Trying to keep this as short and succinct as possible!
Met an aries woman about 2 months ago, we ran into each other randomly. We used to know each other through a mutual friend about 7-8 years ago. We exchanged numbers and began talking. Sparks lit up straight away and the chemistry was there from the get-go. We met a few weeks before our birthdays (Me - april 7, Her - april 14) and this spurred us to plan gifts and surprise birthdays for each other,
What she planned for me blew me away, and likewise for what i did with her. We spent almost every hour after work together, going to the gym and dinner/lunch. We legit spent all our free time together. To be quite honest the chemistry i've had with this girl i've never had with another star sign because it literally feels like im dating myself...we are exactly alike that it scares me. However since we are exactly alike we also share the exact same bad qualities as well as good.
I said some really stupid little lies over the time of us talking and this proceeded to make her put her walls up and be distant after a while. She would constantly pick on small things as she was scared if this went further, the damage to us would be worse (very understandable).
Now coming off of major depression 2 years ago, i built myself up to a very strong person, however i realised that i still had a lot of insecurity and the way i acted, dressed and spoke was in essence to hide all of this. At the start I knew it was fake, but since i've been doing it for so long, i began to actually believe it. I lived an extremely superficial life, and this tarnished the goodness that i have as a person because people could not see past the chickeniness and smugness that i showed.
When we would try and sort things out, after reflecting now, i realise that i never truly tried to fix the problem, but rather would agree with her in order to calm the situation down and make her happy.
We had a heartfelt talk about 2 weeks ago before i had a work function, and i told her i was so sorry for everything i've done and that i'll take as long as it needs to, to rebuild her trust as a future with her was what i wanted. Her family and cousins adored me and said I was the best thing that had happened to her in a while.
However the next day, she called me and said "I thought about what you said, and I've realised i cant do this right now. I'm becoming an angry person and im always frustrated. We need our space and time to figure our stuff out, then we can come back and maybe work on this."
I hesitantly agreed, but since she wasn't breaking it off i was still content with her decision. However after asking if I could come see her to talk it out, she went very angry and said " Don't you get it? We're over!"
It was at this point in time that i realised that she was confused about the situation and what she wanted. I know she cares about me very deeply, and she has had some REALLY bad boyfriends that have scarred her to the point where she will never recover from. Her exes are still a burden on her mind and soul, her family have even admitted this to me.
This call was on a tuesday, and on friday she was scheduled to go overseas for a week with her father for a work-holiday. I treated the two weeks off as a massive self-improvement journey for myself. I did great refleciton on who i really AM rather than who id BECOME. It literally feels like i've woken up from a deep sleep and someone else was living my life.
I'm not a bad person, but my attitude and behaviour at times was very bad, and this turned her away. She thought that I acted differently infront of her family than infront of her. However what i tried to tell her, was that infront of her family, I acted as the true me, the person who isn't superficial or judgemental or chickeny. Her family/cousins on the first time i met them, told her (in front of me) that I was a very smart and special guy, and that she needed to hold on to me.
Back to the topic, I am a completely new person, and I can't begin to explain the improvements that my life has undertaken these two weeks. My family and friends are amazed and said its good to have the real ME back. All the things she was telling me she hated that I did, i realised were wrong and i've addressed this. She really changed my life, convinced me to speak to my family and sister and go back to church, which i've all done.
I bumped into her cousins at church last week and they asked me to come over and hang out sometime. I told them i couldn't because of what happened with her and I. They told me to relax, and that she is most likely just really angry (she always is) and to talk to her soon. This girl is the first girl (out of countless girls) that has actually hit me this hard, because she actually challenged me to be a better person rather than going with the flow. She knew what she wanted and I loved that.
I texted her prior to her trip wishing her a safe journey and she thanked me. She came back last friday, to which i messaged her on saturday to see how she was. It is now tuesday with no reply. I know her, and I think she would want me to call her instead.
I know she still cares for me, but i'm not sure how to approach this or even talk to her when i do. I know i can prove that i have changed, but with a stubborn aries attitude, I'm not sure how to break through to her.
Whowwww sooo I mer this ariea guy 14th April and I am 7th april) it's like you're telling our future haha but it's the other way round cuz I haven't developed feelings for him yet. Took your message as a warning!!! Send me yours and hers completely date and time of birth maybe I can help through the charts and let you know what's cooking on her mind?