A libra man who is suck!

Posted by ColdFire17
I don't know what money jobs and other things have to do with feelings. He told you are not the woman he wants, how he's the unstable one?

LOL seriously? idk if unstable was indeed the right word, but toxic probably covers it pretty well.

Thank God I'm a dog lol

i wasn't sure there was a question there.

Posted by porcharo
I am a Gemini (Pig) just broke up with a Libra man (Ox). He is a narcissict. we've been for 10 years lived together and he kept confused about our relationship even i did help him lots about jobs, money and many things. He said he want someone better than me, clever, smart, create but not me. He always controled me to do everything he liked to do BUT I DO NOT LIKE. Only me have to changed for him but he never changed, called me stupid person all the time. He always complian about me like my skin, my face blah blah and said am not confident person. When we fight, he never listen to my reason always think he were right. He is a high egotist, unstable. But everything of his personal that I can accept it because I loved him. He said He loved me 90% and not feel I was his soulmate even together for 10 years. He compared me between the girl who is work with him just 2 months about love to talk with her. she talks so smart blah blah and make him very happy but when he came home that make he felt unhappy. when he was drunk he was so aggressive, talk very bad to me and grap my hair and trown me out of the door. He believes in torot si much. Even we were not argue but if tarot said he have to break with me that he would do by no doubt. 2 weeks ago(31 march 2018) he just packed his bag and left me for the thrid time. First time and secound time when we broke up, I was the one that who is beg him back always because I felt I could not leave without him. But this time I have to be strong, move on and leave this toxic person behind. I feel so hurt and pain. I took care of him, did many things to him but doesn't mean anything to him at all.

Thank you so much for reading.

PS.I am sorry that my english is not very well but hope you guys understand.

Now is the time to be alone and regain your self confidence. Never let a man put their hands on you 😤 fux him!

Go be happy..

LOL, that was quick :-). (I just red your other thread and replied to leave him).

Leaving a narcissist is not easy, since he will try to regain control over you. Important is to block him everywhere and never contact or talk to him again.

Enjoy your freedom and very well done!

Don't forget to read about NPD on Quora. It really helps.

You stayed with this guy for ten years. Why— Woman seem to like being treated like dirt. Honestly then they normally after wasting time on a looser they look for a provider... almost more like a father figure.

Why do woman like to be treated like this and let men waste so many years of there life. Then the guy who never was going to have any future leaves and finds normally there next sicker.

What did you find so attractive about the guy. Physical...? Or what... I mean if people treat me like dirt I don’t care how good looking they are... or other advantages.

Piscesmoon

Thank you so much you guys for reply. Maybe for the past of 10 years that I was blind and yes I was stupid as what he called me. We've been broke up already for 2 times but I felt like I loved him so much, could not lose him. I always beg him back and yes he was came back. I think because I have facilities for him. This time I can accept it, can cope with and will not let him back again. I've had enough with him. I still live in my house where he use to lived with me too. That's why always see the old memories with him.

You stayed with this guy for ten years. Why— Woman seem to like being treated like dirt. Honestly then they normally after wasting time on a looser they look for a provider... almost more like a father figure.

Why do woman like to be treated like this and let men waste so many years of there life. Then the guy who never was going to have any future leaves and finds normally there next sicker.

What did you find so attractive about the guy. Physical...? Or what... I mean if people treat me like dirt I don’t care how good looking they are... or other advantages.

---> I am sorry that I don't how to crop the message. This my first time on this website. Because sometime he seems like loved me and care about me and I decided to lived with so I just accept it that who he was. We also married too but just small ceremony.

10 Years is not confusion.

It's settling until someone better comes along.

I've find out about narcissistic information. And that is shocking me because he is 1 million% of narcissistic. How could I lived with very devil danger person like this by no doubt!!!!! OMG!!!!!

Posted by UnicornSag
I can't believe what I just read :/

I can't believe too. Very very bad experience of relationship in my life.

Posted by piscesmoon2
You stayed with this guy for ten years. Why— Woman seem to like being treated like dirt. Honestly then they normally after wasting time on a looser they look for a provider... almost more like a father figure.

Why do woman like to be treated like this and let men waste so many years of there life. Then the guy who never was going to have any future leaves and finds normally there next sicker.

What did you find so attractive about the guy. Physical...? Or what... I mean if people treat me like dirt I don’t care how good looking they are... or other advantages.

