Is it not wise....

To say what you think?

Because I have pissed alot of people off doing this.

Hi R_A,

Personally, I think it is very wise to share your HONEST feelings with others. One of the things that I have learned is that my integrity is more important to me than how someone responds to me. If they get pissed off, that is their responsibility and they can deal with it. I want honest relationships therefore, I will be honest in my dealings with others.

There truthfully is no way that we can control how another will respond to us expressing our feelings. When anyone becomes angry at another for saying what they feel, then most likely the other person is in "contol" mode rather than ACCEPTANCE mode.

Ahhhhhh.....life, whatcha gonna do?

Good question.....today I shall acess my middle name - "Trouble" and put it to good use😉 lol.

Honesty ought to be accompanied by tact.

"since Im painfully blunt with almost anyone"

I like that about you Shaks, you tell it how it is...some people just can't handle it...😉

lol, you seem like the type to talk about how big my forehead is and then we'll just laugh it off together...

fuck it, lets get drunk together 🙂

you sure you want that lol, you might get hooked 😉

excuse me...

you ought to follow suit.


i blink, and you're chasing some skirt.

sorry hun, I don't wear skirts like that...😉

Ah, I was about to say Tact...but twinnypoo got in before me!

High 5

Heyyyyy, twinnytwin-twin!!!


^5, girlfriend!

Damn Shaks, I didn't know you had groupies like that...lol

let me have a shot of tequila on that one...

Hehe - yea it's an aries quality to say what they feel or observe about any situation.

With more delivery timing and patience to consider all views, it is almost welcome and you get more friends doing it. If not required (i.e. no one asked) then a personal opinion's one POV so may not be the fact of a situation - so does not always need to be in public domain.

Always saying what you see or feel always is almost self-indulgent if it's for the sake of releasing, it's selfish. I usually don't say much until someone asks then I still wonder if more opinions really count - some ppl just want a fall guy to say 'well, you told me...or you said this'...

Hey Evan, yes mature Aries can be very diplomatic because it tries to win a lot but have learned that you catch more bees with honey than vinegar. They do it by becoming more like Libra.

''Aries do seem to enjoy "adoration" from the masses''

It's not necessarily to catch more bees but to keep peace as they may have been burned once or twice and realise that tact/diplomacy helps.

Nah not 'adoration' from the masses - Aries is too personal and realises that masses will not give personal touch. Leave adoration from masses to Aqua and maybe Leo or Cap.

Aries wants your attention temporarily - to achieve a certain goal/mostly ego boost - after that, they just want to be left alone for most part i think. They're not fixed.

What's your sign evan?

No not adoration - but a following would do 😉

lol bs

"what is it that a baby wants most? hehe"

Unconditional Love and acceptance.

''Aries want "special" attention from everyone they come in contact with''

just like a shiny new toy 😛

"Honesty ought to be accompanied by tact

Since water signs came into exesitence".


A clear distinction between neanderthal and human beings was required.

LOL

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U like my jaw , MM ? 😉

To say what you think?

Because I have pissed alot of people off doing this.

That happens to me too 😢 Sometimes I sat back and wonder, "Why is he/she upset with me? What on earth did I say?"

GG: "U like my jaw , MM ? "

Is that some kind of euphamism? careful, anyone would think u are propositioning me young man..

🙂

''hehe zenalchemy..you Aries are so easy

But thats what I like about you..such transparency is hard to find anywhere else..''

then the toy's no longer so shiny - transparency and toy goes out the window...lalala...

''A clear distinction between neanderthal and human beings was required.''

well said 🙂

Xun, Evan thatz not cheating - U need to do sth to not to look like a commodity and stand out. Even the person whoz going to assess Ur CV is aware of this - just that it may reflect positively on Ur creativity and ability to think laterally - though itz more specific to MBA and marketing jobs and other places where other variables like grades, courses look similar.

Out of thousands of CVs which are received everyday for different jobs - therez no other effective, "quick" filter. And everyone is hard pressed these days.

"But in the 30 second scan, some words can mean something totally different from what was intended"

Possibly - in fact some people leave a scope for just that. And I agree that one should resort to such gimmicks only when either the market is bad or one is really desperate.

You cant be anyone other than who you are, its what makes you "You"
But it is wise to "Think" before you speak in certain situations in which you could end up the loser.
Tact is the key word.
Youre never gonna please everyone and there will always be people that misunderstand you, no matter how tactful you think you are.
Best thing is get to know people then it should be no problem saying what you think, but in a way you know they will accept it.

Evan that may not be an Aries thing.

I wouldn't lie on a CV - you will get found out...it's that simple! Actually, my Cancer boss will look at my CV and tells me it's not embellished enough. I guess that's why a lot of companies have moved away from using CV to filter applications...they use their personal structured questions/test/assessments/million-and-one interview, it's easier to filter then 😢

My Gemini friend - Oh dear God - she used to combine embellishment, outright lying, you name it but always got the job - talk about twins! She even has an identical twin sister so sometimes they would interchange...always fun 🙂 love them!

If it's a CV for college application, etc...may have a different twist - never black/white so don't know...

