Aries Women: Positives are also our negatives!!

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Anybody else noticed this:

Impulsive
positive: Exciting
negative: Do get ourselves into bother cos we don't think first

Independent:
positive: We don't need a man and our perfectly capable of taking care of ourselves
negative: We find it hard to relinquish our freedom when we meet someone and come across as hard and unyielding.

Determined
positive: We know where we want to be
negative: Sometimes that means trying to push others into doing what we want

Anymore?

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Impulsive
positive: Exciting
negative: Do get ourselves into bother cos we don't think first

Independent:
positive: We don't need a man and our perfectly capable of taking care of ourselves
negative: We find it hard to relinquish our freedom when we meet someone and come across as hard and unyielding.

Determined
positive: We know where we want to be
negative: Sometimes that means trying to push others into doing what we want


Yes .... other people have noticed those ^^^^^^ ... here's how it looks to me ..

1. Impulisiveness .... getting into trouble from not "thinking" = irresponsible. From the Aries perspective, it sounds fun, something new, or something to improve upon, or something to put your signature on .... however, have you ever noticed that most people don't "trust" you? And this is because this quality about you looks irresponsible if you don't have a care for foresight.

2. Independent ... not wanting to hand control over to someone who seems unyielding = ignorant of #1. Has the thought crossed your mind that the only reason people have to think for you is because you don't care to have foresight of consequences? If you don't want to have responsibility to "think" something through before you leap, then you cannnot expect others to be so stupid .. and if they aren't this dumb when it comes to self-control, then this means the other person is hard or mean ... it means this other person is conscientious.

Result ... you are NOT able to take care of yourself. You are able to have the balls to leap before you look .. and humble enough to have someone come and clean up your mess for you ... and then have the audacity to call these people names because they aren't ignorant to the realization of consequences.


3. Do you even need to know how people would view you if you pushed somebody around to get what you want? Being determined is NOT a good thing if you don't care about damages in your wake.




However, all of the above is being a Ram ..... just butt through life without a care ... and this doesn't mean it's wrong, it just means .... you are alone because of it.


Most Aries are always alone, even in a crowd ..... your cross to bear for having those qualities.

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However, all of the above is being a Ram ..... just butt through life without a care ... and this doesn't mean it's wrong, it just means .... you are alone because of it.


LOL! sometimes true if alone really bothers you. If alone bothers you, sooner or later, you realise, no matter if you ram or not, you are inherently alone in life - no one else will share your viewpoint or should you expect to understand where others are coming from.
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Posted by zenalchemy
However, all of the above is being a Ram ..... just butt through life without a care ... and this doesn't mean it's wrong, it just means .... you are alone because of it.


LOL! sometimes true if alone really bothers you. If alone bothers you, sooner or later, you realise, no matter if you ram or not, you are inherently alone in life - no one else will share your viewpoint or should you expect to understand where others are coming from.



Well said zen!

Differences rather than similarities define us. My unique experiences naturally make me different so I don't expect anyone else to agree with me. Rams just understand that better than most. We just like to announce our individuality in the most unapologetic and upfront way and sometimes we feel like others would be a lot happier if they did the same. If that makes me "alone" then so be it in the figurative sense...but if you even take a look at my social calendar, you will have no doubt that I am surrounded by wonderful and supportive friends.

Ultimately I see individuality as the ultimate acceptance of differences. Turning away from the shackles of conformity is how we evolve
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P-Angel... I totally disagree with you. And your comments are pretty common. As an Aries, I find I have a great inner strength. Aries sometimes get a bad wrap, but I would rather be impulsive, independent, and determined. It serves me in such a way and saves me in such a way, that only a fellow aries would understand what I'm talking about.

Ignorant is not a word to describe an Aries. They are intelligent enough to keep an open mind about pretty much everything. We have plenty of logic, that's why we can barracade forward in life with such a pioneering spirit. We realize that sometimes in order for things to be DONE, you have to START them yourself.

Are we stubborn.... YES WE ARE :-) But it serves our purpose. Try changing the mind of a ram once their mind is made up about ANYTHING!!!! They are prepared to defend their position to the end. We are passionate. We are lovers. We are fighters. We are pioneers. We have spirit. We are many things..... but negative or spreading negativity is NEVER a trait of ours. People can be negative towards us, and we take it as a challenge, internalize it, and then carry on. If we get pissed, then someone might get hurt along the way, although it's usually Aries that will hurt more because we are so passionate, free-spirited, and open hearted, thrown in with honest, loyal, prideful, and respect honor, that it's soooo painful when those that you deem worthy fall flat on their faces. And that in turn, they create negativity.....

