HE DUMPED ME

What are you going to do?

Good luck with your journey.

What do you want to do?

daligogh,

How I see your situation...I truly do believe that EVERYTHING happens for a reason and right now by being IN the picture you may not be able to see it or, the time is not right for you to see why this has happened. Perhaps it was meant for you to become pregnant (because it did happen), and perhaps it was meant for him to leave(because it did happen) the picture and perhaps whatever choices you make from here on out are meant to be (because you will have chosen them). It all will work out but in the meantime...you, you will be growing from experiences that you will now be experiencing and this IS what life is all about.....learning from the choices that we make.

I do believe that you will make the right choices for you.

Good luck on your less traveled path~

Please don't get yourself into legal trouble. You don't need a record, if plan on taking on a new life.

Don't let him win.

I know, right?

He's a real ass.

Dali, somebody told me that success is the best revenge.

Do you have brothers/cousins?

Don't tell them. They might try to strangle him. Mine would.

He didn't even give me a chance to speak. He just walked aways and left me standing there. and then he calls me to bring him his shades. I freaked out and took a hammer to his gucci shades and drove to his home and broke his windows out with the "club" and threw the glasses inside. I am so angry. I want him to hurt. I want him to feel what I feel. As for the baby I'm unsure. I need to think.

Oh no ..... what the hell man, I hate it, when that happens. I've heard so many stories about this very thing. It makes me want to cry because there's a child in the mix of so much chaos. I feel terrible that this fucker made you believe that he wanted you and then decided to take off when things became to 'real'.

This sort of behavior upsets me, it really does. It's not like you went into the relationship with your eyes closed, he made you believe in HIM. He's dick should be leveled and burned.

I understand your reaction, but I wouldn't break his windows -- I refuse to get into legal trouble over some asshole.

However ... I WOULD BREAK THE HELL OUT OF HIS SUNGLASSES.

HOW DARE HE ASK YOU TO BRING HIM HIS SUNGLASSES!!!!

The nerve of this guy, what's wrong with him ——

i think its disgusting the way he has treated you

Aqipaperspachtelprugelfoldingagua 6/29/2008 1:10:59 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.xxx

"Have the baby anyway, have paternity testing done, and sue him for child support."

Seriously, do this, and buy a gun for protection just in case.

Damn, in the past I was going to suggest you dumping him in your previous threads you made about him, but didn't. I should've told you sooner.

don't have unprotected sex with assholes!!

for future reference, obviously.

i had an abortion but that was in agreement with my partner. it was a pretty horrific thing to go through i can assure you but although i regret it, it was the right decision at the time. when i went to see a clairvoyant some time afterwards, she told me she could see a child holding a bouquet of flowers with outstretched arms. the child was about 2 and was supposed to be the spirit of my unborn, unwanted baby 😢 she said that even aborted babies grow in the spirit world and that the gesture of flowers signified forgiveness and love.

omg. the hardest thing and something you never get over. how that asshole ex of yours can even suggest so flippantly that you just destroy the life he helped create sums up his character i'm afraid.

having the baby isn't always the best choice but if you decide to have this child, you will find a way to raise him/her against any odds. when maternal instincts come into play, you will find strength you never knew you had. this is why women give birth and not men. they just aren't up to the job whereas it is what drives us instinctively.

whatever you decide, i wish you all the very best and i hope you get all the support you need and deserve, even from the ex's family who will have a vested interest regardless of his opinion.

Can you still get him for child support?

I wouldn't trust that either! I'm sorry, they he acted was horrible, now all of a sudden he has a change of hurt ... THAT SOON. No way, I can see if it was a couple of months or weeks even, but no way.

what a loser of a guy.

Hope I'm not too late.

DG, if and when you talk to him, please don't go alone. Have someone nearby, or meet in a public place. Like cappysweetie, I am suspicious of the sudden change of heart.

Also, I agree strongly with Arianlatay's advice.

I also agree with Arianlatay ...


Daligogh .. everybody freaks out at some point in their life about something. He freaked out, and did something rash ... you freaked out and did something rash .. but, that doesn't mean this is who he is, or this is who you are.

A person could make an immediate assessment of you and say, "She's emotionally out of control, she busted out somebody's windows because she is volatile". In no way am I saying that you did anything wrong, or that you are a mean and viscious person .. I'm simply saying that if a person only looks at this ONE incident of you having emotional stress, they could view you this way.

And this is what has happened to him ... he is more than just a person who hurt your feelings when the chips are down .. he is also the man to whom you fell in love with. He freaked out, and there's nothing "wrong" with that .. people are supposed to freak out when they get freaked from a reality check.

I understand your anger and pain at this time .... however, I don't agree with you making a rash decision against his character because he was being a human being and flipped out.

We all flip out, this is our nature being humans. The man is MORE than his emotional snap at that time .... just as you are MORE than your emotional snap that maliciously attacked his property.

There isn't a person on this planet who hasn't done or said something they didn't mean because they were freaked out about something. Having an emotional reaction to something isn't what is wrong ... what is wrong is to NEVER mend the damage, what is wrong is to NEVER come to grips with what freaked you out.

He is trying to come to terms with what he did ... and that speaks volumes. It means he realized he freaked out, and erred.

We all err, Daligogh .. even you. And when you do err by freaking out about something, don't you look to the people in your life who know your true heart to understand that you are human, and give you the benefit of the doubt?

Whatever you do, is obviously your choice, and only you can make that decision ... however, it would pretty unfair to hold a person accountible for ONE emotional spike they expressed when they were in distress.

Good Luck and I hope you find your path.

Don't act in haste; wait and see whether he is sincere. Meanwhile, take good care of you. You and your baby are what's important now.