Fuck my fucking doubtfulness...

So I'm madly in love with this 20% cancer 80% leo man (sun in cancer, leo in everything else). But we haven't said the L word yet. We've been dating 3.5 months. I'm moving in with him right now because my mom essentially kicked me out, but that's not important right now.

Whenever I am alone with him I have more fun then any another times in my life. I can be a kid again and he never ruins my enthusiasm. He always does what I want if he sees it's important to me (and vice versa). And he still makes my stomach butterflies, even though we spend almost 24-7 together.

But when were not alone or we're around a lot of other people I get so doubtful that I want to commit to a long-term relatioship with him. I see myself with other guys sometimes. I guess it's because I've never gotten serious with anyone else. But I dunno if I will ever want too.

I just spent the week with his amazing family in a cabin... I've never really had a family before and I already feel like I belong. And when I'm with them or him, alone, it's all I want. But when I'm back in the world I don't want all this yet.

What I really want to know is: Anyone that has been in more then one long-term relationship, are you still sometimes doubtful of a good relationship even after being in a few bad ones?

Anyone who has been hurt will always have the "what if" factor. You just need to let time do it's thing and don't over-analyze any and every thing.

Enjoy him and the moments you both are having and all that other lovey dovey shit will come out when it's time 🙂

Think first if your home life was better would you really be moving in with him?
I wouldn't if I wasn't 100% sure and I usually feel that way about someone (at least at first).
You could be moving from disaster to another. If this is better than your family, then take it temporarily and work towards being independent.

Posted by donna88
Think first if your home life was better would you really be moving in with him?
I wouldn't if I wasn't 100% sure and I usually feel that way about someone (at least at first).
You could be moving from disaster to another. If this is better than your family, then take it temporarily and work towards being independent.

Naw, she got a new job in a different state and is moving away. When I refused to leave because of him (and in-state tuition..) we got into a fight and now I'm a little homeless. But I already slept over at his house every night and hung out with him between work and school too. So it's pretty much the same as it was before, just labeled differently.

We were planning on renting our own house in about 2-3 months, depending on the stability of our shiny new jobs.