aries tantrums

is it possible for us to evolve? meaning, how many of you aries out there are patient? can you stop yourself from saying what you feel passionate about?
i am damn near 40 and still can't stop myself from behaving and reacting "emotionally". then after i spew out whatever it is i NEED to say, i'm usually over the issue and can resume activities as normal.
HOWEVER, the offended party may or may not accept that i am over my "tantrum", and that i expect them to forgive/forget/get over it.
and i truly try (well somewhat) to do better, but there are some things that push my buttons enough that i think i'd explode if i didnt get my feelings off my chest.
how many of you have conquered this issue. i want to know, because if it's possible to overcome this, i'm gonna try harder!

Hehe, I don't think we need to change at all, sounds like you do things a-okay.

I know we can be patient, and bite our tongues, we sorta do that a lot anyway, like at work, or in the store.

It is hurtful people see us in bad light at times, over our tempers etc, but I guess we are okay as we are.

heroic guy, you're right...i guess i do hold back somewhat at work or in a store or in a situation where i feel like it's a lost cause. i guess i'm more apt to express my feelings when i think it'll mean something to the person i'm expressing (ahem) them too 🙂
the problem is that usually i regret it afterwards and wish i'd just kept my mouth shut.patience.....i need to buy some.

Yeah the regret thing.

I used to speak without thinking in high school lunchrooms. I would express myself about anything and anyone and one time I remember at least that when I turned around to see what everyone was staring at, it was the person I just trashed right there.

I definitely make it clear to most that I would say what I say to anyone's face and not be all behind someone's back, but still I definitely try to live by the world of polite behavior and not do those sorta things. Live and learn for sure.

I try to align myself with people I don't want to ever disagree with on a level that I would be screaming at them about what a horrible person they are. Usually I save it for times like defending someone who did someone wrong etc. I have had to work with many people that I just wanted to SCREAM and rant at, and that I think is a bigger world topic, not just an Aries topic so I won't discuss ranting at workers/bosses in this post.

Not sure what to say really. I think as you build up a list of times you regret what you say as an Aries, you decide to not tone down yourself but pinpoint how to be an Aries among the world the way you want, which usually tends to be a nice, sincere, caring, loving way, not necessarily holding back. I hope that Aries scratch off items off their list as time goes on and move on and upward. We aren't all that bad

heroic, usually my "aries fire" only comes out when i'm hurt or dissapointed by someone i love. i can't say i use it to be mean to people because, in general, i understand and can empathize with why most people do things....whether i agree with it or not.
but when a lover, or my children, or mom does something hurtful or dissapointing...boy, does the temper fly...but usually i'm over it as soon as i get whatever off my chest. but by then, the damage is done.
for the most part, i do as you said...i keep only positive folks in my life...no drama...but even people you love can't always live up to an aries girl's expectations!!!
it's been nice discussing this with you 🙂

bluemoon, thanks for your input. and yes, totally, i replace the "hurt" emotion with the "anger" emotion 😢

Having too much patience with people is one of my faults that I am in the process of correcting.
I have found folks taking advantage just once too often and I am now using the slash and burn method to rid myself of them.

I can't be bothered with tantrums (leave that to the Pisces/Aqua types). Just.....nothin' (my theory is "you shit on me and if you are treating people they way you want to be treated that means I have to shit on you but I can't be bothered doing that so you can just treetrunk off")(and if I do happen to find a CONVENIENT way to shit on you in return I would be more than happy to do so and I don't expect you to grizzle about it when it happens because you started it azzhole.)


Having said all that, I suffered very badly at the hand of the recent retrograde business and am becoming impatient waiting for the great 2011 improvement that we have been promised. January 4 was a disaster and time is marching on ...so when exactly are things supposed to turn around——??

Try not to let people push your buttons if you can (yes I know it's easier said than done)...but button pushers usually aren't worth bothering with, they have a whole set of their own issues to deal with. You don't need them.

Hey txtbukariesgirl! I hear you!

I was hoping that with age my temper with become a bit softer, but I don't see that happening. Just like you, if I feel hurt or disappointed I have to say it! I just can't hold it inside me. So from time to time I do too tend to have some verbal diarrhea.
The thing is, because I know this about me, every time I try to control i just feel it is not me. That I end up alienating myself, so lately what happens is...I control and control and control...and when day, out of the blue I vomit all out. So the receiver thinks...wtf?? That's the result of me trying not too express myself.

But because I know that too, I am also very good at apologizing. Because after I do it I feel really good, but when I see the damage I genuinely apologize. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

Aries tantrums n moodiness is sooo cute.. !!! They r like kids.. I like to babysit them !!! Mwwhhss

Hey All! Heroic your on point, Bohemian Rhapsody you too! I agree, I regret alot of things I say, almost instantaneously, and sometimes wonder, when will this ish end?? LOL Prob never, just have to learn to live with it, or curtail it. I totally agree with the, at certain times we bite our tongues or hold back our initial responses. I hate doing that though, Im a typical aries and Im ok with that! Truth is, I love our sign, and I dont want to be any other sign, I like the fiery nature we have, we defend the honor of loved ones and friends, I could do without all the emotional crap, and the flighty response in relationships, but in general I love being me, an aries. I do however get tired of the impulse and impatience but Im working on that, guess we all have to! And ellis, your not funny about the tantrums thing, we already know were big babies, you pointing it out only angers an aries, and as you know well let loose in seconds and let you have it! Then well apologize and forget it ever happened! Ha! Oh, and yeah Aries has to surround themselves with positive people and like minds. I just realized why alot of my friendships and relationships didnt work, after studying myself and astrology. It all makes perfect sense now, too bad it took so long to do so! My brothers a scorpio and we fight like crazy, now I know why, scorpios and aries males fight each other, and my best friends are leos, which is interesting. Not sure whose the best sign to date yet, Ive dated alot of aries women, but as you may/may not know, we dont date our own signs too well, its fun, but then it ends and it can be fiery if the breakup isnt mutual. I think in general though were good people, with big hearts, and were highly driven and determined, other signs should be so lucky!

I can't loose my temper. I'll go to jail. Can't ensue the damage I did as a young wild Aries (aaaaah, I miss those days). Plus, I want to stay employed. As a result, I am awesome defense. Afterall, defense is the best offense. I let the other person bring it.

I also have violent fantasies that calm me before I loose it. It's quite satisfying and calming. I keep my Arian edge. Don't want the weaponry to become dull. I imagine being a warrior for Christ. Never know when you'll need it - afterall, you were "born this way" for a reason.

When holding on to my temper 'though, I can appear (and perhaps am)deathly cold... I have alot of air placements.