Piscesmoon

Because her story is universal for all women 🙄 nice job with the generalizations. A+

I find many Libra guys to be unstable and detached. Please take care of yourself and don't be manipulated by his actions. Libras I know think the "grass is greener on the other side", they always search for ideals.

Posted by WittyGem88
It happens. Look, its not an isolated case for you and I dont think you are stupid at all. Its just a phase in your life (10 long years) where you thought your love can change him. Some women are lucky to see it earlier. Some takes time. What you gotta do now is focus on rebuilding yourself. What’s 10 years? It’s nothing when you finally find your happiness. You will be glad it happened because you learned something. Keep your head high, lady. You will pull through and be a better woman for yourself.

Thank you so much. I try to clean my brain and heart of toxic and looking for positive thing in the future.

Posted by Undine
LOL, that was quick :-). (I just red your other thread and replied to leave him).

Leaving a narcissist is not easy, since he will try to regain control over you. Important is to block him everywhere and never contact or talk to him again.

Enjoy your freedom and very well done!

Mostly because the so called trauma bond. People who stack long with them has low self core valuation and high self criticism. Narcissist and empath has the same background problem they just evolved in opposite direction

Posted by Melka
I find many Libra guys to be unstable and detached. Please take care of yourself and don't be manipulated by his actions. Libras I know think the "grass is greener on the other side", they always search for ideals.

Thank you so much. It was first time for me with a Libra man. He was so nice at the first time that's why I thought he was the one for me. I was so easy to loved too. My big mistakes.

Posted by WittyGem88
It happens. Look, its not an isolated case for you and I dont think you are stupid at all. Its just a phase in your life (10 long years) where you thought your love can change him. Some women are lucky to see it earlier. Some takes time. What you gotta do now is focus on rebuilding yourself. What’s 10 years? It’s nothing when you finally find your happiness. You will be glad it happened because you learned something. Keep your head high, lady. You will pull through and be a better woman for yourself.

💙

I hope you can get out of this for good.

He is a asshole. You deserve so much better.

The first step is to see that you were blind by him. Don’t feel bad about it just learn from it and don’t waste any more time. Focus on your self and your happiness.

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Posted by porcharo

Posted by WittyGem88
It happens. Look, its not an isolated case for you and I dont think you are stupid at all. Its just a phase in your life (10 long years) where you thought your love can change him. Some women are lucky to see it earlier. Some takes time. What you gotta do now is focus on rebuilding yourself. What’s 10 years? It’s nothing when you finally find your happiness. You will be glad it happened because you learned something. Keep your head high, lady. You will pull through and be a better woman for yourself.

Thank you so much. I try to clean my brain and heart of toxic and looking for positive thing in the future.

You’re a gemini right? What i did to move on from a toxic rs is I travelled. Traveling can heal the soul. New environment can help you forget and see that there are far better things in life that you gotta experience and look forward to. I think @SeñoritaLL will agree how much traveling can help in moving on. Also, finding a new hobby, changing your hair, getting pampered like having a massage or even a cosmetic improvement done (i am so into laser hair removals theses days) is not a bad idea. Now is the time you focus on YOU. And you do it for YOU. Not for anybodyelse.

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I have plan to travel in my country (I am a Thai) to get fresh air and release myself for good. I would be very very happy for that. And yes I am a Gemini Pig.

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Posted by Melka
I find many Libra guys to be unstable and detached. Please take care of yourself and don't be manipulated by his actions. Libras I know think the "grass is greener on the other side", they always search for ideals.

Thank you so much. It was first time for me with a Libra man. He was so nice at the first time that's why I thought he was the one for me. I was so easy to loved too. My big mistakes.

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It's nothing to do with libra, can be any. Problem is you prone to develop ptsd especially on long term if abuse were constant. That makes you possibly toxic too later on as you can become hypersensitive and lash out on everything which makes similar tendencies to narcissism.

Posted by pisceswoman123
I hope you can get out of this for good.

He is a asshole. You deserve so much better.

The first step is to see that you were blind by him. Don’t feel bad about it just learn from it and don’t waste any more time. Focus on your self and your happiness.

Thank you so much. When he left 2 weeks ago that make me so confused and asked myself what I have done wrong? But now I feel much better and don't think about that anymore. Because I have find out he is exactly a narcissistic can't deal with. And should stay away from this person.

Thank God you are away from that Libra. He does not love you. He was always just using you for his own gain. Libra's do not respect people who do not stand up to them. Please be strong and don't take him back this time.