confusing aries friend

ive been friends with an aries man for almost a year now,he used to be really close to my friend and she introduced him to me,hes such an amazing guy,he's so giving and caring,but he cut all ties with my friend because he fell in love with her and it wasnt the same for her,after a short time he got closer to me,we talk all the time,and he told me about his intentions to be my more but i told him that icant because my life is so messed up right now and the last thing i want is a bf,he said that he accepts to take things slow and to wait for me,but afterwards its not,he flirts all the time,he ask me on dates,says he misses me and wants to see me,and im really confused,i dont want to hurt him and hes a great friend of mine so i dont want tot lose him but if he keeps this behaviour i dont know what ill do,can u help me plz,? thank you

Make up your mind about having a relationship or not with him. When Arians want something, they want it now, or they will find the way to get what they need. In your case, your aries friend flirts around because he doesn't get the attention he need due to your indecision. So my advice to you is making it clear. There are no maybe to an Aries.

Completely agree with Hp199x

Why do women start saying they have messed up lives and can’t have a boyfriend? Some women talk about having a boyfriend, like some people talk about going to the gym. Like they don’t have the time, or they’ll do it later. It’s very easy to talk yourself out of doing something if you don’t want to do it, but don’t make excuses like your life is messed up right now, or your friend did this or that ..blah blah. I think you need to make a decision, how much do you like this guy, is he worth a try? Don't worry about hurting him, if you don't want to date, then you need to back away. Just try to make a balanced decision, without fear of change, or anything negative like that.

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Completely agree with Hp199x

Why do women start saying they have messed up lives and can’t have a boyfriend? Some women talk about having a boyfriend, like some people talk about going to the gym. Like they don’t have the time, or they’ll do it later. It’s very easy to talk yourself out of doing something if you don’t want to do it, but don’t make excuses like your life is messed up right now, or your friend did this or that ..blah blah. I think you need to make a decision, how much do you like this guy, is he worth a try? Don't worry about hurting him, if you don't want to date, then you need to back away. Just try to make a balanced decision, without fear of change, or anything negative like that.

well,im not making excuses,i told him that i appreciated him,and that for now lets be friends because i want to give him the attention and care he deserves and that sth i dont have right now,and he said he gets it

so i had a long conversation with my aries friend and since i dont want to hurt him,i told him to let me go because i dont want to keep him at hold for me,he said he cant and wont forget about me and that if its my wish hell respect it but wont let me down,what should i do?

Your aries friend has likely already taken into account the possibility of getting hurt and would rather take that risk and be with you. Aries can be like very much like a knight in shining armor in love. If 'your life is a mess' then that might make him want to be with you even more since he probably feels that he can contribute support and love to you when you are in duress. Like a knight he is probably on a quest to do so and has thrown himself into his mission with zeal and ardent passion.

As for what to do, ultimately you will have to decide. If you care for this person and are attracted to him then you could really consider giving him a chance. Just make sure that it is made clear that if at any point the relationship becomes too much for you or for any reason you decide you need to cut it off then make sure he knows that and is ok with it. It may be easier on him to know that you gave him a chance than to not even try out of fear he will get hurt.

Tis better to have love and lost than not to have loved at all. or so they say 🙂

Are you all like, characters on Dawson's creek?

What your female friend think about all this? Does she know that he left her and became closer to you? And why she didn't like him? this could help you in finding if he worth a try or not.

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Your aries friend has likely already taken into account the possibility of getting hurt and would rather take that risk and be with you. Aries can be like very much like a knight in shining armor in love. If 'your life is a mess' then that might make him want to be with you even more since he probably feels that he can contribute support and love to you when you are in duress. Like a knight he is probably on a quest to do so and has thrown himself into his mission with zeal and ardent passion.

As for what to do, ultimately you will have to decide. If you care for this person and are attracted to him then you could really consider giving him a chance. Just make sure that it is made clear that if at any point the relationship becomes too much for you or for any reason you decide you need to cut it off then make sure he knows that and is ok with it. It may be easier on him to know that you gave him a chance than to not even try out of fear he will get hurt.

Tis better to have love and lost than not to have loved at all. or so they say 🙂

thank you,actually he said the same thing,that he will always be there for me and i believe him,and i do like him and he knows it,and my fear is that i dont want to keep his life ate hold for me,its not fair

Posted by Saggal11
What your female friend think about all this? Does she know that he left her and became closer to you? And why she didn't like him? this could help you in finding if he worth a try or not.

my freind knows that he got closer to me,and told me to give him a shot because hes a nice and interesting guy,but to her he wasnt enough and she didnt want anything serious,thats the reason why he ended

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so i had a long conversation with my aries friend and since i dont want to hurt him,i told him to let me go because i dont want to keep him at hold for me,he said he cant and wont forget about me and that if its my wish hell respect it but wont let me down,what should i do?

You told him and he said he'll respect it. What else is there to do?

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its because he told me that he respects it but acts the same way with the i miss yous,he sends me love songs,compliments me,.....etc ;basically nothing changed!!

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Posted by Saggal11
What your female friend think about all this? Does she know that he left her and became closer to you? And why she didn't like him? this could help you in finding if he worth a try or not.

my freind knows that he got closer to me,and told me to give him a shot because hes a nice and interesting guy,but to her he wasnt enough and she didnt want anything serious,thats the reason why he ended

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Then it's all up to you now. You need to decide and you need to do it quickly, before he gets bored and disappear. That constant feeling of rejection and fear you project to him will hits him one day, he is ignoring right now because he believes he deserves a chance from you at least.

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Are you all like, characters on Dawson's creek?

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so i had a long conversation with my aries friend and since i dont want to hurt him,i told him to let me go because i dont want to keep him at hold for me,he said he cant and wont forget about me and that if its my wish hell respect it but wont let me down,what should i do?

You told him and he said he'll respect it. What else is there to do?

its because he told me that he respects it but acts the same way with the i miss yous,he sends me love songs,compliments me,.....etc ;basically nothing changed!!

Is it making you uncomfortable? Or is he crossing some boundaries that he shouldn't have?

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to answer your question no he doesnt make me unconfortable,its just that sometimes i feel like he doesnt listen to me,and mix between love and friendship