Confused Cappie

Hi Everyone,

I usually wouldn’t put this out there but I’m starting to feel like I need insight. I’m not sure where to start but I guess the beginning is a good place. I have a new co worker who is creating a little bit of anxiousness at my job. I will admit that I did find him attractive when I first noticed him training but I was not prepared for the things that would come next. I was never involved in the training since we don’t have a similar title but he would eventually find his way into my work area since my colleague was also involved in his training. Needless to say his first day was eventful. He kept to himself until he heard me talking basketball with another co worker long story short he started asking me about basketball and I responded not thinking anything. He later mentioned me when his trainer was talking about having a cheat sheet. He casually asked if I had one when I had nothing to do with the conversation. The last thing that happened was when I resumed working unaware that he was still around. It wasn’t until he popped up at my desk and wanted to know if I was talking bad about him since it was still his first week of training. I was surprised because it was a little stalker ish and more importantly he is still new. As the week progressed I noticed he was constantly gazing in my direction, saying hello to me twice and literally calling me his friend. This man had not even been at this job for a week. I would laugh nervously and remind him we are co workers because I kept thinking this is weird and he was doing this in front of other people. Not overly disrespectful but it made me nervous. He was being a huge flirt not caring who was around and he’s new. Cocky and arrogant and no apologies for it. I also felt a strong pull towards him but I always stayed professional. The icing on the cake was when we returned from the 4th of July holiday and I had changed my profile pic at work to a famous cartoon dog. He immediately turned to me and said oh I noticed u changed your pic. I was surprised since I’ve been working there a while and no one had said anything about the change except him. Also there was no reason he would be looking for me at work. We do not have the same title and I cannot train him in regards to anything. In theory we would interact here or there but not in a way that he would need to look for me 95 % of the time. He asked me if I was a fan of family guy and I responded. Once that convo was done he turned to me and said “We’re going to be friends.” I have never in my life had anyone say anything like that to me. He wasn’t laughing or playing he was serious like he was literally dictating to me what he wanted. I ignored him. From time to time I will ignore him if I’m outside or on his floor and I notice he will stop whatever he’s doing and follow behind me just to get my attention. I noticed he hates being ignored. I was curious about my initial attraction and asked him about his birthday. He’s an Aries. I knew right then and there I was in trouble. Is this normal? Cause I work with him and he’s a little intense sometimes. Other times he’s charming gesturing to pull out my seat or asking me about my day. But I can’t help but feel he’s a little intense underneath it all. I’m not interested in a relationship. I’m already in one. I’m just trying to figure out what he wants. Not sure if he flirts with everyone like this but I’m extremely nervous when he does it because he’s blunt intense and it feels like the heat from the sun is burning through his pupils. Sorry it sound dramatic but this is my work place I can’t be dealing with this intensity

Thanks for the advice. We started hanging out a little bit during lunch purely accidental and he seems nice. Not as intense as before. It’s a little confusing to be honest.

Most men can see when a women is interested. Most men also won't approach until a meteor smacks them in the face. He knows you like him. But what he don't know is that you will hump and dump him quick fast. Then he will get you fired. End of story. Lol

@Sure Shot Cap Lol I can see that possibly

If you truly don't like him, just continue to firmly ignore him. Aries move on fast. They may not lose interest completely but they will stop chasing if they see its not going anywhere.