In the end, all you can do is respect an Aries.... with our independence comes a solitude. But at least when we crash and burn, we don't take others down with us. That is part of our independence..... only we go down and only we can bring ourselves up. I'm glad that I have these qualities...... I am a brave one. It enables me to live the life I should.
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I'm kind of insulted by the comments made by you p-angel. I'm just wondering if there is someone that you know that shows all of these negative traits by an aries, that you described so clearly. I can understand why you would put how you felt out there for all of us aries, if there in fact is someone you want to be specific about, otherwise it would be fair to assume that you believe everyone that is an aries acts this way, which is ignorant in itself, and you are being a hypocrite.

1. Impulisiveness .... getting into trouble from not "thinking" = irresponsible. From the Aries perspective, it sounds fun, something new, or something to improve upon, or something to put your signature on .... however, have you ever noticed that most people don't "trust" you? And this is because this quality about you looks irresponsible if you don't have a care for foresight.

I'm not going to try and take this personally. Like I said, I will chalk it up to you basing this from someone that acts this way. First thing...I do not think getting into trouble is fun. I think that once you are an adult you have to take responsibility for your actions. I don't go out every Friday night and go nuts because I want to create this "fun" time that you are speeking of is new and exciting. Like I said once you are an adult, aries or not, one should consiously be aware of choices. I work hard, have two jobs, and take myself and the enviornment to which I am in seriously. If I make mistakes I will try and improve upon myself...WHICH I think everyone should do, pusihing yourself up to do better, out of bad decisions or own person choice...don't you think that is a good thing—

Next thing...basically rediculous to me, but ok, I'll go along with it...




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however, have you ever noticed that most people don't "trust" you? And this is because this quality about you looks irresponsible if you don't have a care for foresight.
I am proud to say that all of my friends trust me. They can pour their heart out about their problems, I will listen, and also not say a word to anyone else. They know that I will not judge them. Why won't I judge you may ask? After all I am an aries, but I'm pretty sure that I once again (here comes that word)take my friendships very seriously. I won't stand for shady people or people that I cannot trust in return. My friends often tell me how much they value my friendship....because of the TRUST. Thank you.

2. Independent ... not wanting to hand control over to someone who seems unyielding = ignorant of #1. Has the thought crossed your mind that the only reason people have to think for you is because you don't care to have foresight of consequences? If you don't want to have responsibility to "think" something through before you leap, then you cannnot expect others to be so stupid .. and if they aren't this dumb when it comes to self-control, then this means the other person is hard or mean ... it means this other person is conscientious.

My perspective of independence is being capable of taking care of myself. Bills, health, relationships...the only time I want control is when once of these is out of balance, whatever the reason, and want to be at my full potential...you could say pioneering and advancing myself. If it happens to be a relationship then I am very yielding. Considerate and kind of others thoughts and feelings. I don't push things to happen or plot to take control of other people by making them agree. If I don't seem to come to a compromise with someone I wouldn't just say they were dumb or mean, unless they were acting in a way of which an adult shouldn't: meaning being disrespectful if I were to be trying to make the disagreement into something better. Like I said I don't push people or as you said, "take control", I can only do my best to use my words wisely and try to be a better person, especially in crucial times. This paragraph seems to be going on and on about irresponsibility. I kind of see what you are getting at. It was harder to understand.
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3. Do you even need to know how people would view you if you pushed somebody around to get what you want? Being determined is NOT a good thing if you don't care about damages in your wake.

Most Aries are always alone, even in a crowd ..... your cross to bear for having those qualities.

This is also off topic...you should be more specific. This paragraph to me sounds like you are talking about two little kids. One, obviously the bully. It's hard for me to comprehend because these examples you give are so eight grade. I thought we were talking about adults. Anyways, to the last thing you said...I don't think Aries are always alone. I like being by myself to gather my thoughts. In a crowd I couldn't care less if I was noticed...God loves me. I know who I am. I am a very positive person, good person. That's really all I've got to say.
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Furthermore, I also would like to add this...You cannot blame anyone for what they are going through at a certian time in their life...all the things we are talking about are personality traits that we aries outwardly show more than others. Right? BUT these qualities everyone has at certain times, to different degrees at moments to which our action, or reaction, are put into motion based on our best judgement.

My roommate is an aquarius, she is the same age as I, but although we are the same age we act and react differently because of our background, upbringing, values etc. Going out and having fun and creating fun would be something she loves...some sort of adrenaline that she get from speeding from taking shots at bars, meanwhile looking like a dumbass doing it, but she could care less. AND I love her just the same for it because I accept her good flaws and her bad. She is very irresponsible...in the past 6 monts she had so many tickets her license was then suspended...MY POINT...all these things could be traits of aries, correct?

Instead of saying like you did, p-angel, that we bear the cross of our actions...why should we—?

