Haven't talked to my Aries in 5 days

Sorry for the typos I'm doing this on my cell phone.

I'm pretty sure it's over since it's been 5 days but I'm just a little shocked.

So I'm a Leo and he's an Aries so it's no surprise that we can go at it from time to time. This time may have been the final straw.

So my ram has time management issues. He shows up late and plans are always screwy. He travels 2.5 hours to see me and I appreciate that. It's just that he doesn't leave on time and or doesn't let me know he's going to be late in an appropriate time and can be dismissive. That's my biggest issue. I'm always running late to things so I can't completely fault him. It's how he communicates his lack of time management is what really gets under my skin. When he called me to let me know he was going to be late (messing up our dinner plans) he could tell I was frustrated. He said why can't we just order food and stay in. I told him no, I want to go out (because he's late plans are usually messed up so I wanted to go out). He then said I was acting childish and started making jokes that I didn't find funny. He said he promised we would go out and I said I don't believe and said, "are you serious?". I said it again, "I don't believe you." He said, "You're doing the most. I'm not coming" I said, "okay" and he said, "okay" then hung up.

We haven't talked since then and that was 5 days ago. It was weird a few days before then he had asked me what kind of ring I liked and we exchanged pictures of rings that I like. He even mentioned how it was out of his tax bracket. I know he wasn't asking me about rings because he meant it in a serious way as if he was thinking about marriage, I know he was just curious about what I like. However, it was nice that the conversation didn't freak him out.

Again, I know it's over I'm just a little shocked and hurt that it's over so abruptly like that without a proper ending. Just sucks :/

Posted by Ariqua

It’s not an excuse but we need someone who can roll with the punches more and not catch attitude over what we perceive minor issues.

I mean it is definitely an issue but it would have been more appropriate to remain composed and address it later on when cool headed.

Again, frustration is warranted and not excusing our behavior...just explaining Aries nature.

Thanks. Yea, I tried to stay calm and I actually did. When he just became dismissive by making jokes and called me a brat is what really pissed me off. I never told him not to come. He was 30 minutes away. That was on him and I think he overreacted.

Posted by Ariqua

It’s not an excuse but we need someone who can roll with the punches more and not catch attitude over what we perceive minor issues.

I mean it is definitely an issue but it would have been more appropriate to remain composed and address it later on when cool headed.

Again, frustration is warranted and not excusing our behavior...just explaining Aries nature.

I agree. I think both parties think that they're both right.

I'm not too knowledgeable about Aries, but correct me if I'm wrong but him talking about rings period with OP means he's pretty serious about her and he definitely was NOT just asking because he's curious about what she likes, right?

You are both acting the same way. You guys are playing a game of relationship chicken.

Posted by LDM90

Sorry for the typos I'm doing this on my cell phone.

I'm pretty sure it's over since it's been 5 days but I'm just a little shocked.

So I'm a Leo and he's an Aries so it's no surprise that we can go at it from time to time. This time may have been the final straw.

So my ram has time management issues. He shows up late and plans are always screwy. He travels 2.5 hours to see me and I appreciate that. It's just that he doesn't leave on time and or doesn't let me know he's going to be late in an appropriate time and can be dismissive. That's my biggest issue. I'm always running late to things so I can't completely fault him. It's how he communicates his lack of time management is what really gets under my skin. When he called me to let me know he was going to be late (messing up our dinner plans) he could tell I was frustrated. He said why can't we just order food and stay in. I told him no, I want to go out (because he's late plans are usually messed up so I wanted to go out). He then said I was acting childish and started making jokes that I didn't find funny. He said he promised we would go out and I said I don't believe and said, "are you serious?". I said it again, "I don't believe you." He said, "You're doing the most. I'm not coming" I said, "okay" and he said, "okay" then hung up.

We haven't talked since then and that was 5 days ago. It was weird a few days before then he had asked me what kind of ring I liked and we exchanged pictures of rings that I like. He even mentioned how it was out of his tax bracket. I know he wasn't asking me about rings because he meant it in a serious way as if he was thinking about marriage, I know he was just curious about what I like. However, it was nice that the conversation didn't freak him out.

