I can ask here too I guess LoL

I posted on the Libra board, but I noticed alot of Libra's lurking on the Aries board. Maybe an Aries girl can help me as well as any Libra's. Here is my post:

"Ok, I need help here. I pissed off my Libra man who I like more then anything right now 😢 Like I really feel my heart breaking in two right now. I pissed him off last week with something I did- on spite, I was drunk, but anyway- I thought he would get over it honestly. I've pissed him off in the past too, but he's never carried it on for 4 days. But I saw him today for the first time since it happened, and he's like not even speaking to me. I know I need to back off and give him space and stuff, but is that the only way to get him over being mad at me?? Is there anything I can do or say that will fix up the situation a little? Any insight from a Libra man that has had an Aries girl- or any girl- for that matter, piss him off?? I really could use the advice right now, like seriously- my heart is breaking. I'd take it back if I could but I can't."

I guess the Aries girls can understand me best. You know when you spend a really long time chasing someone and you were finally getting results, you kinda get pushy and persistant with a guy? Then sometimes you push so hard you realize afterwards that maybe I shouldn't have done that? lol well if you can help me out with some advice on how to go about this problem I'd appreciate it!

ok what did you do?
my best friend is a libra and we get pissed drunk all the time and he is the last person who could piss me off and vice versa, i think libra aries is a good combo
did u humiliate him in public or what?

It's important to know exactly what you did to piss off the Libra guy. Are you sure he was 'your man'? Sounds like you were in the process of pursuing him. I have had a few relationships with Libra men but never once did I pursue them. I always became friends with them first and from there things progressed.

One thing about Libra's, they like beauty and class in a woman. Don't ever be vulgar (even if they are), it's a sure turn-off.

Ok let's see. He just got out of a relationship. We have become FWB's for a few weeks now. Lately I want to see more of him though and he keeps saying- "No, let's do it another time" and blah blah. But then he will call me "another time" and asks me over. That was slowly getting on my nerves. Cuz when I want something I want it now! I don't take the word NO too well. Anyway we work together and he's like so damn paranoid about anybody knowing about us. So at work he treats me like he doesn't know me. I get it, fine. You don't want anybody to know about us, ur a "private" person. Got it. So anyway, two weeks ago at a party I asked if i could see him afterwards. He turned me down. Fine. then the following week, when i pissed him off lol i did it again. he rejected me again. these are work functions btw. so as i was leaving, after he rejected me, i gave him a kiss on the cheek, but it was sorta a "dramatic" kiss. the kind of kiss where if you were gonna kiss someones neck? kinda open ur mouth a bit type thing? nobody saw though. it was on the cheek anyway. when i pulled away he looked at me like i had just took his dick out on the dance floor. like he was so mad that i kissed him. so i said to him "oh stop, nobody is even here anymore. goodnight." and i left. i was also drunk keep in mind. then on the way home i thought maybe i shoulda just left after he rejected seeing me afterwards and not kissed his cheek like that. so i sent an apology text for my drunken behavior. he didnt respond. i wasnt expecting him to anyway. a few days went by and i didn't contact him, i did today asking if he was mad at me, no reply again. 😢 i dont plan on saying a word to him again until or if he talks to me.
Oh and Mistery- when we sleep together he's as vulgar as they come! lol he's talked dirty to me in and out of the bedroom. so i know it doesn't turn him off.

Oh Mistery I read the rest of that where you said "even if they are vulgar" lol I dunno, I've spoken dirty to him many times and he seems to be totally turned on by it. basically we been screwing for a while now, and none of that sexual stuff has ever bothered him before in a bad way. we have a great sexual relationship, but emtoionally with him right now- nobody's home. i think its not so much that i kissed him like that, i think it was just the final straw after him explaining to me I can come on too strong at times when he's still trying to get his head and heart together from the ex. i was drunk, it can be an excuse, but its really not. he knows i get like that when im drunk this isn't "news" to him.

just becuase he is vulgar doesnt mean it wont turn him off but if i know libra and im just using my friend as a example i would tell him to fuck off and that he is a pussy limp dick afraid to stir the pot , probably neds his moms permison to see girls, lol if that doesnt get his cage rattled than i dont know what will

Thanks for all the advice guys! Everything seems to be cool with us. He flirted with me today so I guess he's over it. But I'm still gonna back off for a while, I can sense he's getting a bit "bored" with me :-/ Gotta make him want me again, so I need for him to make this first move, cuz I always do. While on the topic lol- do they usually make moves when they want something? Or do they just kinda suck up the pride and not say anything and make you go after them?

im kind of in the same boat with a cancer girl, im backing off a little cauze i want her to make some move since i alwyas do, but something tells me it will never come, i might just tell her that i need her to show her interest in me cauze it makes me feel like im the guy on the second burner just in case , i know that im not but still

F'ing is one thing, how you behave out the bedroom is another. Many men are intriqued by a woman who acts properly out of the bedroom but can be a slut when it's approriate. I know a lot about hooking up/relationships with Libra men from work situations and let me tell you, if they really like you, they won't turn you down. I'm a bit amazed at how your guy turned you down. Do you know why? If you can't think of a damn good reason (& drunk isn't one of them) well, to me, it isn't a good sign. I don't know what you really want from this relationship since you haven't discussed your true feelings about him. What do you really want from this? You may want to think about it before going any further. If it's all about having a good time and hooking up, he'll be game when he's in the mood. And he's more moody about sex than Aries women. So in that sense, don't take it personally, he may act like a woman more than we do.

Mistery- The only reason I can think of is the fact that he is uncomfortable that we work together. He said to me a while back- "I would date you if we didn't work together." So I know this bothers him a big deal. I know exactly what I want from him. I have a good time when we are together, he's charming, funny, good looking, strong minded, very smart, great personality, independant, and a good conversationalist. He's everything I want in a man. Except emotionally he's not available. He's still pouting over his ex who just left him.

"So in that sense, don't take it personally, he may act like a woman more than we do." That's interesting cuz he knows damn well what I wanted from him the night I came on to him. So ur saying he may have just not been in the mood?

One of the Libra's that I got involved with was a co-worker. Funny thing was that I really thought it was just a hook-up but he shocked me by asking if it was ok to announce to everyone (don't know how he'd do that exactly) that we were together. Now that you mentioned that he may be still obsessed with his ex, this may be the reason why he's not ready for a relationship. I would tread carefully and I mean that you need to protect your heart. As a Libra, he's probably aware of that and isn't making you any promises. Maybe to him he's making it clear but for you, please be careful and take it slowly. He isn't making promises and might not for a while until he gets over his ex.

From what I've heard about air signs, they need closure and time to get over their ex's. Not to mention, be prepared if he becomes friends with them and they hang around. Ugh, there's nothing worse than getting involved with someone who just broke up. Best of luck to you!

LoL thanks Mistery! Yea im backing off for now. He needs time to get over her. She was also an air sign. But she walked away from him from what I gather, and I think he has no closure yet and is still trying to grasp the fact that she is gone. I have a feeling he will be back someday when he's ready for me. He's been through 4 breakups before. But he claims to be the one to break all of them off-except this one. So it might be hitting him differently to know what it feels like to be on the other side of that fence.
Time will tell :-/