I like body language myself! 😉

There's more than one way to skin a cat!

More importantly, do we really have the freedom to speak what we think?

If not , what are the limitations? And how can we break free of these limitations?

"unfortunately people are so stupid these days that they still buy into superficialities of that kind, its not what you do but HOW you present it that really counts for them...treetrunking rubbish I'd say.."

I entirely agree with this Evan. But this is how the business world operates.
You can't sell with the truth...

"If not , what are the limitations? And how can we break free of these limitations?"

The only limits that any one of us have are the limits that we put upon ourselves. Yes, I do believe that we can express ourselves and more importantly, we NEED to! What would the benefit be to ourselves and those around us if we were not being honest with ourselves and expressing our thoughts?

How can we break free of these so called self imposed limitations? by changing our thoughts, letting go, loving thyself and being true to who you are.

Those are my personal thoughts about your question - this is what has worked for me.

Hmmm.. I guess so. Thanks FA and DAF.

But i think if you are planning to be a politician , things can not be this simple.

How many politicians dare to speak the truth?

The thing I don't like is when people try to jam their opinions down your throat...


*nods*
The thing to remember is, it is what YOU think... we think a LOT of things, they can never all come out.... but thinking that people care enough that you have to say it out loud and expect a pat on the back when you haven't guaged the situation thoroughly is when you get this finds few to agree with him.?

I would say there is an urgency and sincerity in the way we deliver the "truth". Most people call it bluntness...that if given more thought, could be fashioned with more tact...but we simply don't think we should wait to deliver our opinion. The key is wanting to be first.

Since we have to rush, it comes out untouched by our conscious-self or societal norms...actually a lot more people would be "truthful" if they just said the first thing that came to mind...unfortunately most people think about it too much to the point that the thought loses its inherent truth.

My libra moon helps me to be more tactful than I would normally be, but it also drives me crazy when I want to say one thing and have to hold myself back because I know it is insensitive and may hurt someone...

but i have the occasional slip and end up saying something like: people shouldn't post pictures of their fat unattractive babies, why do they all think their baby is the most gorgeous...

most of my friends find it endearing

^^^ lol , I think you're cute 😉

Since we have to rush, it comes out untouched by our conscious-self or societal norms...actually a lot more people would be "truthful" if they just said the first thing that came to mind...unfortunately most people think about it too much to the point that the thought loses its inherent truth.
true true
well, I think this goes from being the first sign of the zodaic as in we haven't had the experience of seeing a little of the other signs... there's nothing to draw from, so yea a bit untouched by all the 'chatter' that goes on in the minds of other signs that prevents them from saying the 1st thing, etc... (by chatter I mean the tactfulness, the overthinking, etc).

On the tactfulness, it depends on who I'm speaking to. My best friend and one of my brothers (Aquas) have commented on how they wish they were as tactful as myself and will ask me how would I word something if I was delivering some info/message they find difficult. However my Libra friend, and Virgo Mother not so much and pretty much think the opposite. I think I have a knack for zeroing in on an issue/topic/debate which is clouded by extraneous variables and reducing it to what is important, and in need of clarity, to a fine point, bottom line statement/thought very quickly and some (not all) find that jarring/blunt. That has never been my intent though. And I am surprised when I have heard myself described this way.

Yeah its all relative. I never have to watch myself with my aqua friends, often times they are more brutally honest than I can ever imagine to be. But I suspect it might have something to do with their general open-minded outlook on life...when not living in the box, their observations about those of us still living in the box can be surprising and shocking...and hilarious. But since I am mostly knee deep in fishies and other emotional signs, I am always watching myself.

Tact boils down to tailoring your message to your audience. Aquas are all about the message and hate to be muzzled=>freedom...Aries are all about getting to the core of he issue as fast as possible=>speed...both don't care to vet their comments.

zenalchemy...you wouldn't be trying to pick up an Aries girl online would you?

(preemptively) *sticks foot in mouth*

honestly after my other thread i might not have any room to speak on "tact"

Well, what is wisdom? How can we see being "wise" as a good thing to be, but yet get scorned for sharing our "wisdom?" Well, first off, the ignorant will immediately criticise you & attempt to bring you down because they secretely envy your wisdom. They pretend that they are putting you down just b/c they don't agree with you, but in reality they are envious b/c wise people know how to put the ignorant back in their place.

I don't think it's "wise" to be a follower & try to please everyone b/c it's impossible & you will get let down either way every time. When someone asks me for my opinion, I don't see it any other way then giving them the STRAIGHT & honest truth. But of course those who are in denial or are naturally drama-seekers will try to come up with 1,000 reasons to sugar coat their envious eyes & ways. What I've never understood is that we all flocked to this website b/c we were seeking some kind of opinion from another source OR are asking for some kind of response about our own opinions. But yet, when the question gets asked & the answers start rolling out, people all of the sudden blame the responders for responding. They find time to pick on everything BUT what the responder was trying to say. If you don't say what you really feel & believe then you'll be giving the power of your own mind away to someone you'll never even meet, let alone someone who secretely dispises you for something THEY lack...