How do you get over someone you still have to see?

Hey, I need help. I've been dancing a while and a girl came along, we dance a lot together and usual it's never bothered me, but I became too close. It took time but we started hanging out properly, restaurants and stuff. She has a boyfriend and lives with him, she said things weren't great between them, but they went on holiday together and now she's back it's all changed. Instead of saying "I" want to do something, it's now "we" want to do something, for example! I have to see her, and dance with her, and although I dance with a lot of women close this feels different, her energy etc. And her dance ability is good, her body good and movement good etc. The connection is just better than any girl in 4 yrs of dancing, and I know women previously said to me when they dance together with a guy for performances, they don't feel anything at the start but eventually do, and I never thought it was possible or sensible, it's always been for show with me, we get paid to make it look sensual etc. But I know I can't be with her.

The worst is, before her holiday I thought maybe I had a chance, like maybe, just maybe she'd come back and say she'd finished with her BF. Because we hung out, and she said her BF never hangs out with her. But it went the other way. We have lots of friends together and they said they thought it was over with her BF, but now they think the same as me, that they made up. I'm happy for her, I have to be. But the worst is, now she's trying almost to set me up with her friend, I feel shit because of this. I will see her again on Wednesday. And maybe I can ask another woman friend to be with me that night, and tell her what's going on, and she can be with me that night, so I don't look a loser and get the girl I'm interested in trying to pass her friend on me. I don't want to be with this girl's friend. I just want to ignore her and move on, like I normally would. But I have to dance with her, at a show over the next month or so, I practise with her (and stay in hotel room with her etc). Never in 4 yrs have I been bothered about any dance partner. I just don't know what to do. I can't ignore her, I have to touch her and act like it's nothing, like before I guess. I need to forget how I feel for her, and still touch her, but how? Is finding asking another girl to be my close friend (a dancer) the only answer, maybe they will understand? Honestly I practised dancing today and I just felt crap after it, like yeah I can dance but it's always felt more with her, like closer, like I guess that's why we've always been good dancing together, but I have to act like it's fake, but I guess it is now? I dunno what I'm asking, how do i switch off someone I like but still have to see and touch? Do I tell them how you feel anyway? I'm a little upset that today she was saying she'd ask her friend out for me for wednesday, it's shit, I know it's over and I have to accept that but it's shit. Is it possible to turn off feelings?

I know this is easier said then done...

But it's better if you do it the other way arround...embrace it.

Put all you have in this dance thing you both got to do...and then let it go...

If she ever ask you if there was something else there...just say it was part of the job.

Good luck mate.

By imagining they have a chicken on their head every time you see them

Or a duck's beak and wearing a nappy



The power of visualisation

Lol

Posted by IamTheRam
I know this is easier said then done...

But it's better if you do it the other way arround...embrace it.

Put all you have in this dance thing you both got to do...and then let it go...

If she ever ask you if there was something else there...just say it was part of the job.

Good luck mate.

Why do people give up so easy!? If you feel that strong about her dance with her like she will never forget! Fight for her by staying the course, prove you are different prove you mean it.. if it's meant to be it will be...I agree with @IamTheRam