Again, I know it's over I'm just a little shocked and hurt that it's over so abruptly like that without a proper ending. Just sucks :/

I am a leo woman dating aries man. Me and mine also can go at it a lot.. especially in the beginning.. we had very similar problems. How we got through it is I literally had to stop making it an issue.. which I know is hard because of our pride. It was tough. But I decided "this is who he is.. he sucks at phones.. I am not going to keep making him feel bad about this. if he wants to change it, he will. Until then I will work with him on it." Literally to the point of just letting him reach out to me.. if he was late, letting him be late and just doing my own thing. He told me once when he showed up 4 hours late to our date and realized I was SUPER upset, that he wanted someone who could just be grateful that they were able to see him.. I was like "Excuse me?!" that blew my mind lol but I also understood too.. he doesn't want to feel bad about who he is.. he just wants someone to love him. He didn't show up late to blow me off.. he got distracted which happens often and forgot the time until he remembered and then showed up. When I was able to see his intentions were good in his actions.. I was able to voice my concerns to him in a way that didn't make him feel like he had to change, I let him know these things bothered me but I also accepted him the way he was and was not going to change him. If he wanted to change he could as it would make things easier but I loved him for who he was.. overtime he did start to change and call/text more.. and when he didn't I would just pop up at his place lol so it worked out. In your case I understand you can't just go to his place and that you have to communicate In order for plans to work out.. but if you really care for him, you wont put it on him to change for you guys to be successful you will find a way to work through it together.

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Posted by LDM90

Sorry for the typos I'm doing this on my cell phone.

I'm pretty sure it's over since it's been 5 days but I'm just a little shocked.

So I'm a Leo and he's an Aries so it's no surprise that we can go at it from time to time. This time may have been the final straw.

So my ram has time management issues. He shows up late and plans are always screwy. He travels 2.5 hours to see me and I appreciate that. It's just that he doesn't leave on time and or doesn't let me know he's going to be late in an appropriate time and can be dismissive. That's my biggest issue. I'm always running late to things so I can't completely fault him. It's how he communicates his lack of time management is what really gets under my skin. When he called me to let me know he was going to be late (messing up our dinner plans) he could tell I was frustrated. He said why can't we just order food and stay in. I told him no, I want to go out (because he's late plans are usually messed up so I wanted to go out). He then said I was acting childish and started making jokes that I didn't find funny. He said he promised we would go out and I said I don't believe and said, "are you serious?". I said it again, "I don't believe you." He said, "You're doing the most. I'm not coming" I said, "okay" and he said, "okay" then hung up.

We haven't talked since then and that was 5 days ago. It was weird a few days before then he had asked me what kind of ring I liked and we exchanged pictures of rings that I like. He even mentioned how it was out of his tax bracket. I know he wasn't asking me about rings because he meant it in a serious way as if he was thinking about marriage, I know he was just curious about what I like. However, it was nice that the conversation didn't freak him out.

Again, I know it's over I'm just a little shocked and hurt that it's over so abruptly like that without a proper ending. Just sucks :/

I am a leo woman dating aries man. Me and mine also can go at it a lot.. especially in the beginning.. we had very similar problems. How we got through it is I literally had to stop making it an issue.. which I know is hard because of our pride. It was tough. But I decided "this is who he is.. he sucks at phones.. I am not going to keep making him feel bad about this. if he wants to change it, he will. Until then I will work with him on it." Literally to the point of just letting him reach out to me.. if he was late, letting him be late and just doing my own thing. He told me once when he showed up 4 hours late to our date and realized I was SUPER upset, that he wanted someone who could just be grateful that they were able to see him.. I was like "Excuse me?!" that blew my mind lol but I also understood too.. he doesn't want to feel bad about who he is.. he just wants someone to love him. He didn't show up late to blow me off.. he got distracted which happens often and forgot the time until he remembered and then showed up. When I was able to see his intentions were good in his actions.. I was able to voice my concerns to him in a way that didn't make him feel like he had to change, I let him know these things bothered me but I also accepted him the way he was and was not going to change him. If he wanted to change he could as it would make things easier but I loved him for who he was.. overtime he did start to change and call/text more.. and when he didn't I would just pop up at his place lol so it worked out. In your case I understand you can't just go to his place and that you have to communicate In order for plans to work out.. but if you really care for him, you wont put it on him to change for you guys to be successful you will find a way to work through it together.

