Child: Sun in Aries Moon in Pisces...

I'm worried about my little cousin (13 years old):

He is so clingy.
He only does what HE WANTS... (So you know his school grades are crappy)
He is REALLY stubborn, selfish, and ignorant when it comes to personal issues.
He has this "I wanna be better then you" Attitude and yet he has a low self-esteam.
He HATES morals, besides, he never understands them..
He's mostly shy, but when it comes to people he knows, he GOES CRAZY and doesn't care about the people around him.

I wanna help him the best way I can..but everytime I try to get into school or other personal stuff, he just listens real bluntly..

He told me I was his favorite cousin, I buy him LOADS of crap..*Spends 200 bucks a week on him*, and play with him (Fishing, nature hiking, etc) he has an abusive dad, (drunk) and his mom is caring...yet...a total bitch sometimes...but only when he gets stubborn.

I really want to focus on his school. He just doesn't care, any tips on how to penetrate this young aries?

Perhaps you should stop rewarding him until he shapes up with school work...[the *200 bucks a week*, etc... etc...].

"Perhaps you should stop rewarding him until he shapes up with school work...[the *200 bucks a week*, etc... etc...]."

uhm, yeah, I know..my sympathy goes WAY off the chart with him. He really doesn't have any siblings that visits him...and his parents *cough* aren't really the "playful" type. He's all alone 😢

I guess i'll cut back on my wallet. =P

I'm really close to my neice and nephews... and it was extremely hard work being and maintaining our closeness while they grea up.. they turn 18 this year. BUT.. i was their confidence.. they talked to me about everything imaginable.. WAYYYYY too much information. I was stern with them, and there were consequences.. and they knew i would if i felt it in their best interest go to their parents with something. But i chose.. it's hard getting close to kids.. they don't think we understand.. and definitely close that wallet.. lol it's a reward that he needs to RESPECT. you gotta get that respect from him.. then he will open up.

"I'm really close to my neice and nephews... and it was extremely hard work being and maintaining our closeness while they grea up.. they turn 18 this year. BUT.. i was their confidence.. they talked to me about everything imaginable.. WAYYYYY too much information. I was stern with them, and there were consequences.. and they knew i would if i felt it in their best interest go to their parents with something. But i chose.. it's hard getting close to kids.. they don't think we understand.. and definitely close that wallet.. lol it's a reward that he needs to RESPECT. you gotta get that respect from him.. then he will open up."


oohh, thanks *Tries harder now* =D

Perhaps, you should try giving him something to succeed at, so he can be proud of himself. Find some kind of work for the two of you to do together, like building something for money, a deck and let him help.

That way, he can see with his own eyes that he CAN accomplish something worthwhile. This might get him to work harder at school work. Plus, it will boost his self-esteem because he will feel worthy. And, if he gets paid (even if it's a little), then the reward will be his own, instead of you handing it too him, out of pity.

You want him to grow beyond this perdictiment, yet, pity him, instead.

Show him HOW to succeed. Speaking it, then handing him money . . isnt' helping him. Real life lessons aren't learned from being told, they come from . . example.

Aries with a Pisces moon is a good placement. STrong, determined and confident . . with loads of compassion. He should be a good-natured person. He's just fallen, and is looking to you to help him find his way.

Are you going to show him? Or, just tell him? He has parents who tell him all the time, doesn't he? What do they show him? This is your opportunity to turn a young'in around who has a lot of potential. It all depends on how you handle building him back up.

We measure our selves, by our accomplishments.

Give him something to accomplish and to find pride in himself.

P-Angel

oh, oh, that was awesome, thanks! I think I got it already, i'm gonna go visit him tommorow and makes some plans today.

~Much appriciated 🙂 I can't wait 'till I become a dad myself! Though I still have to learn...

Your welcome. And, listen o_O, not too many people ever take the time out of their lives to aid another. This is something you are doing from the goodness of your heart and for that your own path is made clear.

Help our little ones who are misguided, hell yeah. Without them, we have no future.

Way to go, O_o, you have a lot of support. You will help our children, I'll support you in anything and everything.

Come back and start a thread on what the two of you did together and give an update on his progress, ok?

Hugs & Kisses

"Your welcome. And, listen o_O, not too many people ever take the time out of their lives to aid another. This is something you are doing from the goodness of your heart and for that your own path is made clear.

Help our little ones who are misguided, hell yeah. Without them, we have no future.

Way to go, O_o, you have a lot of support. You will help our children, I'll support you in anything and everything.

Come back and start a thread on what the two of you did together and give an update on his progress, ok?

Hugs & Kisses"

That sounded so cool 😆
I'm to old to post a creamy-lame reply.
Thanks, I really appriciate that post above. To be honest it made me feel special abit 🙂

My daughter is a teen with aries/sun and cancer/moon. When she was a little younger than your nephew she wanted to take karate. Although we had to sacrifice to afford the cost, the investment was so worth it! The instructors can be excellant role models,and the kids benefit from the ethics and disciplines. Sounds like he is really milking you and your generosity. It's wonderful that you are so involved and caring about his development and welfare, but spending all that money on "things" only teaches him to be a user. Martial arts will help him with school and self worth. Aries benefit from physical activity and competition. Without it, well, all that energy will build up with no positave outlet, and makes them crazy! All the best to you both!

My son is a 7 year old Aries/sun Cappy/moon and I've found the best motivation with him is always a challenge. He absolutely cannot resist a challenge.

I would try offering rewards for achievements (good grades, good behavior, etc..) Just make sure he knows those rewards have to be earned. He will also need a good deal of affection, with his homelife not being "picture perfect" he's probally not getting it at home. And you may be able to get him out of his "stoop" by listening to him. Usually when an arien finds a responsive ear, they open up at full blast!! My son talks and talks and talks, when he finds a subject that really interests him or he has come up with another "big Idea"!!

P-Angel had alot of really good ideas as well, and I totally agree with her kudos to you!! Kids can be difficult when they're your own, taking on relatives can be extremely difficult!! Good luck!!

Im an aries with a capricorn moon. This were somewhat me when I was 13. I needed affection and an ear to vent my thoughts. hard for me to do, but when i started it really came flowing. Fortunately i have greate parrents. I changed when I was around 14, and when I was 16, I was a completely different person. Today at 21 im a different person. All changes for the positive.

My advice. Activity. What ever type, just get him into some activity that makes him sweat a few times a week. It has to be intense. No long walks or anything like that. Competition and goal oriented. For me it was weightlifting and wrestling/martial arts. Being active does alot to my mood. Im happier, have highter self-esteem, more positive energy. When young aries guys dont get a way to relese energy, they can become negative. Activity have had profound effect on me. Martial arts might apppeal to him. But no tai-kwan-do.