Aries men Cancer woman.....

So, I've had two Aries guys chase me insistently for years. One is my best friend in the world(5years and counting) the other, a friend kinda but claims to have strong feelings for me(says he's in love). I like the second, but I recently just got out of a relationship with a leo. I do not plan on getting into another relationship for a long while, the Aries says he wants a relationship. I'd prefer to still be friends.

The issue now is, this Aries blows hot and cold so much, it scares me. I think I'm being paranoid sometimes and let go, the he comes back with so much intensity. I wish I had a better understanding of you Aries Men.
He shuts down and refuses to open sometimes, but ends up calling me 10times from 1 am to 6Am. I don't know how to read the second Aries, I had similar issues with the other but we are so emotionally dependent on each other we can't let go.
They are both Aries Sun, Venus and Mars in Aquarius.

Posted by bmoon8
The best thing to do is to be open and honest with both of them and let them know you are not considering a relationship for a while due to your break up with the leo.... if you haven't done that already.

They Know I'm not ready for a relationship, my best friend understands this. The other guy, I just don't understand. I'm done with the Leo, I've known my friend since before my relationship. The other Aries I met 3years back when I met the leo. I chose the Leo over him. He knows this, complains I don't regard his feelings. It feels like a game to me, I don't know how to believe him. I've avoided him for years, just recently opened communication between us. I always delete his number, he has always kept mine.

Both have Venus and Mars in Aquarius. I have Venus in Virgo,Mars in Leo, Aqua rising. Thank you —

Sounds like he doesn't know where he stands with you. And it doesn't sound like you are into him enough to give him the kind of attention & passion that is detrimental to this combination. Honestly, I find Aries men to have very needy egos. It can be work if it doean't come natural.

Posted by LunarMaiden
Sounds like he doesn't know where he stands with you. And it doesn't sound like you are into him enough to give him the kind of attention & passion that is detrimental to this combination. Honestly, I find Aries men to have very needy egos. It can be work if it doean't come natural.

My fears outweigh whatever I feel for him, I'm trying to understand him just as friends but he's making it so darn hard. I care for him and I really wish I could get through to him. Our communication feels so restricted I wish I could break through the ice. I just really want to be there for him as friends only, I feel like he's suffering beneath. Am I being selfish Or..? Should I stop trying?

Posted by Arielle83
I lost my virginity to an Aries. This guy still checks in to chat. Even though we are both married. I have a few male Aries friends who keep asking me why I got married when they've been waiting for me.

They are real flirty and persistent. I don't get the attraction.

I swear there's something to Cancer-Aries attraction, do you have any residual feelings? I can't go on with this. It's killing me too cause I actually care.

Posted by bmoon8

Posted by Namy
Both have Venus and Mars in Aquarius. I have Venus in Virgo,Mars in Leo, Aqua rising. Thank you —

Venus in Aquarius.... can be detached or they can detach. So the 2nd one who is confusing you... he detaches and then comes back stronger than before. Hope that helps. The first man... Aquarius can call someone a best friend and that means more to them than just friends.

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So when he's feeling detach, I should just let him be? He called two nights back wanting to hang. I was out with a friend and I just couldn't drop all plans with my friend...so I turned him down. He sent a text, Okay hun, we'd see tomorrow. Love you.
I replied with yea, Goodnight.
Since then, he's been avoiding me, he's gone into his Aries shell.

@Arielle83 I like how honest you are, your rising definitely is attractive on a Cancer.

@bmoon8

Thank you, he apologised the next morning. Yesterday we finally spoke about feelings and us. He says he wants more and more, says he only needed time to process everything but he'd never intentionally push me away.

Ugh. Aries can be so persistent and annoying sometimes. The thing is I can guarantee he actually believes he is going to win you over. Tell him to go away.