his last moment of "freedom"....I guess I ruined his plans, once the girl contacted me telling me everything I told him he's dead to me and to never contact me ever again in his life. I refuse to go from priority to an option, I have way too much self respect and self love to be treated the way. His friend back in 2008 did tell me when I first started dating him that he wanted to be a male slut but met me and changed, haha well now he's met another self proclaimed slut, so birds of a feather flock together....he turned back into his old self and knew I am not that type of girl to be okay with that lifetsyle. Thank you again everyone! I'm glad the truth came out and all his lies didn't make sense, and he was trying to manipulate me and make me feel guilty for not wanting to be his friend after the break-up...even to the point of not letting me see the cats, but I can't keep them because my new place doesn't allow them...since the cats were a gift from him I don't want them later on, I don't want anything from him....
Posted by lancelot314
im aries and i know taurus very very well...well seem like the story doesnt add up. he said he needed space but u moved out...dont make since if you still go visit the cats...why? just take them with you or stay at the house and he move out! so if you coming around still after ignoring him then give him what he wants or dont come around anymore.
I got to visit the cats before I started ignoring him, I started to ignore him because the way he was treating me while we were still keeping contact I couldn't take it anymore, his behavior was cold & mean, so I told him I don't want to be his "friend" and that's when he told me he couldn't give me my space and he still wants me apart of his life, etc...I moved into his place that's why i left...but turns out he was being mean & trying to keep me in his life because he started seeing the girl he cheated on me with, so now I know why he was acting the way he did. Once I finally contacted him telling him I know the truth and to stay away, I haven't heard from since. At first I thought maybe he did need "space" because he was glued to my hip, and was a homebody, but no he just wanted to sleep around with other women.
sad story - and how about now ? after 6 months ?
Posted by heydte
sad story - and how about now ? after 6 months ?
We still haven't spoken, its been hard since this was my first serious relationship, first heartbreak. People keep telling me that he'll contact me one day, because he has reached out to all his exes and is fiends with them all online.
I was his longest relationship and the only girl that has met his family, and judging by the fact that he repeats his behavior I wouldn't put pass him... I am healing and moving on...so I'm not waiting around for his return, or if he doesn't.
---Thank you for asking ---
Posted by starloverPosted by celticlioness
I just read this and thought of you:
I GUARANTEE you—that if you don't call Aries
after you??re broken up, he will call you. The
problem is, he??ll call you to:
A. Sleep with you
B. Tell you how miserable he is without you
(and how he's so disappointed that you??re, sigh, not good
enough for him)
C. See if you??re still pining for him (out of curiosity)
D. Check whether anyone's snatched you up yet (and, by the
way, the answer is yes. Hey—you??re not lying. You??re dating
yourself. Take a hot bath tonight and pour yourself a glass
of Chardonnay. And stop mourning him. Aries man has
radar; he??ll sense when you??re not living and breathing
solely for him anymore.).
BUT: DO NOT TAKE THIS PHONE CALL. The only way Aries
guy will want to get back together with you is if you continually
don't take his phone calls. Seriously. One day, a year from now,
he??ll call you out of the blue like nothing happened. He??ll invite
you to his office to have sex. And you??ll tell him to go call a 900
number.
And he??ll think about it.
This is brilliant advice celtic! I have had two of them (for my sins)...to my mind most (not all) Aries men are great for fun but not good for settling. If any of my two contact me again, they will be totally blanked
🙂click to expand
Really— We are such lovers, devoted to are mates to a fault. Maybe the men are different.
I dated an Aries man once, great guy.
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