Nobody is perfect. I love her just the same because she is going through a time where she wants to have fun, in-turn she will eventually find out what she REALLY wants while creating many great memories along the way. I think at times she could be a little more mature, but hey...I was there at one point...I will always be there, after every mistake she makes, even if I told her in advance that the ways it could have been avoided, I will be there to bring her up to be a friend. It's called growing up. For myself I have high stantards. I wouldn't dare doing the things she has because I would be backtracking myself and I happy with the direction I am going in.

I moved out when I was 18...she moved when she was 21...I went out then and now I am ready to start my REAL life...I have faith that she will feel the same one day.

Bearing a cross...good lord lady...I'm pretty sure we don't have to bear anything because that's why the lord jesus died to save us from having to, but ok. Sounds like you want some sort of revenge for someone...
If I was upset with someone that's on them, right? If they were really to be bullying you are being a huge jerk...I would look at them with sorrow because they have have hurt in them that needs to be delt with in positive ways. AND YOU KNOW WHY...
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Maybe because I am aries, maybe because I know I am strong enough, and have the DETERMINATION to get through life believeing and KNOWING who I am...what I stand for...and also that there is good in everyone, but everyone needs a hand, some good advice and someone who will bring them to where they should be...doing the best for themselves. I don't let people treat me badly...likewise I don't become a tirant and try to destroy them because of their wrong doing. I let it go and pray the best for them.
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I don't really find a challenge in much to be honest(especially with people), I am who I am, no need for explanation (in real life, on here different story-no one knows me)So...negativity is not a challenge, it's just unnecessary. Everyone gets certain things from people. I like to pick out the best in people and focus on those, rather than targeting in on what is wrong with a person. If there is something uncertain to me I may try and understand. If I choose not to I won't say things about someone(definitely not based on the sign)because, after all, I know nothing about them. I'm pretty empathetic. I just think someone people read too much into which signs have what. I will only agree with the positives of each sign and keep an open mind to each person accordingly. I think, and I could be wrong, that she read a little too much about aries and decided that if someone was say a huge jerk, it would have to be because we are say "impatient", or something of that sort. It's just a bunch of crap to me. It's like making up our mind about something we know nothing about...which to me is completely unintelligent, ignorant, and alas hypercritical...DEFINETELY there are people that can act in the ways she described...but,why bash someone for their faults— THEY OBVIOUSLY DON'T KNOW. So let them live their life...let them figure it out...and I'm sure everyone can agree that's how we learn.

Negativity feeds negativity.
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"I just think someone people read too much into which signs have what."

You are a fool if you actually believe that people speak only about what they read. Though you may think you only view the positive .. that in fact was a negative, for it was a devaluing a persons intelligence as it pertains to their own discernment, and in believing another person can only view from your perspective .. and if they don't, then it must mean they've read a lie somewhere and believed it.

"I will only agree with the positives of each sign and keep an open mind to each person accordingly."

That is unfortunate and only proves my point ..... you would ignore something that is present, and act as though it isn't. For that, you will surely suffer the consequences when negativity smacks you in the face .. and you go off on a tantrum like you did in here, while actually believing you didn't take it personally.

"It's just a bunch of crap to me. It's like making up our mind about something we know nothing about...which to me is completely unintelligent, ignorant, and alas hypercritical"

And just after your claim of only recognizing the positive ..... you proceed to express your negativity about a person to whom has a different perspective of you .. how brilliant.



Just in case you didn't notice .. I thought I would point out to you the subject matter of the topic .... a subject matter in which the author of this thread actually asked for, in which my response was in exact accordance ...


"Aries Women: Positives are also our negatives!"


^^^^^^^^^^^^^ you knew that was the subject matter before ever walking through the door, you knew that she was asking for postives as they are relative to negatives ...... if you couldn't handle it, and knew you would get weak in the knees at hearing an opinion of another then you should have stayed home with the pillow covering your ears and blankie pulled over your head.
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You guys shouldn't take what P says so offensively because she knows as well as most of us that sun signs are superficial descriptions of our personality, therefore her observations are merely broad and generalized and doesn't pertain to each individual. Don't forget we have other planets and such that influences (and even environment) our personalities.


ROFL!... flirt-til-it-hurts! How can we take you seriously?
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Posted by love_365
There are some people who work in light (positive or optimistic), and there are some people who work in darkness (negative or pessimistic). Then, there are people who are balanced. They can see the positive and negative. It doesn't matter how a person is or how a message is delivered as long as within they mean well.



A person will state whatever they please, whether they mean well or not (especially on this board). I'm just trying to tell people not to let it bother them, if it's not true why should it?. If they do let it bother them, than they will be bothered for the rest of their life.