HOW DO I HANDLE AN ARIES BULLDOZER? II

I am with someone who has Sun in Aries, Moon in Aries, Venus in Aries, and Mars in Aries. His Mercury is in Pisces.

I went to high school and grade school with this person, and he was very quiet, very reserved, and was the top athlete in school. I was the smartest girl in school. Brains and brawn.

My companion of 20 years died 4 years ago. He was a very quiet Aries who liked to read all day. He was very smart and easy to be around.

Two years ago, I became reacquainted with my grade school, high school friend, who fell in love with me instantly because I was the beautiful and smart “it” girl in school. I knew this guy was not very smart, but I thought being together might work because we grew up together and he was quiet…then.

His main residence is in the Midwest, while mine is in the Southwest. Except for stints in the service, he has never been out of narrow-minded and negative Indiana, while I have lived in liberal and open-minded New Mexico for more than 40 years.

This Aries pushed himself on me and moved out here within 4 months. He is a farmer; I am a writer. I need a quiet atmosphere in order to produce work. I was shocked to have him come out here and completely take over my life style and my ranch as though he owned the place.

I did not really mind this so much as I do his non-stop constant blabbering about nothing. He is extremely pushy and if I tell him no, he will ask me the same question again the next day.

I now see that there is something mentally disarranged with this guy. I have met his 4 children, 4 grandchildren, and ex-wife and there are mental disabilities in 75% of this group. I want to be respectful and not go into detail.

Farmer Hank goes back to Indiana to farm twice a year: two months in spring to plant corn and soybeans, and then he returns for another two months in the fall to harvest crops.

I keep telling him not to come back, yet he returns as though he owns the place. I do not want to totally crush him because we did grow up together and I would not turn away a childhood friend.

We do not live together. I have several buildings on my ranch. He lives away from the main house.

Can someone help me and tell me about the energies of this strange beast? He is a steamroller bulldozer who is very passive aggressive. He will not argue with me about anything, yet he feels free to not listen to me when I ask him not to do things around the ranch or damage my property, cutting down my few tress, getting rid of all my cacti, and trying to turn my beautiful meadow into a corn field. He wants New Mexico to look like Indiana.

I am a Leo-Rising Virgo with Moon in Gemini, Mercury in Libra, and Mars in Scorpio who is supposed to be completing a trilogy, and I have not been able to work with Gomer Pyle/Baby Huey interrupting me every 15 minutes.

I have discussed boundaries many times, but he doesn’t hear or chooses not to listen. Oh…and he is deaf and refuses to wear his hearing aids.

Go ahead…laugh. But please give me some advice.

Thank you.

Leo-Rising Virgo Writer living in Aries Fire Hell

I forgot to mention that this person is very wishy-washy, flippy-floppy. I thought Aries were supposed to be more solid than this. This guy is a big fantasy dreamer who lives in a rainbow bubble.

I'm not sure. I think if you agree to live with someone then you have to let them make it their home a little bit.

I can't relate to this massive property you have, and it must take a lot to manage. From when GFs have moved in with me, I get a bit freaked out when they decide to put pick candles or something about the place. It feels like they've invaded my space, and it takes a bit of time to get used to. So is this guy just doing things too quickly? I think it depends how much it bothers you? Is it because you feel invaded? but I wouldn't expect him to stop being a bulldozer any time soon. I think you might persuade him to move slower, or sometimes Aries can get distracted, so find something else for him to do and tell him it's more of a priority, will he build you a swimming pool? lol.

AriesJo - Thank you for your thoughtful and kind observation. I really appreciate you.

Earthgoddess - Very wise words. Thank you. You are also a Leo-Rising Virgo? Isn't it fun to be beautiful, fun, dramatic, and brilliant?! LOL.

I am so new to this forum. Does anyone know if there is a way to Private Message some of the people who I think are kind and interesting?

Thank you.

Thank you bmoon8.