Is this real? Advice please

I'm an aries girl and my guy is an aquarius. We've been dating a few months and he is already using the 'L' word. I haven't said it back because I've never been in love before so I don't know if I am...sometimes I think I love him, but I wouldn't want to tell him unless I'm completely sure that really I do love him. He's really only said it once, and I can't tell if he truly loves me or it it's just infatuation. When an aquarius says they love you, is it really love they feel?
I was planning on telling him I love him on new years, but I'm not sure this is love and I don't want to say anything I don't mean just to make him feel better. Any advice?

Love isn't really that hard to figure out. If you aren't sure you're in love, then you aren't in love. You "know" when you are in love, there is no doubt about it.

If you have to "plan" to tell him just to make it even and aren't even sure, I doubt it's love. You just know and there's no question about it.

Posted by ram4
I'm an aries girl and my guy is an aquarius. We've been dating a few months and he is already using the 'L' word. I haven't said it back because I've never been in love before so I don't know if I am...sometimes I think I love him, but I wouldn't want to tell him unless I'm completely sure that really I do love him. He's really only said it once, and I can't tell if he truly loves me or it it's just infatuation. When an aquarius says they love you, is it really love they feel?
I was planning on telling him I love him on new years, but I'm not sure this is love and I don't want to say anything I don't mean just to make him feel better. Any advice?

I had an Aquarius bf. he also jumped the L word on me very quickly and it was bliss for the first 3 or 4 months. Then, when the novelty had worn off, suddenly he wasn't sure if he loved me anymore. I would hold back for a few more months.... Sometimes I think he used to test me to see what my reactions would be to see if they were in line with what he had in mind. Like one time he called me Mrs 'his surname' and it had only been like two months! And I said "woah! Slow down there buddy!". He told me it was a test and that I had said the right thing. That was the most fucked up relationship I have ever had and have decided to remain single since then. He really did a number on my head!

I think you should be weary and watch out. But that's my personal experience with a mighty fucked up guy! Hopefully yours turns out better.

It's easy to get caught in the flow of emotions and say something. It's so very incredibly easy to decide that you really like someone and say three little words. But words alone are hardly signs of honest love. Honest love is one of those things that really has no doubt in it. Sometimes we feel spikes of emotion, for a time really feeling close to someone, and then that feeling wanes. Love is something that tends to remain at a strong level, even if it is subject to certain spikes. Honest love is one of those things that isn't really subject to fading, it simply returns to a more consistent comfortable level rather than sheer obsession.

The point I'm making being that words are cheap and emotions fluctuate. Some people simply don't have a handle on those emotions and believe that strong spike of feeling to be honest love that will always remain, and then become baffled and confused when their feelings return to a more natural consistent level. Honest love isn't incredible obsession, but it is unmistakable when you are in love.

In short, if you have to ask yourself if you're in love..you probably aren't in love.

I am an Aries dating an Aquarius and I think that you may want concentrate on getting to know him further. Since you are unsure of your own feelings whenever he says the L-word, gently squeeze his hand or give him a kiss. Don't say it until you mean it.