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Thank you so much for the advice. I'm just worried since it's been so long (we've never gone this long without talking) that he's just done with the relationship :/

Posted by LDM90

Posted by Cancerleo91

Posted by LDM90

Sorry for the typos I'm doing this on my cell phone.

I'm pretty sure it's over since it's been 5 days but I'm just a little shocked.

So I'm a Leo and he's an Aries so it's no surprise that we can go at it from time to time. This time may have been the final straw.

So my ram has time management issues. He shows up late and plans are always screwy. He travels 2.5 hours to see me and I appreciate that. It's just that he doesn't leave on time and or doesn't let me know he's going to be late in an appropriate time and can be dismissive. That's my biggest issue. I'm always running late to things so I can't completely fault him. It's how he communicates his lack of time management is what really gets under my skin. When he called me to let me know he was going to be late (messing up our dinner plans) he could tell I was frustrated. He said why can't we just order food and stay in. I told him no, I want to go out (because he's late plans are usually messed up so I wanted to go out). He then said I was acting childish and started making jokes that I didn't find funny. He said he promised we would go out and I said I don't believe and said, "are you serious?". I said it again, "I don't believe you." He said, "You're doing the most. I'm not coming" I said, "okay" and he said, "okay" then hung up.

We haven't talked since then and that was 5 days ago. It was weird a few days before then he had asked me what kind of ring I liked and we exchanged pictures of rings that I like. He even mentioned how it was out of his tax bracket. I know he wasn't asking me about rings because he meant it in a serious way as if he was thinking about marriage, I know he was just curious about what I like. However, it was nice that the conversation didn't freak him out.

Again, I know it's over I'm just a little shocked and hurt that it's over so abruptly like that without a proper ending. Just sucks :/

I am a leo woman dating aries man. Me and mine also can go at it a lot.. especially in the beginning.. we had very similar problems. How we got through it is I literally had to stop making it an issue.. which I know is hard because of our pride. It was tough. But I decided "this is who he is.. he sucks at phones.. I am not going to keep making him feel bad about this. if he wants to change it, he will. Until then I will work with him on it." Literally to the point of just letting him reach out to me.. if he was late, letting him be late and just doing my own thing. He told me once when he showed up 4 hours late to our date and realized I was SUPER upset, that he wanted someone who could just be grateful that they were able to see him.. I was like "Excuse me?!" that blew my mind lol but I also understood too.. he doesn't want to feel bad about who he is.. he just wants someone to love him. He didn't show up late to blow me off.. he got distracted which happens often and forgot the time until he remembered and then showed up. When I was able to see his intentions were good in his actions.. I was able to voice my concerns to him in a way that didn't make him feel like he had to change, I let him know these things bothered me but I also accepted him the way he was and was not going to change him. If he wanted to change he could as it would make things easier but I loved him for who he was.. overtime he did start to change and call/text more.. and when he didn't I would just pop up at his place lol so it worked out. In your case I understand you can't just go to his place and that you have to communicate In order for plans to work out.. but if you really care for him, you wont put it on him to change for you guys to be successful you will find a way to work through it together.

Thank you so much for the advice. I'm just worried since it's been so long (we've never gone this long without talking) that he's just done with the relationship :/

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Let him marinate.. they can go a loooong time. I went without talking to mine for a week when he was out of state and when we broke up it was days before we spoke.. It was rough, but he came around.. Yours will too just give him some time. If you want though you can send him a friendly message too just to speed up the time frame.

5 days is a long time for an Aries, depends how often he came to see you, but 5 days is probably all I need to forget someone completely. 2.5hrs away is kinda a long way too, and he put that effort in to see you but you made it all about you.

This will happen again and again though, I don’t get Leo at all. I have no doubt you were bratty. And unfortunately now it’s the battle of the egos, he won’t give in, he will not message you.. I wouldn’t, not a Leo anyway. Let Leo have their ego, see where it gets them. You are really looking at 5 months or so before he messages you, if he does. but definitely not soon. Imo.